• Introduction to Love Thy Neighbor and listener anonymity
• Loveline-style approach to relationship advice
• Divorce: emotional and financial toll, stigma, changing views
• Hidden unhappiness in long marriages
• Why people stay or leave relationships
• Social media’s impact on love, breakups, and jealousy
• Deleting or keeping exes online; regret after erasing memories
• Emotional recovery and boundaries with new partners
• Growth through heartbreak and dating experience
• Generational differences before social media
• Keeping memories for children and history
• Insecurity and jealousy over old photos
• Attraction to emotionally intense partners
• Insecurity and trauma behind jealousy
• Communicating reassurance and setting boundaries
• Humor about following exes or staying friends
• Men vs women in post-breakup friendships
• Breakups mirror grief and addiction withdrawal
• Brain pain overlap: love loss and physical pain
• Need for no contact and “starving the attachment”
• Misleading social media images of exes’ happiness
• Healthy coping: self-focus, hobbies, support system
• Negative coping: rebounds, substances, avoidance
• All attachments heal with time and connection
• Relationship addiction parallels substance abuse
• Personal story: isolation from toxic partner
• Learning from ignoring red flags, regret over choices
• Should friends intervene in harmful relationships?
• How to help: express care, respect, share concerns
• Risks of judgment if couple reconciles
• Listening over advice when friends struggle
• Listener email: libido mismatch in marriage
• Causes: stress, medication, trauma, poor communication
• One-sided affection, avoidance of touch
• Therapy access issues and long-term uncertainty
• Common male-higher libido pattern
• Start with honest talks about disconnection
• Individual therapy helps but couples therapy better
• Emotional reconnection boosts desire for many
• Persistent mismatch may need other solutions
• Women’s desire often lower with age; explore intimacy variety
• “Ways to cuddle” beyond sex; rebuild comfort
• Cuddling linked to relationship satisfaction
• Barriers: heat, bedding, menopause
• Clarify touch doesn’t always mean sex (“bristle effect”)
• Importance of nonsexual affection and lowered pressure
• Humor about nonsexual touch confusion
• Hormonal shifts and HRT improving libido
• Testosterone’s role in women’s sexual well-being
• Emotional intimacy key to lasting sexual health
• Aging couples sustaining passion and connection
• “Body count” topic and shifting language
• Jealousy over partner’s sexual past
• Emotional maturity to separate past from present
• Persistent double standards judging women
• Younger generations less judgmental but stigma remains
• Body count doesn’t define worth or morality
• Value of openness and health transparency
• Honest STI testing, responsible dating culture
• Infidelity experience shaping caution and honesty
• Debate over privacy vs full disclosure
• Acceptance that many don’t know exact count
• Reflection: honesty equals self-acceptance
• Desire for unconditional love despite pasts
• U.S. averages: women ~4–5, men ~6–7 partners
• Surveys show exaggeration and underreporting
• Cultural shame distorting sexual data
• Past wild years unseen pre-social media
• Misconceptions about others’ sexual activity
• Promotion of Colette Fehr’s book The Cost of Quiet
• Theme: tough talks build secure, lasting love
• Reminder to email questions and subscribe
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