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Okay, let's talk about somethingthat I know for a fact.
We are all battling with
every day.
Probably every daywhile I'm back to making everyday magic.
My name is Shanna and if you are new herewe are in family of four,
we are in our eighth yearof homeschooling.
And today I want to talk with youabout how I navigate
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the guilt.
That.
I you know any for who it's for downthe road.
I don't even I give this videobut as always
you can find me a down in the commentsor over on Instagram.
I'm making everyday magic.
So okay,
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basically, basically today's videowe are going to talk about guilt,
homeschool guilt,parenting guilt, all of the guilt.
In a completely
unrelated segue,I also want to share with you today
this brand new workbook from Evan More.
You guys know guilt guilt free, guilt
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free workbooks from Evan MoreI absolutely adore Evan.
More workbecause we have used so many through
both our timber doodle kits,and that I've purchased on my own,
to studyall kinds of things from geography
and, dailywriting trips and all kinds of things.
I absolutely love Evan. More workbooks.
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And they actually recently
reached out to me because they have thisentire new line of animal workbooks.
And I was like, yes, please,because my youngest is
die, die, die hard animal lover.
So I am just going to give you a quicklittle down shot into this workbook.
Before we go
any further talking about guilt,but today's main video topic is guilt.
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Before that, let's jump into this book.
Okay, this is a look inside the Brand NewAnimals workbook from evermore.
They have multiple levelsfor all kinds of different ages.
This is 8 to 9and I need to get this look inside.
Done it before my daughter takes it away.
Information.
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Okay, let's take a look.We've got drawing.
Why? Oh, it's broken down to differentanimals.
Free bonus printables.
Okay, so we've got emperor penguins.
Okay, we've got fun facts about emperorpenguins.
Activities for emperor penguins draw
a narrative cut out.
There's one reason I absolutely love the,
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the even more workbooks is because it'snot the same thing on every page.
So the different activities.
So some of it's tactile,
some of it's reading,some of it's information based,
some of it's narrative, some of it isasking questions and it's open ended.
Some of it's a crossword puzzle.
Things like thisare honestly what make the world go round.
It looks so.
We've got penguins, poison dart frogs.
Even the different activitiesare different.
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Oh, man, that's cute for different.
Animals.
And I think that's great.
What is the General Sherman tree?
Not all animal. Some habitats.
Loving this so much.
Oh, yes.
Why are sloths amazing?
She is going to power through this in onewhole hot minute.
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I can tell you that sloths.
Elephants, which is a recently added
new favorite animal,in case you were wondering, whales.
The other newly recently addedfavorite animal?
Ooh, flying dragon.
I'm pretty sweet.
Let's see, what do we got here?
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Crater Lake, the good.
Why are cheetahs amazing?
What else have we got here?
Why are zebras amazing?
Okay, I'm in love with their new animal
amazing Animal Adventures series.
Yeah, yeah.
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Give it a look.
All different kinds of levels. Love it.
Guys, thanks for understanding that.
Well, this content comes with a cost.
And that cost is often, well, remainingcompletely free to you means
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So thank you for understanding that.
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And as always, we only talk about thingswe absolutely love here on this channel.
And even more hands downis one of the top ten.
So let us pop on. Hang on.
This is a little lownow that I set of taller,
let us pop over and talk about guilt.
Can I do thiswhile I'm recording this? I have to,
all speaking of
my animal lover,do you like my new invention?
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You see this?
It is to dispense
the packing peanuts that I usein packaging my orders for my business.
So I think that's really sweet.
Now that I have, jumped completely offtopic randomly and crazily,
let's pop back in to today's video topic,which is the guilt.
Now, I had the ideato talk about this recently because
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we moved our kids and
they weren't on board.
They've never moved.
One has never moved, one only movedonce when she was a toddler, so doesn't
remember it at all.
And with that
came a lot of guilt came a lot of fear.
Which, as you know,can amplify those feelings of guilt came
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a lot of sleepless nightsstressing about making
right decisions and wrong decisions and
wondering if we were getting it rightor getting it wrong,
and making decisionsthat go against the grain.
Every single common theme
that pops up with homeschool.
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I fell back on my experienceas a homeschooler
so much during our recent transitions,and that is because
homeschooling is terrifyingif you're new, I'm sorry.
The truth of itis, homeschool is absolutely terrifying.
The idea of being responsiblefor your child's education,
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the idea of shouldering the weightof that, the gravity of these decisions
that you are makingfor your family, for your learners.
It is so scary.
And every step of the wayyou are met with that
95% almost intolerable amounts of doubt
and fearwhich amplifies those feelings of guilt.
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And it is guilt about socialization.
It is guilt about doing enough.
It is guilt about doing too much.
It is guilt about staying in the housetoo much is guilt
about not staying in the house enough.
It is guiltabout every single little thing.
In the same waythat motherhood and parenthood
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are the
way that I navigate this guilt
is just.
Just like with everything elsethat makes you want to sit in a corner
and rock back and forth, and it isthe only way to it is through it.
And I'm sorry,and I know that's not helpful.
There is no quick fix,but if I can offer a few words of wisdom
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as someone who has
come here
and shared on this platformnow for five years
as someone who chose homeschooling
before it was,
the thing to do, before
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it was pandemic forced on so many,
choosing to secular homeschoolas a choice, as an option.
Eight years ago.
I can tell you
that with experience.
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You will still be scared.
You will still have guilt.
You will still have nights when you fear.
You will still questionthe decisions that you're making
now will never go awayin the same way that it will not.
In parenting.
However,I can tell you that it does get better.
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You will find new thingsto freak out about and stress about, but.
It is worth it.
And one of the things that I oftensay to me is,
first of all, everything is worse.
In the middle of the night.
Everything.
Everything is worsein the middle of the night.
If you can sleep,
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eat, shower,
and you still feel the same way,that's a real feeling.
But if sleep, food or taking a showermakes everything feel better
or anything, feel better or less intenseor less crazy, that's not a real feeling.
And I will often say rational.
Shauna knowsthat we are plenty socialized, rational.
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Shauna knows that
it is a good thing
to have our kids out in the worldrational.
Shauna knows she's doing enough, but
2 a.m.
Shauna, who is losing sleep.
She is not to be trusted.
So if you are experiencing guilt,if you are experiencing
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homeschool guilt,
if you are fearful of what you're doing,
whether it's enough or too much,
sleep, eat, showerand think about it again.
Talk it out.
I'm here.
We've got a whole wonderful community herepeople are happy to share.
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I'm happy to share.
There are people here who have been
where you are,are where you are again, I'm not immune.
I've gone through this
year in and year out.
And while it never ends,it does get a little easier
to know that you've got this.
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You've got some experienceunder your belt.
There is a little bit of proofin your pudding
when it comes to homeschoolingyour children.
Guilt arises
from this feeling that you
are not
doing what you should,that you have failed,
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that you have not lived up to some
standard.
That by the decisions
that you've made,you have somehow altered course
in the way of the world in a manner
that will give you a lessthan desirable result.
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And that's not true.
It just simply isn't true.
There are a lot of thingsto feel guilty about.
I have a very new dent on the sideof my car from crunching a trash can,
because I took the turn into our garagea little too closely.
I feel guilty about that situation.
It is not justified to feel guiltyabout my homeschool.
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I'm doing my best.
My kids are doing their best.
We talked about this a lot of times.
I recognize the red flagsand when I need to consider tapping out
as you should too.
If you're doing your best,you're giving it your all.
That's literally all you can do.
Just like with parenting, you're not goingto get it right every time.
You simply aren't. It's impossible.
Okay?
You do not have the abilityto predict the future.
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There's no way that you could knowthe outcome of this.
However, if you're doing your best now,you're doing your due diligence.
Now you're doing what you can.
Now that is and will be good enough.
So please do not
become paralyzed with guilt.
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I can't tell you not to feel itbecause you will.
I feel it,
but I can tell youthat the way that I navigate it
is to engage my rational brain
and runthrough the things that I know to be true.
My kids are social.
My kids are socialized.
They do have friends.
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We are okay. They are doing enough.
And there's certain things.
And this is actually a great time
to have this conversationbecause I have been genuinely curious.
There are things that my kidsdon't know, knowledge gaps, and I don't
I don't know if you guys are familiar,how I Met Your Mother.
There's an episode where they talkabout knowledge gaps, and it's like
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common knowledgethat, like, everybody has,
but you don't realize you don't know ituntil it's like it's pointed out to you
that you don't know it.
And, Ted, the main character,
he is
saying the word chameleon,but he's only ever read it.
And so he keeps saying Shyamalanlike a chameleon, changes their colors.
And so then you find outall the characters knowledge gaps and,
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one, it's so funny,
but like my own, my own kids,their knowledge gaps from
from not being in public schoolsometimes will pop up like,
and my oldest going to watch one of herher best.
She's dance in a stadiumand she's like, never
sat in a school stadium and like watchedsomething like that happened before.
And so it's just it's it's pretty funny.
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Or the fact that,
my kids have to think really hardabout the Pledge of Allegiance, like
it's just not indoctrinated into thembecause they've not pledged it every day.
And so that makes me wonder
how I please, please,please share in the comments
how are you approaching thingslike Golf of America?
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I really want to knowbecause yeah, I'll tell you what I,
I have made my children awarethat this is a thing
I've made my childrenaware of why it's happening.
But I have been very clear to them
that it will never bethe golf of America to me.
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But I feel like they need to know it,because that might come up like
their counterparts are going to belearning Golf of America. So.
Well, why are we dealing with that?
Do I feel guilty?
No no no no no I don't.
That's foolishness.
Anyways, so
very curious guys,what are we doing with that one
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knowledge gap?
No. Okay.
I would love to hear two.
I don't know,
comically alleviate the guilt here.
What?
What are the things that you didn'trealize your kids had a knowledge
gap about until it came up,and now it's just kind of like, funny,
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because they're I mean, like,
it's not they're fine, they're fine.
They are fine.
Okay. In the world.
So again, rational,Shauna would like to talk to rational.
You. It's fine. Everything's fine.We're all going to be fine.
There is no reason for thatnow. Crazy 2 a.m..
Shauna would like to talk to crazy 2 a.m.
you and say, girl, I get it.We are failing them.
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It is terrible. It is a train wreck.
But then I'm going to click backinto rational Shauna in the morning.
When we feel a little bit better
and I'm going to tell you a time,we're all fine guys.
Fine. Okay?
So there is no reasonfor you to feel guilty.
You have not done anything wrong.Do your best.
Keep trying as long as you arenot willfully failing anybody.
We are doing great. Okay? Okay, so
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yes, if you want
any more informationon the even more book, I'm
going to do a little bit of a flipthrough over on Instagram.
You guys know that I love even more.
So give them a short little check out andyeah, let me know those knowledge gaps.
How are you feeling? Guilty.How are you feeling?
It is almost that time of year againwhen we make the decisions
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to do this again for another year.
So how are you doing with that, guys,now that we are a bit
more removed from
the situation,that caused a lot of people to do this.
However, we are a lot closerto some school insanity.
The vouchers just passed here again,
the school choice thing.
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There's a lot there's a lot going on.
There's a lot going on.
Department of education being dismantled,you know.
How are we doing?Is this the time to send anybody back?
Is not I don't know.
Yeah.
Gulf of America.
What are you teaching?
I want to know as always, guys,how are you?
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Golf of America just.
All right.
Yeah I know, yeah.
One more thing. One more thing.
The boomers who refuse to learn new math.
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First of all, I made commentsabout new math the other day,
so I also am one of those people.
But how are these peopletaking the golf of America,
especially if they're statisticallymore likely to be a Trump voter?
I would love to. How is that change going?
Because nowwe're changing globe, changing maps.
I just.
Find it interesting,
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a very serious, societal
change.
Anyways,
America.
I didn't
I didn't, I would never put it that.