June 19, 2025 • 12 mins
Let’s talk real life—because some of the most important things our kids need to know just aren’t being taught. I’m talking life skills: time management, stress regulation, basic home and health know-how… the stuff that builds confident, capable humans. But where are the resources?
In this episode, I’m diving into the gaps—what’s missing, what I’ve pieced together, and why I think we’re all out here low-key winging it. 💁♀️✨
💬 Do you have a go-to book, video, course, or game that actually teaches these life skills in a meaningful way? Or are you, like me, building the plane as you fly it?
Let’s crowdsource some magic. Drop your tips, favorite tools, or “wish I’d learned this sooner” moments. I want to compile a resource list that we can all come back to—and share in a future episode!
💡 Hit follow, leave a review, and let’s build the toolkit we wish we had together.
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-💖Shanna
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(00:00):
Hey, guys. Welcome back.
Today's video might seem a little random,but it is,
as most of these are at leastwith my intent, collaborative.
I am looking for a thing.
Help me find the thing.
Is it just me?
I am a total, like, self-help junkie.
I want to know howI can use my time better.
(00:20):
I want to knowsecrets and strategies to prioritizing.
I want a good inspirational quote.
Why can't I find that for, like, my kids?
So this is where I need your help.
Okay, so don't see the. Scroll down.
Help! Is this your app?Welcome back to Everyday Magic.
My name is Shanna and if you are new here,we're homeschooling family of four.
(00:41):
We're in our eighth year of homeschooling.
We are rapidly wrapping it up.
I have a current seventh graderand a current a third grader.
So today I want to talk about thosethings, those life lessons
and things that are so importantthat rarely seem to be taught.
(01:04):
Guys, before we go any further, pleasescroll down.
Hit that big red subscribe button,
turn on the bell for notificationsand give this video a thumbs up.
As always,you can find me down in the comments
or over on Instagramat Making Everyday Magic.
Yes, today I am in a different spot.
So, our engagement photos right up here.
I am in my room office,
(01:27):
so half room, half office,and I am facing a different direction.
If you've been following along recentlyhere, we have had, in many videos
what can only be described as ghost voice.
So it's ghost voice. Alien voice,I don't know.
Can't figure out what it isbecause I don't.
I am the only personwho's ever owned this camera,
(01:47):
and these SD cards are strictly mefilming myself.
So it seems tobe kind of like a male voice.
That is kindof bleeding through in some of the videos,
and it's really weirdand you can't make out what it sounds.
And so trying to decipher what that is,I don't think it's
some sort of like electronic bleedthrough from the SD card.
But I do now
(02:09):
live in like a townhousewith a communal wall
over there where my computer is.
And often I'm pointed at that wall.
And I do have a very powerful,microphone up top
because it doesn't seem to happenwhen I'm not here,
and it doesn't seem to happenwhen I have my little microphone.
It seems to happen
when I've got the super powerfulmicrophone pointed at the shared wall.
(02:30):
So I am wondering
if we're really just somehowwith this super powerful microphone,
managing to get snippets of neighboror yard guy outside,
there is a lot more kind of citynoise here,
so I don't know what it is,but that's why I'm in.
I'm in.
I'm just going to keep moving aroundtill we find it.
And I also, I feel likeI just need to design a film space,
which I had done really well.
I felt like in my last office, likeI had a place where I felt comfortable
(02:54):
and I had the blank space behind me, andit was like kind of like an even slate.
And I haven't found that yet.
So one figure out eliminating ghost voice
to find the, the space to film.
So yeah, I've been all over lately.
Upstairs, downstairs,around in the car over here.
Like, I don't know, I don't know,but I'm working really hard on it.
(03:15):
Okay, so that is why we are here nowin this place with baby.
Baby? Shauna. So
there you go.
Let's talk about things that.
Well, okay, let me explain.
I've got notes.
Lately
I have beensince we've settled into our new home
(03:38):
and we're getting our footing on lifeagain, which is oh so good.
I am back into.
Okay, so, like, we're making it happen.
We're doing great.
How can we do better?
And for me, that is self-help.
That is schedule management.
That is productivity and prioritizingand being inspired and finding the value
(03:59):
in hard work and stressing perseveranceand consistency and all of those things.
And I want
I've got a middle schoolerand I've got a late elementary kid,
and they are learninghow to live life, right.
Like they're learninghow to do those things.
(04:19):
And I am saying to them and I've,you know, we've bought the planners
and we have filled them out.
And I'm saying to them the things,
but I,
I was hoping for some resources
that were not me to help themexplain, to do the things.
And that is very, very, very hard to find.
(04:41):
And maybe I'm just so spoiled by
like you Google, because that's what I do.
I Google, you know, productivity
for kids.
And what I receive is how to be productivewhen you have kids, which is not it.
I am googling time management for kids,
(05:02):
and it's how to manage your timewhen you have kids, which is not it.
I am, I am struggling to find those
bits of things that I wantor how to use a planner for kids,
and it's just a review of a kids planner,and it's not helping
your children understandhow to do the thing.
So is therejust a glaring hole in the market
(05:22):
for what I want for kids, self-help?
Or can I just not find it?
So that is where this is collaborativeand I need your help.
Because you know what I'm thinking?
I'm thinking like the SnoopDogg, affirmations like,
I need those kinds of things.
But like for all of life and for children.
So the things that, you know,that I think are important and yes, it's
my job to teach my kids and I'm modelingthese things to them 100%.
(05:43):
Absolutely.
But is there a waywhere I can put on a video
and it's like number blocks,but it's like habit blocks and it's like,
this is how you use an alarm.And this is why.
And these are the benefitsof planning your time ahead of time.
And and this is how you prioritizewith your big most important tasks.
You know,because I'm explaining to them how
you put the big rocks inand I'm finding things like that.
(06:06):
So I do have a playlist if you want.
I'll share it with you.
Of things I found,
but you know, like the videowhere you put in the big rocks first
and then the little rocksand then the pebbles
and then the sandand then the water, and it all fits.
Whereas if you did itany other way, it would not fit
those things.
Time blocking, time management,but also the importance of practice.
(06:26):
And I can find kind of a lot of that
as it relates to like, sports.
However, the audience is a very clearlynot not young girls.
And it is Jim Burrowsand it is like, great.
You know, Chris Rock out there,like cursing his face off or,
(06:47):
it's just it's just what I need.
What is where is it?
Because this is the thing that I.
Because it's important.
Right? Like, it is very important.
I need my kids managing their schedules.
I want them to have these skills.
And again, I do my best to modeland talk it through and teach them.
But is there no resource out therelike I remember?
And part ofit was that I was in student council
(07:09):
when the, seven Habits of Highly EffectiveTeens came out and we went and heard,
Sean Covey speak and like,the whole thing, something like that.
Right. Is is there
a YouTube channel?
Is there something out there thatI'm missing that I don't have access to?
Because that is what I want,
because it is so important,especially for homeschoolers.
(07:32):
I mean, these are those those skills,you know, because I do
I remember we got our plannersin like sixth grade in middle school
and you had to like, get insideand like do the thing.
So like, where is that?
Do you, do you know where that is?
Because yes, we're teaching our kidstheir lessons and yes, we're teaching them
important things and we're doing things,but there's also some life skills
(07:53):
and it's not as simple because likeif I look up like cooking for kids, boom,
tons of things.You can get a subscription box.
Where's the thing I want?
And self-helpmaybe isn't even like self-improvement.
I don't know what the best descriptionof what I am wanting is.
And again,is there just a glaring hole in the market
(08:15):
that one of us needs to get this togetherand do this thing?
I don't know,
and I know that there are plannersdesigned for kids, but where is the
instruction, the growth?
Where were those things for kids?
And not like,
you know, baby kids,these are important life skills
(08:36):
that I want to send my kids into the worldwith.
And I am struggling to find a kid centric,
kid friendly version of this thingbecause, you know, they even have, like,
cosmic kids yoga.
Like, I mean, they have things for kids,but why can't I find this in a manner
that is for kids?
That's what I want.
I need something beyond like,you know, Miss Tool,
(08:57):
which I'm not actually familiar with.
So I don't know if that's applicable here,but let's pretend it is.
Or Snoop Dogg,I need something like where is it?
And is it just the thing I need to make?
Because there are thingsthat I think are really important.
It is really important.
I have felt like these thingsmake a very big impact on my life,
and I feel like when my life
is getting out of sorts, if I can fallback on those habits, is it like a timing?
(09:18):
I need the timing habits for kids.Where's that?
I want that, where's that?
And I share with themthe things that I have learned and I, I
if I find something great, I share it.
But it's justI feel like we're missing that resource.
So if you know what that is,I need that in my life.
Okay?
And you guys know,
I review a ton of products, a ton of howto products, you know, how to sell kit,
(09:39):
how to coding kit,how to use your computer like so many.
But I'mI am desperately actively searching for
I am searching for this
self-help life improvement which
is it?
(10:00):
A religious secular thing?
Because I feel like there's probably
a lot of this same thingwith, with values and morals.
There's a lot of resources in that genrein that vein
as pertains to a religious affiliation,and it's harder
to find things that are faith neutralor secular in that same vein,
(10:22):
because apparently you can only bea good person if you have Jesus. But
I'm just saying, like,where is the thing, right?
Where is the thing that still teaches youthese life skills,
those important aspects,without being Bible focused?
Religion focus?
Where is that?Because I'm a firm believer.
(10:42):
You're a good person. You're a bad person.
You don't need the the threat of of
divine interventionor eternal punishment to be those things.
But how are we encouraging our kids?
How are we teaching our kids to maximizethe gifts they have, their inherent gifts
of being able to schedule their time andbeing able to figure out what a priority.
Where's the Eisenhower Matrix for kidslike the Pomodoro?
(11:05):
Techniques for kids like where is thiswhere memorization techniques for kids?
I found a few videos on,
doodle notes for kids that
were really helpful, but even thenit almost wasn't age appropriate.
So where are these at?
Do you know? Will you tell me,can you share?
(11:25):
Because you guys, if you don't know,the entire point of these videos
is to be collaborativebecause either I'm coming here
to share a thing that I know about thatI want you to know about,
so we can buildthe things we know about together.
Or I come here just like in this video,in lack of something, and I need your help
because you guys are outyour far reaching.
I know almost everything I knowabout the things I have access to
(11:47):
because somebody somewhere told meor planted close of enough of a seed
that I could make that half a step furtheron my own to get to the thing. So
yes, that I don't know the little ranty.
This is what I want. This is what I need.
If we don't have it,which one of you is making it?
No pressure probably.
Guys, I hope that you foundit is helpful, entertaining, informative.
(12:08):
If you did, please scroll downand hit the big red subscribe button.
Turn on that bell for notificationsand give this video a thumbs up.
As always, you can find me right on down
in the comments
where you should absolutely go downto these comments
or to Instagramand tell me about the thing
you know you have that you found.
The answer is this for me?
Because girl needs some help.
I have middle schoolers.
This is where we areforming these techniques, and these skills
(12:30):
are going to lay the foundationfor both high school
and everything beyondfor the rest of life.
So like no pressure,but like I'm sweating.
I need it so desperately.
So write down in the comments or over onInstagram at Making Everyday Impact.
Okay, okay okay, I.
Hey, guys. Welcome back.
Today's video might seem a little random,but it is,
as most of these are at leastwith my intent, collaborative.
I am looking for a thing.
Help me find the thing.
Is it just me?
I am a total, like, self-help junkie.
I want to know howI can use my time better.
(00:20):
I want to knowsecrets and strategies to prioritizing.
I want a good inspirational quote.
Why can't I find that for, like, my kids?
So this is where I need your help.
Okay, so don't see the. Scroll down.
Help! Is this your app?Welcome back to Everyday Magic.
My name is Shanna and if you are new here,we're homeschooling family of four.
(00:41):
We're in our eighth year of homeschooling.
We are rapidly wrapping it up.
I have a current seventh graderand a current a third grader.
So today I want to talk about thosethings, those life lessons
and things that are so importantthat rarely seem to be taught.
(01:04):
Guys, before we go any further, pleasescroll down.
Hit that big red subscribe button,
turn on the bell for notificationsand give this video a thumbs up.
As always,you can find me down in the comments
or over on Instagramat Making Everyday Magic.
Yes, today I am in a different spot.
So, our engagement photos right up here.
I am in my room office,
(01:27):
so half room, half office,and I am facing a different direction.
If you've been following along recentlyhere, we have had, in many videos
what can only be described as ghost voice.
So it's ghost voice. Alien voice,I don't know.
Can't figure out what it isbecause I don't.
I am the only personwho's ever owned this camera,
(01:47):
and these SD cards are strictly mefilming myself.
So it seems tobe kind of like a male voice.
That is kindof bleeding through in some of the videos,
and it's really weirdand you can't make out what it sounds.
And so trying to decipher what that is,I don't think it's
some sort of like electronic bleedthrough from the SD card.
But I do now
(02:09):
live in like a townhousewith a communal wall
over there where my computer is.
And often I'm pointed at that wall.
And I do have a very powerful,microphone up top
because it doesn't seem to happenwhen I'm not here,
and it doesn't seem to happenwhen I have my little microphone.
It seems to happen
when I've got the super powerfulmicrophone pointed at the shared wall.
(02:30):
So I am wondering
if we're really just somehowwith this super powerful microphone,
managing to get snippets of neighboror yard guy outside,
there is a lot more kind of citynoise here,
so I don't know what it is,but that's why I'm in.
I'm in.
I'm just going to keep moving aroundtill we find it.
And I also, I feel likeI just need to design a film space,
which I had done really well.
I felt like in my last office, likeI had a place where I felt comfortable
(02:54):
and I had the blank space behind me, andit was like kind of like an even slate.
And I haven't found that yet.
So one figure out eliminating ghost voice
to find the, the space to film.
So yeah, I've been all over lately.
Upstairs, downstairs,around in the car over here.
Like, I don't know, I don't know,but I'm working really hard on it.
(03:15):
Okay, so that is why we are here nowin this place with baby.
Baby? Shauna. So
there you go.
Let's talk about things that.
Well, okay, let me explain.
I've got notes.
Lately
I have beensince we've settled into our new home
(03:38):
and we're getting our footing on lifeagain, which is oh so good.
I am back into.
Okay, so, like, we're making it happen.
We're doing great.
How can we do better?
And for me, that is self-help.
That is schedule management.
That is productivity and prioritizingand being inspired and finding the value
(03:59):
in hard work and stressing perseveranceand consistency and all of those things.
And I want
I've got a middle schoolerand I've got a late elementary kid,
and they are learninghow to live life, right.
Like they're learninghow to do those things.
(04:19):
And I am saying to them and I've,you know, we've bought the planners
and we have filled them out.
And I'm saying to them the things,
but I,
I was hoping for some resources
that were not me to help themexplain, to do the things.
And that is very, very, very hard to find.
(04:41):
And maybe I'm just so spoiled by
like you Google, because that's what I do.
I Google, you know, productivity
for kids.
And what I receive is how to be productivewhen you have kids, which is not it.
I am googling time management for kids,
(05:02):
and it's how to manage your timewhen you have kids, which is not it.
I am, I am struggling to find those
bits of things that I wantor how to use a planner for kids,
and it's just a review of a kids planner,and it's not helping
your children understandhow to do the thing.
So is therejust a glaring hole in the market
(05:22):
for what I want for kids, self-help?
Or can I just not find it?
So that is where this is collaborativeand I need your help.
Because you know what I'm thinking?
I'm thinking like the SnoopDogg, affirmations like,
I need those kinds of things.
But like for all of life and for children.
So the things that, you know,that I think are important and yes, it's
my job to teach my kids and I'm modelingthese things to them 100%.
(05:43):
Absolutely.
But is there a waywhere I can put on a video
and it's like number blocks,but it's like habit blocks and it's like,
this is how you use an alarm.And this is why.
And these are the benefitsof planning your time ahead of time.
And and this is how you prioritizewith your big most important tasks.
You know,because I'm explaining to them how
you put the big rocks inand I'm finding things like that.
(06:06):
So I do have a playlist if you want.
I'll share it with you.
Of things I found,
but you know, like the videowhere you put in the big rocks first
and then the little rocksand then the pebbles
and then the sandand then the water, and it all fits.
Whereas if you did itany other way, it would not fit
those things.
Time blocking, time management,but also the importance of practice.
(06:26):
And I can find kind of a lot of that
as it relates to like, sports.
However, the audience is a very clearlynot not young girls.
And it is Jim Burrowsand it is like, great.
You know, Chris Rock out there,like cursing his face off or,
(06:47):
it's just it's just what I need.
What is where is it?
Because this is the thing that I.
Because it's important.
Right? Like, it is very important.
I need my kids managing their schedules.
I want them to have these skills.
And again, I do my best to modeland talk it through and teach them.
But is there no resource out therelike I remember?
And part ofit was that I was in student council
(07:09):
when the, seven Habits of Highly EffectiveTeens came out and we went and heard,
Sean Covey speak and like,the whole thing, something like that.
Right. Is is there
a YouTube channel?
Is there something out there thatI'm missing that I don't have access to?
Because that is what I want,
because it is so important,especially for homeschoolers.
(07:32):
I mean, these are those those skills,you know, because I do
I remember we got our plannersin like sixth grade in middle school
and you had to like, get insideand like do the thing.
So like, where is that?
Do you, do you know where that is?
Because yes, we're teaching our kidstheir lessons and yes, we're teaching them
important things and we're doing things,but there's also some life skills
(07:53):
and it's not as simple because likeif I look up like cooking for kids, boom,
tons of things.You can get a subscription box.
Where's the thing I want?
And self-helpmaybe isn't even like self-improvement.
I don't know what the best descriptionof what I am wanting is.
And again,is there just a glaring hole in the market
(08:15):
that one of us needs to get this togetherand do this thing?
I don't know,
and I know that there are plannersdesigned for kids, but where is the
instruction, the growth?
Where were those things for kids?
And not like,
you know, baby kids,these are important life skills
(08:36):
that I want to send my kids into the worldwith.
And I am struggling to find a kid centric,
kid friendly version of this thingbecause, you know, they even have, like,
cosmic kids yoga.
Like, I mean, they have things for kids,but why can't I find this in a manner
that is for kids?
That's what I want.
I need something beyond like,you know, Miss Tool,
(08:57):
which I'm not actually familiar with.
So I don't know if that's applicable here,but let's pretend it is.
Or Snoop Dogg,I need something like where is it?
And is it just the thing I need to make?
Because there are thingsthat I think are really important.
It is really important.
I have felt like these thingsmake a very big impact on my life,
and I feel like when my life
is getting out of sorts, if I can fallback on those habits, is it like a timing?
(09:18):
I need the timing habits for kids.Where's that?
I want that, where's that?
And I share with themthe things that I have learned and I, I
if I find something great, I share it.
But it's justI feel like we're missing that resource.
So if you know what that is,I need that in my life.
Okay?
And you guys know,
I review a ton of products, a ton of howto products, you know, how to sell kit,
(09:39):
how to coding kit,how to use your computer like so many.
But I'mI am desperately actively searching for
I am searching for this
self-help life improvement which
is it?
(10:00):
A religious secular thing?
Because I feel like there's probably
a lot of this same thingwith, with values and morals.
There's a lot of resources in that genrein that vein
as pertains to a religious affiliation,and it's harder
to find things that are faith neutralor secular in that same vein,
(10:22):
because apparently you can only bea good person if you have Jesus. But
I'm just saying, like,where is the thing, right?
Where is the thing that still teaches youthese life skills,
those important aspects,without being Bible focused?
Religion focus?
Where is that?Because I'm a firm believer.
(10:42):
You're a good person. You're a bad person.
You don't need the the threat of of
divine interventionor eternal punishment to be those things.
But how are we encouraging our kids?
How are we teaching our kids to maximizethe gifts they have, their inherent gifts
of being able to schedule their time andbeing able to figure out what a priority.
Where's the Eisenhower Matrix for kidslike the Pomodoro?
(11:05):
Techniques for kids like where is thiswhere memorization techniques for kids?
I found a few videos on,
doodle notes for kids that
were really helpful, but even thenit almost wasn't age appropriate.
So where are these at?
Do you know? Will you tell me,can you share?
(11:25):
Because you guys, if you don't know,the entire point of these videos
is to be collaborativebecause either I'm coming here
to share a thing that I know about thatI want you to know about,
so we can buildthe things we know about together.
Or I come here just like in this video,in lack of something, and I need your help
because you guys are outyour far reaching.
I know almost everything I knowabout the things I have access to
(11:47):
because somebody somewhere told meor planted close of enough of a seed
that I could make that half a step furtheron my own to get to the thing. So
yes, that I don't know the little ranty.
This is what I want. This is what I need.
If we don't have it,which one of you is making it?
No pressure probably.
Guys, I hope that you foundit is helpful, entertaining, informative.
(12:08):
If you did, please scroll downand hit the big red subscribe button.
Turn on that bell for notificationsand give this video a thumbs up.
As always, you can find me right on down
in the comments
where you should absolutely go downto these comments
or to Instagramand tell me about the thing
you know you have that you found.
The answer is this for me?
Because girl needs some help.
I have middle schoolers.
This is where we areforming these techniques, and these skills
(12:30):
are going to lay the foundationfor both high school
and everything beyondfor the rest of life.
So like no pressure,but like I'm sweating.
I need it so desperately.
So write down in the comments or over onInstagram at Making Everyday Impact.
Okay, okay okay, I.
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