March 6, 2025 • 16 mins
📢 Social Media Is A Dangerous Scam: Why We Keep Comparing Ourselves to Fake Perfection
We know social media isn’t real. We know it’s all curated, filtered, and staged. And yet… we’re still out here comparing ourselves to people who don’t even live the “perfect” lives they post. WHY do we keep falling for this? It’s time for a reality check.
🔥 What’s on my mind today:
✔️ Social media is basically one big illusion
✔️ The influencers selling us a lifestyle they don’t actually live
✔️ Why we keep getting sucked into the comparison trap
✔️ The real impact this has on our mental health
Seriously, enough is enough. Let’s talk about why we need to stop measuring our lives against someone else’s highlight reel—and take back our peace of mind.
👉 Do you find yourself falling into the comparison trap? Let’s chat in the comments! And don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell so we can keep calling out the nonsense.
#SocialMediaIsADangerousScam #MakingEverydayMagic #FakePerfection #SocialMediaReality #MentalHealthMatters
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(00:00):
She doesn't even use the ice she makes.
Even I am guilty of it.
So let's sit down. Let's talk about it.
Get readyfor a little bit of a ranty video.
Guys, before we go any further,
my name is Shanna, and if you are new here,we're homeschooling family of four.
We're in our eighth year of homeschooling,
and we have a third graderand a seventh grader.
And today I just want to go kind of offscript and talk with you
(00:24):
about how what you see isn't real.
Guys, before we go any further, pleasescroll down, hit the big red subscribe
button, turn on the bell for notificationsand give this video a thumbs up.
As always, you can find me right on downin the comments for over on Instagram
at Making Everyday Magic.
(00:44):
Full disclosure I am 100% guilty of
showing you something that is not
always as it is.
I am not looking like this every day.
My eyebrows are colored.
(01:06):
There's a filter on this camerathat smooths out my skin texture.
There is,
I batch film content.
So that I just try to make it work.
What works? Make it work.
I am currently
filming videosthat easily fit into my life,
(01:27):
because my life is really crazy right nowwith moving and trying to keep up
with kids stuff and some variousopportunities coming our way.
It's just been a little wild and and fulldisclosure, I'm doing what works for me.
And while you'll see some of these videos,you know, two weeks apart
for me, I'm filming them in the spanof about 30 minutes.
(01:49):
I think it's really importantto address the dangers of social media.
The fact that what we see is not real.
It's just not.
The dangers of social media are so real
and I say that, and I know that.
(02:10):
And I'm saying that to you.
And you are saying, Shawna,none of this is new information.
However, when we are evaluating
ourselves, our space,
our home, our color
palettes, our homeschool,
(02:30):
despite knowing that what we see
on the internet, that what we're seeing onsocial media isn't real.
We know that we know this.
Despite knowing this,
how often are you comparing yourself
to what you see that you know isn't real?
(02:51):
So I have been prompted to
remind you to talk about this, to doshare my feelings on this.
RecentlyTikTok was canceled and, canceled.
And in the wake of Tik Tok being canceled,there was a trend
where people were making confessions
(03:13):
and people who have built
million follower platforms
came on TikTok and they said,
yes, I make all this.
I eat the little floureyes, the sheep eyes, all of the things.
It's Asmr, noisy content.
I don't even like cold drinks.
(03:34):
There were fitness influencers
who came on and said,I don't even do half the workouts.
I don't even complete the workout.
There was a mach bang
influencer who came on and said,
I don't even eat the food.
There has been a wave
(03:57):
of people
who have built their lives, their income,
their entire situations around sharing
publicly on the internet
that have
committed crimes to be there.
There's a mother out of Australiawho was actively poisoning
(04:20):
her child, who had to get brain surgeries
so thatshe could side fish on the internet.
There was a woman who shares hertarget halls who was arrested
multiple times
for stealing from target.
There was a woman a few years agowho did this entire thing about.
(04:44):
I mean, she went to jailfor talking about people
trying to kidnap her childwhen it's not real.
What you see on the internet is not real.
And again, I'm guilty of it.There's a lot of thing.
I mean, I don't come here and chairevery minute of every day or every,
you know, dirty, ugly disagreementI had with my kids or who would who would?
(05:06):
We are all guiltyof putting a filter to the world.
But I think it becomes problematicwhen you are doing things
that you wouldn't normally do in an effort
to profit, monopolize, gain
(05:26):
from your actions,especially if those actions are criminal.
But even in a micro aspect, let'slook at this when it comes to homeschool.
How many people do you follow onwho seem to have it all put together,
who seem to never had a roadmap,
who seem to their houseis always perfect and immaculate,
(05:48):
and also their kids are always schooledand each child, they've got five.
Each one gets personalized, individualizedcurriculum and one on one time.
If we
continue and again, I know, you know,there's just like, I know, I know this
if we continue to measure ourselves
(06:10):
against a bedazzled bar
that literally doesn't exist.
How can we find happiness?
How can we find fulfillment?
If we are looking
at all the externally
(06:30):
to get that gratification of knowingthat we could do it
like they do it,but they don't do it that way.
It is so scary.
Especially as women we are targeted.
Social media targets women.
I'm not making this up.
There were whistleblower ers who came out.
There have been people who've done studieswho create, you know, a
(06:52):
teenage girl account and see how quicklythey are approached by predators
and see how quickly their feedsare targeted with weight loss ads or,
you know, harmful content.
Social media is so, so dangerous.
Is it valuable? Yeah, it can be.
(07:14):
Can it serve good in the world?Absolutely.
When used in the proper context.
But we have
we have gone so far off the rails with
this desire to be likethe ones that we see on the internet.
We cannot be like them.
They are not like them.
(07:36):
Okay?They're not really buying the things.
They're not really doing the work ads.
They're not really using the eyes.
They're not really followingthe meal plan.
They're not really eating all that food.
I, I just want to remind you
that this is a dangerous place,
that it can be hard
(07:58):
to see this kind of contentday in and day out
that makes you feel like you areless than even if you know it's not real,
even if you're rational, brain says,I get it, they're not really doing it.
It still does implant on youin some manner.
And so I just want to remind you, gooutside, get some fresh air, put it down.
(08:19):
Unsubscribe.
Peoplewho who really damage your inner self
and whether or notyou recognize that it's happening,
just be careful.
Even the the trend.
Because now we are shifting backto where color is
good, which I'm really excited aboutbecause I like color.
But the neutral, everything is neutral.
(08:39):
All kids toys like,does that really make people happy?
It is.
It is impossible.
It's impossible to live a happy life
when you've got people telling youthat every food that you put in your body
is bad, that every product you bring intoyour home is bad.
We just don't need thisconstant bombardment of negativity.
(09:03):
And that's what it is.
It's negative all the time.
Even when it's framedas some way to be positive, it's negative.
And I also worrybecause like I said, as women, we're we're
we're targetedso much more than anyone else.
But I worry about our kidsbeing exposed to these kinds of things,
because if we can't properly harnessit and navigate it
(09:26):
without it giving us some sort of feeling,then how are they supposed to do that?
So again, I'm going to tell you,there are things out there where you can
limit content, you can limit access,you can monitor what your kids are seeing.
Bach app is a great one.
We use Bach, we use Google Link,we use that I, I, I phone, iPad app,
whatever the family thing is from Apple,we use all of them.
(09:49):
We get layers, layers of protection,
and even still, it's a dangerous world.
I just,
I don't know,
I don't know the point of thissays other to say be safe.
Be safe out therebecause the internet is dangerous.
So, so dangerous.
I try and I'm not looking for any patson the back about this.
(10:10):
Please don't do that.
But I just want to tell you,I try to come here
and I try to keep it as realas I possibly can.
I come here and I do.
I there's a reason that I don't talkabout every math curriculum
I've had for class.
Could you cover Saxon Math?
Well, no,because I don't know squat about it.
I'm going to come here and lie.
I'm not going to come here and pretendlike I know something I don't. I.
(10:35):
Wish I
wish that there was more realauthenticity.
Authenticity in the world.
And part of that, likeif we think about this on a deep level,
there was a woman out therewho made an ice video.
She does this.She said she didn't even like cold drinks.
She made a video about ice cubes,
(10:55):
and she found thatpeople liked her video about ice cubes.
And then she had to make it like,her whole thing.
And that's really kind of sad.
It's sad.
Just.
I don't know.
I don't know what I'm trying to say here.
Be kind to yourself.
Limit your intake of garbage.
(11:16):
And it's garbage. It's all garbage.
What I share garbage,what I watch garbage, it's all garbage.
It is. It is garbage.We do not need to see.
And the innermost thoughtsof all these people we know,
especiallywith election season, are going.
I don't need to know.
I don't need to know. What we need.
Do not need to see behind the curtain.
(11:36):
We don't need to see you deep.
No, it's too much.
It is too much.
Put it down. Walk away. Maybe set a timer.
Set yourself a parental control appso that you know you've not gone too far.
I don't know, I don't know, to be safe.
It's a dangerous place.
And please, please, please,please guard those babies.
Guard those babies.
(11:56):
When it comes to the internet,the internet is a dangerous place.
And when I say social media,I literally mean anything
on the internetwhere you are having access
to people's people and opinions.
So, I mean, even like the chat sectionsof Roblox, guys, I cannot tell you.
And maybe it's one.
(12:17):
First of all, we know too much.
Maybe it is because I am
in a major citythat is huge, allegedly for trafficking.
I have not had any firsthand experiencewith that, but it's supposed to be.
People always say that he's in troublefor trafficking.
Maybe it's because of that,but I mean, once a week,
probablythere is a story of a young girl or boy
(12:41):
who's been kidnaped,for which it is 100% kidnaping,
but they've voluntarily leftwith someone they met on the internet.
Now, keep in mind,a minor cannot make a decision at 100%.
Kidnaping,
It is a dangerous world out there,and the danger is,
(13:01):
is hardly at all in your front yard.
It is the people that you know,
the people in your phones,the people in your DMs
and your messages, in your chats.
Be safe.
Be safe.Protect yourself. Protect your kids.
Don't measure yourself against somethingyou know is not real.
(13:24):
Oh my goodness.
Okay, so I just filmed
the it's Not Real video.
And one more.
I came downstairs and clean the kitchenand I've got watching YouTube videos and
the minimal mom popped upand it says she and
her husband are divorced.
(13:47):
It's not by any means saying she shouldhave let us into her life before that.
Not what I'm saying,but what I am saying is,
if you only.
Believe the
glossy veneer of life,of what people share, it's dangerous.
Because if you're comparing your lifeto anyone, it's not just hers,
(14:10):
but to anyone's.
You're going.
You're just going to fall shortevery single time.
And it's because of things like that.
Meeting that right now, I think is justa perfect indication that you don't know.
You don't know what is really going on.
It isn't real.
The internet isn't real.
(14:33):
Social media isn't real.
So guard yourself, guard your hearts,and don't try to stack up against
a house of cards.
It's really all it is
that you.
Stay safe guys.
The world is a wild place, guys.
It really is. I.
(14:55):
It's scary and it's predatory.
It just. It really is.
People will will grift on youin heartbeat.
They are looking for waysto get your information,
to get your money,to get something from you.
It is a dangerous place. So stay safe.
The most importantly,do things that fuel you
in a positive manner and not thingsthat make you feel less than.
(15:16):
So I'm totally strugglingwith this right now because if you know
my house doesn't work, put together,things aren't in the right spot.
It is not picture perfect.
I don't have the right bins in the pantry,storage, some.
I know that a lot of you can relate tothis, and I just want to remind you,
you've got a friend out there.
Find a safe space. Limit your intake.
Guys, I hope that you found this helpful,entertaining, or informative.
(15:38):
If you did, please scroll down.
Hit that big red subscribe button,turn on the bell for notifications
and give this video a thumbs up.
As always, you can find me right on downin the comments or over on Instagram.
I'm making everydaymagic. Be safe over there.
Bye guys!
She doesn't even use the ice she makes.
Even I am guilty of it.
So let's sit down. Let's talk about it.
Get readyfor a little bit of a ranty video.
Guys, before we go any further,
my name is Shanna, and if you are new here,we're homeschooling family of four.
We're in our eighth year of homeschooling,
and we have a third graderand a seventh grader.
And today I just want to go kind of offscript and talk with you
(00:24):
about how what you see isn't real.
Guys, before we go any further, pleasescroll down, hit the big red subscribe
button, turn on the bell for notificationsand give this video a thumbs up.
As always, you can find me right on downin the comments for over on Instagram
at Making Everyday Magic.
(00:44):
Full disclosure I am 100% guilty of
showing you something that is not
always as it is.
I am not looking like this every day.
My eyebrows are colored.
(01:06):
There's a filter on this camerathat smooths out my skin texture.
There is,
I batch film content.
So that I just try to make it work.
What works? Make it work.
I am currently
filming videosthat easily fit into my life,
(01:27):
because my life is really crazy right nowwith moving and trying to keep up
with kids stuff and some variousopportunities coming our way.
It's just been a little wild and and fulldisclosure, I'm doing what works for me.
And while you'll see some of these videos,you know, two weeks apart
for me, I'm filming them in the spanof about 30 minutes.
(01:49):
I think it's really importantto address the dangers of social media.
The fact that what we see is not real.
It's just not.
The dangers of social media are so real
and I say that, and I know that.
(02:10):
And I'm saying that to you.
And you are saying, Shawna,none of this is new information.
However, when we are evaluating
ourselves, our space,
our home, our color
palettes, our homeschool,
(02:30):
despite knowing that what we see
on the internet, that what we're seeing onsocial media isn't real.
We know that we know this.
Despite knowing this,
how often are you comparing yourself
to what you see that you know isn't real?
(02:51):
So I have been prompted to
remind you to talk about this, to doshare my feelings on this.
RecentlyTikTok was canceled and, canceled.
And in the wake of Tik Tok being canceled,there was a trend
where people were making confessions
(03:13):
and people who have built
million follower platforms
came on TikTok and they said,
yes, I make all this.
I eat the little floureyes, the sheep eyes, all of the things.
It's Asmr, noisy content.
I don't even like cold drinks.
(03:34):
There were fitness influencers
who came on and said,I don't even do half the workouts.
I don't even complete the workout.
There was a mach bang
influencer who came on and said,
I don't even eat the food.
There has been a wave
(03:57):
of people
who have built their lives, their income,
their entire situations around sharing
publicly on the internet
that have
committed crimes to be there.
There's a mother out of Australiawho was actively poisoning
(04:20):
her child, who had to get brain surgeries
so thatshe could side fish on the internet.
There was a woman who shares hertarget halls who was arrested
multiple times
for stealing from target.
There was a woman a few years agowho did this entire thing about.
(04:44):
I mean, she went to jailfor talking about people
trying to kidnap her childwhen it's not real.
What you see on the internet is not real.
And again, I'm guilty of it.There's a lot of thing.
I mean, I don't come here and chairevery minute of every day or every,
you know, dirty, ugly disagreementI had with my kids or who would who would?
(05:06):
We are all guiltyof putting a filter to the world.
But I think it becomes problematicwhen you are doing things
that you wouldn't normally do in an effort
to profit, monopolize, gain
(05:26):
from your actions,especially if those actions are criminal.
But even in a micro aspect, let'slook at this when it comes to homeschool.
How many people do you follow onwho seem to have it all put together,
who seem to never had a roadmap,
who seem to their houseis always perfect and immaculate,
(05:48):
and also their kids are always schooledand each child, they've got five.
Each one gets personalized, individualizedcurriculum and one on one time.
If we
continue and again, I know, you know,there's just like, I know, I know this
if we continue to measure ourselves
(06:10):
against a bedazzled bar
that literally doesn't exist.
How can we find happiness?
How can we find fulfillment?
If we are looking
at all the externally
(06:30):
to get that gratification of knowingthat we could do it
like they do it,but they don't do it that way.
It is so scary.
Especially as women we are targeted.
Social media targets women.
I'm not making this up.
There were whistleblower ers who came out.
There have been people who've done studieswho create, you know, a
(06:52):
teenage girl account and see how quicklythey are approached by predators
and see how quickly their feedsare targeted with weight loss ads or,
you know, harmful content.
Social media is so, so dangerous.
Is it valuable? Yeah, it can be.
(07:14):
Can it serve good in the world?Absolutely.
When used in the proper context.
But we have
we have gone so far off the rails with
this desire to be likethe ones that we see on the internet.
We cannot be like them.
They are not like them.
(07:36):
Okay?They're not really buying the things.
They're not really doing the work ads.
They're not really using the eyes.
They're not really followingthe meal plan.
They're not really eating all that food.
I, I just want to remind you
that this is a dangerous place,
that it can be hard
(07:58):
to see this kind of contentday in and day out
that makes you feel like you areless than even if you know it's not real,
even if you're rational, brain says,I get it, they're not really doing it.
It still does implant on youin some manner.
And so I just want to remind you, gooutside, get some fresh air, put it down.
(08:19):
Unsubscribe.
Peoplewho who really damage your inner self
and whether or notyou recognize that it's happening,
just be careful.
Even the the trend.
Because now we are shifting backto where color is
good, which I'm really excited aboutbecause I like color.
But the neutral, everything is neutral.
(08:39):
All kids toys like,does that really make people happy?
It is.
It is impossible.
It's impossible to live a happy life
when you've got people telling youthat every food that you put in your body
is bad, that every product you bring intoyour home is bad.
We just don't need thisconstant bombardment of negativity.
(09:03):
And that's what it is.
It's negative all the time.
Even when it's framedas some way to be positive, it's negative.
And I also worrybecause like I said, as women, we're we're
we're targetedso much more than anyone else.
But I worry about our kidsbeing exposed to these kinds of things,
because if we can't properly harnessit and navigate it
(09:26):
without it giving us some sort of feeling,then how are they supposed to do that?
So again, I'm going to tell you,there are things out there where you can
limit content, you can limit access,you can monitor what your kids are seeing.
Bach app is a great one.
We use Bach, we use Google Link,we use that I, I, I phone, iPad app,
whatever the family thing is from Apple,we use all of them.
(09:49):
We get layers, layers of protection,
and even still, it's a dangerous world.
I just,
I don't know,
I don't know the point of thissays other to say be safe.
Be safe out therebecause the internet is dangerous.
So, so dangerous.
I try and I'm not looking for any patson the back about this.
(10:10):
Please don't do that.
But I just want to tell you,I try to come here
and I try to keep it as realas I possibly can.
I come here and I do.
I there's a reason that I don't talkabout every math curriculum
I've had for class.
Could you cover Saxon Math?
Well, no,because I don't know squat about it.
I'm going to come here and lie.
I'm not going to come here and pretendlike I know something I don't. I.
(10:35):
Wish I
wish that there was more realauthenticity.
Authenticity in the world.
And part of that, likeif we think about this on a deep level,
there was a woman out therewho made an ice video.
She does this.She said she didn't even like cold drinks.
She made a video about ice cubes,
(10:55):
and she found thatpeople liked her video about ice cubes.
And then she had to make it like,her whole thing.
And that's really kind of sad.
It's sad.
Just.
I don't know.
I don't know what I'm trying to say here.
Be kind to yourself.
Limit your intake of garbage.
(11:16):
And it's garbage. It's all garbage.
What I share garbage,what I watch garbage, it's all garbage.
It is. It is garbage.We do not need to see.
And the innermost thoughtsof all these people we know,
especiallywith election season, are going.
I don't need to know.
I don't need to know. What we need.
Do not need to see behind the curtain.
(11:36):
We don't need to see you deep.
No, it's too much.
It is too much.
Put it down. Walk away. Maybe set a timer.
Set yourself a parental control appso that you know you've not gone too far.
I don't know, I don't know, to be safe.
It's a dangerous place.
And please, please, please,please guard those babies.
Guard those babies.
(11:56):
When it comes to the internet,the internet is a dangerous place.
And when I say social media,I literally mean anything
on the internetwhere you are having access
to people's people and opinions.
So, I mean, even like the chat sectionsof Roblox, guys, I cannot tell you.
And maybe it's one.
(12:17):
First of all, we know too much.
Maybe it is because I am
in a major citythat is huge, allegedly for trafficking.
I have not had any firsthand experiencewith that, but it's supposed to be.
People always say that he's in troublefor trafficking.
Maybe it's because of that,but I mean, once a week,
probablythere is a story of a young girl or boy
(12:41):
who's been kidnaped,for which it is 100% kidnaping,
but they've voluntarily leftwith someone they met on the internet.
Now, keep in mind,a minor cannot make a decision at 100%.
Kidnaping,
It is a dangerous world out there,and the danger is,
(13:01):
is hardly at all in your front yard.
It is the people that you know,
the people in your phones,the people in your DMs
and your messages, in your chats.
Be safe.
Be safe.Protect yourself. Protect your kids.
Don't measure yourself against somethingyou know is not real.
(13:24):
Oh my goodness.
Okay, so I just filmed
the it's Not Real video.
And one more.
I came downstairs and clean the kitchenand I've got watching YouTube videos and
the minimal mom popped upand it says she and
her husband are divorced.
(13:47):
It's not by any means saying she shouldhave let us into her life before that.
Not what I'm saying,but what I am saying is,
if you only.
Believe the
glossy veneer of life,of what people share, it's dangerous.
Because if you're comparing your lifeto anyone, it's not just hers,
(14:10):
but to anyone's.
You're going.
You're just going to fall shortevery single time.
And it's because of things like that.
Meeting that right now, I think is justa perfect indication that you don't know.
You don't know what is really going on.
It isn't real.
The internet isn't real.
(14:33):
Social media isn't real.
So guard yourself, guard your hearts,and don't try to stack up against
a house of cards.
It's really all it is
that you.
Stay safe guys.
The world is a wild place, guys.
It really is. I.
(14:55):
It's scary and it's predatory.
It just. It really is.
People will will grift on youin heartbeat.
They are looking for waysto get your information,
to get your money,to get something from you.
It is a dangerous place. So stay safe.
The most importantly,do things that fuel you
in a positive manner and not thingsthat make you feel less than.
(15:16):
So I'm totally strugglingwith this right now because if you know
my house doesn't work, put together,things aren't in the right spot.
It is not picture perfect.
I don't have the right bins in the pantry,storage, some.
I know that a lot of you can relate tothis, and I just want to remind you,
you've got a friend out there.
Find a safe space. Limit your intake.
Guys, I hope that you found this helpful,entertaining, or informative.
(15:38):
If you did, please scroll down.
Hit that big red subscribe button,turn on the bell for notifications
and give this video a thumbs up.
As always, you can find me right on downin the comments or over on Instagram.
I'm making everydaymagic. Be safe over there.
Bye guys!
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If you eat, sleep, and breathe true crime, TRUE CRIME TONIGHT is serving up your nightly fix. Five nights a week, KT STUDIOS & iHEART RADIO invite listeners to pull up a seat for an unfiltered look at the biggest cases making headlines, celebrity scandals, and the trials everyone is watching. With a mix of expert analysis, hot takes, and listener call-ins, TRUE CRIME TONIGHT goes beyond the headlines to uncover the twists, turns, and unanswered questions that keep us all obsessed—because, at TRUE CRIME TONIGHT, there’s a seat for everyone. Whether breaking down crime scene forensics, scrutinizing serial killers, or debating the most binge-worthy true crime docs, True Crime Tonight is the fresh, fast-paced, and slightly addictive home for true crime lovers.