You think you’re parenting with one mind.
You’re not.
There’s the mind that reads the books and makes the plans. And there’s the other mind—the one running the show when your kid does that thing that makes your jaw clench and chest tighten.
Kirby Fling sees this clearly. His Two-Mind Method helps you understand the two versions of yourself that show up every day. The one that wants to be patient. And the one that actually is patient.
The difference? That’s where attachment gets stronger. Where families find their rhythm. Where the hard moments become growth moments.
Something clicked while listening?
We’d love to talk with you if you want to dig deeper into your family’s specific situation. If you’re ready to stop guessing and start knowing what works, it might be worth a conversation.
Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-326
About Randi Rubenstein
Randi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He’s now in his 20’s, healthy and happy-ish:). She’s been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.
Randi’s Web and Social Links
- Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/
About Kirby Fling
Kirby is the creator of the Two Mind Method, a practical, heart-centered approach to healing attachment wounds and reshaping nervous system patterns. Drawing on years of deep personal research, lived experience, and work with clients, Kirby specializes in helping people build healthier relationships with themselves and others. His work is grounded, accessible, and refreshingly real, offering tools that truly work in the messiness of real life. Kirby brings a unique blend of neurophysiology, trauma awareness, and emotional attunement to the table, empowering people to transform their inner world and their closest connections.
Kirby’s Web and Social Links
Website: https://TwoMindMethod.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TwoMindMethod
Instagram: https://instagram.com/TwoMindMethod
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@twomindmethod
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TwoMindMethod
Resources Discussed/Links
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748
Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair
by Daniel P. Brown PhD and David S. Elliott PhD https://www.amazon.com/Attachment-Disturbances-Adults-Treatment-Comprehensive/dp/0393711528/
Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/
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