Let’s talk about that feeling. The one where you're managing doctor's appointments, school events, birthday gifts, grocery lists, carpool logistics—and yet somehow, it still looks like you're "just" staying on top of life. But under the surface? It’s heavy. It’s exhausting. It’s invisible.
In today’s conversation, I sat down with Dr. Morgan Cutlip (yes, again—and you’ll see why!) to talk about her brand-new book A Better Share and how we can finally name, understand, and redistribute the mental load many of us carry.
We dive deep into what the mental load actually is (spoiler: it’s more than just remembering appointments), how it shows up in your everyday life, and how to finally start conversations with your partner that don’t end in frustration or tears.
Even if you feel like you’ve already "tried talking about it," this episode offers powerful reframes, practical scripts, and gentle encouragement to keep going—because you deserve a life that doesn’t constantly feel like one giant to-do list.
In this episode, we chat about:
Why "just tell me what to do" misses the mark in partnerships
The 3 overlapping types of tasks that make up the mental load (and why they’re so hard to delegate)
The hidden cost of emotional labor in motherhood
What to say when your partner gets defensive (and how to prep for the convo so you don’t spiral)
How to ask for appreciation (and why that’s not needy—it’s necessary!)
If you've ever felt like you're carrying too much—and no one quite sees it—this episode is a must-listen.
📘 Grab Dr. Morgan's brand-new book A Better Share https://a.co/d/alpGD4g
It’s the handbook every couple needs to navigate modern family life with more clarity, teamwork, and peace. Trust me, you’ll want to highlight every page.
Thanks so much for listening, and if this episode gave you an aha! moment, would you mind sharing it with a friend or leaving a quick review? It helps this little show reach more moms who need it.
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