Ever feel like you know what matters to you, but the way your life looks day to day doesn’t reflect that?
You believe in health, but you’re running on caffeine and fumes.
You believe in peace, but your home feels chaotic.
You believe in connection, but you’re snapping at the people you love.
That’s the Belief–Behavior Gap, and if you’re stuck in it, this episode is your compass back.
In this honest conversation, I’m breaking down why we often feel off even when we’re trying hard, what psychology says about the misalignment between our values and actions, and how to gently get back on track without shame, guilt, or overhauling your life overnight.
If you’ve been living on autopilot and wondering why things feel heavy or disconnected, you’re not alone, and you’re not broken. Let’s reconnect the direction you want to go… with the road you’re actually walking.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- What the Belief–Behavior Paradox is and why it causes so much mental and emotional clutter
- Why good intentions aren’t enough (and what to do when your actions don’t match your values)
- How our brains sabotage our best efforts with short-term fixes like scrolling, shopping, or staying busy
- What “false norths” are and how culture pulls us off course without us noticing
- Why some seasons of life require survival mode (and why that’s okay!)
- The 3-step framework to gently realign your values and habits without starting from scratch
Try This Today:
- Name your compass. Out loud. What do you believe matters most right now?
- Notice the gap. Where are your actions veering away from what you say you value?
- Take one small step. Something tiny that realigns your road with your compass. Then… celebrate it.
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