Mistakes Were Made
Non monogamy for imperfect people. Hosted by a queer therapist and her husband of 15 years. Sarah & Alex share their experiences opening their marriage, and interview guests about the struggles & rewards of doing relationships your own way. Mistakes Were Made is part advice, part confession, part culture critique. But it’s all about learning from our missteps and stumbling toward liberation. Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/. Logo design by roy franklin of the Whatever Factory - https://www.whateverfactory.org/.
Episodes
How does death, loss and grief impact our relationships? After a year filled with loss, Sarah and Alex talk to a trauma-informed spiritual care provider about the taboos around death, and what happens to our desire when people around us die.
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Close to the Knives: A Memoir of Disintegration by David Wojnarowicz | Without: Poems by Donald Hall | Wayward Lives, Beautiful...
Is it you? Is it me? Are you moving to Antarctica?? In this episode we talk about how and how not to end a relationship.
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mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/
Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org
Are the same dynamics screwing up our relationships also hampering our social movements? Sarah and Alex talk to activist and law professor Dean Spade about the romance myth, capitalism and love in this f*cked up world.
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Love in a F*cked Up World | DeanSpade.net | The Death Panel | Movement Memos
Also by Dean Spade:
Encore episode
Romance: what does it mean?? Sarah, Alex and Jess talk about their favorite romantic movies on the hottest day of the year. And finally answer the question: what IS romance? Or, do they just come up with 5,000 new questions? Listen to the end to find out! This episode first aired in August 2024.
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Last episode we started to talk about race in dating, and tbh…mistakes were made. So this episode we’re doubling down! Ramsey shares his experience dating as a Black polyamorous man in Seattle, offers advice for white people dating other races, and asks us “taboo” questions about our own experiences.
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We had such an interesting side conversation with Reagan about her experience working with a dating coach that we had to make a bonus episode all about it.
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Sarah and Alex's skeptical monogamous friend Reagan Jackson is back to grill them about sex, jealousy, and whether they’re just dating other versions of each other over and over.
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Lissa joins the podcast to help us parse out the difference between polyamory and swinging. And Alex opens up about his not-so-hot sex party experience.
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Reach out to Lissa: weekdaypineapple@gmail.co...
TMI time! Sarah and Alex work on healthy habits for disclosing info about sex and feelings in their other relationships. What’s an overshare? When is it hiding or deception? And what is the nature of truth anyway?
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Sarah and Alex make sense of the election results by talking about developmental stages, anti-social behavior, and oh yeah and also polyamory.
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Welcome to season 4 of Mistakes Were Made! Today we're asking: How much conflict should you expect in a healthy relationship? In this episode Sarah, Jessica and Alex explore how to fight better (rather than avoiding fights altogether) by understanding our internal patterns and reaction styles. Logo design by Roy Franklin: http://whateverfactory.org.
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Which fork should you use on a first polyamorous date? Do you have to let your partner be the little spoon all the time? We pondered these and other burning questions in the Finale episode of Season Three.
Srsly though, here's the etiquette and advice we gathered for this episode, if you don't want to listen to 80 mins of our charming banter:
- Let your partners consent into information ab...
Romance: what does it mean?? Sarah, Alex and Jess talk about their favorite romantic movies on the hottest day of the year. And finally answer the question: what IS romance? Or, do they just come up with 5,000 new questions? Listen to the end to find out!
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Are the youngs living in queer poly utopia or what? Sarah and Alex recruit their 20 something barista, Mattise Wood, to find out.
mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/
Logo design by eroyn franklin: www.whateverfactory.org
Special live episode featuring some of our favorite mistakes. Recorded May 9, 2024 in Seattle, WA.
Check out the slides from the live episode: https://www.mentimeter.com/app/presentation/n/alkskyvkpq54ehb844w3r2oejcjo4d6a/present
Evergreen hearts on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EvergreenHeartsOrg
Brand new logo by eroyn franklin! www.whateverfactory.org
We finally get to learn about relationship anarchy. Hope you're hungry for a smorgasbord!
Maxx Hill, curator of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord, joins to talk about the infinite possibilities of how you can "customize your commitments" when you let go of societal expectations. Open the link and follow along!
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Encore episode!
Let’s talk about sex (or die trying)! Sarah and Alex finally attempt to actually discuss sexual dynamics in non-monogamy without laughing or crying.
mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/
An actually useful explanation of how to play the three minute game (since ours went so sideways): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KCzpNBNbVM&t=80s
Who should you tell you're poly??? A death in the family sparks different reactions from Alex and Sarah about how open to be with family and friends.
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Alex wants to talk about performance anxiety….and Sarah really, really doesn’t.
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Evergreen Hearts - Polyamory Pitfalls - Thursday May 9th, 6:30pm
Cleveland Clinic: Erectile Dysfunction
Book: The Ice Storm, by Rick Moody
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