What if you could flip the script on bullying? In this episode, Joe sits down with longtime therapist and author Patricia Stahl, who’s helped thousands navigate the lasting effects of childhood bullying. They dig into one surprising strategy that stopped her son’s bully cold—spoiler: it involved a quarter.
But this episode is so much more than a clever parenting hack.
We’re talking about the real emotional scars bullying leaves behind—especially when they follow you into adulthood. Joe shares a raw, personal story from high school that’s equal parts intense and honest, while Patricia breaks down why bullies behave the way they do and how parents can empower their kids without making things worse.
If you’ve ever been bullied, watched your kid suffer, or wondered how bullying shapes us well into adulthood, this conversation is for you.
Why were so many adults with social anxiety bullied as kids
The 10 common reasons kids become bullies (it’s not just “bad parenting”)
How a simple quarter changed one boy’s life
The emotional toll bullying takes, including depression, school avoidance, and even rage
Practical techniques like “fogging” and fake-it-till-you-make-it confidence training
Why “confidence is kryptonite to bullies” (shout out to James Corden)
How celebrities like Taylor Swift, Shaq, and The Rock turned bullying into fuel for greatness
What every dad needs to do right now if their kid is being bullied
Joe’s honest take on being bullied himself—and the day he snapped
The exact words Patricia taught her son to shut his bully down
How to roleplay with your kid to build emotional resilience
The hidden connection between bullying and people-pleasing in adulthood
Ways to help your child build social armor without becoming cold or distant
The key difference between reacting and responding to
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