From the time we were little boys and young men, the topic of sex has always seemed to conjure up thoughts of embarrassment and shame. It’s unfortunate (to say the least) considering that most men equate sex with the woman in their lives an integral part of the relationship and connection.
My guest today, Alex Grendi, has made it his life’s work to explore men’s relationships with sex and how we can not only get more of it but make it more meaningful for ourselves and the women in our lives. We talk about porn’s impact on sexual relationships, how to overcome childhood shame around the conversation of sex, how to solicit and ask for feedback in your performance in the bedroom (including how to ask for what you want), why nice guys never get what they want from intimacy, and the psychological and physiological issues men deal with when with their lady.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Episode Introduction
00:25 - Misconceptions About Men and Sex
00:56 - Shame and Societal Expectations
02:05 - Defining "Good" at Sex
03:22 - Impact of Pornography
04:32 - Healthy Perspective on Sex
06:01 - Creating Safety in the Bedroom
07:44 - Balancing Quickies and Intimacy
09:18 - Pornography and Performance Issues
10:54 - Navigating Religious Shame
12:02 - Talking to Kids About Sex
14:57 - Overcoming Shame and Insecurity
18:19 - Steps to Address Performance Anxiety
22:51 - Managing Stress for Better Intimacy
25:05 - Exploring Non-Genital Pleasure
29:24 - Importance of Foreplay
32:18 - Honoring Your Own Needs
36:14 - Mastering Edging Techniques
41:30 - Removing Ejaculation as the Goal
44:42 - Communicating Desires Effectively
50:28 - Leadership in Intimacy
53:06 - Reframing Sexual Intentions
55:42 - Connecting with Alex Grendi
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