Overcome Pornography for Good

Is watching porn considered cheating? It’s a question many people wrestle with, and the answer isn’t black and white. In this episode, I explore the emotional complexities surrounding pornography use in committed relationships and how it intersects with infidelity, betrayal, and sexual boundaries. I dive into how personal values, inherited beliefs, and unspoken agreements shape how we view fidelity.

I discuss how infidelity is...

Have you ever felt sadness or confusion about letting go of something you desperately want out of your life? The grieving process often shows up in unexpected ways when you're trying to overcome pornography. It’s normal to experience complex emotions like grief, even when you know you want to quit. Understanding this emotional landscape can significantly transform your healing journey.

In this episode, Coach Jessica explores t...

If you’ve mastered your morning routine and crushed your gym goals, but still feel stuck when it comes to showing up in your relationships or handling hard emotions, you’re not alone. Discipline without emotional intelligence turns into control, not connection—and this is the key piece that so many self-development approaches miss. You can do everything “right” on paper and still find yourself disconnected, reactive, or avoiding em...

Do you ever feel like you're one stress away from losing control? That could mean you're outside your window of tolerance—a state where your emotional balance is compromised.

In this episode, Coach Hunter explains a powerful framework for understanding emotional regulation, using the metaphor of a rubber band to illustrate how our nervous system reacts to stress and why we sometimes turn to coping mechanisms, like pornography, when ...

Is censorship effective for pornography? While banning pornography might seem like a protective measure, it often backfires and creates more harm than good. In this episode, I explore how censorship, even with the best intentions, escalates the problems it aims to solve.

Learn why censorship isn’t real protection, how it can increase division and control, and what strategies actually protect kids while respecting adult freedom. You...

Do intrusive thoughts create distress for you, especially when they involve sexuality? Through my work helping people overcome pornography, I've noticed how these unwanted thoughts often trigger shame, anxiety, and a desperate desire to make them stop.

In this episode, I share a powerful exercise about a pink elephant that perfectly illustrates why fighting against intrusive thoughts only makes them stronger. I demonstrate how...

Are you a high achiever trying to do everything right? I dive deep into perfectionism today - not as a badge of honor, but as a core fear of not being enough that often masquerades as discipline and drive. As a perfectionist myself, I understand how this mindset can both motivate and harm us in our journey toward healing and growth.

This episode explores how perfectionism acts as a form of self-protection rather than self-impr...

Do you find yourself chasing a sense of worth that always feels just out of reach? Many of us hold ourselves hostage with our inner critic, especially when it comes to overcoming pornography. I see this pattern frequently in coaching sessions where clients believe they can't experience happiness or peace until they've "earned it" through extended periods without viewing porn.

In this episode, I explore how the inner critic oft...

What if breaking free from pornography doesn’t require attending every coaching call or relying on willpower alone? In this episode, Nathan shares his journey from years of struggling with pornography to reclaiming control of his life. What makes Nathan's story particularly inspiring is that he achieved this transformation without ever attending a live coaching call.

Nathan explains how the key was learning to recognize and sit wit...

What does it truly mean to be a provider as a man? For many people, masculine worth has been tightly linked to financial provision—the bigger the salary, the more successful the man. This narrow definition has created wounds that affect relationships, communities, and sense of self-worth.

It's time we expand our understanding of masculine power. The traditional model of "providing equals money" often leads to competitive rathe...

What if five minutes a day could completely change your ability to process urges? In this episode, Coach Hunter Garrett shares the daily tool that helped him move from feeling afraid of urges to being able to process them with confidence and ease. This simple practice became a key part of his success in overcoming pornography and staying committed to his goals.

If you’re ready to stop getting stuck in the same patterns and wan...

Have you ever felt anxious or antsy when you view less porn? In this episode, coach Jessica addresses a common question many clients face: How long do I have to feel uncomfortable emotions, and how can I process the urges that come with this?

Jessica unpacks the science behind emotions and urges. These sensations—whether they show up as fidgeting, bouncing your leg, or tightness in your chest—are simply your body’s response to...

Can someone truly overcome a 27-year pornography habit in just a few weeks? In this inspiring episode, I sit down with Tyler, a client who shares his remarkable journey from decades of struggle to genuine freedom.

Tyler details the specific mindset shifts and practical tools that made the difference, how the program improved his marriage and parenting, and why going "all in" was the key to his success. His story proves that fr...

Ever feel trapped in a shame spiral that logic just can't break? That overwhelming feeling where no matter how many reasons you list for why you shouldn't feel ashamed, the emotion persists and paralyzes you? This is exactly what I'm addressing in today's episode.

I share a training I conducted on treating shame as "offline work" and provide practical, body-based techniques to help you break free from shame spirals. You'll discover ...

Have you ever felt like you're doing all the “right” things to process urges, but it's just not working?

Many of my clients express frustration that despite their best efforts to implement the tools they've learned, they still struggle with urges and don’t know why.

In this episode, Coach Kat shares a powerful insight that will completely transform your approach to urge processing.

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Are you constantly looking backward instead of forward? In this episode, I dive into the powerful distinction between being past-focused versus future-focused, and how this single shift can completely transform your approach to overcoming pornography.

When you're stuck in past-focused thinking, you limit yourself to what you've already accomplished. By defining yourself by who you want to become rather than who you've been, you can ...

What if I told you that the key to quitting porn for good isn't just about the actions you take, but the energy behind those actions? So often, we chase after a porn-free life, thinking that once we achieve it, we'll finally feel good enough, worthy, and at peace. But what if we flipped the script and started embodying those feelings now, even before we've reached our goal?

In this episode, you'll hear a fresh perspective on rewirin...

Do you ever feel like quitting pornography is just too difficult and uncomfortable? In this episode, I share a powerful concept that completely changed my life: discomfort is the currency for success.

Join me as I dive deep into why discomfort is essential for overcoming pornography and creating the life you truly desire. I share practical tips for reframing your mindset around discomfort and teach you how to process your emotions i...

Are you tired of trying to quit porn using methods that just don't work? I reveal the hidden forces that keep you trapped in unwanted porn use and how facing them head-on can finally set you free.

If you're ready to break free from the chains of pornography once and for all, this episode will give you a roadmap to lasting change. You'll learn why focusing on surface-level behaviors will never bring true healing, how to overcome the...