EP302: Spotting Subtle Red Flags: The Behaviors That Slowly Wear You Down

Not all unhealthy relationships announce themselves with yelling, cheating, or dramatic fights. Many of the most damaging ones chip away at us quietly—through subtle behaviors we often brush off or explain away. In this episode, Mary unpacks the small but powerful signs that can leave you feeling drained, doubting yourself, and unsure why something feels “off.”

You’ll learn why it’s so easy to miss these quiet warning signs, how they impact your confidence and boundaries over time, and what you can begin doing differently. This conversation is about tuning back into your own gut, trusting what you feel, and deciding what belongs in your life—and what doesn’t.

Three Takeaways

1.      Some of the most harmful relationship patterns are the ones that don’t look obvious at first.

2.      Your body often senses the truth before your mind is willing to admit it.

3.      Paying attention to the “small stuff” is what protects your peace of mind in the long run.

 

 

A healthy person

listens.

 An unhealthy one

gets defensive.

 That’s your clue.

 

 

 

 

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