How Not to Lose Yourself in Conflict

Have you ever lost yourself in the middle of conflict?

When tensions rise, many of us either rush to fix things or soften the edges to keep the peace. But what if you could stay grounded — anchored in your values — even when things get hard?

In this honest and hope-filled episode of Practicing Hope, Rev. Tanner Smith and Pastor Chase Rashad Stancle explore what it means to be a defined leader: someone who knows their values, shows up with clarity, and doesn’t disappear in the heat of conflict. You’ll laugh, reflect, and leave with practical tools for staying present when it matters most.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• How shared language can build trust in hard conversations.

• How to name the values that keep you grounded.

• Simple practices for staying connected when tensions rise.

Show Notes:

• Learn more about Schwartz’s Values Wheel

• Try the Competing Values Card Game 

• Feelings Wheel 

• Terry Real podcast episode on generational trauma. 

• Fred Rogers quote: “Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.”

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