Episode 084: Why Postponing Healing After Infidelity is a Risk You Can’t Afford to Take

In this eye-opening episode, Idit Sharoni, licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in affair recovery, dives into one of the most common mistakes couples make after infidelity: postponing the healing process.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that time alone will heal the wounds of betrayal, but the truth is, avoiding the hard work of healing can leave lasting scars on your relationship. From lingering pain and resentment to recurring trust issues, skipping this crucial step can silently erode your connection over time.

In this episode, Idit explores why healing after infidelity is non-negotiable, the hidden costs of avoidance, and how to take meaningful steps toward rebuilding trust and intimacy. Whether you’re in the early stages of recovery or feeling stuck in a “good enough” relationship, this episode offers hope, clarity, and actionable advice to help you move forward.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• What the “stabilization trap” is and how it can keep couples stuck after infidelity.
• The long-term risks of postponing healing, including unresolved pain, resentment, and recurring infidelity.
• Why time alone doesn’t heal wounds—intentional effort does.
• How to rebuild trust and connection through open communication and shared goals.
• Actionable steps to start the healing process and prevent future issues.
• Common fears about healing after infidelity and how to overcome them.

Who This Episode is For:

• Couples who’ve chosen to stay together after infidelity but feel stuck in their healing journey.
• Hurt partners struggling with lingering pain or trust issues.
• Unfaithful partners looking to understand how to rebuild trust and connection.
• Anyone curious about the process of affair recovery and how to create a stronger, healthier relationship.

Key Takeaways:

• Time doesn’t heal all wounds—effort does. Healing requires intentional action and commitment from both partners.
• Avoiding healing has hidden costs. Lingering pain, resentment, and a lack of trust can quietly damage your relationship over time.
• Rebuilding trust is possible. Open communication, emotional processing, and a shared vision for the future are key to creating a stronger relationship.

Resources and Links:

• Ready to take the next step? Check out my affair recovery program, It’s Okay to Stay and book a free consultation. Check it here: Affair Recovery Program
• Missed Episode 80: “How to Rebuild Trust After Infidelity”? Listen here: Episode 80
• Curious about Episode 78: “Can Conventional Couples Therapy Help you Heal from Infidelity”? Catch up here: Episode 78
• Read this show's blog post Read it here