Episode 085: Details After Cheating: Do I Need to Know Everything to Heal?

When infidelity is revealed, the hurt partner often experiences a deep sense of disorientation and a desperate need for answers. Many ask: Do I need to know every detail to heal—or am I just digging deeper into more pain?

In this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Idit Sharoni is joined by Dr. Yael Haklai-Neagu to explore a phase many couples get stuck in after betrayal: the forensic data collection phase. This is when questions about the affair—ranging from timelines to explicit details—dominate the recovery process, sometimes for months or even years.

Together, they discuss:

• Why the urge to gather every detail is completely normal

• What it looks like when this phase becomes a barrier to healing

• How to know if you're still seeking coherence or getting stuck in the pain

• Real-life examples of couples navigating this phase

• Actionable steps to help you move forward, even when not all the answers are there

This episode offers clarity, compassion, and a gentle roadmap out of a phase that often feels endless. Whether you're the hurt partner or the unfaithful partner, you’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how to shift from stuck to supported.

If this episode resonates with you and you’re ready for expert guidance, we invite you to schedule a free 45-minute consultation to learn more about our infidelity recovery program, It’s Okay To Stay. Visit iditsharoni.com/45 to get started.