EP 37: Samuel and Michael Webb: What Do You Do When You Don't Have Control Over Your Spouse's Behavior?

What do you do when you don't have control over your spouse's behavior? What do you do when they won't forgive you, if you're an unfaithful? What do you do when your unfaithful won't do recovery work or won't go all in when you're a betrayed?

What do you do when you or your partner associate pain with vulnerability or intimacy due to childhood or developmental trauma?

We call this feeling powerlessness and quite honestly, most of us hate it and run from it. If we don't run from it, we try and rally against it, usually causing ourselves and most people around us, more harm.

Powerlessness is the feeling of being unable to influence, control, or change something or someone in your life, often leaving you feeling helpless, hopeless or stuck. It's a state where you feel like your actions, decisions, or desires have little or no effect on the outcomes you face, or on the environment around you, including whether or not your spouse will do repair work after infidelity. This feeling can arise from external circumstances (like an oppressive situation or a lack of resources) or internal struggles (like feeling overwhelmed by paralyzing anxiety, emotions or mental health challenges).

When dealing with any form of trauma, especially betrayal trauma, both spouses can feel as though the journey is hopeless and without any real tangible reason to keep going. However, today Michael Webb shares palatable and life changing hope for those who feel as though they are helpless to bring about any change in either their own life or their partner's.

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Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [e-mail].