School of Self-Image

Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I'm actually living and thinking about.

Last year, I felt a very particular kind of tiredness. Not physical. Emotional fatigue paired with restlessness, and I couldn't figure out why. Was it my hormones? The time of year?

What I discovered was something else entirely: I was tired of performing...

Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I'm actually living and thinking about.

Today's confession is something I've been sitting with for a while.

I started thinking about the seasons of my life when anxiety showed up the loudest. Some of those seasons made sense from the outside – things were hard. But others were confusing....

Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I'm actually living and thinking about. 

Today's episode is one I've been wanting to record for a while.

People assume aging well is a formula. Find the right peptides. Count the right macros. Follow the right protocol. 

I'm not here to tell you what to take or track. I'...

Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where we gather around the pool and I confess the things I've been thinking, feeling, and experiencing – in hopes of normalizing these conversations and helping you know you're not alone.

Today's confession is one that almost every successful woman I've ever talked to has felt at some point. The fear of losing it all.

When I first started...

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We're about to live through the most average decade in human history. AI is becoming really, really good at sounding like everyone. And it shows.

But here's the thing that a machine can't do. It can't be a woman who knows exactly who she is.

Lately, I'm hearing the same thing from women everywhere...

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For most of my life, I hated shopping. Not because I didn't care about clothes – but because I had no idea who I was dressing.

I was buying what the mannequin wo...

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Style isn't about clothes.

It's your inner thoughts about yourself made visible – one of the most accurate self-portraits a woman paints. A daily, public answer to the question: Who do you think you are?

In this episode, Tonya walks thro...

You've been writing about her for years.

You know the way she carries herself. You know the outfits she'd wear, the dinners she'd attend, the way she says her opinion at the table without softening it first. You have written about her so many times you could find her blindfolded.

And she is still standing on the wrong side of the page.

Today I'm questioning something I love &...

Join me for The Spring Edit, a month-long experience inside the School of Self-Image that I'm doing right alongside you. One room, one honest look, and one woman deciding who she is now – and creating a space that says so. https://www.schoolofselfimage.com/go 

There's a room in my house that I've called my studio for nearly two years. I've never once recorded a podcast in it.

Two wa...

Your environment tells a story about who you are. Inside the School of Self-Image, we're editing it – one room at a time. Join us for The Spring Edit. https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

I used to live in a cabin in the woods. Not a charming stone cottage with wildflowers by the mailbox –  a cabin off a dirt road where your social circle is basically whoever delivers your packages.

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