Is the spark gone? Dr. Scott Lyons, as I explore how to get the spark back in relationships and
sex. We're talking about why the spark is not what you think and what you're actually looking for.
In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons and I discuss:
● Why the initial 'spark' might be misleading.
● The importance of evolving and growing in relationships.
● How trauma responses affect attraction and intimacy.
● The difference between intensity and intimacy.
● Practical ways to cultivate a sustainable and fulfilling connection.
I share personal experiences and insights on dating, attraction, and the journey toward deeper
self-understanding. Dr. Scott Lyons brings his expertise as a trauma therapist and somatic
healer to help us understand the complexities of relationships and sexuality.
Show Notes:
00:00:00 - Rekindling the Spark: What You Need to Know
00:02:45 - The Reality of Growth: Attraction Can Evolve
00:07:57 - Freedom vs. Attachment: Different Relationship Patterns
00:11:10 - Evolving Attraction: Hemisexuals, Saposexuals, and Demisexuals
00:15:03 - The Attraction ICK: Is There an Attraction Spark?
00:19:29 - Peeling Away the Layers: The Beauty of Intimacy
00:22:49 - The Honeymoon Period Is Drunk: Sobering Up and Finding Organic Excitement
00:27:40 - Variety and Newness: Keeping the Spark Alive
00:31:17 - Passion or Safety: Cultivating Eroticism in Safety
00:35:56 - Arousal Runway: Pottery Classes and Cooking Meals
00:40:19 - Developing New Habits: Making Time for Connection
00:42:51 - Chasing the Familiar: Red Flags as a Spark
00:46:16 - The Importance of Feeling Safe
00:49:54 - Childhood Was Perfect: Somatic Therapy and Nervous System Regulation
00:53:10 - Grounding in Our Senses: Getting Back to Sensuality and Connection
00:56:26 - Healing Patterns: Not Taking the Bait
00:58:20 - Sustainable, Healthy, Loving Relationships: Going the Distance
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