So What Now?

This week on So What Now we are back with all the chaos, wisdom, and side-eyes you’ve come to love.

Dex kicks things off with a hilarious (and low-key insightful?) update on dinner with her dad — who came with unexpected dating advice on where to find eligible bachelors. Spoiler: Dex is not taking him up on this advice.

Then, Carla introduces the viral “golden retriever vs. black cat” dating t...

Welcome back to So What Now, where the convos are chaotic and the wine is always flowing 🍷 In this episode, we’re diving deep (and maybe too far 😭) into everything from Rapture Talk 2025 to Cardi B’s new album, revenge baby, and messy baby daddy drama.

We’re asking the real questions like:
– Did the Rapture already happen and we got left behind? 👀
– Can you repent on your way out and still make it to heaven?
– Are all sins reall...

It’s football season, y’all! And guess what? Carla and I are finally ready to dive in. We’re trying to understand the hype, the rules, and maybe even pick a team (no promises though). From touchdowns to tight ends, we’re figuring it out one game at a time.

Then we pivot to pop culture, because of course we do and whew, let’s talk about Dame Dash on The Breakfast Club. When are folks gonna stop trying to ma...

We kick off this weeks episode with a motherhood update. Carla opens up about new and uncharted challenges of motherhood this week. Her little one just started Pre-K. It's been a rough ride, and Carla’s not sugarcoating it. The struggle bus is real, and Carla’s driving it with no GPS.

Then things take a sharp (and hilarious) left turn into pop culture: we dive into the Cardi B trial — yes, the $24 million lawsuit from ...

This week, we’re diving deep into the future of dating — and it's getting a high-tech upgrade. Bumble founder Whitney Wolfe Herd says AI could soon help you navigate dating anxiety, improve your communication, and even “date” other AIs to find your perfect match. Helpful or horrifying? We weigh in.

Then, tennis pro Sachia Vickery has gone viral after revealing she requires a $1,000 deposit before any date....

Hey Friends it's Carla! Welcome back to another episode of So What Now?  Let's get right into this week's wild ride! So Bella Thorne hopped on IG sharing that she proposed to her fiancé… after he already did it first. I’m sorry, what?? Nah. Ya’ll know I have thoughts (spoiler: I am not out here getting on one knee, let’s be so serious).

And of course, Dex went off on one of her classic rants. This time abo...

In this episode, we kick things off with the hidden cost of friendship — turns out, staying social could be costing you over $250 a month in brunches, happy hours, and birthday dinners. Then we get into dating finances, where new data shows men are spending $15,000 more per year in relationships, largely driven by lingering provider expectations. How much is your man spending on you? 

Dex brings us a shock...

This week on So What Now?, I kicked things off with a few thoughts on all the buzz surrounding the Woman Evolve conference and shared a little bit about what the experience was like for me personally. We also wanted to catch up with y’all, so we took some time to dig into a couple of listener letters because let’s be honest, our inbox is overflowing and these topics deserved some attention. One letter came from someone...

This week, Dex came in hot with the age-old(and honestly, exhausting) question: Are you wife material? We broke down a xoNecole article where 10 men shared what makes a woman “wife” vs. “girlfriend” material and whew, some of these takes had me raising eyebrows and clenching my pearls. From emotional maturity to splitting bills to being “referred” like a LinkedIn job post, we had plenty to say. Spoiler alert: Dex absolutely flunked...

This week, me, and Carla are comparing social media timelines and realizing just how differently our algorithms are built. Mine? Full of the usual celeb mess. Carla’s? Somehow led us into a convo about butt sniffers. I’m still recovering.

We get into the age-gap dating buzz between Karrueche Tran (37) and Deion Sanders (57)—is there a cutoff age where nobody cares anymore, or are we still side-eyeing big g...

This week on So What Now, we unpack a viral TikTok that challenges the usual checklist for choosing a partner. Sure, faith, finances, and fitness are great—but what about the ability to suffer well? Life will get messy, and having someone who doesn’t fall apart in the chaos might just be the most underrated trait of all. Dex keeps it real and admits she’s not built for bedside caregiving—she’ll cut the check, but don’t...

Whew—y’all, we’re back! After dodging studio bookings like TSA lines, we finally made it back to High Hello Labs, and babyyy... we’ve got a lot to catch up on.

Dex is officially 41 (but giving 25), and Carla shares how TSA Cares and Psalm’s amazing therapy team helped him prep for his big NYC takeover. 💪🏾
We’re talking legacy—but not the money kind—getting older (and finer), and how one Coldplay kiss cam moment exposed way more t...

Hey Besties

We’re back! and it’s giving unfiltered chaos (per usual). 😅

This week’s episode is straight from the living room while Carla gets her hair done and Dex debates washing hers (it’s been 16 days, send help). The kids are in the background, the vibes are real, and the convos? Whew.

We’re talking:

• The Bali Challenge: Carla told Dex if she posts 31 Reels in August, she’s going to Bali for free. Now she’s on the gram li...

Hey Bestie,

We’re back! Listen… jetlag and schedule conflics are real.

This week’s episode is a catch-up at the house. I just got back from Bali, had a full-blown spiritual awakening (yes, there were tears in the ocean), and maybe met the love of my life...

On this juicy episode of So What Now, Carla kicks things off by sharing her prep for Bali — a water fast that helped her shed six pounds (and gain three right back 😅). Still, she’s feeling herself and ready for the beach! Meanwhile, Dex crowns the Woman of the Week: a queen who ghosted her man right after he handed her a winning lotto ticket. City girls up by a million 💅🏾💸

Then it’s a hard pivot to pol...

Whew! Y’all… I’m out here trying to date and let me just say: it’s terrible. This week I went on two dates — yes, two. One man is ready for a monogamous relationship immediately… and has absolutely no friends (red flag?). The other sends me unsolicited prayer voice notes every single morning and follows up with "send me a pic" all day long. I’m exhausted, and it’s only Monday. 🙃

Meanwhile, Dex is convince...

Alright y’all, in this week’s episode we got real about body language in dating—yes, sis, that closed-off vibe might be why no one’s stepping to you! A new study says most women think we look approachable, but we really out here serving “don’t talk to me” energy. I put some of those body language tips to the test and let’s just say... results were mixed.

Meanwhile, Carla is back in these dating streets and...

Hey friends—Carla here! This week on So What Now?, Dex and I sat down with the fierce and inspiring Jena Mehlberg—entrepreneur, mama, survivor, and all-around powerhouse in the beauty world.

Jena took us on a real ride through some of the toughest chapters of her life—becoming a single mom in her teens, losing a parent, navigating an emotionally abusive relationship, and the ups and downs of running her own business. A...

This week’s episode of So What Now gets into some pretty spicy and controversial territory—so let’s jump right in.

We started things off light: I came across a study that says spending money on your best friend can actually boost your mental health. So Carla, just know—I’m always here to support your wellness journey… especially if it includes buying me lunch. #SelfCare 😌

Carla let us know a ...