Navigating Wedding Day Conflicts

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Weddings are meant to be a joyfulcelebration of love, unity, and the
coming together of two families.
But what if those families canbarely sit in the same room together?
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Wedding Planning podcast.
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Hi, I'm Sam from Atmosphere Productions.
Have you ever wondered what to dowhen your parents and your partner's
parents just can't get along, or evenworse, can hardly tolerate each other.
If the thought of family drama threatensto overshadow your big day and keeps
you up at night, you are not alone.

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Conflicts With Love And Grace.
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Family conflicts are nothing unusual,but what can you and your partner do to
get around this tricky dynamic withoutit getting between the two of you?

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Let's explore how to manage family tensionso you can focus on what really matters.
Celebrating your love.
Hi, I am Sal from After HoursEvents of New England, the
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Many engaged couples find themselves inthe challenging situation where their
parents and their in-laws disagree,clash, or barely tolerate each other.

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Firstly, you need to try andunderstand the roots of the tension.
Family dynamics are complex.
Differences may stem from culturalor religious backgrounds, contrasting
values or unresolved past conflicts.
Personalities just don't mesh.
Sometimes people have different sensesof humor and the other just doesn't

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understand what that's all about,and it just doesn't work for them.
These issues are bigger thanthe wedding itself sometimes.
Recognizing and help settingrealistic expectations for
what you can and cannot change.
And to add to that, Sal, there shouldbe some recognition that you and your

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families should be able to set asidethe differences just for one day.
So once you've got the family dynamics andyou've got the differences and these big
issues, maybe, it's time to sit everybodydown and say, "Hey, for one day we're just
gonna forget all this and we're just gonnahave a wedding." Which leads nicely into
open communication, but with your partner.

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The cornerstone of any strongrelationship is honest communication.
It's essential that you and yourpartner openly discuss your feelings and
concerns about your family relationships.
Number one, you are on the same team.
Remind each other that yes,you are on the same team.

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Approach the situation aspartners, not adversaries.
You shouldn't be taking a parent'sside or a family member's side.
It's your wedding.
You're doing it together.
Secondly, set priorities.
Decide together what mattersthe most for your wedding.
Is it the ceremony?

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Is it the party?
Is it the symbolism?
Is it just getting people together?
You need to set that as a priority.
Sam, it is so important that thesecouples have shared priorities that
help them with the decisions to protecttheir relationship first and foremost.
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Now what are the key conversationsthat you need to have with your family?
While you should protect yourrelationship from unnecessary stress,
some direct conversations are beneficial.
I have three tips here.

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Firstly, express your appreciation.
Thank each family member for theirinvolvement and support, even if it
doesn't look the way that you hoped.
Number two.
Be firm and kind in your communication.
Let your family members know youare aware of their differences,
but you expect mutual respectat all wedding-related events.

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Just like I mentioned before,for one day, put it aside.
And number three is tohave a unified message.
Speak as a couple whenever possible.
As I said before, youare in a team together.
This is teamwork.
This is just so important.
Unified communication signals thatyou are making decisions together
and you're going together as a team.

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As a matter of fact, while youshould protect your relationship
from unnecessary stress, somedirect conversations are beneficial.
Here's a couple tips for you.
Tactful planning can reduce the oddsof conflict during the festivities.
And here's tip Numbertwo, seating arrangements.
Place tensions in mind whendetermining who will sit where.

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It's okay to keep certainrelatives apart from each other.
And that's universal at most weddings,you have to plan your seating arrangements
very carefully 'cause you don't want"Aunt This" sitting next to "Uncle That".
It's really important to thinkabout that before you do it.
Another item, just following off whatyou were saying, Sal, another tip

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would be shared and separate moments.
Consider hosting smaller separategatherings for each family, if
joint events seem too volatile.
And you can do that in like an after partyor breakfast the next day or the gathering
before the wedding have separate ones.
Sometimes that may not be practical, butif you have these tensions in the family,

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that's one way to reduce the volatility.
And delegate wisely.
Assign a diplomat to family and friendsthat're having conflicts so that you
are not in the middle of all of this.
And keep an eye on those rising tensionsand gently diffuse it if need be.
Now, this is not always possible duringthe wedding that you can see all this.

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That's why you should delegate,someone to watch this.
And if you're having a weddingplanner, for instance, let them
know that these conflicts exist.
So that they can be aware ifsomething starts to flare up.
You know, this is a question we have inour questionnaire, Sam, you know, what
are things that we need to be aware of,uh, that might be conflicts such as this.
So this way we're kind of keepingan eye out for things too, and we

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can keep in communication with thoseimportant players that are gonna
help diffuse these type of things.
So far we've explainedunderstanding the roots of tension:
having open communication withyour partner, and having key
conversations with family members.
All in this edition of Navigating WeddingDay Conflicts With Love And Grace.

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Coming up next, self care and perspective.
But first, if you have a questionor concern, go now to Facebook and
join us on the Stress-free WeddingPlanning community, and now in the
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To ensure a seamless and engagedexperience at your event, DJs typically
arrange a playlist that includes fourto five songs or more in advance.
Consequently, some DJs can onlyaccept music requests that have been
specified in the wedding planning forms.
If you choose to allow your guests tomake requests, please keep in mind that

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due to time limitations, some DJs won'tbe able to accommodate requests for "next
play" or fulfill every song mentioned.
Everyone always wants their song next,but sometimes that suggestion doesn't fit
into what's being played at that time.
And keep in mind, we could only playso many songs in the time allotted.

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Welcome back to our discussionabout Navigating Wedding Day
Conflicts With Love And Grace.

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I'm Sam from Atmosphere Productions.
And I'm Sal of After HoursEvents of New England.
Now onto to self-care and perspective.
First during stressful times,don't neglect your own mental
and emotional well-being.
Also share burdens.
Lean on a partner, a closefriend, maybe even a therapist.

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By venting and receiving reassurance,this can be a huge relief.
And remember "why"!
At the heart of the wedding isyour commitment to each other.
Remind yourselves of this frequently.
And that's a key point, Sal.
You always have to rememberat the end of the day.
It's the two of you thatare getting married.

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Now, After the wedding, you haveto do some things too because
the wedding is just one day.
The marriage is the rest of your life.
So some family rifts may remainafter the wedding, but how you and
your spouse handle these sets thetone for your future relationship.
Maintain healthy boundaries,model respect, and focus on

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nurturing YOUR relationship.
After all, you've just got married.
Yeah, and you gotta remember it isall about the two of you at all times.
Don't ever lose sight of that.
You know, by nurturing and you know,keeping those healthy boundaries, you
hopefully with a little luck with time,these conflicts will kind of go away

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and hopefully naturally, these thingswill simmer down and these people
could be together in the same roomhaving a great time with all of you.
And you don't have to worryabout future family events.
So let's review.
Number one, plan togetherand present a united front.
Two, don't try to solve all familyconflicts before the wedding day.

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Be realistic.
Some tension is unavoidable.
Focus on what you can control.
Number four, use humor, whenappropriate, to diffuse tense moments.
Five.
Celebrate the people who are lovingand supportive regardless of others'
attitudes, and finally, take care ofyourself, mentally and physically.

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It's important!
So there you have it.
We just explained Navigating WeddingDay Conflicts With Love And Grace.
You can't choose your families, butyou could choose how you and your
partner handle their differences.
With mutual respect, intentionalplanning, and open communication.
It's possible to have a joyfulwedding that revolves around your

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love, not lingering family drama.
Stay focused on your commitment to eachother, and the rest will fall into place.
Now as you spend the next week planningyour wedding, if you want me, Sal, or our
community of stress-free engaged couplesand wedding experts to answer any wedding
related questions, then join us in theStress-Free Wedding Planning Facebook

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group.
Once you're in, go ahead and share yourconcerns and worries, and we'll let you
know if you are on the right track orif there are things you need to work on.
The link to join us is in theshow notes of this edition, or
go to Facebook and search for theStress-Free Wedding Planning community.
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then do something nice for yourself.

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