Welcome to episode two of my three-part mini-series, Unraveling the Silver Knot: Gray Divorce and the Family Web
You didn’t plan to be single at this stage of life. You thought this season would be about downsizing, doting on the grandkids, and finally taking that trip to Tuscany—not Googling how to hang curtains solo or explaining your new mailing address to a 6-year-old. In this episode, I’m getting real about what it means to reclaim your life, rediscover your identity, and build a future that isn’t just “what’s left”—it’s what’s next.
“Your grandkids aren’t watching for perfection—they’re watching for courage.”
- Pat Fenner
Important Takeaways -
- How to reclaim confidence and identity post-divorce
- Tips for navigating solo grandparenting with joy
- Why your healing helps your kids and grandkids heal, too
- Simple ways to cultivate peace, purpose, and a sense of “enoughness”
- That reinvention doesn’t have an age limit—and joy doesn’t need permission
After decades of being part of a “we,” becoming a “me” again can feel confusing, exhausting, and a little lonely—but it can also be liberating. This episode is a kind, funny, and practical exploration of life after gray divorce. We’ll talk about rebuilding routines, reawakening parts of yourself that got lost in the marriage, and modeling resilience for your family. Whether you're grieving, growing, or both, you're not broken—you’re becoming.
Resources Mentioned:
🎙️ Episode 3-14 - ”Who’s Side Are You On?” And Other Questions We Don’t Want to Ask
📑FR*E download: Four Simple Ways to Reconnect With You! (no email required!)
📖 Book - Rebuilding Your Life After a Gray Divorce: A Path to Healing, Significance, and Joy
💬 SpeakPipe – How has this series helped you begin to untangle your family’s post-divorce knots? Leave me a message and tell me about it!→ https://www.speakpipe.com/PatFenner
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