Welcome to the final episode of my three-part mini-series, Unraveling the Silver Knot: Gray Divorce and the Family Web
You’ve been the caregiver, the peacekeeper, the glue holding it all together. But now, after the divorce, everything feels… different. So where do you fit in the family now? In today’s episode, we’re talking about stepping into a new role—not as the one who holds the past, but as the woman who leads with wisdom into the future. It’s time to reclaim your voice, your influence, and your vision—as the matriarch of your own story.
“A matriarch isn’t someone who has it all figured out—she’s someone who chooses
strength, love, and dignity, even when things are messy.”
- Pat Fenner
Why becoming the matriarch is about presence, not power
Letting go of guilt and embracing your evolving identity
How to influence your family through emotional steadiness
Simple ways to start rewriting your family legacy with grace
A vision of your future that includes joy, confidence, and connection
What’s one way you can show up differently this week—as the woman you’re becoming? Take a moment to reflect, journal, or share with a trusted friend.
🎥 The phrase I mentioned - "You is kind, you is smart, you is important" - is spoken by the character Aibileen Clark in the movie and book "The Help".
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💬 SpeakPipe – How has this series helped you begin to craft a brighter future for yourself? Leave me a message and tell me about it!→ https://www.speakpipe.com/PatFenner
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