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Comfort is slowly killing us, but we don't even recognize it as an addiction. 

What happens when society's most celebrated coping mechanisms become our greatest chains? In this transformative episode, I pull back the curtain on the socially acceptable addictions that hide in plain sight: food and alcohol. These aren't stereotypical addictions – they're the wine moms at PTA meetings, the neighbors hosting barbecues, the coworkers bringing donuts, all numbing themselves with substances we collectively celebrate.

The neuroscience tells a clear story: food and alcohol hijack the same brain pathways, creating powerful dopamine loops that keep us coming back despite the consequences. I share my personal journey through these dependencies, revealing how childhood conditioning, identity attachment, and cultural pressure maintain our comfortable prison of numbing behaviors. The most dangerous lie? That moderation proves we're not addicted.

Breaking free requires more than willpower – it demands replacing numbing habits with regulation practices and confronting the emotions we're desperately avoiding: shame, loneliness, rejection, and boredom. My two months on the carnivore diet after years of sobriety have shown me what clarity and presence truly feel like, but the path wasn't easy. When you change, expect resistance from everyone comfortable with your former self.

The ultimate goal isn't just avoiding substances but creating a life so fulfilling you don't need to escape from it. Take one step today – whether that's seeking community support, establishing accountability, or simply choosing presence over numbness. Subscribe to join me on this journey toward authentic living, and remember: there's nothing more powerful than building a life worth staying present for.

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Corey Berrier (00:00):
Welcome, welcome to the Successful Life Podcast.
I'm your host, Corey Berrier,and today, folks, we're going to
talk about how comfort killsand the addictions that are
hiding in plain sight.
So alcohol and food are the twomost culturally accepted

(00:29):
addictions.
Most addicts don't look likeaddicts.
They're your neighbors, yourco-workers, pta parents numbing
themselves with wine and waffles.
And waffles.
You know.
It's normal to drink alcoholbecause it's seen as a

(00:50):
celebration, food as a comfort,but both are painkillers.
Why does society not see this asa real addiction or these as
real addictions?
You know we cheer people on forescaping their emotions and we

(01:15):
mock them when they try to breakfree.
So how I justified food andalcohol, how it became part of

(01:37):
my identity, daily patterns ofhappy hour, binge eating or
emotional snacking.
It's interesting to watch filmswhere you see the girl who just
broke up with her boyfriend.
Where do you see her On thecouch with a bucket of ice cream
?
Or the guy who just got brokenup with he's at a bar getting
smashed and the mentalgymnastics of that.

(01:59):
This is going to solve myproblem, this is going to make
me hurt less.
Or, if you're celebrating, Iearned this.
It could be earned.
A cupcake, it could be earned,could be an earned drink.
And the famous line of all I'llstart tomorrow, I'll quit

(02:23):
drinking tomorrow, I'll stopeating cookies tomorrow.
You know, alcohol wasn't aboutgetting drunk and food is not
about getting full.
It's about not feeling.
And the lie is moderation.

(02:44):
And the lie is moderation.
I thought control meant Iwasn't addicted.
I can control this.
I can control and not eat 14cookies.
I can control and not drink 14beers or 14 of whatever it is.
You drink, 14 of whatever it isyou drink.

(03:09):
But you know there's a dopamineloop that gets fed.
And look, neuroscience talksabout this Dopamine 101.
How food and alcohol hijack thebrain.
They both work on the sameneurotransmitters together.
I mean, heaven forbid.
You get drunk and then eatpizza or food or ice cream,

(03:31):
whatever it is.
Right now you're just floodingyourself with dopamine and
you're just chasing that samefleeting feeling.
You know it's usually some linkto childhood conditioning.

(03:54):
For me it was oh, you've donegood in school, let's celebrate,
let's have a cake, let's have awhatever.
If you're upset, you getcomfort food or clean your plate
and then you get a piece ofcake.
How crazy does that sound?

(04:15):
Stuff yourself, eat everythingthat we put on your plate, so
then you can stuff your facewith more cake your plate, so
then you can stuff your facewith more cake.
You know, just like alcohol,food is engineered to make you
addicted.
That's why food companies areso big.
This is not.
This shouldn't be a surprise.

(04:37):
It's really chemical warfareand most people are fighting
blindfolded, you know.
But the real world consequencesof these things are they

(04:58):
invisible?
The addiction of these thingsare invisible.
For example, you may or may nothave experienced this, but
probably Brain fog, energycrashes, weight gain,
inflammation, mood swings,crappy sleep, anxious mornings,

(05:19):
sugar hangovers I know that'saffected me for sure.
I know that's affected me forsure.
And then you've got to look at.
You know, food doesn't usuallyaffect relationships unless you
get fat.
Usually doesn't affect yourfinances, unless you're
ridiculously out of hand, butyour self-respect, it steals it.

(05:42):
You start to get fatter, youstart to look in the mirror and
you start to doubt yourself andthe self-respect goes out the
window.
You know, as a drinker, you havethese elated or false images of

(06:03):
yourself, this grandiosepicture of yourself when you're
drinking.
But you can be sober and stillbe sick.
You can eat clean and still benumb, and that's just the truth
and look, this is how theculture actively resists your

(06:29):
recovery.
Alcohol as during sports, fastfood on every single corner.
Drinking is sophisticated,restraint is judged or family
pressure.
Even you can just have one.
You're no fun anymore, corey.
Why do people want to keep youaddicted?

(06:51):
Because you challenge theircomfort.
You know it's interesting when Ihave a conversation with
someone who is a non-drinker, orsomebody even that is a drinker
, but not a heavy drinker.
They're just a drinker, they'rejust a regular, normal drinker

(07:12):
and I say you know, I don'tdrink no big deal, they just
keep on moving.
But what I noticed when certainpeople get just fired up,
that's because inside of themyou've stung something that they
know deep down is a problem.
And you know food and alcoholbecome your identity.

(07:37):
It becomes a coping mechanism.
It really becomes yourpersonality.
Wine culture, wine mom culture,mommy, wine culture, whatever
you want to call it.
Foodie culture, beer brothersyou know you're my brother,
let's drink some beer Right.

(07:57):
How addiction hides behindidentity.
Think about it.
I'm just a foodie, I'm fat.
It's really what you're tryingto say.
I'm just a fatty is what youshould say.
I like to entertain.
Yep, you like to get drunk.
Well, it's a tradition?
No, it's not.
You just use that as an excuseto do the thing that you

(08:17):
shouldn't be doing.
Or how about this?
The death of your ego?
Who am I without this alcohol?
Who am I without this food?
Well, you probably don't knowbecause you've never gone and
tried to quit these things.

(08:37):
And listen, if you can't notdrink for 30 days, you got a
problem Like straight up.
Most normal people that drinkcan go 30 days without drinking
and have no problem.
But if you're not that person,you're probably an alcoholic.
So willpower alone fails.

(09:03):
It fails.
White knuckling won't save you.
I promise you.
I've tried it, trying toout-discipline addiction without
some sort of inner work notgoing to happen.
You've got to re-regulate yournervous system, especially if

(09:24):
you're pounding a bunch of sugarand drinking alcohol.
You know triggers are notcravings there, it's about what
you believe in that moment.

(09:44):
It's about what that momentbelieve.
You know there's what youbelieve in that moment.
It's what they maybe thatsituation means to that thing.
And if you're starvingemotionally, no amount of
discipline will fill that void.
And what are you actuallyavoiding?

(10:07):
Emotions, most commonly, aresuppressed.
There's shame, loneliness,rejection, boredom, like.
Think about what are the topthree moments you reach for

(10:30):
alcohol or food.
It's one of those three, if notall four Boredom, rejection,
loneliness, shame, I've done it.
Look, I've 100% caught myselfgoing yeah, I probably should
eat something.
Oh, that's right, I'm doingnothing and therefore I'm bored,

(10:51):
and so I'm going to grab somefood, right, because it keeps me
busy, it keeps my mind working.
I tell myself I need to eat.
But I'll tell you something.
I'll tell you how I broke thatcycle.
And it wasn't all at once, itwas a thousand small choices,

(11:14):
and I replaced numbing habitswith regulation habits.
Breathwork, prayer, coldexposure, cold plunge for me,
movement.
These are daily non-negotiablesthat I use for clarity and for
power.
There's nothing harder thangetting into a 40-degree ice

(11:38):
bath, but there's nothing thatfeels better when you get out,
because you have accomplishedsomething that 95% of the other
world has never even done.
Ever even done.
You know it's.
Sobriety is not even, andsobriety is not an identity.
I got caught up in that too.

(12:02):
It's not just being free ofalcohol, it's being emotionally
present present with yourgirlfriend, your boyfriend, your
husband, your wife, yourboyfriend, your husband, your
wife, your kids, your employer.

(12:22):
It's not just about notdrinking.
That's just a small part of it.
It's the rest of it that keepsyou grounded and you want to
rebuild your relationship withfood and with your body, because
when you start eating forenergy and clarity and alignment
and not comfort, it changes thegame.

(12:44):
I've been on carnivore for alittle over two months now.
It's clean, I'm satiated, Ifeel great, I'm the leanest that
I've been in 10 years and Idon't have emotional hunger,

(13:05):
like I don't crave a bunch ofcrap anymore, and so food
stopped becoming a reward and itbecame fuel.
I only eat when I'm actuallyhungry.
And you're going to faceresistance with this and you
know the world's going torespond with you changing,

(13:33):
especially if you're a drinker.
Your friends are going todisappear, parties get awkward,
people accuse you of beingobsessed.
If you're going on a carnivorediet, then you start doubting
yourself internally.
Why can't I be normal?
Why do I have to be on thiscarnivore diet?
Why can't I drink?
Listen, there's a lot morepower in not doing those things

(13:55):
than there is caving to thatpeer pressure.
Get around a community of peoplethat are like-minded.
Get an accountability partner.
Remember the reason why you'redoing this, the reason why
you're doing this, and look atthis like spiritual strength

(14:20):
opposed to social discomfort.
Your old self was just copingwith the food, the addiction,
the alcohol.
Your new self is creating a newlife.
You want to build a life thatyou don't have to numb out from.
It's amazing.
So look at your ownrelationship with food, look at

(14:43):
your own relationship withalcohol, and I'll tell you
something fascinating.
This is just my opinion, sotake it for what it's worth.
You know, since I've been.
You know, when I first got sober, they said eat sugar.
And I did.
Boy, I ate more Reese cups thanyou can count.
I mean a glutton.

(15:03):
The reason for that is becausealcohol has so much sugar in it
and so offsetting it with 400Reese cups every day, I could
fill that void.
That alcohol would fill withoutbeing intoxicated, I guess, is

(15:28):
the right answer.
And so what did that do?
I just wanted more sugar, moresugar, and it was okay, and
there's probably a place forthat.
But I can tell you right now,it also numbs you out, it helps
you to get through that roughpatch.

(15:48):
But I can tell you, now thatI've been eating carnivore, I
have more energy, I'm clearer,I'm happier, I feel better, I
look better.
And I don't say that like I'vearrived, because I haven't.
I'm a work in progress.
Do you think I still don'tsometimes?
Look, I had to go pick updonuts to drop off at customers

(16:10):
today.
Do you think I didn't want tohave one of those donuts?
Of course, when I drove an hourand a half in my car with them.
Do you think I had one?
Absolutely not.
And did they smell good?
Of course they smelled good.
Of course, sometimes a beersmells good.
But the aftermath of that, Iplay the tape all the way

(16:31):
through.
And the tape all the waythrough means I'm going to wind
up in jail.
Dui, I'm going to do somethingstupid, say something stupid,
probably going to lose my job.
All of those things are thedirect result of me picking up a
drink today.
And, not to mention, I lose mypresence, I lose my sanity, I
lose everything that I've workedfor and I don't want to lose

(16:54):
that.
So that's why I do the things Ido.
And it may think well, god dude,how do you have enough time in
the day to work out every day?
Or do the cold plunge, do thesauna and all those things, and
go to a meeting at night andwork and have a relationship?

(17:14):
Yeah, because me being sobergives me all the opportunity in
the world to do those things.
Otherwise I'd just be drinkingthat whole time.
Or if you're sitting on thecouch watching television which
you're probably not, if you'relistening to this, not by now?
Anyway, get off your ass and dothe work.
Nobody's going to do it for you.

(17:35):
You're not going to wake up oneday and go I'm ready.
No, just do it today.
You don't have to wait untiltomorrow.
In fact, I challenge you to getup and start moving today.
If you're an alcoholic, go to ameeting, call somebody, and it's
going to seem like a completeuphill battle, but I can assure

(17:59):
you on the other side of thathill, it's not a battle.
You know, stopping drinking isone thing.
Getting into recovery and beingsober is an entirely different
experience and it'll give you alife like you can't even imagine

(18:20):
.
And I can't expect you if youare a drinker.
I can't expect you to imaginebecause you don't know what it's
like, and until you experienceit, like I have, you'll have no
idea that it exists.
You can't imagine not eatingthe donut.
You can't imagine not eatingthe candy or drinking the sugary

(18:41):
soda, because your body isaddicted to it.
Exactly what the companies want.
Take control of your life.
Just a little bit of discipline, a little bit, you know.

(19:03):
Just take one step in the rightdirection today.
I guarantee you it'll lead youto a better life.
You're never going to have thelife that you could have if
you're getting drunk every nightor you're smoking weed and
getting high every night, or ifyou're fat and when you look in
the mirror you go yeah God, Ireally need to lose that gut.

(19:26):
You're only hurting yourself.
And then you can play the tapeall the way through and get on
medications that help all thatstuff, or get on semi-glutide
and eat your bones and musclesaway.
You might lose weight, butguess what?
You're also losing bone andmuscle.
And I can tell you I've seensomebody wither away from it and

(19:50):
and quite frankly, I think itkilled.
I can't guarantee that, but Icertainly believe that it played
a massive part in my mother'sdeath.
So don't take the shortcut, dude.
Like go see your doctor, getyour blood work done.
I'm not telling you necessarilygot to listen to the doctor,

(20:11):
get your blood work done.
I'm not telling you necessarilygot to listen to the doctor,
get your blood work done.
Put it in chat GPT.
Ask it to explain it to you.
Like whoever it is you'retrying to do, whether it be a
carnivore diet or keto diet orwhatever it is but there's a way
for you to get out of thisslump that you're in.
But you got to take a step inthe right direction.
I want to thank you all.
Please subscribe to the podcast.

(20:33):
That'd be the greatest thingthat you could do for me.
The biggest favor I could askis that you subscribe to the
podcast, leave us a review ifyou feel inclined, but, most
importantly, pick your ass upand do something different today
.
We'll see you next Friday.
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