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Corey Berrier (00:00):
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I'm your host, Corey Berrier,and today's podcast is going to
be Welcome to the SuccessfulLife Podcast.
Welcome to the Successful LifePodcast.
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Welcome to the Successful LifePodcast.
I'm your host, Corey Berrier,and today, folks, we're going to
talk about how comfort killsand the addictions that are
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hiding in plain sight.
The addictions that are hidingin plain sight.
So alcohol and food are the twomost culturally accepted
addictions.
Most addicts don't look likeaddicts.
They're your neighbors, yourco-workers, pta parents numbing
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themselves with wine and waffles.
You know it's normal to drinkalcohol because it's seen as a
celebration, food as a comfort,but both are painkillers.
Why does society not see thisas a real addiction or these as
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real addictions?
You know we cheer people on forescaping their emotions and we
mock them when they try to breakfree.
So how food, and how I justifiedfood and alcohol, how it became
part of my identity, dailypatterns of happy hour, binge
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eating or emotional snacking.
It's interesting to watch.
You know films where you seethe girl who just broke up with
her boyfriend.
Where do they?
Where do you see her on thecouch with a bucket of ice cream
?
Or the guy who just got brokenup with.
He's at a bar getting smashedand the mental gymnastics of
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that.
Uh, this is going to solve myproblem, this is going to make
me hurt less.
Or, if you're celebrating, Iearned this.
That could be earned a cupcake,it could be an earned drink.
And the famous line of all, I'llstart tomorrow, I'll quit
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drinking tomorrow.
I'll stop eating cookiestomorrow.
You know, alcohol wasn't aboutgetting drunk and food is not
about getting full.
It's about not feeling.
And the lie is moderation.
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I thought control meant Iwasn't addicted.
I can control this.
I can control and not eat 14cookies.
I can control and not drink 14beers or 14 of whatever it is
you drink.
But you know there's a dopamineloop that gets fed.
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And look, neuroscience talksabout this dopamine 101, how
food and alcohol hijack thebrain.
They both work on the sameneurotransmitters together.
I mean, heaven forbid you getdrunk and then eat pizza or food
or ice cream or whatever it is.
Right now You're just floodingyourself with dopamine, flooding
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yourself with dopamine andyou're just chasing that same
fleeting feeling.
You know it's usually some linkto childhood conditioning.
For me it was oh, you've donegood in school, let's celebrate,
let's have a cake, let's have awhatever.
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If you're upset, you getcomfort food or clean your plate
and then you get a piece ofcake.
How crazy does that sound?
Stuff yourself, eat everythingthat we put on your plate, so
then you can stuff your facewith more cake.
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You know, just like alcohol,food is engineered to make you
addicted.
That's why food companies areso big.
This is not this shouldn't be asurprise.
This is not, this shouldn't bea surprise.
It's really chemical warfareand most people are fighting
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blindfolded.
You know, but the real worldconsequences of these things are
they invisible?
The addiction of these thingsare invisible.
For example, you may or may nothave experienced this, but
probably brain fog, energycrashes, weight gain,
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inflammation, mood swings,crappy sleep, anxious mornings,
sugar hangovers I know that'saffected me for sure.
And then you've got to look atyou know, food doesn't usually
affect relationships unless youget fat.
Usually doesn't affect yourfinances, unless you're
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ridiculously out of hand, butyour self-respect, it steals it.
You start to get fatter, youstart to look in the mirror and
you start to doubt yourself andthe self-respect goes out the
window.
As a drinker, you have theseelated or false images of
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yourself, this grandiose pictureof yourself when you're
drinking.
But you can be sober and stillbe sick.
You can eat clean and still benumb.
And that's just the truth.
And look, this is how theculture actively resists your
recovery.
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Alcohol as during sports, Fastfood on every single corner.
Drinking is sophisticated,restraint is judged or family
pressure.
Even you can just have one.
You're no fun anymore, corey.
Why do people want to keep youaddicted?
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Because you challenge theircomfort.
You know, it's interesting whenI have a conversation with
someone who is a non-drinker orsomebody even that is a drinker,
but not a heavy drinker.
They're just a drinker, they'rejust a regular, normal drinker.
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And I say you know, I don'tdrink no big deal, they just
keep on moving.
But what I noticed when certainpeople get just fired up,
that's because inside of themyou've stung something that they
know deep down is a problem.
And you know food and alcoholbecome your identity.
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It becomes a coping mechanism.
It really becomes yourpersonality.
Wine culture, wine, mom culture, mommy, wine culture, whatever
you want to call it.
Foodie culture, beer brothersyou know you're my brother,
let's drink some beer, right.
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How addiction hides behindidentity.
Think about it.
I'm just a foodie, I'm fat.
It's really what you're tryingto say.
I'm just a fatty is what youshould say.
I like to entertain.
Yep, you like to get drunk?
Well, it's a tradition.
No, it's not.
You just use that as an excuseto do the thing that you
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shouldn't be doing.
Or how about this?
The death of your ego?
Who am I without this alcohol?
Who am I without this food?
Well, you probably don't know,because you've never gone and
tried to quit these things.
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And listen, if you can't notdrink for 30 days, you got a
problem Like, straight up, mostnormal people that drink can go
30 days without drinking andhave no problem.
But if you're not that person,you're probably an alcoholic.
So willpower alone fails, itfails.
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White knuckling won't save you,I promise you.
I've tried it, trying toout-discipline addiction without
some sort of inner work notgoing to happen.
You've got to re-regulate yournervous system, especially if
you're pounding a bunch of sugarand drinking alcohol.
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You know triggers are notcravings there.
It's about what you believe inthat moment.
It's about what that momentbelieve.
You know there's what youbelieve in that moment, it's
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what they maybe that situationmeans to that thing.
And if you're starvingemotionally, no amount of
discipline will fill that void.
And what are you actuallyavoiding Emotions most commonly
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are suppressed.
There's shame, loneliness,rejection, boredom, like.
Think about what are the topthree moments you reach for
alcohol or food.
It's one of those three, if notall four Boredom, rejection,
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loneliness, shame.
I've done it.
Look, I've 100% caught myselfgoing yeah, I probably should
eat something.
Oh, that's right.
I'm doing nothing and thereforeI'm bored, and so I'm going to
grab some food.
Right, because it keeps me busy, it keeps my mind working.
I tell myself I need to eat.
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But I'll tell you something.
I'll tell you how I broke thatcycle, and it wasn't all at once
, it was a thousand smallchoices, and I replaced numbing
habits with regulation habits.
Breathwork, prayer, coldexposure, cold plunge for me,
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movement these are dailynon-negotiables that I use for
clarity and for power.
There's nothing harder thangetting into a 40-degree ice
bath, but there's nothing thatfeels better when you get out
because you have accomplishedsomething that 95% of the other
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world has never even done.
You know it's sobriety is noteven and sobriety is not an
identity.
I got caught up in that too.
It's not just being free ofalcohol, it's being emotionally
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present present with yourgirlfriend, your boyfriend, your
husband, your wife, your kids,your employer.
It's not just about notdrinking.
That's just a small part of it.
It's the rest of it that keepsyou grounded and you want to
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rebuild your relationship withfood and with your body.
Your relationship with food andwith your body, because when
you start eating for energy andclarity and alignment and not
comfort, it changes the game.
I've been on carnivore for alittle over two months now.
It's clean, I'm satiated, Ifeel great, I'm the leanest that
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I've been in 10 years, and Idon't have emotional hunger,
like I don't crave a bunch ofcrap anymore, and so food
stopped becoming a reward and itbecame fuel.
I only eat when I'm actuallyhungry.
And you're going to faceresistance with this and you
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know the world's going torespond with you changing,
especially if you're a drinker.
Your friends are going todisappear, parties get awkward,
people accuse you of beingobsessed.
If you're going on a carnivorediet, then you start doubting
yourself internally.
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Why can't I be normal?
Why do I have to be on thiscarnivore diet?
Why can't I drink?
Listen, there's a lot morepower in not doing those things
than there is caving to thatpeer pressure.
Get around a community ofpeople that are like-minded.
Get an accountability partner.
Remember the reason why you'redoing this, and look at this
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like spiritual strength opposedto social discomfort.
Your old self was just copingwith the food, the addiction,
the alcohol.
Your new self is creating a newlife.
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You want to build a life thatyou don't have to numb out from.
It's amazing.
So look at your ownrelationship with food, look at
your own relationship withalcohol, and I'll tell you
something fascinating.
This is just my opinion, sotake it for what it's worth.
You know, since I've been, youknow, when I first got sober,
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they said eat sugar.
And I did.
Boy, I ate more Reese cups thanyou can count.
I mean a glutton.
The reason for that is becausealcohol has so much sugar in it
and so offsetting it with 400Reese cups every day I could
feel that void that alcoholwould feel without being
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intoxicated, I guess, is theright answer.
And so what did that do?
I just wanted more sugar, moresugar, and it was okay, and
there's probably a place forthat.
But I can tell you right now,it also numbs you out, it helps
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you to get through that roughpatch.
But I can tell you, now thatI've been eating carnivore, I
have more energy, I I'm clearer,I'm happier, I feel better, I
look better.
And I don't say that like I'vearrived because I haven't.
I'm a work in progress.
Do you think I still don'tsometimes?
Look, I had to go pick updonuts to drop off at customers
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today.
Do you think I didn't want tohave one of those donuts?
Of course, when I drove an hourand a half in my car with them.
Do you think I had one?
Absolutely not.
And did they smell good?
Of course they smelled good.
Of course sometimes a beersmells good.
But the aftermath of that I playthe tape all the way through.
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And the tape all the waythrough means I'm going to wind
up in jail, dui, I'm going to dosomething stupid, say something
stupid, probably going to losemy job, like.
All of those things are thedirect result of me picking up a
drink today, and not to mention, I lose my presence, I lose my
sanity, I lose everything thatI've worked for and I don't want
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to lose that.
So that's why I do the things Ido.
And it may think well, god,dude, how do you have enough
time in the day to work outevery day, or do the cold plunge
, do the sauna and all thosethings and go to a meeting at
night and work and have arelationship?
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Yeah, because me being sobergives me all the opportunity in
the world to do those things.
Otherwise, I'd just be drinkingthat whole time.
Or if you're sitting on thecouch watching television which
you're probably not, if you'relistening to this, not by now.
Anyway, get off your ass and dothe work.
Nobody's going to do it for you.
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You're not going to wake up oneday and go.
I'm ready.
No, just do it today.
You don't have to wait untiltomorrow.
In fact, I challenge you to getup and start moving today.
If you're an alcoholic, go to ameeting, call somebody, and it's
going to seem like a completeuphill battle, but I can assure
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you on the other side of thathill, it's not a battle.
You know, stopping drinking isone thing.
Getting into recovery and beingsober is an entirely different
experience and it'll give you alife like you can't even imagine
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.
And I can't expect you if youare a drinker.
I can't expect you to imagine,because you don't know what it's
like and until you experienceit, like I have, you'll have no
idea that it exists.
You can't imagine not eatingthe donut.
You can't imagine not eatingthe candy or drinking the sugary
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soda, because your body isaddicted to it exactly what the
companies want.
Take control of your life.
Take, you know, take control ofyour life Just a little bit of
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discipline.
A little bit, you know.
Just take one step in the rightdirection today.
I guarantee you it'll lead youto a better life.
You're never going to have thelife that you could have if
you're getting drunk every nightor you're smoking weed and
getting high every night, or ifyou're fat and when you look in
the mirror you go yeah God, Ireally need to lose that gut.
You're only hurting yourselfyourself.
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And then you can play the tapeall the way through and get on
medications that help all thatstuff, or get on semi-glutide
and eat your bones and musclesaway.
You might lose weight, butguess what?
You're also losing bone andmuscle and I can tell you I've
seen somebody wither away fromit and, quite frankly, I think
it killed them.
I can't guarantee that, but Icertainly believe that it played
a massive part in my mother'sdeath.
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So don't take the shortcut, dude, Like go see your doctor, get
your blood work done.
I'm not telling you necessarily.
Got to listen to the doctor,get your blood work done.
Put it in chat GPT.
Listen to the doctor.
Get your blood work done.
Put it in chat GPT.
Ask it to explain it to you.
Like whoever it is you'retrying to do whether it be a
carnivore diet or keto diet orwhatever it is but there's a way
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for you to get out of thisslump that you're in.
But you got to take a step inthe right direction.
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