EP. 185 [Tough Twenties] Myths that Might be Holding You Back from Living Your Best Life

In this episode, I share about some myths that can hold you back from living your best life. It's easy to get caught up in the pressure to conform and meet expectations of others. We can find ourselves striving for success based on societal standards or seeking validation from those around us. To live our best lives, it's essential to explore our unique strengths and follow our own path. 

During this episode I share about five myths many adults base their lives on, truths that counter those myths, and what you can do now to start living your best life. It took me a long time to learn these lessons, and I really wish someone would have talked with me about them when I was launching into adulthood. 

Myths that Might Be Holding You Back

1. Everyone (or certain people) need to approve of our job/career for it to be “successful.”

Truth: Some of the older adults that you think of as being successful are not happy with their lives and regret not pursuing something they were really interested in but didn’t have the same level of prestige/income associated with it. 

What to do: Chase your strengths/interests. Spend time learning about yourself and talk through ideas with a friend or trusted mentor. 

Some tools you might use:
Enneagram
VIA Strengths
Four Tendencies
 Gallup Strengths

2. We have to make really big changes in order to reach our goals.

Truth: The tiny, consistent habits are the way most people eventually reach their goals. This is true for both vocational goals and physical goals.

“Cramming on something for a couple of hours once in a while as just a slow, steady progression, a little at a time.

TINY HABITS, BJ Fog

ON WRITING, Stephen King

What to do: Break down an impossible-seeming goal and break it down into the tiniest step possible.

Ex: Read one page of a book about a topic you want to learn more about.

3. I need to start really big and do something huge for my first career-type job.

“I want to write a book.”

“I want to start a non-profit organization.”

What to do: Figure out what’s the first, very small step towards XYZ (starting a non-profit in a particular area). 

Example first step: Do a Google search of the non-profit food providers in your area.

Example next step: Volunteer a few hours at one of the food providers.

Get an accountability partner! 

Brainstorm together

Is this step small enough?

Circle back in a week and report on your first step, discuss your next step.

4. Once I _________, then I’ll be happy.

Truths:
We actually miss a lot of the great moments in life when we’re spending all of our thoughts on this thing out there in the future.

It does feel good to accomplish things, but sometimes we