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October 14, 2025 22 mins

Ever notice how sometimes choosing not to drink feels less like a positive choice and more like self-punishment?

 

Maybe the commitment was clear in your mind - tonight, no drinks. But then you watch someone order that dirty martini while you sit with your water, and suddenly saying no feels like you're punishing yourself. That familiar tension rises up: the part of you that wants to stick to your word battling against the part that feels resentful.

 

If not drinking feels like punishment, you're not alone. Listen in this week to discover why you might be relying on virtue as a way to decline a drink, the reason self-punishment doesn't work, and what to do instead to create lasting change.

 

Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/

 

Discover alternative approaches to drinking less inside our membership program, Take a Break: https://rachelhart.com/tab/

 

Get the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/442

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