If you have ever sat down to tap and thought, "this isn't going to work for me," you are not alone. That single thought stops more people from healing than any technique ever could. Knowing what to do when you don't think tapping will work is the first step toward getting unstuck.

TL;DR: Key Takeaways

1. The thought "tapping won't work for me" is almost never about tapping. It is a protective story your subcon...

One of the topics that I have been coming back to again again this year is trying to find ways to make it easier for you to start a round of tapping because once you start it is much easier to stick with it.

This week in the podcast I share with you one of my favorite and simplest tapping techniques which is a "one step tapping process".

When I am teaching people how to tap this is what I teach them right after I teach wordless tap...

If you have ever finished a round of tapping and felt more upset than when you started, you are not doing it wrong. In fact, when you feel worse after tapping, it usually means something productive is happening underneath the surface. This is one of the most common questions I get from listeners, and the answer changes how you interpret every round of tapping you will ever do.

Key Takeaways

• Feeling worse af...

We emotionally respond to the world based on the way we describe it. What this means is that your subconscious mind is taking cues about what is going on, not based on what you are thinking, but based on what you are saying.

The most common version of this is a generalization. You might say something like "Everyone at work hates me." This probably isn't true, but you are going to walk into your workplace in a less healthy and usefu...

Why I Don't Use the EFT Setup Phrase (And What I Do Instead)

If you've watched any of my tap-along videos, you've probably noticed something: I never start with the classic EFT setup phrase. That's a deliberate choice, and I get asked about it all the time. In this post, I want to explain exactly why I skip it and what I use instead.

TL;DR / Key Takeaways

• The traditional EFT setup phrase...

It can feel so discouraging when you have great tools at your disposal, like tapping, that you know will have a positive impact on your life…but you are not using them.

This leads to self-recrimination AND hesitancy to use the tools in future for fear of failure, which means double the regret.

Every six or eight weeks, I set time aside to tap on all the emotions I feel for not tapping as much as I want to. Time spent tapping on my ...

If you have been tapping for any length of time, you have probably asked yourself: when am I actually done? You get some relief, the intensity drops, but the issue is not completely gone. Knowing when to stop tapping on an issue is one of the most common questions I hear, and the answer is simpler than most people think.

TL;DR: Key Takeaways

• Knowing when to stop tapping is not about reaching a SUDS (Subject...

Fear is our most basic emotion. Simply put, fear is our internal guidance pointing out what might harm us so that we can stay safe. We commonly think of it in terms of fight, flight, or freeze.

All three of these responses are designed to shield us from danger. We fight to defend ourselves, we run away (flight) to avoid it, and we freeze so that the threat can't see us.

When tapping for fear, we usually use reframes around if somet...

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You sat down to tap and nothing changed. If tapping is not working for you right now, I want you to know two things: this is normal, and there is a specific process you can follow to break through. In my 18+ years as an tapping practitioner, I have walked hundreds of clients through exactly this moment, and w...

One of the reasons we resist taking action is that some actions simply can't be taken back. Our subconscious mind keeps us stuck because it's trying to figure out the perfect thing to do, but because the future is unknown, it's impossible to be certain.
This leads us from thinking about the best choice, to stalling on making a choice, to things getting worse because we aren't doing anything at all (which is itself a choice).
This k...

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If you have ever finished a round of EFT tapping and felt a wave of sadness wash over you, you are not alone. Feeling sad after tapping is one of the most common experiences people report, and it is also one of the most misunderstood. That sadness is not a sign that tapping failed or that something went wrong. It is actually a signal that ...

The perfect time to tap is in the moment, when you are overwhelmed with emotions…and it is also the hardest time to remember to tap.

That's mainly because remembering to tap in the midst of strong emotions is difficult, but it is not the only reason.

The second, powerful reason why you don't tap in the moment has everything to do with how you were taught to tap.

When most of us learned to tap, we were told that we "need to be as sp...

One of the conundrums of tapping is the fact that you tap because you want to feel better, but you aren't as good at tapping when you feel bad because you are in a lower resource state.

To put it another way, when you need tapping the most, you are the least effective version of yourself as a tapper.

But just because you aren't at the peak of your tapping abilities does not mean you are destined to fail when you sit down to tap.

Th...

It is all too common for tappers to look back at their path to healing and think, "What on earth was I doing? I know better than that! Why do I keep making bad choices when I know exactly what to do?"

This comes up most often in my individual coaching sessions when my clients talk about reaching for distracting behaviors instead of tapping.

They know at the moment that the best choice would be to tap, but instead they doomscroll so...

If you are tapping, it almost always means you are focusing on something negative, like challenging emotions, physical pain, difficult times from your past, or limiting beliefs.

This makes a lot of sense because tapping is a powerful tool for bringing about change and transformation.

But just because tapping is great at responding to life's difficulties does not mean it's the only way to tap. Tapping for celebration is another grea...

When most of us first learned tapping we were taught to be "as specific as possible" when coming up with tapping phrases. This is sound advice, which is backed up by scientific research.

But your success with tapping relies on more than just the words you say and what you focus on when you are tapping. How you feel in the moment has just as much impact on your tapping success.

And when I say "how you feel" I don't mean the emotions...

One of the most powerful tools in the healing and transformational tool box is having clear goals.

This is true in big picture ways, such as what I would like to achieve this year, and small picture ways, such as what I would like to get out of this next round of tapping.

I believe in this idea so deeply that in my Tapping Mastery Blueprint I teach the first thing you should do before starting to tap is to ask yourself the question...

One of the concepts I talk about daily with my clients and students is that the goal of tapping is a proportionate well informed emotional response.

In most cases this is a process of giving the emotions space to be heard and understood. Once we know where the emotional response is coming from it creates the space for use to heal, transform, and create a proportionate well informed emotional response.

One of the reasons why we love...

One of the most frustrating experiences around personal healing and transformation is when we know what we need to do, how to do it, have everything we need to take action (including time and energy), really want to take the action...and then we don't.

When this happens, we feel we have failed and let ourselves down, and might even decide we are unworthy of healing and transformation because we have failed and "can't be trusted".

T...