In this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura and her guest, Gabi Garland—her podcast producer and close friend—discuss Laura’s healing journey after divorcing a narcissistic ex-husband. They explore the challenges of setting boundaries, overcoming shame, and breaking generational cycles of trauma. Laura shares how creating the podcast has empowered her and built a supportive community for survivors. The conversation highlights the importance of vulnerability, self-love, and storytelling in healing, offering hope and practical advice to listeners navigating their own paths to recovery and self-discovery.
Key Topics & Timestamps
Celebrating Two Years & Laura’s Transformation (00:01:56) Producer reflects on Laura’s growth from fearful to empowered over the past three years.
The Impact of Abuse on Self-Belief (00:09:53) How abuse rewires beliefs and the importance of doing deep inner work.
Support Systems & Newfound Family (00:11:58) The importance of supportive friends and chosen family during healing.
Celebrating Successes & Achievements (00:17:05) Laura’s milestones: media appearances, bestselling books, and learning to celebrate herself.
Podcast Growth & External Recognition (00:22:58) Reaching top podcast rankings, media invitations, and the impact of authenticity.
Accountability & Choosing to Heal (00:53:07) Encouragement to seek therapy, question inherited identities, and choose change.
Generational Healing & Family Reconciliation (01:04:46) Changing generational patterns, healing with her children, and doing it for future generations.
The Power of Telling Your Story (01:16:26) Encouragement to share your story, as it may be the key to someone else’s healing.
The Worth of the Healing Journey (01:19:00) Reflecting on the value of the healing process and excitement for the future.
Powerful Quotes from the Episode
"If it feels hard, that doesn’t mean it’s wrong. The wrong people are leaving, and there’s room for the right ones."
"Gaslighting isn’t just a buzzword—it’s the sick, spiraling feeling when they say, 'You’re too sensitive.'"
"You’re never going to get to boundaries if you don’t love yourself."
"The only person we’re protecting when we stay silent is the abuser."
"There’s a woman who was me three years ago—if I don’t tell my story, she’s going to die."
"It’s never too late. Please hear this—you can change."
RESOURCES:
- COACH WITH LAURA: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/coachwithlaura
- YOU’RE NOT CRAZY, RECLAIMING YOUR SANITY AND SELF-WORTH AFTER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE ebook: GET IT HERE
- MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE
- FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com
- PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/
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