It's Never Too Late: Finding Your Voice with Lori Daneke

In this inspiring episode of "That's Where I'm At" podcast, host Laura welcomes Lori Daneke, a communication and relationship coach who discovered her calling later in life. Lori shares her powerful journey from being a people-pleaser trapped in a silent, emotionally abusive marriage to becoming an empowered coach helping others find their authentic selves. What started as a quest to improve her golf game led to a complete life transformation at age 58. Through candid conversation, Lori explains how 90% of our thoughts aren't our own, stemming from our imprint years (ages 0-7), and how breakthrough work can help us release the emotional baggage we've been carrying. Her story demonstrates that it's truly never too late to make changes, use your voice, and ask for what you want.

Lori Daneke is a communication and relationship coach with master certifications in NLP, TLT, Hypnotherapy, Reiki Level 3, and Huna, as well as Advanced Trauma and Addiction training. With over 300 hours of training and having coached over 100 clients, she specializes in supporting women in creating the life they desire and deserve while embracing their authentic selves. Lori's journey into coaching began unexpectedly at age 58 when seeking to improve her golf game led to discovering that golf and life are direct reflections of each other. She is a proud grandmother of three (with another grandchild on the way) and finds her happy places playing with her grandchildren and going to the beach.

Key Topics Discussed:

• The Connection Between Golf and Life: How Lori's quest to improve her golf game revealed deeper life patterns
• The Four Voices in Our Head: Understanding the inner child, inner critic, inner ego, and intuition
• People-Pleasing Patterns: The dangers of living according to others' expectations rather than your authentic self
• Silent Abuse: Recognizing emotional abuse through withholding communication and attention
• The 90% Rule: How most of our thoughts come from our imprint years (ages 0-7) rather than our true selves
• Breakthrough Process: Lori's 10-step method for uncovering root causes and aligning conscious and unconscious minds
• Releasing Emotional Baggage: Using the analogy of travel luggage to understand letting go of past trauma
• Finding Your Purpose: How it's never too late to discover your authentic calling and voice

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"It'd be grateful for what you have experienced, take the learnings from it, so you can have even more gratitude and love yourself. Because truly, it's never too late to make choices and use your voice and ask for what you want."

"In my marriage, I couldn't do that. I wasn't allowed. It was very transactional. And when I asked for what I needed or what I wanted, I got crickets. So that was the abuse that I tolerated. And I tolerated it is silence."

"I discovered that not only that golf and life are direct reflections of each other. So what was going on in my golf game was going on in my life. I was angry, frustrated, felt like I was isolated and alone."

"90% of our thoughts are not our own. They come from our imprint years or zero to seven... we learned what we learned from the people from the people that are closest to us."

"I was the definition of a people pleaser. I did everything that everybody thought I was supposed to do and everybody told me what I was supposed to do."

"You can't help other people unless you help yourself first... because you haven't released the blocks around what is actually holding you back from getting what you want."

"Everything that happens to us, good, bad, or ugly, is there to teach us a lesson. And the lessons we learn is something positiv