The Art of Charm
The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.
Episodes
July 31, 2025 • 18 mins
If you dread networking events, this episode explains why — and how to flip the script. AJ and Johnny break down the toxic "always be closing" mindset and show how high performers actually build deep connections that lead to real opportunity. Hear the story of Ryan, a client who 10x’d his sales by ditching the pitch and leading with value. You’ll learn how to use emotional intelligence, curiosity, and validation to become magnetic ...
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July 28, 2025 • 58 mins
Former FBI crisis negotiator Gary Noesner joins AJ and Johnny to unpack what it means to lead—and survive—under pressure. With over 30 years of field experience in prison riots, armed standoffs, and emotionally charged confrontations, Gary reveals what separates panic from poise and noise from influence.
They break down the psychological mechanics of negotiation, how to build trust when lives are at stake, and why the best negotia...
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Most people dread small talk. But in this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and Johnny explain why it’s not about the weather, jobs, or generic questions—it’s about emotional connection. Discover the science of “emotional bids,” a concept from Dr. John Gottman that unlocks deeper conversations and lasting influence.
AJ shares a real story of using this skill at a high-stakes networking event, while Johnny shows how emotional vali...
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July 21, 2025 • 63 mins
What does it really mean to reclaim your power? In this deep and grounded episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and Johnny talk with transformation coach Howard Falco about why so many men feel off-track—even when they’re doing all the “right” things.
Howard reveals why insight alone isn’t enough, and how true transformation only happens when we confront ourselves, embody stillness, and live in full alignment. From breaking spiritual ...
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July 17, 2025 • 18 mins
Why do some people walk into a room and instantly attract attention, introductions, and opportunities—while others grind endlessly and get ignored? In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and Johnny break down the science of social gravity—a real, research-backed force that explains how connection works like attraction, not effort.
They reveal the five key drivers that increase your social “mass,” from showing up to adding value...
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July 14, 2025 • 63 mins
What if the key to change isn’t willpower—but persuasion? In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak sit down with Jay Heinrichs, bestselling author and renowned rhetoric expert, to uncover how the ancient tools of persuasion can be turned inward. Drawing from Aristotle, Taylor Swift, and even personal injury, Jay reveals how to reframe identity, build emotional endurance, and use the “dark art” of rheto...
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July 10, 2025 • 17 mins
Do people like you… but never seem to respect you? In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak reveal the hidden social trap of being “too agreeable.” While it might seem like the best way to build rapport, research shows that excessive agreeableness actually suppresses your influence, erodes your authenticity, and leads to burnout.
You’ll learn why likability isn’t the goal—and how the Three C Model (Cha...
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July 7, 2025 • 64 mins
Can being "too smart" actually hold you back socially? In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak sit down with Anne-Laure Le Cunff—founder of Ness Labs and a former Googler turned neuroscience researcher—to explore the psychology of overthinking, social fatigue, and emotional connection for high performers.
If you've ever felt drained after socializing, struggled to connect in unstructured conversations...
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July 3, 2025 • 20 mins
If you’ve ever felt invisible in a room full of people, it’s not your personality—it’s your presence. In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and John unpack the three research-backed traits that make people charismatic, memorable, and magnetic—whether you're an introvert or not.
You’ll learn how charisma isn't a gift you’re born with, but a skill you can train. From mastering body language to showing emotional generosity, this...
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June 30, 2025 • 65 mins
When high-stakes emotions hit — anger, anxiety, fear — most people default to either freezing or reacting. In this episode of Social Intelligence, Dr. Ryan Fehr, a leadership professor at the University of Washington, shares tools that help Navy SEALs, Fortune 500 execs, and everyday professionals regulate emotions under pressure.
Ryan and AJ discuss how to train your brain to respond—rather than react—in critical moments, build e...
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June 26, 2025 • 15 mins
In this short, tactical episode, AJ and Johnny deliver a science-backed masterclass on how to create presentations that audiences remember. Forget reading from your slides and dumping data. This episode outlines four proven strategies that top speakers use to captivate attention, boost retention, and make every talk land with clarity and impact.
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[00:00] The brutal truth: people forget 90% of what they hear[00:...
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June 23, 2025 • 58 mins
Why do some leaders command respect while others get ignored? In this episode of Social Intelligence, Stanford professor and venture capitalist Robert Siegel breaks down the overlooked behaviors that separate average performers from high-impact leaders.
Drawing on decades of research and real-world business experience, Robert shares how humility, listening, and honest self-reflection are the key ingredients to long-term success. Y...
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June 19, 2025 • 19 mins
Most people attend networking events hoping something good happens. High-performers don’t hope — they engineer connection. In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and John share a 3-part framework for dominating networking events without faking extroversion or relying on luck.
You’ll learn how to build relationships before the event even starts, create social capital in real-time, and make sure your connections actually turn in...
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June 16, 2025 • 70 mins
Most people think influence is about clever tactics or quick wins. But true, lasting influence is built on trust, emotional intelligence, and understanding how people really think. In this episode of Social Intelligence, Abbie Morano returns to reveal her 5-principle framework for ethical influence — combining biology, psychology, and social dynamics.
Abbie breaks down why short-term manipulation backfires, how to guide conversati...
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June 12, 2025 • 16 mins
You only get one shot at a first impression—and most of it happens before you even speak. In this episode, AJ and John break down the four science-backed factors that shape how people instantly judge your presence, confidence, and trustworthiness. Whether you’re walking into a job interview, a networking event, or a first date, you’ll get actionable strategies to control the room from the moment you walk in.
From body language and...
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June 9, 2025 • 76 mins
If you think good communication means saying more, think again. Emmy-winning journalist and executive coach Bill McGowan joins AJ and Johnny to reveal the science of saying less—but meaning more. From boardrooms to interviews, Bill has coached some of the world’s top leaders (and celebrities) to craft compelling, unforgettable messages—and today, he’s sharing the playbook.
In this episode, you’ll learn how to ditch jargon, avoid r...
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June 5, 2025 • 15 mins
Most people think confidence means knowing exactly what to say. But in reality, social confidence starts with knowing how to start—not how to be perfect. In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak break down how to overcome the awkwardness of small talk, crush anxiety before it starts, and connect instantly in any room.
You’ll learn the three best ways to open a conversation (even if you’re nervous), wh...
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June 2, 2025 • 66 mins
Modern life has made friendship feel more confusing, fragile, and isolating than ever. In this episode, journalist and author Anna Goldfarb joins us to unpack the paradox of modern friendship — why we’re lonelier despite being more connected, and what we can do to build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.
Anna shares her “Triple D” framework (Desire, Diligence, Delight) and breaks down the hidden architecture of great friends...
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May 29, 2025 • 16 mins
You’ve got names in your phone that make you smile—but when’s the last time you actually reached out? In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak share four simple, science-backed strategies to reconnect with old friends, former mentors, and professional contacts—even if it’s been years.
From “because I thought of you” texts to expert taps and nostalgia sparks, this is your action plan for rebuilding rela...
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In this episode of The Art of Charm, we sit down with Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener and Professor Christian van Nieuwerburgh, authors of Radical Listening: The Art of True Connection. Together, they unpack a new framework for transforming your conversations—not with better scripts, but with sharper intention.
Drawing from psychology, coaching, and decades of research, we explore the six listening motivations, why “active listening” fal...
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