September 19, 2024 • 18 mins
In this episode of the Cycle Breaker podcast, host Sukhi Kaur dives into the complexities of entrepreneurship for women of color. Discover how self-awareness and an honest relationship with yourself can help you break through imposter syndrome, procrastination, and fear of success. Sukhi shares insights on why we often self-sabotage and how to confront the internal fears holding us back from achieving our business goals. Tune in to learn strategies for overcoming these obstacles and embracing growth on your entrepreneurial journey. Listen now and start breaking the cycles that keep you stuck! For more support, visit sukhilifecoach.com/freeconsult to schedule a free consultation.
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(00:09):
Welcome to the Cycle Breaker podcast. I'm
your host, Sukhi Kaur, a certified
feminist life coach, and I'm here to help
you navigate being a woman of color
entrepreneur, breaking generational
cycles and letting go of imposter
syndrome. Here you will learn to create
self-awareness around the truth of who
you are and see your ability to
(00:30):
change how you experience yourself. And
further the results you create in your
life. So let's break these much needed
cycles together here in community.
As an entrepreneur, especially as
(00:51):
a woman of color entrepreneur who is
starting off or has had a business for
some time, I think one of the
really important things is to
work on your relationship with yourself.
And that's what I'll be talking about of
how do like we actually put in the
effort. And it may sound a little
unnatural because I know when we talk
(01:13):
about relationships, we usually talk
about. Relationship to others,
relationships as far as how we relate to
our job and what that what role
each person in our life plays. But
I think it's really important to learn
to have an open and honest
relationship with yourself, especially as
(01:33):
an entrepreneur, because it's only then
that you'll understand why you do certain
things and why you don't do certain
things, especially in the beginning when
you're starting off your business and.
You know, when I say starting off your
business, it may even be that you're
working full time and you're thinking of
transitioning or you just hear other
(01:54):
people doing businesses and you think,
OK, maybe I want to do something one
day, but I don't know what. Or you have a
business and you've been working on it
for some time, but. You hesitate to
tell and tell someone about
it or really own that you're an
entrepreneur and you do what you do
because you haven't made your financial
goals or you haven't done certain
(02:16):
things. And maybe there's certain
milestones that you can achieve, but you
know, you know, there's the time
management and just feeling
motivated enough or, you know, just
thinking of your depending how how you
perceive yourself a lot of times. When
entrepreneurs are starting off, you know,
we think especially as someone as as an
(02:38):
imposter, somebody that
relates to being an imposter, not an
actual imposter that relates to being an
imposter and has imposter syndrome and
you know, has these generational cycles
to break and do things differently.
It's just so important to understand
what's actually going on versus what, you
(02:59):
know, stories and such our brain is
coming up with, for example. You know, if
you have a milestone, if you have a goal
that you have in mind and you know you
have, you have planned out what you have
to do weekly and you tend to
procrastinate. It doesn't just mean that
you know you're a procrastinator. I think
it's important to understand, you
(03:21):
know, how may this be serving
me and. When things,
you know, are not moving us forward,
they're still serving us in a certain way
when we're we're not doing what we're
supposed to be doing. So really
understanding, you know, and like
where you are, why you do what you do and
why, how might that be helping you?And a
(03:43):
lot of times it's like protection, right?
It's fear of the unknown,
fear of thinking I'm not good
enough and feel a
feeling of fear of.
Just not seeing yourself as
being someone that can
(04:04):
that can achieve your goal and but you
think it's achievable because you see
others doing it or you think, oh, if this
person was to do it, they would
definitely be good at it, but not you. So
I think just kind of zooming
out as a first step would be helpful. So
think about, you know, I'm sure that you
have. And if you haven't, you, you
(04:25):
can think about what
would be your ideal
business set up?What would be your ideal
life set up?Like how would your lifestyle
be?How would you be managing your
time, your health, your
finances?How would that
future version of you handle things?
(04:46):
How?What would it look like to achieve
your goals?Like especially?
If it's, you know, if you're working
full-time, what would it look like to
achieve that?Like maybe if you want, and
it doesn't have to be, but if you want to
leave your full-time job, what would it
look like?What would it feel like?What
would your life be if you actually
(05:08):
achieved those?And how would you
go about like what would what things
would change?Because I
think sometimes what we what happens
is. It just seems like, oh, I just like
self-sabotage and get in my way and
that's just how I am and that's just who
I am. But I think really understanding
of what would the life be
(05:30):
like, your future life be like if you
achieved your goals and what things would
change and are and are there any
items on that list of things that would
change that kind of scare you?Because,
you know, change can be scary and
achieving your goals can be scary and I
think. A lot of my
effort and coaching when I worked with
(05:52):
someone one-on-one is really being able
to accept that success and accept that
space that someone creates for themselves
to get to where they want. Of course, you
know, like for example, if one of my
clients, you know, was at
a good place with her salary now and then
she had this free space of OK, what do I
(06:12):
want to do with my business and. Then it
was almost like an identity crisis of who
am I going to be if I'm not this
executive?And then it's almost like
going from executive to being a a newbie
business owner. It's an identity
shift. So it may be and that I think I
really resonate with that as well
(06:32):
of like. How do I just let that
go, that previous experience and
that, you know, validation that I've
always relied on externally?How do I kind
of transition?And it doesn't really mean
that I have to let it go, but how do I
transition myself in a graceful
way that's just not pushing myself
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through of, OK, I have to be a very
successful entrepreneur quickly and like
it has to be perfect and all that
perfectionism and all that stuff that.
Comes with imposter syndrome of looking
outward. So
when we're thinking about it, like that's
an example of like an identity shift may
be something that you know, it may be
(07:17):
not doing the things that you need to do
to move forward in your business. It may
be a technique to keep you safe in the
sense that an identity crisis
may look like too much to
handle. Or for
example, you know, one of the things that
comes up is like your relationships may
change if you make more money than
(07:37):
someone, especially if it's your partner
or if you're single. And sometimes it,
you know, some of the thoughts
that are thought errors or thoughts that
you know, we look at in coaching sessions
is. If I'm single and I
make so much more and I make like
$1,000,000 in my business, that's going
(07:57):
to be really hard for me to find a
partner. And I think I just want to step
back and say, you know, these are just
examples. And also there's nothing wrong
if there are, these are things that you
think of. Of course, we've gotten
messaging our whole life where, you
know, culturally just in
society as women, as women
(08:18):
of color there, it just makes sense to
think of these things and it I think. I
would like to and I I think it makes
sense and I think approaching it in the
sense of being curious of what these
things may be will be helpful rather than
be judgmental. And that'll help kind of
ease that of OK, maybe my brain is just
doing due diligence of
(08:40):
of it's not sure if we can handle what
what would come whether it's like you
know if we start being consistent with.
Say for example, like this podcast, like
it's weekly. Say for example, if we come
in and we tell other people that we'll do
something weekly or bi-weekly
or commit to some number of
hours, like even working out, then it
(09:01):
seems like, OK, what if I don't do it?
And then what happens?And that's where we
usually stop. But what I'd like for you
to do is take it a next step further.
What would you normally do?Because I know
for myself I would give myself a really
hard time because I think
if you're listening to this podcast and
you resonate with having imposter
(09:22):
syndrome, you likely are very
self-critical and give yourself a hard
time. But I would like for you to open
up your mind to just the possibility of
hey. maybe you didn't do what you thought
you were going to do, and you have the
option of being very kind to yourself.
You have the option of having grace with
yourself and not putting that pressure
(09:44):
that it's all or nothing. And I think
that's the difference of you know
being able to
identify what might
be something I'm avoiding or
protecting myself from thatYou may need
some time to reflect on this, right?Like
what would happen if you achieve your
goals?I I think, especially if
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you're working full-time and it's a lot
of like the identity
work that you may need to do or just
having that, you know, confidence in
yourself of having the financial
stability that's real. And if you're in
the US, you think of health insurance
like you need to get your own and it's so
expensive. These are valid reasons,
(10:28):
right?Like these make sense of why we're
thinking that. But I think it's really
important. I know when we're talking
about business, we think of, OK, it's
important for you to know why you want to
do it. What's your motivation?That'll be
your crotch. And you know, what's your
compelling reason?But I think it's also
necessary for you to build
(10:49):
the self-awareness, to understand why
you're not doing what you're doing. Why
aren't you?Moving
forward with what you say you're gonna
do, especially when it comes to business,
why aren't you committing that in that,
you know, level that you would like to
and it's not to. Again, judge yourself.
You want to be careful of that. But I
think it's good to familiarize yourself
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of why you want to do it and also why
you're not doing it. Just so then we have
that open relationship, that
honest talk with ourselves, and it can be
journaling or talking it through with
someone. I'm happy to have a consult if
this is something that you want to work
out. Together, but really
understanding of why is it, what
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would it be that seems a bit
uncomfortable and it's easier, seems
easier to avoid than to deal with at
the time. And I think really
knowing that will be such a game changer
because then it's not just, oh, I'm just
always like this, oh, I just have a hard
time committing to what I need to do.
It's really not as simple as that. It's
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usually.
Something on, you know, on a personal
level that may be holding you back. So I
think familiarizing yourself with why you
want to do it, but also with why you're
not doing and just have that open
conversation with yourself, open
journaling session where this doesn't
even mean that you have to change
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anything, but just really just to have
that as in the back of your mind of oh,
that's something that you know, I fear,
that's something that I avoid. I think
that will be a big, make a big
difference in how you approach your
business and and not just knowing why
you're not doing what you're doing. And
even, you know, when I have a consult and
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someone says no, I just help them
understand why they're actually saying
no. Because sometimes it'll be something
like, oh, I have to ask my husband
because this is an investment. And you
know, a lot of times it's not as simple
as, oh, I just need more time because
sometimes having more time
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to make a decision is actually worse
because the more time you
have to ruminate on something, it
it doesn't really help because then you
just kind of go in a spiral. So I try to
understand of like are there any
questions that I can answer?Is it
actually, you know, is that your
decision-making process?Then that's fine,
but. If your decisions are
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always deferred to someone else, what we
want to work as as me being a woman's
empowerment coach, I want to make sure
that you feel you have autonomy over your
decision or if that's what you want to
work on, if that's what you want to do.
And usually when someone comes to a
woman's empower, like woman empowerment
coach, that is something that they want
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to work on, have more autonomy, have more
confidence in their decision-making
process. So. Really, you know, it's
not really about the yes or no. It's like
really like opening up that Channel, that
opening up that mindset of let's just see
why we're doing this. It doesn't even
matter if you say yes or no. It's like
really understanding the skill of digging
a little deeper to understand why we do
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what we do, why we don't do what we do.
So I think here in business,
really I'd like for you to reflect on
over the next week. You know, what
are your big goals that you have
that some of the things that you even
hesitate to put on paper and you don't
have to tell anyone, you don't have to
share it. Put those down
and think about your life, how it would
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change. And are there any
any items on that, you know, list of
changes that scare you a little that are
just seem like too much to handle
and you know one of the ways that. I
would encourage you to do is just to ask
yourself, like reflect and ask that
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part of me that isn't sure about the
financial stability, that part of me that
thinks it's gonna be too much to handle
changes in my relationship, that part of
me that feels like I'm gonna be lost and
not who not know who I am. What is that
part of me that's so concerned need to
hear?Sometimes it's really just to.
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No. And for me, I think what I usually
need to hear is like, OK, no matter
what I get myself into
when I'm achieving my big goals, I always
have the option of being nicer, like not
being an ******* to myself. I can always
choose to treat myself the way I
want. And I think that gives me a lot of
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it makes me feel relieved and
it gives me. The feeling of
feeling more self-confident that I do
have my back. I can trust my
decision-making process and that
you know, if I don't do something and I
don't achieve it in a time period, like I
just have the option of just not being
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mean. Like I can just handle it the way I
want to. So I think really
understanding what is it that you may be
avoiding when you're not working in your
business and also understanding.
Like that part of you, what is that?What
does it need?Like what type of nurturing
does it need?What type of, you know,
validation does it need?What does it need?
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Does it need to just be heard?Is it
something that we've just been pushing
aside?It's really like, say, for
example. You know, when you're talking to
like a toddler, sometimes they're
throwing a fit and you just need to
understand why they're doing what they're
doing. And just even asking
and doing a time out of like, hey, have
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some water, let's just take a time
out and then talk about this. I think
just even having that grace with
somebody so little helps. And I think
sometimes thinking of our brain in that
way of that it's a primitive toddler
brain helps to be like, OK, I need to be
a little gentle. We are trying to change
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our lives significantly and have
such big goals. And especially as someone
that resonates with being imposter
syndrome, I think one of the questions
I've answered a lot for myself is
who do I think I am?Who do I think I'm
trying to be?And you know, getting into
the practice of answering that like this
is who I want to be and who do I think I
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want to?Who am I to do that?Like, yeah,
I am. I think I am well equipped
to and I really believe that I'm well
equipped to help people in this way and
this is what I want to do. But I think
our brain just needs that extra.
Convincing in some ways, I would say. I
don't know if convincing is the right
word, but taking that little extra
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step will go a long way. And so
please reflect on what your brain
needs when it thinks
of achieving your goals. What would
change?What does that part of you that
fears that change need to
hear?And you know, you can pre-decide how
you handle any. Any
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hiccups in how you treat yourself, which
really opens up it an
honest, open relationship with
yourself and then go from
there. Because I think there's no
stopping someone that can be honest with
themselves and to make changes and make
the impact in the world that they want
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through their business.
Hey, if you're listening to this podcast
and wondering how I can help you break
free of your cycles, especially those
that hold you back in business, I'm happy
to chat. You can sign up for a
consultation without any preparation
needed. At
sukhilifecoach.com/freeconsult
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and we can talk about your cycles and how
to break free of them. Cheers to breaking
more much needed generational cycles.
Welcome to the Cycle Breaker podcast. I'm
your host, Sukhi Kaur, a certified
feminist life coach, and I'm here to help
you navigate being a woman of color
entrepreneur, breaking generational
cycles and letting go of imposter
syndrome. Here you will learn to create
self-awareness around the truth of who
you are and see your ability to
(00:30):
change how you experience yourself. And
further the results you create in your
life. So let's break these much needed
cycles together here in community.
As an entrepreneur, especially as
(00:51):
a woman of color entrepreneur who is
starting off or has had a business for
some time, I think one of the
really important things is to
work on your relationship with yourself.
And that's what I'll be talking about of
how do like we actually put in the
effort. And it may sound a little
unnatural because I know when we talk
(01:13):
about relationships, we usually talk
about. Relationship to others,
relationships as far as how we relate to
our job and what that what role
each person in our life plays. But
I think it's really important to learn
to have an open and honest
relationship with yourself, especially as
(01:33):
an entrepreneur, because it's only then
that you'll understand why you do certain
things and why you don't do certain
things, especially in the beginning when
you're starting off your business and.
You know, when I say starting off your
business, it may even be that you're
working full time and you're thinking of
transitioning or you just hear other
(01:54):
people doing businesses and you think,
OK, maybe I want to do something one
day, but I don't know what. Or you have a
business and you've been working on it
for some time, but. You hesitate to
tell and tell someone about
it or really own that you're an
entrepreneur and you do what you do
because you haven't made your financial
goals or you haven't done certain
(02:16):
things. And maybe there's certain
milestones that you can achieve, but you
know, you know, there's the time
management and just feeling
motivated enough or, you know, just
thinking of your depending how how you
perceive yourself a lot of times. When
entrepreneurs are starting off, you know,
we think especially as someone as as an
(02:38):
imposter, somebody that
relates to being an imposter, not an
actual imposter that relates to being an
imposter and has imposter syndrome and
you know, has these generational cycles
to break and do things differently.
It's just so important to understand
what's actually going on versus what, you
(02:59):
know, stories and such our brain is
coming up with, for example. You know, if
you have a milestone, if you have a goal
that you have in mind and you know you
have, you have planned out what you have
to do weekly and you tend to
procrastinate. It doesn't just mean that
you know you're a procrastinator. I think
it's important to understand, you
(03:21):
know, how may this be serving
me and. When things,
you know, are not moving us forward,
they're still serving us in a certain way
when we're we're not doing what we're
supposed to be doing. So really
understanding, you know, and like
where you are, why you do what you do and
why, how might that be helping you?And a
(03:43):
lot of times it's like protection, right?
It's fear of the unknown,
fear of thinking I'm not good
enough and feel a
feeling of fear of.
Just not seeing yourself as
being someone that can
(04:04):
that can achieve your goal and but you
think it's achievable because you see
others doing it or you think, oh, if this
person was to do it, they would
definitely be good at it, but not you. So
I think just kind of zooming
out as a first step would be helpful. So
think about, you know, I'm sure that you
have. And if you haven't, you, you
(04:25):
can think about what
would be your ideal
business set up?What would be your ideal
life set up?Like how would your lifestyle
be?How would you be managing your
time, your health, your
finances?How would that
future version of you handle things?
(04:46):
How?What would it look like to achieve
your goals?Like especially?
If it's, you know, if you're working
full-time, what would it look like to
achieve that?Like maybe if you want, and
it doesn't have to be, but if you want to
leave your full-time job, what would it
look like?What would it feel like?What
would your life be if you actually
(05:08):
achieved those?And how would you
go about like what would what things
would change?Because I
think sometimes what we what happens
is. It just seems like, oh, I just like
self-sabotage and get in my way and
that's just how I am and that's just who
I am. But I think really understanding
of what would the life be
(05:30):
like, your future life be like if you
achieved your goals and what things would
change and are and are there any
items on that list of things that would
change that kind of scare you?Because,
you know, change can be scary and
achieving your goals can be scary and I
think. A lot of my
effort and coaching when I worked with
(05:52):
someone one-on-one is really being able
to accept that success and accept that
space that someone creates for themselves
to get to where they want. Of course, you
know, like for example, if one of my
clients, you know, was at
a good place with her salary now and then
she had this free space of OK, what do I
(06:12):
want to do with my business and. Then it
was almost like an identity crisis of who
am I going to be if I'm not this
executive?And then it's almost like
going from executive to being a a newbie
business owner. It's an identity
shift. So it may be and that I think I
really resonate with that as well
(06:32):
of like. How do I just let that
go, that previous experience and
that, you know, validation that I've
always relied on externally?How do I kind
of transition?And it doesn't really mean
that I have to let it go, but how do I
transition myself in a graceful
way that's just not pushing myself
(06:53):
through of, OK, I have to be a very
successful entrepreneur quickly and like
it has to be perfect and all that
perfectionism and all that stuff that.
Comes with imposter syndrome of looking
outward. So
when we're thinking about it, like that's
an example of like an identity shift may
be something that you know, it may be
(07:17):
not doing the things that you need to do
to move forward in your business. It may
be a technique to keep you safe in the
sense that an identity crisis
may look like too much to
handle. Or for
example, you know, one of the things that
comes up is like your relationships may
change if you make more money than
(07:37):
someone, especially if it's your partner
or if you're single. And sometimes it,
you know, some of the thoughts
that are thought errors or thoughts that
you know, we look at in coaching sessions
is. If I'm single and I
make so much more and I make like
$1,000,000 in my business, that's going
(07:57):
to be really hard for me to find a
partner. And I think I just want to step
back and say, you know, these are just
examples. And also there's nothing wrong
if there are, these are things that you
think of. Of course, we've gotten
messaging our whole life where, you
know, culturally just in
society as women, as women
(08:18):
of color there, it just makes sense to
think of these things and it I think. I
would like to and I I think it makes
sense and I think approaching it in the
sense of being curious of what these
things may be will be helpful rather than
be judgmental. And that'll help kind of
ease that of OK, maybe my brain is just
doing due diligence of
(08:40):
of it's not sure if we can handle what
what would come whether it's like you
know if we start being consistent with.
Say for example, like this podcast, like
it's weekly. Say for example, if we come
in and we tell other people that we'll do
something weekly or bi-weekly
or commit to some number of
hours, like even working out, then it
(09:01):
seems like, OK, what if I don't do it?
And then what happens?And that's where we
usually stop. But what I'd like for you
to do is take it a next step further.
What would you normally do?Because I know
for myself I would give myself a really
hard time because I think
if you're listening to this podcast and
you resonate with having imposter
(09:22):
syndrome, you likely are very
self-critical and give yourself a hard
time. But I would like for you to open
up your mind to just the possibility of
hey. maybe you didn't do what you thought
you were going to do, and you have the
option of being very kind to yourself.
You have the option of having grace with
yourself and not putting that pressure
(09:44):
that it's all or nothing. And I think
that's the difference of you know
being able to
identify what might
be something I'm avoiding or
protecting myself from thatYou may need
some time to reflect on this, right?Like
what would happen if you achieve your
goals?I I think, especially if
(10:07):
you're working full-time and it's a lot
of like the identity
work that you may need to do or just
having that, you know, confidence in
yourself of having the financial
stability that's real. And if you're in
the US, you think of health insurance
like you need to get your own and it's so
expensive. These are valid reasons,
(10:28):
right?Like these make sense of why we're
thinking that. But I think it's really
important. I know when we're talking
about business, we think of, OK, it's
important for you to know why you want to
do it. What's your motivation?That'll be
your crotch. And you know, what's your
compelling reason?But I think it's also
necessary for you to build
(10:49):
the self-awareness, to understand why
you're not doing what you're doing. Why
aren't you?Moving
forward with what you say you're gonna
do, especially when it comes to business,
why aren't you committing that in that,
you know, level that you would like to
and it's not to. Again, judge yourself.
You want to be careful of that. But I
think it's good to familiarize yourself
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of why you want to do it and also why
you're not doing it. Just so then we have
that open relationship, that
honest talk with ourselves, and it can be
journaling or talking it through with
someone. I'm happy to have a consult if
this is something that you want to work
out. Together, but really
understanding of why is it, what
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would it be that seems a bit
uncomfortable and it's easier, seems
easier to avoid than to deal with at
the time. And I think really
knowing that will be such a game changer
because then it's not just, oh, I'm just
always like this, oh, I just have a hard
time committing to what I need to do.
It's really not as simple as that. It's
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usually.
Something on, you know, on a personal
level that may be holding you back. So I
think familiarizing yourself with why you
want to do it, but also with why you're
not doing and just have that open
conversation with yourself, open
journaling session where this doesn't
even mean that you have to change
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anything, but just really just to have
that as in the back of your mind of oh,
that's something that you know, I fear,
that's something that I avoid. I think
that will be a big, make a big
difference in how you approach your
business and and not just knowing why
you're not doing what you're doing. And
even, you know, when I have a consult and
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someone says no, I just help them
understand why they're actually saying
no. Because sometimes it'll be something
like, oh, I have to ask my husband
because this is an investment. And you
know, a lot of times it's not as simple
as, oh, I just need more time because
sometimes having more time
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to make a decision is actually worse
because the more time you
have to ruminate on something, it
it doesn't really help because then you
just kind of go in a spiral. So I try to
understand of like are there any
questions that I can answer?Is it
actually, you know, is that your
decision-making process?Then that's fine,
but. If your decisions are
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always deferred to someone else, what we
want to work as as me being a woman's
empowerment coach, I want to make sure
that you feel you have autonomy over your
decision or if that's what you want to
work on, if that's what you want to do.
And usually when someone comes to a
woman's empower, like woman empowerment
coach, that is something that they want
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to work on, have more autonomy, have more
confidence in their decision-making
process. So. Really, you know, it's
not really about the yes or no. It's like
really like opening up that Channel, that
opening up that mindset of let's just see
why we're doing this. It doesn't even
matter if you say yes or no. It's like
really understanding the skill of digging
a little deeper to understand why we do
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what we do, why we don't do what we do.
So I think here in business,
really I'd like for you to reflect on
over the next week. You know, what
are your big goals that you have
that some of the things that you even
hesitate to put on paper and you don't
have to tell anyone, you don't have to
share it. Put those down
and think about your life, how it would
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change. And are there any
any items on that, you know, list of
changes that scare you a little that are
just seem like too much to handle
and you know one of the ways that. I
would encourage you to do is just to ask
yourself, like reflect and ask that
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part of me that isn't sure about the
financial stability, that part of me that
thinks it's gonna be too much to handle
changes in my relationship, that part of
me that feels like I'm gonna be lost and
not who not know who I am. What is that
part of me that's so concerned need to
hear?Sometimes it's really just to.
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No. And for me, I think what I usually
need to hear is like, OK, no matter
what I get myself into
when I'm achieving my big goals, I always
have the option of being nicer, like not
being an ******* to myself. I can always
choose to treat myself the way I
want. And I think that gives me a lot of
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it makes me feel relieved and
it gives me. The feeling of
feeling more self-confident that I do
have my back. I can trust my
decision-making process and that
you know, if I don't do something and I
don't achieve it in a time period, like I
just have the option of just not being
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mean. Like I can just handle it the way I
want to. So I think really
understanding what is it that you may be
avoiding when you're not working in your
business and also understanding.
Like that part of you, what is that?What
does it need?Like what type of nurturing
does it need?What type of, you know,
validation does it need?What does it need?
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Does it need to just be heard?Is it
something that we've just been pushing
aside?It's really like, say, for
example. You know, when you're talking to
like a toddler, sometimes they're
throwing a fit and you just need to
understand why they're doing what they're
doing. And just even asking
and doing a time out of like, hey, have
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some water, let's just take a time
out and then talk about this. I think
just even having that grace with
somebody so little helps. And I think
sometimes thinking of our brain in that
way of that it's a primitive toddler
brain helps to be like, OK, I need to be
a little gentle. We are trying to change
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our lives significantly and have
such big goals. And especially as someone
that resonates with being imposter
syndrome, I think one of the questions
I've answered a lot for myself is
who do I think I am?Who do I think I'm
trying to be?And you know, getting into
the practice of answering that like this
is who I want to be and who do I think I
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want to?Who am I to do that?Like, yeah,
I am. I think I am well equipped
to and I really believe that I'm well
equipped to help people in this way and
this is what I want to do. But I think
our brain just needs that extra.
Convincing in some ways, I would say. I
don't know if convincing is the right
word, but taking that little extra
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step will go a long way. And so
please reflect on what your brain
needs when it thinks
of achieving your goals. What would
change?What does that part of you that
fears that change need to
hear?And you know, you can pre-decide how
you handle any. Any
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hiccups in how you treat yourself, which
really opens up it an
honest, open relationship with
yourself and then go from
there. Because I think there's no
stopping someone that can be honest with
themselves and to make changes and make
the impact in the world that they want
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through their business.
Hey, if you're listening to this podcast
and wondering how I can help you break
free of your cycles, especially those
that hold you back in business, I'm happy
to chat. You can sign up for a
consultation without any preparation
needed. At
sukhilifecoach.com/freeconsult
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and we can talk about your cycles and how
to break free of them. Cheers to breaking
more much needed generational cycles.
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