Over the next month, I'll be sharing encore episodes of the podcast - conversations that remain just as relevant and impactful today. New episodes will be back in September!
This week's encore episode features fan-favorite Dr. Amelia Kelley, and we're digging into what gaslighting really is, how it shows up in our lives, and how we start to heal from it. This conversation originally aired in 2023, but it's just as relevant today — especially if you're navigating the aftermath of emotional abuse or trying to reclaim your sense of self.
Dr. Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist, researcher, and author whose work centers on women's issues, relationship trauma, adult ADHD, and empowering survivors of abuse. Together, we unpack how gaslighting is used as a tool for power and control, how it erodes confidence and self-trust, and why self-care isn't optional when you're healing, it's essential.
What you'll hear about in this episode:
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The misconception of gaslighting: what it is and what it isn't
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The effects of gaslighting on a victim's mental health
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Dr. Kelley addresses the question, "Is lying gaslighting?"
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You cannot heal from trauma that you are still experiencing
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The steps to overcome and heal from gaslighting include becoming aware, getting outside feedback, and boundary setting
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What self-care looks like during the healing process
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Self-regulation for chronic stress when being emotionally abused
Learn more about Dr. Amelia Kelley:
Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist who has conducted research on the effects of exercise on adult ADHD symptoms as well as the effects of resiliency on PTSD. She is a trained Hypno-therapist, Art therapist, HSP Therapist, EMDR-informed therapist, meditation teacher, as well as a Certified Yoga instructor integrating therapeutic yoga and psychotherapy. She is a trainer, podcaster and writer in the "science-help" field focusing on; women's issues, empowering survivors of abuse and relationship trauma, Highly Sensitive Persons, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD.
Dr. Kelley is an adjunct counseling professor at Yorkville University as well as a nationally recognized relationship expert featured on XM Radio's Doctor Channel on The Psychiatry Show. She is a coach and trainer for SAS's Work/Life Program in Cary, NC and a resident trainer for the NC Art Therapy Institute. Her private practice is currently part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. She is a co-author of What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship and a contributing author for the Highly Sensitive Refuge. You can find out more about her work at her website www.ameliakelley.com or by following her on Instagram @drameliakelley.
Resources & Links:
Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate
The Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle
Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
Kate on Instagram @kateanthony_divorcecoach
Kate on Facebook
The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage
Dr. Kelley's website
Dr. Kelley on Instagram
NYTimes Article about Women and Menopause
Heart Disease in Women
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