Episode 337: SOLO Episode - How I Learned the Communication Skills That Changed My Life

If you’ve ever felt like you “just weren’t born a good communicator,” I want to stop you right there. Most of us are not born with these skills, instead we learn them, often the hard way. I know, because when someone asked me at my book launch, “Where did you learn to communicate?” I blanked and said I was “just born with it.” The truth? Communication is something I studied, practiced, and worked at for years.

In this solo episode, I walk you through the communication tools that changed everything for me. These skills didn’t save my marriage, but they did save my divorce. They made co-parenting possible (because he’d learned these skills too), built the foundation for healthier friendships and relationships, and became the backbone of the work I do with my clients.

This isn’t about becoming perfect or never messing up, it’s about learning how to really listen, how to be heard, and how to create connection instead of disconnection. And yes, it’s a practice.

In this episode, I share:

• How I learned communication skills the hard way

• Why Imago therapy can be a useful communication model, but not a solution for abuse

• The power of listening for feelings underneath words, not just the words themselves

• How feedback loops, timing, and permission are key to being heard

• Why I-statements, mirroring, and empathy create deeper connections in every kind of relationship

✨ If you’d like to watch the video version of this episode, you can find it here.

Resources & Links:

Don’t forget to grab the free worksheet to help you get started with active listening, I-statements, and more. Download the Communication Worksheet Mentioned in This Episode at: KateAnthony.com/communicate

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Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate
The Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle
Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective
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Kate’s Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch

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Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-337-solo-episode-how-i-learned-the-communication-skills-that-changed-my-life/