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June 20, 2023 34 mins

Most of us throughout our lives have believed confidence is external.

We thought that once we get that high-paying job, lose 10 pounds, or get into that romantic relationship, that’s when we become confident.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth. 

Top speaker and best-selling author Nicole Kalil is here to uncover the truth about confidence, what it is, and how you can source and build it sustainably. 

Tune in to this episode on The Role of Confidence In Divorce with Nicole Kalil

Key points covered in this episode: 

 ✔️ Confidence is internal. Research has proven that women’s confidence fluctuates through the years, dropping in their teenage years and peaking in their fifties and sixties. Shift your mindset from “Why am I not confident?” to “Am I connected to my confidence?” It’s all in there living inside of you – you just have to uncover it yourself!

 ✔️ Quiet the head trash! We have a LOT of voices in our minds. The noisiest, self-deprecating one is your head trash, while the compassionate one is your inner knowing. Silence the former, and turn up the volume of the latter.

 ✔️ Rewrite your internal story. Build your confidence muscle by answering these questions.

  • What are the facts?

  • What am I making up about the facts?

  • Is there a more productive, empowered way to see it?

  • Where do I go from here?

 ✔️ Action builds confidence. The little steps DO count! If you want to be healthier, drinking more water could be the first way to go. And give yourself the grace to rest and trust yourself during the hard times. 

 ✔️ Confidence is a choice you get to make. Other practical ways to strengthen your self-belief are to keep your commitments, set boundaries, and speak your truth.

Get a copy of Divorce Sucks. Now What?: 5 Steps to Find Yourself and Heal After Going From “I Do” to “I’m Divorced” on Amazon!

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💬 Get in touch with Nicole Kalil.

Website: https://nicolekalil.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolekalil/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil  

Get a copy of Nicole’s book, “Validation is For Parking”

👉 https://nicolekalil.com/book 

Nicole Kalil’s passion for eliminating gender expectations and redefining “Woman’s Work” is both what keeps her up at night, and what gets her up in the morning. Well, that, and an abundant amount of coffee.

An in-demand speaker, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of the “This Is Woman’s Work” Podcast, her stalker-like obsession with confidence sets her apart from the constant stream of experts telling us to BE confident. She actually tells how you build it and gives actionable tools – not just stories – to BECOME confident.

She has coached hundreds of women in business, which has given her insight as to what – structurally, systemically, and socially – is and isn’t serving women and leaders within an organization.

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