54 Relationship Part 2: Why we get frustrated

To stop feeling overwhelmed and frustrated with others, we must recognize our expectations—our "instruction manuals" for how people should behave. Accepting that we cannot control others and choosing to let them be themselves can alleviate much of our exhaustion. Next, we should examine what we truly seek when we want others to follow our manuals; often, it's a specific feeling we desire. 

Women often express frustration by saying, "I need my husband to do his share around the house." This feeling stems from blaming their emotions on their husband's actions, believing that his behavior determines their happiness. While many might agree that he should contribute more, this mindset is disempowering as it places the responsibility for their feelings on someone else.

 

Relying on others to make us feel a certain way often leads to disappointment and furstration. For example, even if the husband does the dishes, the wife may criticize his efforts and redo them, leaving both parties frustrated. This dynamic prevents genuine connection and satisfaction, highlighting the need for individuals to take responsibility for their own happiness rather than seeking control over others. 

https://theschoolofcourage.com/book-now