November 15, 2024 • 56 mins
As we dig deeper into Terri's despair concerning the election results, Traci focuses on the importance of practicing happiness. She shows Terri her happiness journal, and shares the 5 tabs: happy memories, affirmations, goals, gratitude, and inspirational quotes. At one point, Terri's inner voice tells her to give up and quit because she's never going to do it. At this point, Terri makes a huge, emotional breakthrough...and connects some of her behaviors to her mother. By the end of the session, Terri vows to not live life like her mother, and finds herself much less "triggered" by Donald Trump than when she arrived.
KEY POINTS:
- Traci shares her happy journal with Terri.
-Traci shares several stories about other clients who have had similar issues.
-Terri makes the connection that her negativity comes from her mother.
-As Traci "tests" Terri, she finds she's becoming less triggered by "Trump" mentions.
-Traci reminds Terri that her mother is "squatting" in her mind, and it's time to evict her.
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Traci Kanaan (00:04):
Music, none of what happens on this podcast is
planned in advance. My guests,my clients, are real people with
incredible stories. They aregraciously sharing their
hypnosis session and theirhealing journey with you, the
listener, you will experiencefirsthand, their highs, their
(00:26):
lows, and their laps.
Terri (00:30):
I think a lot of my fear is that it's not going to swing
back, that we're going to becomea dictatorship, that we're all
going to have to learn to speakRussian.
Traci Kanaan (00:38):
And you know, it's so crazy you watch Fox News,
they're afraid of the samething. We're all afraid of the
same thing.
Terri (00:47):
Why would Fox News be afraid of that?
Traci Kanaan (00:50):
Because how they moved Kamala into the role of
running for president withoutbeing nominated by other by
without going through thedemocratic process, as often you
think the Russians did that No.Russians had nothing to do with
that. That was an internalDemocrat thing, that when Biden
(01:12):
was not fit to run, they shouldhave opened it up to all the
Democrats to put their name inthe ring to run for president,
but they would have lost alltheir funding. So rather than go
through the right process andhave the best Democrat, they
just bumped Kamala up becauseher name was already on the
ticket, and that's whatpreserved all that money. Okay,
(01:39):
so there it's just amazing thatthe fear on both sides, you
know, nobody wants adictatorship. Dark Arts said the
Liberals are pushing for adictatorship because they just
bumped Kamala up without goingthrough the proper process. Oh,
I see what you're saying. Yeah,yeah. And just as you know, the
Dark Arts on the liberal side ofthings that will drop, you know,
(02:01):
he's a dictator. He's going totell us he's going to get rid
of, you know, the government and
Terri (02:08):
white and a Christian, you don't get to live in this
country.
Traci Kanaan (02:14):
So that's, again, more of the dark art stuff is
this? Is this helpful a littlebit
Terri (02:24):
some, but my brain is still, how are you going to deal
with this for the next fouryears? Till that pendulum swings
back?
Traci Kanaan (02:36):
So first of all, finding you're happy. I so let's
get back to the triggers. Idefinitely want to get more on
the triggers with you, and sothat you can find your happy
place. And then the rest of itis just kind of like at, you
(02:59):
know, watching the news, takinga headline and just analyzing
it. Is it root? Is it factual?Or someone trying to project
their opinion on me? And I thinkthat's and maybe we'll go
through both, you know, websiteson and go through different
(03:20):
headlines and see which is factand which is opinion that's
being flagged as fact. Okay, allright, so you were at a 10 when
we were going through. I wish Icould go back. Politics didn't
matter. I never voted, neverpaid attention. My ex husband
(03:41):
left me on the curb. He was aRepublican. I just did what he
wanted. I have this fear. Ican't believe that turned out
this way. I can't believe whathe's going to do to the country.
I can't believe what thesepeople he's going to them who
voted for him? I have fear forthe others. Women can't have an
(04:05):
abortion. Make it illegal to bea trans person, FEMA, unless
you're extremely wealthy, you'regoing to be screwed. People
don't understand what it's goingto do to them, and they don't
see it. I saw the story about awoman who didn't get out of bed
for two days, the comedianswon't be able to speak because
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he'll become like a dictator.He's just going to give Ukraine
to Putin. I wish I could go backto the time when politics didn't
matter. I never voted, neverpaid attention. I don't watch
the normal news. Now, floodshootings, because I'm an
empath, it directly affects me.There's nothing I can do. I
(04:47):
can't fix it. I can't change it.How is this feeling? Now, from
one to 10 or zero to 10, I. Icould tell it's come down a
little bit. Yeah, we're stillnot, still up there, but it's
not, it
Terri (05:07):
makes sense, but I don't get how it's really gonna fix me
to where, okay, I'm not affectedby it anymore, and I can get
back to just being happy. Okay,
Traci Kanaan (05:22):
all right, yeah, I'm just not going to be happy
about this. I'm just
Terri (05:28):
not going to be happy about this. I don't like the
guy, I don't like the guy,
Traci Kanaan (05:33):
I don't like my ex husband, I don't like my ex
husband, and they remind me ofeach other. Remind me of each
other. This was a double whammyin that respect, double whammy
in that respect. And I gotta letit go.
Terri (05:44):
I gotta let it go. I
Traci Kanaan (05:46):
can't fix it,
Terri (05:46):
I can't fix it, I
Traci Kanaan (05:47):
can't change it, I
Terri (05:48):
can't change it. I
Traci Kanaan (05:49):
can only change how I react to it. I
Terri (05:51):
can only change how I react to it.
Traci Kanaan (05:57):
How do I want to react to that?
Terri (05:59):
How do I want to react to that.
Traci Kanaan (06:02):
Do I want to be happy anyway?
Terri (06:04):
I want to be happy anyway because I have a great life.
Because I have a great life,
Traci Kanaan (06:09):
I have a great man, great man. I don't worry.
Financially, I'm
Terri (06:14):
fine. Financially I'm fine.
Traci Kanaan (06:16):
I have income generating properties.
Terri (06:18):
I have income generating properties. I don't have to
work, I don't have to work.
Traci Kanaan (06:23):
Or do I just want to be mad about an election? Say
it again. Do I just want to bemad about this I
Terri (06:29):
just want to be mad about this election?
Traci Kanaan (06:32):
Do I want to focus on what I have that's amazing? I
want to focus on what I havethat is amazing? Or do I want to
be crippled by what I can'tcontrol? Or do I want to be
crippled by what I can control?The choice is
Terri (06:45):
mine. The choice is mine.
Traci Kanaan (06:50):
I can choose to focus on the happy. I can choose
to focus on the happy. I canchoose to focus on the politics.
I can choose to focus on thepolitics, or I can just choose
to be Snoop Dogg and say Life'stoo short.
Terri (07:07):
I can just be, what do you say Life's too short and not
be so not be stoned.
Traci Kanaan (07:15):
I can let it go.
Terri (07:16):
I can let it go.
Traci Kanaan (07:17):
I can focus on what I have. I can focus on what
I have. I can let the rest go. Ican let the rest go and it's
okay and it's okay, it's safe,it's safe. We got through four
years of Trump already. Gotthree years. Four years of Trump
already it passed. It passed. Itpassed like a kidney stone.
Passed like a kidney stone, butit passed, but it passed, and
(07:39):
we're okay and we're okay. Maybewe'll be okay this time too
maybe we'll be okay this timetoo good. Take a nice, deep
breath in, grab your wrist, blowit away, and say Peace. Peace.
You.
Terri (08:05):
So it's there right now, is that all makes a lot of
sense, and yet, I don't know,like when I saw the golf cart
with the Trump one and the otherday, when I saw my neighbor
who's come out to her mailbox,is like, I have no control over
(08:27):
that anger is just right thereright now. I don't have a chance
to even stop and think orrationalize it or put it in a
kind of context. It's just, it,mean, it's like, like, somebody
sticking me with a sharp stick.You're gonna go, how fucking
(08:49):
hurts. You're not gonna go. Youknow what? That's really not
comfortable. Don't do thatagain. You're my immediate
reaction is, how that hurts.Stop it. How do I not have that
immediate reaction was that'swhat just seems to be there,
just right under the surface. Ican do all this up here, but
(09:12):
then I see a Trump sign, orsomebody says something, and I'm
right there.
Traci Kanaan (09:18):
Okay, go ahead and close your eyes. What would you
like to tell the person withthat Trump flag?
Terri (09:24):
You're a fucking idiot.
Traci Kanaan (09:26):
You're a fucking idiot. What else
Terri (09:35):
does it turn any you just don't realize what you've done
to yourself, to this country andto millions of other people. You
just don't know what you've doneto everybody. You just hear a
fucking idiot.
Traci Kanaan (09:48):
Okay, go ahead and if you can trade places with
that person with the Trump flag.You.
How do you think they wouldanswer
Terri (10:05):
that? I'm the idiot, I'm stupid, you know, I'm gullible.
I believed all that little shakeColin was saying. She's a liar.
That's what they would say.Okay,
Traci Kanaan (10:19):
what would you say back to them,
Terri (10:26):
you're a fucking idiot.
Traci Kanaan (10:30):
Okay, you're a fucking idiot. Why are they a
fucking idiot? Because
Terri (10:34):
they believe, as con artists, they believe what he
says, okay,
Traci Kanaan (10:40):
believe a con artist. All right, and what is,
what do they say back to you?
Unknown (10:48):
I don't know.
Traci Kanaan (10:52):
Could they say the same to you that that they think
she's a con artist?
Terri (11:06):
I don't know. I can't wrap my head around that. I want
to say, Did you? Did you? Didyou really listen to her? Have
you ever really listened toTrump with his word salads? And
he talks out of all this stuff,and none of it makes any sense.
He doesn't even complete asentence. It's just gimrish when
(11:28):
she talked, it makes sense, youcould follow what she was
saying.
Traci Kanaan (11:34):
You resonated. You resonated with her. Whereas
Trump is your second husband?
Terri (11:49):
Yeah, because I said same thing about him. He was fucking
stupid.
Traci Kanaan (11:54):
He's a fucking idiot. Yeah, and
Terri (11:57):
he let me go. Mm, hmm.
Traci Kanaan (12:15):
Can you find a little bit of compassion for the
person with the Trump flag, andjust feel for them. And you
don't know where they've been intheir life that brought them to
that conclusion, but send them alittle bit of love.
Terri (12:41):
I can't it just doesn't even seem to be in my realm of
puzzle. How
Traci Kanaan (12:51):
can you ever
Terri (12:54):
that stupid? How
Traci Kanaan (12:55):
can you ever fight the hate if you're still in a
hateful spot yourself.
And so I find that I have to dothis. I did a blog last week on
my asshole neighbors, and if youneed tissues, please help
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yourself. And I don'tunderstand, I'm at the same
place where you are. You're afucking idiot. My asshole
neighbors, they're doingterrible things, saying terrible
things about my husband and I, Ijust I'm to the same place.
You're a fucking idiot. Ifinally got to a point said, I
(13:39):
don't know how you got to be inthe place in your life that you
are, but I'm going to send youlove and light and compassion,
and I hope whatever's going onin your world that brought you
to that point resolves itself sothat you can be a force for good
(13:59):
instead of this negative spot inmy life.
Terri (14:03):
See, I can completely understand that because you told
me what was happening, what wasgoing on. I'm like, why would
anybody think Doug and Tracy arenot the best people in the
world? They have their their thebest interest for everybody
else. How can anybody even seethem as being horrible people? I
(14:26):
just I can't. I got it. I can'twrap my head around
Traci Kanaan (14:30):
so. So we've wrapped it up with these people
that they have their own agenda,and we're in the way of it, and
their agenda is to sit in theirshit and stew and be miserable
and be angry and cause miseryfor everybody else, and at that
point, I would just have to say,You know what? That's all yours.
(14:52):
I'm not going to let your shitenter my world. And same with
these people that whatever'sgoing on in their lives that
made them vote the way. Theyvoted that's going on in their
head, and you don't need to be apart of that in any way, shape
or form. You can still be yourhappy self and live your life
(15:14):
and donate to causes, volunteerfor causes that you believe in.
None of that changes.
You know, I can spend my energyfighting these people, or I can
just do what I do, best, plan,golf cart, parades and happiness
(15:38):
for everybody. Yeah, and samewith, with this election, you
know, there's people that arestill I think even in her
acceptance speech, it wasbeautiful, because just just
(15:58):
because we lost doesn't mean westop fighting. Yeah, you know,
and there, there was that hopethat there's, there's still
things that I think, you know,both parties represent, and it's
just a matter of gettingeverybody together on the same
page and figuring out that thenews is actively working to
(16:21):
divide this country. Yeah,
Terri (16:25):
you know everybody, I've heard several people say, we're
going to be okay, we're going tobe okay. We'll get through this.
We've gotten through others.We'll get through this. You
Traci Kanaan (16:43):
so I definitely think that you know when you see
the Trump flag, just send them alittle love and just, I hope you
see it. I hope you see what Isee in this country. I
Terri (17:06):
It sounds good, but there's part of me that just
doesn't believe it. You know,
Traci Kanaan (17:14):
it takes time and it takes doing. So there's some
things that you can do to groundyourself.
Terri (17:20):
There's no magic wand you can wave over me, and I go out
of here and I wish and I notstop being angry so, because I
seem to be angry abouteverything. So practicing
Traci Kanaan (17:33):
happy, okay, people say, Well, when I get
happy, I'll know when it is, butthen they don't do anything to
get there. Yeah. So practicinghappy is something that it's an
everyday thing, and there'sthings that you can do to to
practice that and reinforce thehappy every day. One of the
(17:55):
things that I do, I hope Ibrought it. I have a happy
journal.
Terri (17:59):
You know, I did one of your classes, and we talked
about that, and I've had one inthe past, but I don't have one
right now. You know gratitude, Icalled it a gratitude journal,
yeah,
Traci Kanaan (18:11):
well, the happy the happy journal takes it a
step further, okay, takes itactually seven steps further.
Sorry, as I go off camera. Oh,yes, of course, I have mine in
purple unicorn color, because Ido this for a living. So with
the happy journal, I have minedivided into five tabs so I have
(18:34):
happy memories. Okay, okay, andI just wrote a sentence, okay.
It doesn't have to be a wholelong memory. Okay, for me
smelling fresh ground or freshbrewed coffee, that's my happy.
(18:57):
I made gluten dairy and soy freepretzels that were chewy like
and they tasted good because Ican't do the auntie hands
anymore. So I was like, I'mgonna find me a pretzel that I
can eat. And so I found thisrecipe, and it's amazing. I'm
gonna make them tonight,actually. Let's see here,
(19:22):
feeling the best I felt in along time I put down I used to
do children's plays as a kid,and I used to play piano for
him, and I got my first check atthe age of 16 for $100 playing
piano for a children's play. Sothat was a happy thing for me.
So they're just little ones, onesentence deals all natural,
(19:43):
healthy hair, no colors, nodyes. That was a happy moment
for me, because I fought with,you know, do I keep dying my
hair? Let's see back home frommy trip with my kitties on my
lap. One sentence, that's it.Yeah. I know exactly what that
feels like, affirmations anddeclarations. I'm an inspiration
(20:06):
to others. I am strong, I amcreative. Trump flags don't
bother me. I can see a Trumpflag and feel love for that
person. You may not feel itright away, but these are things
that you tell yourself andeventually your mind has to
follow, okay, okay, goals anddreams. I love a simple life
(20:31):
filled with little joys andpleasures. My thyroid antibodies
are in the normal range. Funstuff. Then I have gratitude.
You know, all about gratitude,and then gems and quotes. These
are, I pulled these off theinternet, and I love this part
(20:51):
of my morning finding. I'll justput in, like, a quote on light
bulbs and motivation, and thensee what pops up. So the secret
of a happy marriage remains asecret that was from any young
man thought that was funny. Thiswas from South Park, aren't we
(21:16):
forgetting the true meaning ofChristmas. You know, the birth
of Santa, just little quote thatmakes me laugh. Yeah, I haven't
taken my Christmas lights down.They look so nice on the
pumpkin, just but then I haveother stuff I choose to make the
rest of my life the best of mylife. Your health is an
(21:39):
investment, not an expense. Holdthe vision, trust the process. I
watched a little too much NCIS,and I put down Ziva isms. Do you
know who Ziva is? She was acharacter on the show, and she
was Israeli, and she wouldalways mix up her metaphors, and
she would go, That man is spicand spam. Just do you mind if I
(22:04):
grab a batnap? Just little weirdthings. Let's see, when there is
light, there is shadow. So then,so now I got a happy resource,
and then here I have cards thatpeople gave me, you know, thank
you. Thank you. Cards, um stufffrom Doug, you know, stuff that
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makes me happy. And so spending1530 minutes a day on this just
sets up my whole day. If youwant to get extra credit, do a
playlist on your phone of songsthat just puts you in the
greatest mood ever, no matterwhat's going on. Play those
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while you do this, okay, andhave that playlist of all the
songs when you see when peopledrive us around, I'm sorry when
Doug and I drive around in ourgolf cart, we have our playlist,
and it's all our happy songsthat we play, and it's to get us
back in our happy place. Sothese are things that you can
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do, because happiness is apractice.
Terri (23:17):
God, that's yeah, it's a practice. Yeah.
Traci Kanaan (23:21):
You know, it's like, Ah, why am I not an all
star basketball team person?Probably because I don't shoot
hoops. Same thing. Why am I nothappy? Probably because I don't
practice it. Got it. So it'shaving the discipline to sit
(23:46):
down 15 minutes and just work onwhat
Terri (23:48):
you're happy. Okay, if that's helpful, yeah, yeah.
Traci Kanaan (23:56):
So let's get back to our trump flag. What do you
experience now with the Trumpflag.
Terri (24:11):
Sadness comes up. I don't know. I don't know what that's
about. Okay, that's just whatshowed up when you said that. I
thought about the flag and Ijust get really sad. Okay,
Traci Kanaan (24:25):
hey guy with the Trump flag,
Terri (24:30):
hey guy with a Trump flag. I
Traci Kanaan (24:32):
still think you're a fucking idiot. I
Terri (24:34):
still think you're a fucking idiot. That's
Traci Kanaan (24:35):
not gonna change. That's not gonna change. Makes
me sad to see your flag. Makesme sad to see your flag, but I'm
going to send you a little loveand light.
Terri (24:46):
Send you a little love and light,
Traci Kanaan (24:48):
and hope you see what I see someday, and hope you
see what I see someday,
Terri (24:53):
and it's okay, and it's okay
Traci Kanaan (24:57):
to let it go. I'm.
Good, take a nice, deep breathin, grab your wrist, blow it
away and say, Peace. Peace.
(25:21):
Okay, what's left?
Terri (25:24):
I don't want to let it go. Oh, okay. Oh, get the fuck
out of here. This isn't working.This is not gonna work. Your ex
husband, no, my head right now.Oh, okay, what I heard, my
(25:45):
goodness, like, just, just getup and leave. This is not
working. It's not gonna help.It's not gonna go away. It's not
gonna fix anything. I
Traci Kanaan (26:03):
that is entirely your call.
Terri (26:08):
It doesn't feel like it is okay, yeah.
Traci Kanaan (26:18):
Where do you feel it in your body? Right here. So
it's a love issue. It'sdefinitely a love issue, because
where where we feel things goesto where it is most affected. So
anytime it's a love issue, it'shard. Okay, so close your eyes
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for a moment, where you feel itthere in your chest. Is it hard,
or is it soft?
Terri (26:52):
Tightness?
Traci Kanaan (26:53):
It's tight. Yeah, okay,
Terri (26:55):
just a tightness. Tightness.
Traci Kanaan (26:56):
Is it bigger? Is it little?
Terri (27:00):
It's big.
Traci Kanaan (27:01):
It's big. What color is it?
Trust your first impressions.There's no wrong answers. I
Terri (27:12):
know I've done this just you did this with people with
headaches. Multicolored becauseI just keep seeing all these
different colors, and no oneparticular color. Okay, that it
is all right, purple comes up.But if I'm surrounded with
purple, I'm wearing purple, I'msitting on purple.
Traci Kanaan (27:34):
Okay, um, what do you want to do with this? Do you
want to keep it inside, or doyou want to get rid of it? Oh, I
want to get rid of, get rid ofit. Okay, this sounds weird as
hell. Play along, pull it out.And if you can't pull it, oh,
just pull out a little piece.
Unknown (28:02):
Oh, like,
Terri (28:11):
I have a real fear of just letting this go. I don't
understand that.
Traci Kanaan (28:17):
What's the what's the reason for keeping it? I
Terri (28:26):
I don't know so I could get you to be angry. Oh, god,
Traci Kanaan (28:41):
did it come to you?
Terri (28:44):
My impostor? Oh, my God. My whole life I have said I will
never be like you, and now I'mjust like her. I'm always angry
and upset about something,something is always pissing me
off. I'm never happy. We used tosay she'll get to heaven and
(29:06):
she'll complain about it's toocold and it's too bright.
Traci Kanaan (29:17):
What an amazing realization. I
Terri (29:28):
I hated that woes so much, and I remember when she
passed away, I had laryngitisfor a year, and all of a sudden
I no longer had I realized myreason, my motivation and being
(29:52):
happy was to make her wrong, andit was to not be like her. And
now that she was gone, I. Ididn't have an excuse or reason
of motivation to really behappy. All my happiness had been
based on positiveness and alwaysseeing, you know, the best in
(30:20):
people. She saw the worst inpeople. She went on a cruise and
said it was like being inprison. Oh,
Unknown (30:33):
my God. Oh, my God.
Traci Kanaan (30:42):
Oh, uh, exponential light years right
there.
Terri (30:49):
I'm being exactly like her, exactly like her.
Traci Kanaan (30:56):
So how do you not be like her?
Terri (30:59):
Oh, she did this, lay on the couch, and that's all I want
to do is lay on the couch. Oh mygod, oh my god, oh my god. I
can't believe I've done this tomyself. I can't believe I've
turned myself into her. I
Traci Kanaan (31:23):
The good news is you realized it, now you can
change it.
Oh, God. Here, we need a freshone. I
(32:00):
I didn't even talk about thedark arts of hypnosis in our
parents.
(32:22):
I so what do we do with thisinformation? I don't know. This
is great information. Oh, Iknow. I know this is a huge
insight.
Terri (32:37):
God. Oh, my God. Little by little, piece by piece, day
by day, I have turned into her.
Traci Kanaan (33:05):
What's next?
Unknown (33:11):
I don't know.
Traci Kanaan (33:18):
Okay, she laid on the couch she
Terri (33:22):
has never happy,
Traci Kanaan (33:25):
never happy. What else
Terri (33:35):
she saw, everything as being ugly. She bought a house
on a lake, and she was at theugly end of the lake. My sister
and I were like, we didn't knowa lake had an ugly end. And I
said to her, I said, Where's theother where we bought the house?
(34:00):
And we took me over to seeing itas standard, looking at this,
you know, lake, and she goes,Yeah, but we're at the ugly end
of the lake. And to her, theother end was pretty because
they had grass all the way down.And our side, where she was, was
kind of towards it was cattailsand this big dead tree that had
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birds and stuff in it. And tome, it was the pretty end of the
lake. And to her, was the uglyland. And I go, let me see your
clock. Can I look through yourglasses? What are you? What do
you what? What are you lookingthrough that you're at the ugly
end of the lake. I
Traci Kanaan (34:48):
Good. So the list I have she's standing on the
couch. Never happy. Saweverything is ugly. I.
So what can you do differently?
(35:12):
She chose negativity. Oh yes,yes, right, so you can choose
positivity and grow. Gratitude.You can choose happiness,
(35:34):
and you can see everything isthe pretty side of the lake.
Yeah, I
that's huge. How is that feelingin your chest now it's
Terri (36:06):
better, okay, it was like something that I it was almost
like when I was wanting to justget up and leave before I
discovered this. I
Traci Kanaan (36:25):
is whatever still there. You want to keep it, or
you want to get rid of it? Okay,perfect. Let's pull it out.
Okay, pull it out. Don't worry,I'll clean up when you're done.
Okay, okay, pull it out. Let'sget rid of all of that, all that
negativity, all that ugly sideof the lake sitting on the couch
(36:47):
bitching, heaven isn't bright,too bright, too shiny. Get rid
of all of that negativity, allthat hate. I Okay, when you
think you got it, dig in alittle more. We don't want any
piece of that left.
(37:19):
Good. How does that feel better,better. Yeah, good. All right. I
want you to hold out your hand.I want, let's put a something in
there. It can be a shape. It canbe it can be a donkey. It can be
(37:40):
whatever shape you want it tobe, dollar signs, pyramid,
sphere or what do you like? Anorb. An orb, perfect. Yeah.
Okay, so in that orb, I want youto put everything that you do
want, okay, everything that youdo want? Okay, and let's start
(38:01):
with what you already got. Youalready got a great guy. Yes,
got a beautiful house. Yes, yougot some rental properties, yes,
okay, you got a great life. Yes,I do. Okay. So put that in that
orb. What color is it now?Purple. Purple, perfect. So in
that purple orb, I want you toput everything that you want
(38:24):
this world to be okay. Put ineverything that you loved about
Kamala Harris, put everything inthere your values, everything
that you want it to be thatwould make this world that much
more amazing.
Terri (38:41):
One simple thing. People would just do what you want to
do. You don't want to have anabortion. Don't have one. If you
don't want to be married to agay person, don't be married to
a gay person. You want to go tochurch. Go to church, but don't
tell me, I have to go to church.So put free will in there. Free
will, yes, free will, purplefree will, free will, okay,
Traci Kanaan (39:04):
got it all right. Now what we're going to do,
we're going to start to spinthat orb. Okay, that purple orb.
Go ahead. You're going to needboth hands for this. Go ahead
and spin that orb. Okay, andkeep adding free will, love,
peace, peace. Harmony, Harmonygratitude, gratitude. Wonderful
man,
Terri (39:25):
wonderful man, wonderful
Traci Kanaan (39:26):
house, wonderful house, wonderful life, wonderful
life, rental properties, rentalproperties, all the positive
things you can put in there.Calm, serenity, yes, relaxed,
peace, love, freedom to do whatI want to do. Yes, put it all in
there. Okay, and notice how itgrows in size the more you spin
(39:46):
it, yeah, even, like your handsdown, it's like twice as big as
it was. Yeah, go ahead. Keepspinning. Keep spinning. Keep
spinning. Keep spinning. It'samazing. More purple, more
purple. And you know what?Sometimes you can add another
color to it, pink, pink. Okay,glitter in my world makes
everything better. So you canadd glitter if you want. You can
add neon colors. You can addwhatever you want to make that
(40:09):
purple orb more amazing inside.Are you ready? Look how much
bigger I got already. Keepadding that love. All right.
Now, when you're ready, takethat orb and put it right in
your heart and feel that freewill, all that amazingness, the
gratitude, the love and amazinglife, feel that all right there
(40:35):
and let that seep into all theplaces where your mother was let
that fill your soul.
Notice how much better thatfeels. Yes, and what we're going
(40:57):
to do now is create an anchorand a trigger. Okay, so the
anchor in the trigger. What'sone word that you could give to
that feeling?
Terri (41:14):
God, I can't even think of a word, because there's so
many.
Traci Kanaan (41:19):
We could do. Free will. We could do hope,
satisfaction, satisfaction,perfect. Go ahead and put your
hands over your heart and justthink satisfaction, and let all
those feelings that you justexperienced come right through
you. I'm satisfied,
Terri (41:39):
grateful, happy,
Traci Kanaan (41:41):
satisfied, grateful and happy. Hold your
hands there and just run it likea tape recorder. Satisfied,
grateful and happy, satisfiedand happy, satisfied grateful
and happy, satisfied, gratefuland happy. Do this as many times
in the next few seconds thatanytime you hold your hands like
this, these feelingsautomatically come back to you.
Terri (42:03):
Satisfying, grateful and happy. Satisfied, grateful and
happy.
Traci Kanaan (42:22):
Good satisfied grateful and happy, satisfied
grateful and happy, satisfiedgrateful and happy, satisfied
grateful and happy, satisfiedgrateful and happy.
Terri (42:35):
Oh, what's interesting is this little voice is going but
it's easier to be pissed off andangry,
Traci Kanaan (42:41):
satisfy grateful and happy. Little Voice for
reminding me of that.
Terri (42:45):
Thank you little voice reminding me Shut the fuck up.
Shut the fuck
satisfying. Grateful andgrateful and happy. Satisfying,
grateful and happy.
Traci Kanaan (43:05):
Good now see yourself living and satisfied,
grateful and happy the next 24hours. What's different?
Terri (43:19):
Again? Just appreciate all the things that I have.
Traci Kanaan (43:26):
Let's try this. I want you to do it, satisfied,
grateful and happy. Do a bubblearound you
Terri (43:34):
like a shield, okay? Satisfied, grateful and happy.
It's a shield. Yeah? It's a goodbubble around me. I mean, this
bubble of satisfied, gratefuland happy. Okay,
Traci Kanaan (43:46):
let me know when you're in that bubble and like
nothing can get to you. Okay,oh, let's test it. Okay,
Terri (43:55):
satisfied, grateful and happy. I'm surrounded with
satisfied, grateful and happy.Well, you just remember when I
would get my two week leave awayfrom my mother, and on the way
home, I would say I'm 10 foottall and bulletproof, and you
(44:15):
know, she cannot get to me, andit would last me about 24 hours,
and I'd be going screaming andangry and upset.
Traci Kanaan (44:24):
Okay, you said your mom passed away, right?
Yeah, okay, but
Terri (44:29):
she would get would even though I would say that, and I
would go home with thatprotection 10 feet tall and
bulletproof. Within a day ortwo, I'd be an inch tall and
Okay,
Traci Kanaan (44:44):
so right there. Hey mom,
Terri (44:47):
hey mom,
Traci Kanaan (44:48):
you're still alive in my thought, you're
Terri (44:50):
still alive in my thoughts.
Traci Kanaan (44:53):
You're not paying rent,
Terri (44:55):
you're not paying rent,
Traci Kanaan (44:56):
you're squatting for squatting. You. Get the fuck
out. Get the fuck out. I'mevicting you. I'm evicting you.
You are ruining my happy place.You're
Terri (45:06):
ruining my happy place.
Traci Kanaan (45:08):
And you got to go. And you got to go, I'm going to
keep the best of you, if therewas any best, yeah, all right,
then we're going to get rid ofthe rest of you. Make you rid of
the rest of you. Yeah, I'm tiredof you squatting,
Terri (45:22):
tired of you squatting.
Traci Kanaan (45:23):
No more, no more. I'm done. Out. You go out. You
go along with my best friends,along with my best friend that
enabled the other squatter, thatenabled the other squatter,
exactly, not having thisanymore. No more squatters, no
more squatters. Onlysatisfaction, grateful and
happy. Holy satisfaction,grateful and happy, I let you
go. I let you go. Good. Take anice, deep breath in, grab your
(45:48):
wrist, blow it away and sayPeace. Peace.
(46:10):
What's left?
Terri (46:15):
Can I really do this? I up.
Traci Kanaan (46:30):
You can you?
What came up?
Terri (46:53):
Actually, nothing's coming up.
Traci Kanaan (46:58):
That's good, yeah,
Terri (47:01):
you'll see on the team. Empty
Traci Kanaan (47:05):
in a good way, I hope, or Yeah, yeah, or
differently full,
Terri (47:14):
differently full. I
(47:35):
I mean, it's now. I mean, I canjust say I've been being my
mother, and I want to get backto being Terry,
Traci Kanaan (47:46):
awesome so you have satisfied, grateful and
happy that you can take withyou. I'm going to show you a
couple other techniques that youmight be able to use if you get
triggered down the road, okay,one of them is this,
(48:15):
okay. You want to add to it, I'msafe. I'm going to be okay. I'm
going to be okay. I'm gonna beTerry. I'm gonna be Terry. It's
okay to be Terry. It's okay tobe Terry. Terry's happy.
Terri (48:28):
Terry is happy. It's good to be Terry. It's
Traci Kanaan (48:31):
good to be Terry. Terry's powerful, yep. Another
thing you can do is this, I it.Okay. This might be harder. If
you have carpal tunnel, justtap. You can snap half okay, my
(48:52):
left hand is kind of shot, butjust tap, yeah, okay. And then
another thing you can do, I'mgoing to use your water as an
example. Okay, somebody startstalking politics. You're like,
Okay, this is bilateralmovement, okay, it makes the
(49:13):
nerve impulses go back and forthacross your brain and all that
political stuff can't get in,okay? Just pass it back. And
then I learned this from anothertherapist, and I think it's
funny, fuck, fuck,
(49:34):
I'm gonna credit Melissa tears,who's another therapist. Fuck,
fuck, actually, another hip isto give me that, but that's
something that you can do toscramble the stuff coming at
you. So those are good self selfsoothing techniques that you can
use so grounding yourself andeven starting your day
(49:56):
satisfied, grateful and happyand. Can, you know, practicing
happy. I got a great guy, got abeautiful house. I'm all right.
It's gonna be okay. Everything
Terri (50:10):
that I want, yeah,
Traci Kanaan (50:12):
I have everything that I want. It's gonna be okay.
I
taking a couple minutes to justreconnect with all the goodness
in your life, and then the happyjournal, spending 15 to 30
(50:36):
minutes a day will make Yeah, animprovement. Yes,
how are you feeling now?
Terri (50:53):
Better. Yeah, all right, that's good. I feel like I've
gotten to the source of all myaches and pains and illnesses
and depression and sadness andall that stuff. I was just being
my mother.
Traci Kanaan (51:19):
She could go. Thanks mom. Thanks mom for
showing me who I don't want tobe.
Terri (51:25):
For showing me who I don't want to be.
Traci Kanaan (51:29):
Thanks for the lesson. Thanks for the lesson. I
don't need to keep it anymore.
Terri (51:34):
I don't need to keep it anymore.
Traci Kanaan (51:35):
I let it go. I
Terri (51:36):
let it go.
Traci Kanaan (51:37):
I find happy Terry. I find happy Terry. Good.
Take a nice, deep breath in,grab your wrist, roll it away,
and say, Peace,
Terri (51:46):
peace, peace.
Traci Kanaan (51:51):
The tapping is another thing you can do. Okay,
when you find yourself getting Ido this a lot, yeah, and then
sometimes I just do it in myhead. I just imagine myself
tapping in those places because,you know someone you can't be
mid conversation. Sorry, you'rean asshole. I mean, you can, but
it's just not just like, really,you know what? I just do that my
(52:16):
head. Yeah,
Terri (52:20):
actually remember the tapping thing. I mean, in one of
the book clubs groups that I wasin, I think Marcia, Marcia and
Jules, she brought it into thegroup, the tapping, yeah, yeah.
And there's
Traci Kanaan (52:35):
all kinds of I keep mine very simple because I
can't remember all that shit.But there's all different things
you can do and tap. You know,there's different ways to do it.
But this particular one I gotfrom Robert Smith, even
Terri (52:52):
in the Millionaire Mind, I have a Millionaire Mind, I
have a Millionaire Mind, I amsuccessful.
Traci Kanaan (52:59):
Yeah, yeah, yeah. So it's choosing the thoughts.
Who Do You Want to Be
Good work today? You
(53:24):
a good work today. That's aworkout in itself. Yeah. All
right, let me test my work. Guywith the Trump flag comes by.
What happens?
Terri (53:48):
Well, now he's an idiot, not just not a fucking idiot.
Traci Kanaan (53:52):
That's progress. That's progress.
Terri (54:02):
Yeah, yeah, I feel sorry for you, because you have no
idea what you've done.
Traci Kanaan (54:10):
Does that feel like a better place to be in
instead of where you were whenyou saw Yeah, you know, hoping
they come around is a differentplace than Yeah, you fucking
idiot. Yeah.
(54:37):
Okay, good work. We'll go aheadand wrap this one up, if you
need to come back for a secondsession. Okay, you got it?
Because I know this one wasdeep, yeah, this one went way,
(54:59):
like even, way. Beyond a secondhusband, this one went way, way,
way deep, but you did great.Thank you. You're welcome. All
right. Thank you for tuning into the hilarious hypnotist and
(55:23):
Terry's hope is that you gotsome benefit out of this mine as
well. I think the big takeawayhere is that the issues that you
may have with a disappointmentin the election may actually go
deeper back than you think.Yeah, that it's not just a Trump
thing. It's the fact that maybeTrump reminds you of someone in
(55:43):
your past, in this case,possibly two people, yeah, yeah.
And it just it goes way deeper,and getting to the root of those
will help you make peace withthis particular election, and
then also having the This tooshall pass it. It'll pass like a
kidney stone for some but it'llpass so thank you so much for
(56:07):
tuning in.
Terri (56:19):
Tell me more about this dark
Traci Kanaan (56:22):
Oh, the dark arts, yeah, hypnosis, yes, yes. Okay,
so the dark arts of hypnosis,there's hypnosis is a great way
to persuade people. And the darkarts of hypnosis were actually,
since everything is hypnosis,it's there's good trances and
bad trances. And advertisers areconstantly competing to get you
(56:43):
in their trance, to buy theirproduct, to call call their
number, to engage in somebehavior. Do.
Music, none of what happens on this podcast is
planned in advance. My guests,my clients, are real people with
incredible stories. They aregraciously sharing their
hypnosis session and theirhealing journey with you, the
listener, you will experiencefirsthand, their highs, their
(00:26):
lows, and their laps.
Terri (00:30):
I think a lot of my fear is that it's not going to swing
back, that we're going to becomea dictatorship, that we're all
going to have to learn to speakRussian.
Traci Kanaan (00:38):
And you know, it's so crazy you watch Fox News,
they're afraid of the samething. We're all afraid of the
same thing.
Terri (00:47):
Why would Fox News be afraid of that?
Traci Kanaan (00:50):
Because how they moved Kamala into the role of
running for president withoutbeing nominated by other by
without going through thedemocratic process, as often you
think the Russians did that No.Russians had nothing to do with
that. That was an internalDemocrat thing, that when Biden
(01:12):
was not fit to run, they shouldhave opened it up to all the
Democrats to put their name inthe ring to run for president,
but they would have lost alltheir funding. So rather than go
through the right process andhave the best Democrat, they
just bumped Kamala up becauseher name was already on the
ticket, and that's whatpreserved all that money. Okay,
(01:39):
so there it's just amazing thatthe fear on both sides, you
know, nobody wants adictatorship. Dark Arts said the
Liberals are pushing for adictatorship because they just
bumped Kamala up without goingthrough the proper process. Oh,
I see what you're saying. Yeah,yeah. And just as you know, the
Dark Arts on the liberal side ofthings that will drop, you know,
(02:01):
he's a dictator. He's going totell us he's going to get rid
of, you know, the government and
Terri (02:08):
white and a Christian, you don't get to live in this
country.
Traci Kanaan (02:14):
So that's, again, more of the dark art stuff is
this? Is this helpful a littlebit
Terri (02:24):
some, but my brain is still, how are you going to deal
with this for the next fouryears? Till that pendulum swings
back?
Traci Kanaan (02:36):
So first of all, finding you're happy. I so let's
get back to the triggers. Idefinitely want to get more on
the triggers with you, and sothat you can find your happy
place. And then the rest of itis just kind of like at, you
(02:59):
know, watching the news, takinga headline and just analyzing
it. Is it root? Is it factual?Or someone trying to project
their opinion on me? And I thinkthat's and maybe we'll go
through both, you know, websiteson and go through different
(03:20):
headlines and see which is factand which is opinion that's
being flagged as fact. Okay, allright, so you were at a 10 when
we were going through. I wish Icould go back. Politics didn't
matter. I never voted, neverpaid attention. My ex husband
(03:41):
left me on the curb. He was aRepublican. I just did what he
wanted. I have this fear. Ican't believe that turned out
this way. I can't believe whathe's going to do to the country.
I can't believe what thesepeople he's going to them who
voted for him? I have fear forthe others. Women can't have an
(04:05):
abortion. Make it illegal to bea trans person, FEMA, unless
you're extremely wealthy, you'regoing to be screwed. People
don't understand what it's goingto do to them, and they don't
see it. I saw the story about awoman who didn't get out of bed
for two days, the comedianswon't be able to speak because
(04:25):
he'll become like a dictator.He's just going to give Ukraine
to Putin. I wish I could go backto the time when politics didn't
matter. I never voted, neverpaid attention. I don't watch
the normal news. Now, floodshootings, because I'm an
empath, it directly affects me.There's nothing I can do. I
(04:47):
can't fix it. I can't change it.How is this feeling? Now, from
one to 10 or zero to 10, I. Icould tell it's come down a
little bit. Yeah, we're stillnot, still up there, but it's
not, it
Terri (05:07):
makes sense, but I don't get how it's really gonna fix me
to where, okay, I'm not affectedby it anymore, and I can get
back to just being happy. Okay,
Traci Kanaan (05:22):
all right, yeah, I'm just not going to be happy
about this. I'm just
Terri (05:28):
not going to be happy about this. I don't like the
guy, I don't like the guy,
Traci Kanaan (05:33):
I don't like my ex husband, I don't like my ex
husband, and they remind me ofeach other. Remind me of each
other. This was a double whammyin that respect, double whammy
in that respect. And I gotta letit go.
Terri (05:44):
I gotta let it go. I
Traci Kanaan (05:46):
can't fix it,
Terri (05:46):
I can't fix it, I
Traci Kanaan (05:47):
can't change it, I
Terri (05:48):
can't change it. I
Traci Kanaan (05:49):
can only change how I react to it. I
Terri (05:51):
can only change how I react to it.
Traci Kanaan (05:57):
How do I want to react to that?
Terri (05:59):
How do I want to react to that.
Traci Kanaan (06:02):
Do I want to be happy anyway?
Terri (06:04):
I want to be happy anyway because I have a great life.
Because I have a great life,
Traci Kanaan (06:09):
I have a great man, great man. I don't worry.
Financially, I'm
Terri (06:14):
fine. Financially I'm fine.
Traci Kanaan (06:16):
I have income generating properties.
Terri (06:18):
I have income generating properties. I don't have to
work, I don't have to work.
Traci Kanaan (06:23):
Or do I just want to be mad about an election? Say
it again. Do I just want to bemad about this I
Terri (06:29):
just want to be mad about this election?
Traci Kanaan (06:32):
Do I want to focus on what I have that's amazing? I
want to focus on what I havethat is amazing? Or do I want to
be crippled by what I can'tcontrol? Or do I want to be
crippled by what I can control?The choice is
Terri (06:45):
mine. The choice is mine.
Traci Kanaan (06:50):
I can choose to focus on the happy. I can choose
to focus on the happy. I canchoose to focus on the politics.
I can choose to focus on thepolitics, or I can just choose
to be Snoop Dogg and say Life'stoo short.
Terri (07:07):
I can just be, what do you say Life's too short and not
be so not be stoned.
Traci Kanaan (07:15):
I can let it go.
Terri (07:16):
I can let it go.
Traci Kanaan (07:17):
I can focus on what I have. I can focus on what
I have. I can let the rest go. Ican let the rest go and it's
okay and it's okay, it's safe,it's safe. We got through four
years of Trump already. Gotthree years. Four years of Trump
already it passed. It passed. Itpassed like a kidney stone.
Passed like a kidney stone, butit passed, but it passed, and
(07:39):
we're okay and we're okay. Maybewe'll be okay this time too
maybe we'll be okay this timetoo good. Take a nice, deep
breath in, grab your wrist, blowit away, and say Peace. Peace.
You.
Terri (08:05):
So it's there right now, is that all makes a lot of
sense, and yet, I don't know,like when I saw the golf cart
with the Trump one and the otherday, when I saw my neighbor
who's come out to her mailbox,is like, I have no control over
(08:27):
that anger is just right thereright now. I don't have a chance
to even stop and think orrationalize it or put it in a
kind of context. It's just, it,mean, it's like, like, somebody
sticking me with a sharp stick.You're gonna go, how fucking
(08:49):
hurts. You're not gonna go. Youknow what? That's really not
comfortable. Don't do thatagain. You're my immediate
reaction is, how that hurts.Stop it. How do I not have that
immediate reaction was that'swhat just seems to be there,
just right under the surface. Ican do all this up here, but
(09:12):
then I see a Trump sign, orsomebody says something, and I'm
right there.
Traci Kanaan (09:18):
Okay, go ahead and close your eyes. What would you
like to tell the person withthat Trump flag?
Terri (09:24):
You're a fucking idiot.
Traci Kanaan (09:26):
You're a fucking idiot. What else
Terri (09:35):
does it turn any you just don't realize what you've done
to yourself, to this country andto millions of other people. You
just don't know what you've doneto everybody. You just hear a
fucking idiot.
Traci Kanaan (09:48):
Okay, go ahead and if you can trade places with
that person with the Trump flag.You.
How do you think they wouldanswer
Terri (10:05):
that? I'm the idiot, I'm stupid, you know, I'm gullible.
I believed all that little shakeColin was saying. She's a liar.
That's what they would say.Okay,
Traci Kanaan (10:19):
what would you say back to them,
Terri (10:26):
you're a fucking idiot.
Traci Kanaan (10:30):
Okay, you're a fucking idiot. Why are they a
fucking idiot? Because
Terri (10:34):
they believe, as con artists, they believe what he
says, okay,
Traci Kanaan (10:40):
believe a con artist. All right, and what is,
what do they say back to you?
Unknown (10:48):
I don't know.
Traci Kanaan (10:52):
Could they say the same to you that that they think
she's a con artist?
Terri (11:06):
I don't know. I can't wrap my head around that. I want
to say, Did you? Did you? Didyou really listen to her? Have
you ever really listened toTrump with his word salads? And
he talks out of all this stuff,and none of it makes any sense.
He doesn't even complete asentence. It's just gimrish when
(11:28):
she talked, it makes sense, youcould follow what she was
saying.
Traci Kanaan (11:34):
You resonated. You resonated with her. Whereas
Trump is your second husband?
Terri (11:49):
Yeah, because I said same thing about him. He was fucking
stupid.
Traci Kanaan (11:54):
He's a fucking idiot. Yeah, and
Terri (11:57):
he let me go. Mm, hmm.
Traci Kanaan (12:15):
Can you find a little bit of compassion for the
person with the Trump flag, andjust feel for them. And you
don't know where they've been intheir life that brought them to
that conclusion, but send them alittle bit of love.
Terri (12:41):
I can't it just doesn't even seem to be in my realm of
puzzle. How
Traci Kanaan (12:51):
can you ever
Terri (12:54):
that stupid? How
Traci Kanaan (12:55):
can you ever fight the hate if you're still in a
hateful spot yourself.
And so I find that I have to dothis. I did a blog last week on
my asshole neighbors, and if youneed tissues, please help
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yourself. And I don'tunderstand, I'm at the same
place where you are. You're afucking idiot. My asshole
neighbors, they're doingterrible things, saying terrible
things about my husband and I, Ijust I'm to the same place.
You're a fucking idiot. Ifinally got to a point said, I
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don't know how you got to be inthe place in your life that you
are, but I'm going to send youlove and light and compassion,
and I hope whatever's going onin your world that brought you
to that point resolves itself sothat you can be a force for good
(13:59):
instead of this negative spot inmy life.
Terri (14:03):
See, I can completely understand that because you told
me what was happening, what wasgoing on. I'm like, why would
anybody think Doug and Tracy arenot the best people in the
world? They have their their thebest interest for everybody
else. How can anybody even seethem as being horrible people? I
(14:26):
just I can't. I got it. I can'twrap my head around
Traci Kanaan (14:30):
so. So we've wrapped it up with these people
that they have their own agenda,and we're in the way of it, and
their agenda is to sit in theirshit and stew and be miserable
and be angry and cause miseryfor everybody else, and at that
point, I would just have to say,You know what? That's all yours.
(14:52):
I'm not going to let your shitenter my world. And same with
these people that whatever'sgoing on in their lives that
made them vote the way. Theyvoted that's going on in their
head, and you don't need to be apart of that in any way, shape
or form. You can still be yourhappy self and live your life
(15:14):
and donate to causes, volunteerfor causes that you believe in.
None of that changes.
You know, I can spend my energyfighting these people, or I can
just do what I do, best, plan,golf cart, parades and happiness
(15:38):
for everybody. Yeah, and samewith, with this election, you
know, there's people that arestill I think even in her
acceptance speech, it wasbeautiful, because just just
(15:58):
because we lost doesn't mean westop fighting. Yeah, you know,
and there, there was that hopethat there's, there's still
things that I think, you know,both parties represent, and it's
just a matter of gettingeverybody together on the same
page and figuring out that thenews is actively working to
(16:21):
divide this country. Yeah,
Terri (16:25):
you know everybody, I've heard several people say, we're
going to be okay, we're going tobe okay. We'll get through this.
We've gotten through others.We'll get through this. You
Traci Kanaan (16:43):
so I definitely think that you know when you see
the Trump flag, just send them alittle love and just, I hope you
see it. I hope you see what Isee in this country. I
Terri (17:06):
It sounds good, but there's part of me that just
doesn't believe it. You know,
Traci Kanaan (17:14):
it takes time and it takes doing. So there's some
things that you can do to groundyourself.
Terri (17:20):
There's no magic wand you can wave over me, and I go out
of here and I wish and I notstop being angry so, because I
seem to be angry abouteverything. So practicing
Traci Kanaan (17:33):
happy, okay, people say, Well, when I get
happy, I'll know when it is, butthen they don't do anything to
get there. Yeah. So practicinghappy is something that it's an
everyday thing, and there'sthings that you can do to to
practice that and reinforce thehappy every day. One of the
(17:55):
things that I do, I hope Ibrought it. I have a happy
journal.
Terri (17:59):
You know, I did one of your classes, and we talked
about that, and I've had one inthe past, but I don't have one
right now. You know gratitude, Icalled it a gratitude journal,
yeah,
Traci Kanaan (18:11):
well, the happy the happy journal takes it a
step further, okay, takes itactually seven steps further.
Sorry, as I go off camera. Oh,yes, of course, I have mine in
purple unicorn color, because Ido this for a living. So with
the happy journal, I have minedivided into five tabs so I have
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happy memories. Okay, okay, andI just wrote a sentence, okay.
It doesn't have to be a wholelong memory. Okay, for me
smelling fresh ground or freshbrewed coffee, that's my happy.
(18:57):
I made gluten dairy and soy freepretzels that were chewy like
and they tasted good because Ican't do the auntie hands
anymore. So I was like, I'mgonna find me a pretzel that I
can eat. And so I found thisrecipe, and it's amazing. I'm
gonna make them tonight,actually. Let's see here,
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feeling the best I felt in along time I put down I used to
do children's plays as a kid,and I used to play piano for
him, and I got my first check atthe age of 16 for $100 playing
piano for a children's play. Sothat was a happy thing for me.
So they're just little ones, onesentence deals all natural,
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healthy hair, no colors, nodyes. That was a happy moment
for me, because I fought with,you know, do I keep dying my
hair? Let's see back home frommy trip with my kitties on my
lap. One sentence, that's it.Yeah. I know exactly what that
feels like, affirmations anddeclarations. I'm an inspiration
(20:06):
to others. I am strong, I amcreative. Trump flags don't
bother me. I can see a Trumpflag and feel love for that
person. You may not feel itright away, but these are things
that you tell yourself andeventually your mind has to
follow, okay, okay, goals anddreams. I love a simple life
(20:31):
filled with little joys andpleasures. My thyroid antibodies
are in the normal range. Funstuff. Then I have gratitude.
You know, all about gratitude,and then gems and quotes. These
are, I pulled these off theinternet, and I love this part
(20:51):
of my morning finding. I'll justput in, like, a quote on light
bulbs and motivation, and thensee what pops up. So the secret
of a happy marriage remains asecret that was from any young
man thought that was funny. Thiswas from South Park, aren't we
(21:16):
forgetting the true meaning ofChristmas. You know, the birth
of Santa, just little quote thatmakes me laugh. Yeah, I haven't
taken my Christmas lights down.They look so nice on the
pumpkin, just but then I haveother stuff I choose to make the
rest of my life the best of mylife. Your health is an
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investment, not an expense. Holdthe vision, trust the process. I
watched a little too much NCIS,and I put down Ziva isms. Do you
know who Ziva is? She was acharacter on the show, and she
was Israeli, and she wouldalways mix up her metaphors, and
she would go, That man is spicand spam. Just do you mind if I
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grab a batnap? Just little weirdthings. Let's see, when there is
light, there is shadow. So then,so now I got a happy resource,
and then here I have cards thatpeople gave me, you know, thank
you. Thank you. Cards, um stufffrom Doug, you know, stuff that
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makes me happy. And so spending1530 minutes a day on this just
sets up my whole day. If youwant to get extra credit, do a
playlist on your phone of songsthat just puts you in the
greatest mood ever, no matterwhat's going on. Play those
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while you do this, okay, andhave that playlist of all the
songs when you see when peopledrive us around, I'm sorry when
Doug and I drive around in ourgolf cart, we have our playlist,
and it's all our happy songsthat we play, and it's to get us
back in our happy place. Sothese are things that you can
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do, because happiness is apractice.
Terri (23:17):
God, that's yeah, it's a practice. Yeah.
Traci Kanaan (23:21):
You know, it's like, Ah, why am I not an all
star basketball team person?Probably because I don't shoot
hoops. Same thing. Why am I nothappy? Probably because I don't
practice it. Got it. So it'shaving the discipline to sit
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down 15 minutes and just work onwhat
Terri (23:48):
you're happy. Okay, if that's helpful, yeah, yeah.
Traci Kanaan (23:56):
So let's get back to our trump flag. What do you
experience now with the Trumpflag.
Terri (24:11):
Sadness comes up. I don't know. I don't know what that's
about. Okay, that's just whatshowed up when you said that. I
thought about the flag and Ijust get really sad. Okay,
Traci Kanaan (24:25):
hey guy with the Trump flag,
Terri (24:30):
hey guy with a Trump flag. I
Traci Kanaan (24:32):
still think you're a fucking idiot. I
Terri (24:34):
still think you're a fucking idiot. That's
Traci Kanaan (24:35):
not gonna change. That's not gonna change. Makes
me sad to see your flag. Makesme sad to see your flag, but I'm
going to send you a little loveand light.
Terri (24:46):
Send you a little love and light,
Traci Kanaan (24:48):
and hope you see what I see someday, and hope you
see what I see someday,
Terri (24:53):
and it's okay, and it's okay
Traci Kanaan (24:57):
to let it go. I'm.
Good, take a nice, deep breathin, grab your wrist, blow it
away and say, Peace. Peace.
(25:21):
Okay, what's left?
Terri (25:24):
I don't want to let it go. Oh, okay. Oh, get the fuck
out of here. This isn't working.This is not gonna work. Your ex
husband, no, my head right now.Oh, okay, what I heard, my
(25:45):
goodness, like, just, just getup and leave. This is not
working. It's not gonna help.It's not gonna go away. It's not
gonna fix anything. I
Traci Kanaan (26:03):
that is entirely your call.
Terri (26:08):
It doesn't feel like it is okay, yeah.
Traci Kanaan (26:18):
Where do you feel it in your body? Right here. So
it's a love issue. It'sdefinitely a love issue, because
where where we feel things goesto where it is most affected. So
anytime it's a love issue, it'shard. Okay, so close your eyes
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for a moment, where you feel itthere in your chest. Is it hard,
or is it soft?
Terri (26:52):
Tightness?
Traci Kanaan (26:53):
It's tight. Yeah, okay,
Terri (26:55):
just a tightness. Tightness.
Traci Kanaan (26:56):
Is it bigger? Is it little?
Terri (27:00):
It's big.
Traci Kanaan (27:01):
It's big. What color is it?
Trust your first impressions.There's no wrong answers. I
Terri (27:12):
know I've done this just you did this with people with
headaches. Multicolored becauseI just keep seeing all these
different colors, and no oneparticular color. Okay, that it
is all right, purple comes up.But if I'm surrounded with
purple, I'm wearing purple, I'msitting on purple.
Traci Kanaan (27:34):
Okay, um, what do you want to do with this? Do you
want to keep it inside, or doyou want to get rid of it? Oh, I
want to get rid of, get rid ofit. Okay, this sounds weird as
hell. Play along, pull it out.And if you can't pull it, oh,
just pull out a little piece.
Unknown (28:02):
Oh, like,
Terri (28:11):
I have a real fear of just letting this go. I don't
understand that.
Traci Kanaan (28:17):
What's the what's the reason for keeping it? I
Terri (28:26):
I don't know so I could get you to be angry. Oh, god,
Traci Kanaan (28:41):
did it come to you?
Terri (28:44):
My impostor? Oh, my God. My whole life I have said I will
never be like you, and now I'mjust like her. I'm always angry
and upset about something,something is always pissing me
off. I'm never happy. We used tosay she'll get to heaven and
(29:06):
she'll complain about it's toocold and it's too bright.
Traci Kanaan (29:17):
What an amazing realization. I
Terri (29:28):
I hated that woes so much, and I remember when she
passed away, I had laryngitisfor a year, and all of a sudden
I no longer had I realized myreason, my motivation and being
(29:52):
happy was to make her wrong, andit was to not be like her. And
now that she was gone, I. Ididn't have an excuse or reason
of motivation to really behappy. All my happiness had been
based on positiveness and alwaysseeing, you know, the best in
(30:20):
people. She saw the worst inpeople. She went on a cruise and
said it was like being inprison. Oh,
Unknown (30:33):
my God. Oh, my God.
Traci Kanaan (30:42):
Oh, uh, exponential light years right
there.
Terri (30:49):
I'm being exactly like her, exactly like her.
Traci Kanaan (30:56):
So how do you not be like her?
Terri (30:59):
Oh, she did this, lay on the couch, and that's all I want
to do is lay on the couch. Oh mygod, oh my god, oh my god. I
can't believe I've done this tomyself. I can't believe I've
turned myself into her. I
Traci Kanaan (31:23):
The good news is you realized it, now you can
change it.
Oh, God. Here, we need a freshone. I
(32:00):
I didn't even talk about thedark arts of hypnosis in our
parents.
(32:22):
I so what do we do with thisinformation? I don't know. This
is great information. Oh, Iknow. I know this is a huge
insight.
Terri (32:37):
God. Oh, my God. Little by little, piece by piece, day
by day, I have turned into her.
Traci Kanaan (33:05):
What's next?
Unknown (33:11):
I don't know.
Traci Kanaan (33:18):
Okay, she laid on the couch she
Terri (33:22):
has never happy,
Traci Kanaan (33:25):
never happy. What else
Terri (33:35):
she saw, everything as being ugly. She bought a house
on a lake, and she was at theugly end of the lake. My sister
and I were like, we didn't knowa lake had an ugly end. And I
said to her, I said, Where's theother where we bought the house?
(34:00):
And we took me over to seeing itas standard, looking at this,
you know, lake, and she goes,Yeah, but we're at the ugly end
of the lake. And to her, theother end was pretty because
they had grass all the way down.And our side, where she was, was
kind of towards it was cattailsand this big dead tree that had
(34:23):
birds and stuff in it. And tome, it was the pretty end of the
lake. And to her, was the uglyland. And I go, let me see your
clock. Can I look through yourglasses? What are you? What do
you what? What are you lookingthrough that you're at the ugly
end of the lake. I
Traci Kanaan (34:48):
Good. So the list I have she's standing on the
couch. Never happy. Saweverything is ugly. I.
So what can you do differently?
(35:12):
She chose negativity. Oh yes,yes, right, so you can choose
positivity and grow. Gratitude.You can choose happiness,
(35:34):
and you can see everything isthe pretty side of the lake.
Yeah, I
that's huge. How is that feelingin your chest now it's
Terri (36:06):
better, okay, it was like something that I it was almost
like when I was wanting to justget up and leave before I
discovered this. I
Traci Kanaan (36:25):
is whatever still there. You want to keep it, or
you want to get rid of it? Okay,perfect. Let's pull it out.
Okay, pull it out. Don't worry,I'll clean up when you're done.
Okay, okay, pull it out. Let'sget rid of all of that, all that
negativity, all that ugly sideof the lake sitting on the couch
(36:47):
bitching, heaven isn't bright,too bright, too shiny. Get rid
of all of that negativity, allthat hate. I Okay, when you
think you got it, dig in alittle more. We don't want any
piece of that left.
(37:19):
Good. How does that feel better,better. Yeah, good. All right. I
want you to hold out your hand.I want, let's put a something in
there. It can be a shape. It canbe it can be a donkey. It can be
(37:40):
whatever shape you want it tobe, dollar signs, pyramid,
sphere or what do you like? Anorb. An orb, perfect. Yeah.
Okay, so in that orb, I want youto put everything that you do
want, okay, everything that youdo want? Okay, and let's start
(38:01):
with what you already got. Youalready got a great guy. Yes,
got a beautiful house. Yes, yougot some rental properties, yes,
okay, you got a great life. Yes,I do. Okay. So put that in that
orb. What color is it now?Purple. Purple, perfect. So in
that purple orb, I want you toput everything that you want
(38:24):
this world to be okay. Put ineverything that you loved about
Kamala Harris, put everything inthere your values, everything
that you want it to be thatwould make this world that much
more amazing.
Terri (38:41):
One simple thing. People would just do what you want to
do. You don't want to have anabortion. Don't have one. If you
don't want to be married to agay person, don't be married to
a gay person. You want to go tochurch. Go to church, but don't
tell me, I have to go to church.So put free will in there. Free
will, yes, free will, purplefree will, free will, okay,
Traci Kanaan (39:04):
got it all right. Now what we're going to do,
we're going to start to spinthat orb. Okay, that purple orb.
Go ahead. You're going to needboth hands for this. Go ahead
and spin that orb. Okay, andkeep adding free will, love,
peace, peace. Harmony, Harmonygratitude, gratitude. Wonderful
man,
Terri (39:25):
wonderful man, wonderful
Traci Kanaan (39:26):
house, wonderful house, wonderful life, wonderful
life, rental properties, rentalproperties, all the positive
things you can put in there.Calm, serenity, yes, relaxed,
peace, love, freedom to do whatI want to do. Yes, put it all in
there. Okay, and notice how itgrows in size the more you spin
(39:46):
it, yeah, even, like your handsdown, it's like twice as big as
it was. Yeah, go ahead. Keepspinning. Keep spinning. Keep
spinning. Keep spinning. It'samazing. More purple, more
purple. And you know what?Sometimes you can add another
color to it, pink, pink. Okay,glitter in my world makes
everything better. So you canadd glitter if you want. You can
add neon colors. You can addwhatever you want to make that
(40:09):
purple orb more amazing inside.Are you ready? Look how much
bigger I got already. Keepadding that love. All right.
Now, when you're ready, takethat orb and put it right in
your heart and feel that freewill, all that amazingness, the
gratitude, the love and amazinglife, feel that all right there
(40:35):
and let that seep into all theplaces where your mother was let
that fill your soul.
Notice how much better thatfeels. Yes, and what we're going
(40:57):
to do now is create an anchorand a trigger. Okay, so the
anchor in the trigger. What'sone word that you could give to
that feeling?
Terri (41:14):
God, I can't even think of a word, because there's so
many.
Traci Kanaan (41:19):
We could do. Free will. We could do hope,
satisfaction, satisfaction,perfect. Go ahead and put your
hands over your heart and justthink satisfaction, and let all
those feelings that you justexperienced come right through
you. I'm satisfied,
Terri (41:39):
grateful, happy,
Traci Kanaan (41:41):
satisfied, grateful and happy. Hold your
hands there and just run it likea tape recorder. Satisfied,
grateful and happy, satisfiedand happy, satisfied grateful
and happy, satisfied, gratefuland happy. Do this as many times
in the next few seconds thatanytime you hold your hands like
this, these feelingsautomatically come back to you.
Terri (42:03):
Satisfying, grateful and happy. Satisfied, grateful and
happy.
Traci Kanaan (42:22):
Good satisfied grateful and happy, satisfied
grateful and happy, satisfiedgrateful and happy, satisfied
grateful and happy, satisfiedgrateful and happy.
Terri (42:35):
Oh, what's interesting is this little voice is going but
it's easier to be pissed off andangry,
Traci Kanaan (42:41):
satisfy grateful and happy. Little Voice for
reminding me of that.
Terri (42:45):
Thank you little voice reminding me Shut the fuck up.
Shut the fuck
satisfying. Grateful andgrateful and happy. Satisfying,
grateful and happy.
Traci Kanaan (43:05):
Good now see yourself living and satisfied,
grateful and happy the next 24hours. What's different?
Terri (43:19):
Again? Just appreciate all the things that I have.
Traci Kanaan (43:26):
Let's try this. I want you to do it, satisfied,
grateful and happy. Do a bubblearound you
Terri (43:34):
like a shield, okay? Satisfied, grateful and happy.
It's a shield. Yeah? It's a goodbubble around me. I mean, this
bubble of satisfied, gratefuland happy. Okay,
Traci Kanaan (43:46):
let me know when you're in that bubble and like
nothing can get to you. Okay,oh, let's test it. Okay,
Terri (43:55):
satisfied, grateful and happy. I'm surrounded with
satisfied, grateful and happy.Well, you just remember when I
would get my two week leave awayfrom my mother, and on the way
home, I would say I'm 10 foottall and bulletproof, and you
(44:15):
know, she cannot get to me, andit would last me about 24 hours,
and I'd be going screaming andangry and upset.
Traci Kanaan (44:24):
Okay, you said your mom passed away, right?
Yeah, okay, but
Terri (44:29):
she would get would even though I would say that, and I
would go home with thatprotection 10 feet tall and
bulletproof. Within a day ortwo, I'd be an inch tall and
Okay,
Traci Kanaan (44:44):
so right there. Hey mom,
Terri (44:47):
hey mom,
Traci Kanaan (44:48):
you're still alive in my thought, you're
Terri (44:50):
still alive in my thoughts.
Traci Kanaan (44:53):
You're not paying rent,
Terri (44:55):
you're not paying rent,
Traci Kanaan (44:56):
you're squatting for squatting. You. Get the fuck
out. Get the fuck out. I'mevicting you. I'm evicting you.
You are ruining my happy place.You're
Terri (45:06):
ruining my happy place.
Traci Kanaan (45:08):
And you got to go. And you got to go, I'm going to
keep the best of you, if therewas any best, yeah, all right,
then we're going to get rid ofthe rest of you. Make you rid of
the rest of you. Yeah, I'm tiredof you squatting,
Terri (45:22):
tired of you squatting.
Traci Kanaan (45:23):
No more, no more. I'm done. Out. You go out. You
go along with my best friends,along with my best friend that
enabled the other squatter, thatenabled the other squatter,
exactly, not having thisanymore. No more squatters, no
more squatters. Onlysatisfaction, grateful and
happy. Holy satisfaction,grateful and happy, I let you
go. I let you go. Good. Take anice, deep breath in, grab your
(45:48):
wrist, blow it away and sayPeace. Peace.
(46:10):
What's left?
Terri (46:15):
Can I really do this? I up.
Traci Kanaan (46:30):
You can you?
What came up?
Terri (46:53):
Actually, nothing's coming up.
Traci Kanaan (46:58):
That's good, yeah,
Terri (47:01):
you'll see on the team. Empty
Traci Kanaan (47:05):
in a good way, I hope, or Yeah, yeah, or
differently full,
Terri (47:14):
differently full. I
(47:35):
I mean, it's now. I mean, I canjust say I've been being my
mother, and I want to get backto being Terry,
Traci Kanaan (47:46):
awesome so you have satisfied, grateful and
happy that you can take withyou. I'm going to show you a
couple other techniques that youmight be able to use if you get
triggered down the road, okay,one of them is this,
(48:15):
okay. You want to add to it, I'msafe. I'm going to be okay. I'm
going to be okay. I'm gonna beTerry. I'm gonna be Terry. It's
okay to be Terry. It's okay tobe Terry. Terry's happy.
Terri (48:28):
Terry is happy. It's good to be Terry. It's
Traci Kanaan (48:31):
good to be Terry. Terry's powerful, yep. Another
thing you can do is this, I it.Okay. This might be harder. If
you have carpal tunnel, justtap. You can snap half okay, my
(48:52):
left hand is kind of shot, butjust tap, yeah, okay. And then
another thing you can do, I'mgoing to use your water as an
example. Okay, somebody startstalking politics. You're like,
Okay, this is bilateralmovement, okay, it makes the
(49:13):
nerve impulses go back and forthacross your brain and all that
political stuff can't get in,okay? Just pass it back. And
then I learned this from anothertherapist, and I think it's
funny, fuck, fuck,
(49:34):
I'm gonna credit Melissa tears,who's another therapist. Fuck,
fuck, actually, another hip isto give me that, but that's
something that you can do toscramble the stuff coming at
you. So those are good self selfsoothing techniques that you can
use so grounding yourself andeven starting your day
(49:56):
satisfied, grateful and happyand. Can, you know, practicing
happy. I got a great guy, got abeautiful house. I'm all right.
It's gonna be okay. Everything
Terri (50:10):
that I want, yeah,
Traci Kanaan (50:12):
I have everything that I want. It's gonna be okay.
I
taking a couple minutes to justreconnect with all the goodness
in your life, and then the happyjournal, spending 15 to 30
(50:36):
minutes a day will make Yeah, animprovement. Yes,
how are you feeling now?
Terri (50:53):
Better. Yeah, all right, that's good. I feel like I've
gotten to the source of all myaches and pains and illnesses
and depression and sadness andall that stuff. I was just being
my mother.
Traci Kanaan (51:19):
She could go. Thanks mom. Thanks mom for
showing me who I don't want tobe.
Terri (51:25):
For showing me who I don't want to be.
Traci Kanaan (51:29):
Thanks for the lesson. Thanks for the lesson. I
don't need to keep it anymore.
Terri (51:34):
I don't need to keep it anymore.
Traci Kanaan (51:35):
I let it go. I
Terri (51:36):
let it go.
Traci Kanaan (51:37):
I find happy Terry. I find happy Terry. Good.
Take a nice, deep breath in,grab your wrist, roll it away,
and say, Peace,
Terri (51:46):
peace, peace.
Traci Kanaan (51:51):
The tapping is another thing you can do. Okay,
when you find yourself getting Ido this a lot, yeah, and then
sometimes I just do it in myhead. I just imagine myself
tapping in those places because,you know someone you can't be
mid conversation. Sorry, you'rean asshole. I mean, you can, but
it's just not just like, really,you know what? I just do that my
(52:16):
head. Yeah,
Terri (52:20):
actually remember the tapping thing. I mean, in one of
the book clubs groups that I wasin, I think Marcia, Marcia and
Jules, she brought it into thegroup, the tapping, yeah, yeah.
And there's
Traci Kanaan (52:35):
all kinds of I keep mine very simple because I
can't remember all that shit.But there's all different things
you can do and tap. You know,there's different ways to do it.
But this particular one I gotfrom Robert Smith, even
Terri (52:52):
in the Millionaire Mind, I have a Millionaire Mind, I
have a Millionaire Mind, I amsuccessful.
Traci Kanaan (52:59):
Yeah, yeah, yeah. So it's choosing the thoughts.
Who Do You Want to Be
Good work today? You
(53:24):
a good work today. That's aworkout in itself. Yeah. All
right, let me test my work. Guywith the Trump flag comes by.
What happens?
Terri (53:48):
Well, now he's an idiot, not just not a fucking idiot.
Traci Kanaan (53:52):
That's progress. That's progress.
Terri (54:02):
Yeah, yeah, I feel sorry for you, because you have no
idea what you've done.
Traci Kanaan (54:10):
Does that feel like a better place to be in
instead of where you were whenyou saw Yeah, you know, hoping
they come around is a differentplace than Yeah, you fucking
idiot. Yeah.
(54:37):
Okay, good work. We'll go aheadand wrap this one up, if you
need to come back for a secondsession. Okay, you got it?
Because I know this one wasdeep, yeah, this one went way,
(54:59):
like even, way. Beyond a secondhusband, this one went way, way,
way deep, but you did great.Thank you. You're welcome. All
right. Thank you for tuning into the hilarious hypnotist and
(55:23):
Terry's hope is that you gotsome benefit out of this mine as
well. I think the big takeawayhere is that the issues that you
may have with a disappointmentin the election may actually go
deeper back than you think.Yeah, that it's not just a Trump
thing. It's the fact that maybeTrump reminds you of someone in
(55:43):
your past, in this case,possibly two people, yeah, yeah.
And it just it goes way deeper,and getting to the root of those
will help you make peace withthis particular election, and
then also having the This tooshall pass it. It'll pass like a
kidney stone for some but it'llpass so thank you so much for
(56:07):
tuning in.
Terri (56:19):
Tell me more about this dark
Traci Kanaan (56:22):
Oh, the dark arts, yeah, hypnosis, yes, yes. Okay,
so the dark arts of hypnosis,there's hypnosis is a great way
to persuade people. And the darkarts of hypnosis were actually,
since everything is hypnosis,it's there's good trances and
bad trances. And advertisers areconstantly competing to get you
(56:43):
in their trance, to buy theirproduct, to call call their
number, to engage in somebehavior. Do.
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