Ep. 54 - He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not… But God Does — Healing Heartbreak, Church Hurt & Identity with Author Sharon Feingold

Episode Summary:
Welcome, fearfully and wonderfully made human, to another soul-nourishing episode of The Holistic Counselor Podcast! I'm your host Diana from Through the Valley Therapy and Transformed Mind Consulting and Coaching. In this episode, we get real about Christian singleness, internet dating, and the deeper longings of the heart.

I sat down with Sharon Dawn Feingold, who I met at a Christian networking event. Sharon vulnerably shares her journey through internet dating, the painful patterns she had to face, and how her pursuit of love ultimately led her to the arms of Jesus. As a therapist who works with many single Christian women in their 20s and 30s, I’ve seen firsthand how hope, fear, and heartbreak can collide when navigating modern dating culture. Sharon's story offers wisdom, humor, and comfort for anyone who’s ever wondered: "Will I ever meet someone?"

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In This Episode, We Talk About:

• Why the idea of the 'perfect husband' can become an idol

• How unresolved childhood wounds shape adult romantic choices

• What internet dating looked like in the early 2000s (JDate, digital cameras, and dial-up!)

• The emotional toll of dating rejection and obsession

• How Sharon transitioned from cultural Judaism to a Messianic relationship with Christ

• The role of journaling and storytelling in healing

• Why Sharon turned down an offer to be on The Golden Bachelor 

• How finding God's love changed everything

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Notable Quotes:

"I wasn’t in love with the person—I was in love with marriage."

"It felt like I was playing a slot machine with my heart."

"You don’t need a man to complete you when you are already whole in Christ."

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Resources Mentioned:

• Sharon's Book: He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not, But God Does (Also available at Barnes & Noble and Molding Messengers Publishing)

• Book Mentioned: Healing What Hurts (source of "Love Letter from God")

• Diana's Website: www.throughthevalleytherapy.com

• Podcast Website: www.throughthevalleytherapy.com/holistic-counselor-podcast

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Connect with Sharon:

• Sharon's Book on Amazon

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