In this heartfelt and informative episode of The Holistic Counselor Podcast, your host Diana S. Rice, LMHC, dives into Internal Family Systems (IFS) with the brilliant Dr. Tori Olds—psychologist, educator, singer-songwriter, and co-founder of Deep Eddy Psychotherapy.
Diana shares how a single YouTube video titled What is IFS? changed the game for her personal healing and client work. That video? Created by today’s guest, Dr. Tori Olds.
Together, they explore the neuroscience behind IFS, how to work with wounded parts (exiles), and why self-compassion—not shame—is the key to healing.
Whether you're a therapist, a faith-based practitioner, or someone simply curious about why you procrastinate, rage, people-please, or spiral into perfectionism, this episode is for you.
In This Episode, We Explore:
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What Internal Family Systems therapy actually is (Hint: It's not “multiple personalities”)
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The difference between protectors (like managers and firefighters) and exiles
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What the “Self” is in IFS—and how to connect to it
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The science of memory reconsolidation and how real change is possible
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How IFS complements faith-based healing (even for those deconstructing rigid religious upbringings)
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Why your coping behaviors aren’t bad—they’re just trying to help you survive
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A healing path that integrates body, mind, and soul—without shame
Powerful Quotes:
“It’s not about fixing yourself—it’s about getting to know yourself with compassion.” — Dr. Tori Olds
“The more you ignore a part, the more it screams at you. It’s not trying to sabotage you—it’s trying to get your attention.” — Diana S. Rice
“Firefighters are there to save your life... but sometimes they break a few windows in the process.” — Dr. Tori Olds
“Even with trauma, your true Self is never broken—it’s just buried under protective parts.” — Dr. Tori Olds
“Change comes through acceptance, not punishment.” — Dr. Tori Olds
Resources Mentioned:
Dr. Tori Olds’ YouTube Channel (watch What Is IFS? and othe
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