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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
genuine. Issues.
Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
These recordings took place livefrom Evans Clinic in London's
world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
Hi, it's Adam here. And in this hypnosis session you
can be listening to a hypnosis that is entirely based on
changing the relationship with certain foods.
And I was working with a young client that had ARFID, which
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effectively is a sensitivity or a reluctance to try new foods.
Certain foods just felt daunting, uncomfortable,
particularly in certain social situations where they felt
judged. And this uses an element of
parts negotiation therapy to work with that part that has a
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really good intention of trying to protect them.
But in doing so, it made it feellike a very high stakes judge
mental type of situation. But that was just a meaning they
were giving to the actual process of evaluating new foods.
And what this hypnosis session does is 2 key things.
One is parts negotiation therapyto work with the part
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responsible for the protective part, but then also the second
part, which is very judgmental and to create a low stakes
environment where whatever happens, they win.
So if they try foods and they don't like it, well then they
know they don't like it. If they try foods and they're
not quite sure yet, but then it's just an attempt and they're
building up the reps for that. And if they try the food and
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they do like it, they've got more evidence that they're OK
without food. So it uses the frame of
discernment rather than this idea of failing and not being
able to do something or being judged either by other people or
by themself. So there's a bit going on here.
If you or someone you know has areluctance to try certain foods
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and that's making them feel anxious or self-conscious or
just uneasy in certain situations, then they may
benefit from this session. But just be aware that the
specific suggestions are. Incredibly.
Connected to the client that I was working with and not all of
them are going to map across to someone new listening to that.
So if you or someone that you know does like the idea of
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changing how they feel about foods, there will be a link in
the show notes where you can actually schedule a free
consultation. Call to have a chat with me and
then we can exlore the idea of working together.
For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place, the kind of
lace where you're not going to be disturbed.
Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in and as you
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breathe out just release any feelings of worry, stress or
tension. Dance in, breathing in
relaxation, and as you exhale, just allow your eyelids to close
and as they close to become aware of how much easier it
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becomes to focus on the sound ofmy voice.
Breathing in relaxation and exhaling tension.
That's it. As you breathe in, I want you to
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feel a sense of freedom, a senseof relaxation, a sense of
empowerment that you're able to do the things you want to do.
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Breathing in that relaxation, exhaling that tension.
Each breath takes you deeper anddeeper, relaxed.
And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you become.
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And the more relaxed you become,the deeper you breathe.
And as you breathe in and breathe out, just notice the
simple things around you, the way your body rests, perhaps the
rhythm of your breathing, and how without any effort, you can
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allow yourself to drift. And I want you to imagine the
spotlight shining on you and just imagine you've got the
control and dial down that spotlight, leaving you free to
just relax. And as that spotlight of
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awareness softens, you may notice your thoughts beginning
to slow down and a sense that for now, there's nothing to
prove, no pressure, no judgement, leaving you free to
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just relax and feel that relaxation.
Notice your breathing slowing down.
And as your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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And I want you to imagine a garden where you feel
comfortable and in that garden see a door and believe that that
door leads to your own private cinema.
And as I count, from 5:00 to 1:00, you will imagine opening
the door, walking through the door into your very own private
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cinema, 5 putting your hand on the handle, 4 turning the
handle, three pulling the door open, two walking through the
door, and one closing the door behind you.
And now stepping into that quietprivate cinema, finding the most
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comfortable chair and seeing a big blank screen in front.
And here in this place, I want you to notice that any feelings
are being judged. That feeling of all eyes on you,
that you're in the spotlight, issimply not here in this dark,
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quiet cinema where the lights are down low and you're the
director, not the actor. And that means that you get to
decide what plays on the screen,what story you tell yourself,
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and what role each part of you gets to play.
And I want you to think about all the different thoughts
you've had over the years. And I think somewhere inside
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there's a part of you that has been protecting you from
embarrassment, shame, or being judged.
And maybe that part thought thatby keeping things small,
predictable, limited, or controlled would keep you safe.
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And I want you to thank that part for doing its job all these
years. It's been working hard trying to
protect you like a guard who never gets to rest, always
vigilant, always looking for things that could not end well.
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And it may have been doing too much, and that part's exhausted.
But I want you to consider that what if that part in the way
that it was trying to protect you was actually contributing to
the very fear of judgement, embarrassment or shame that you
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were so keen to avoid? But there's another part of you.
There's a part of you that desperately wants to feel free,
to feel like you can live without this, the burden that
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you've been carrying, to just feel comfortable eating whenever
you're hungry, no matter who else is around.
And I want you to invite that part, that part that desires
that future. The future of living with
curiosity instead of that fear of judgement.
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Allow that part to step forward.Perhaps you could imagine what
these parts would be like. Maybe the part that's trying to
protect you from shame would be anxious, restless, on guard.
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And then there's that part that's more adventurous.
Curious. But let's offer that protective
part a new role. And I want you to imagine seeing
yourself on a screen, perhaps the last time that you felt
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limited, restricted, worried about being judged.
And just imagine that you can see that part nearby to you.
And maybe it's telling you to becareful, to think too much.
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But I want you to offer that part a new role because how it
can really help you from that freedom of feeling judged is to
help you be more discerning. And you could be discerning
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about the food you eat, where you eat it, who you eat it with.
And there is no obligation for you to eat any food.
But I want this discerning part to look for opportunities.
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Opportunities for low steak shots to nothing, to experiment
in a freeway without that judgement.
I want you to imagine if you couldn't fail, if there were no
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judgement, what foods would you try then?
How would you feel differently eating those foods that you feel
comfortable at home in differentenvironments?
I want that part to accept a suggestion that when it comes to
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food, it's just a taste. No big deal, a shot to nothing.
I want that part to believe thenwhatever happens, it's a win.
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If you don't like it, really don't like it, then it goes in
your red zone and now you know you never need to try that thing
again. And if you try it, but you're
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not sure yet whether it moves into your Green Zone, consider
this doing an extra Rep. And the more experience you
have, the more likely it will move into that Green Zone.
And you can think of a food thatyou didn't like to begin with,
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but now you do and it feels comfortable.
So whenever you try something, consider that a win because
you're training your taste buds and if you do like it and you
feel comfortable, it just moves into that Green Zone quicker.
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Now this isn't about win or lose, success or failure, doing
it right or doing it wrong. It's about you being discerning
and noticing how you feel about the food and not the judgement.
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I want you to consider that discernment.
Making choices becomes your new protection.
Not hiding, not avoiding, but choosing, exploring and
wondering what it would be like if every outcome felt safe.
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Because if whatever happens, youwin, or you learn, and when you
learn you win, everything feels easier.
And you might also notice that that spotlight you imagined
before was never really shining on you as brightly as you
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thought. People are far too busy with
their own lives, their own thoughts, their own worries.
And I want you to feel that whatyou used to feel like judgement
from other people was just echoes of your own self
criticism. But now we're framing things
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that it's all those stakes, a shot to nothing.
Whatever happens moves you forwards.
There is no need for that self criticism.
And don't be surprised if that voice of self criticism becomes
more encouraging with this new role of discernment.
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You're not getting it right or wrong every time you do
something. You're either training your
taste buds, figuring out what you don't like, or feeling more
and more comfortable based on the law of familiarity, to feel
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that volume of self criticism being turned all the way down.
And I want you to discover something liberating, the
ability to own your discernment,to laugh things off, that you
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treat everything as a shot to nothing.
You can embrace trying when the pressure's off.
And if you don't like it, you don't like it, and that's still
a win. And I want you to see yourself
on that large cinema screen. Pitch yourself in a comfortable
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environment, maybe your own home, at the dinner table,
trying foods you've never tried before.
But see the expression on your face that this is all a shot to
nothing, That whatever happens, you're winning.
See yourself smiling, relaxed and comfortable.
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See that the restlessness and discomfort is gone because it
has a new meaning now. There is no success or failure.
You can't lose. It's just you being discerning
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and figuring out what you like and what you don't.
To see yourself picking up something new, trying it,
smelling it. And whatever happens, you win.
You can see that version of you with calm confidence of someone
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who is no longer under the spotlight.
And I want you to see a family member looking at you and you
smile at them while you try. That new foods doesn't bother
you anymore. Because what if this is less
about the food and more about what's happening in your head?
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And when we change the meaning, you change the feeling.
And when the feeling changes, what was difficult before
becomes easier. And then I want you to imagine
something more challenging. See yourself in someone else's
home. Or a restaurant, there's other
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people around that see yourself with that same calm, relaxed
demeanour, and maybe see that you're choosing foods that are
half from the Green Zone and half foods either that aren't
quite comfortable, but you're going to eat them anyway.
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But I want you to see that version of you looking relaxed,
comfortable, see that version ofyou immune from judgement.
Because what is there to judge? You either like the food or you
don't. And from this point onwards,
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you'll start to notice more and more often other people when
they don't like food and it's nobig deal.
They don't frame it that they'velost.
There's no judgement, there's noshame or embarrassment.
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And you might learn that other people have things that seem
unusual to others. Certain people won't like
certain flavours or sauces. Many people will remove certain
things from a meal. Just put it to the side of their
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plate and it's no big deal. You may even remember seeing if
plates arrive at a restaurant. Some people will take some food
off their plate and put it on someone else's because they know
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what they like and they know what they don't like and what
they may not like. Someone else Mel may love.
And I want you to get a feeling that it's all those steaks.
And when you can see that futureversion of you on the screen,
looking relaxed and comfortable,trying new foods and whatever
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happens, you win. Just let me know about nodding
your head and imagine stepping into that version of you in the
screen and feeling what it wouldfeel like to be in that busy
restaurant, certain foods you'renot quite sure on, and feel what
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it would feel like to be no big deal.
That voice that was once judgmental or critical is now
encouraging. Hey, try it, you've got nothing
to lose. Try a bit and if you don't like
it, don't have any more. And if you do like it, continue
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eating. And I want you to feel that when
it feels like that, the spotlight isn't on you, it isn't
on anyone. It's just people enjoying some
food. And if you can feel what it
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feels like to be relaxed and comfortable in a situation that
in the past would have created discomfort and restlessness, but
you can feel relaxed and calm and imagine eating foods, even
foods from that amber zone. Let me know about nodding your
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head. That's it.
And I want you to get a feeling that you're just one or two
occasions away from this becoming real.
Because when you release that fear of judgement, when
everything is a shot to nothing,when you can't get it wrong, the
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pressure is released. And don't be surprised if foods
that were once challenging now become easy.
Environments that felt daunting are no longer daunting.
And what if, when you release that fear of judgement, that
adventurous side of you wants totry different foods?
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Because the more foods you try, the more quickly you figure out
the foods you like and the foodsyou don't.
And everyone has foods they don't like.
And as you breathe in that feeling of relaxation and calm,
leave the screen and then leave the cinema, walk through the
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door, be back there in that garden and then feel like you
can float all the way back to your present, to the here and
the now. Feeling that that part was
trying to protect you is now protecting you in a new way by
helping you be calm, relaxed, Consider things as low stakes
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where everything is a shot to nothing.
Very soon I will count from 1:00to 10:00 to awaken you and you
will awaken with that part having a new role to help rather
than hinder. Because it didn't know it was
hindering before, it thought it was helping, but now it can help
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in ways that genuinely help. So take a deep breath in through
your nose and out through your nose.
Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you. 123 waking up. 456 more
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alert 7-8 open your eyes open your eyes. 910 wide awake, wide
awake, wide awake. Thank you so much for.
Joining me on today's episode ofThe Hypnotist and if you've
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enjoyed this. Show or got some benefit from
it. You may know of one other friend
or family member that may also benefit from this hypnosis
session, In which case I'd like to ask a favor of you.
And that is if you could spend 10 seconds to share this episode
with someone that you know, thatmay also benefit.
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That would really help me to access new people that don't
already know about this show. You very much for listening and
I will see you again on the nextepisode.