June 11, 2024 • 28 mins
Where does the time go? Does it constantly feel like it’s flying by making you wonder where the day went? What if I told you that you have more control over your time than you think? In fact, with a few simple adjustments, you could feel like you have all the time in the world. On today’s episode we’ll dive into making every second count…without the stress. I’ll share simple strategies and insights to help you create more meaningful free time so you can enjoy the present moment. You’ll learn how to transform your relationship with time, adding wonder and awe to your existing schedule.
In this episode you’ll learn:
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How can I feel like I have more time during my day?
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What are the best time management strategies for busy professionals?
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How can I feel more productive?
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How can I stay focused and motivated throughout the day?
Topics Covered:
- Time anxiety
- Creating experiences
- Daily focus word
- Time distortion
- Productivity tricks
- Feeling overwhelmed
- Time moving too fast
- Relationship with time
Key Moments in the Show:
[03:54] Why Does Time Feel Faster As We Get Older?
[10:05] The Secret to Creating Focus in Your Day
[13:30] How To Figure Out What To Do Each Day
[15:59] Create More Free Time
[21:33] How Much Free Time Do You Need Each Day?
[26:44] Figuring Out What You Love To Do
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Hello, hello, everyone and welcome
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to the intentional advantage podcast.
I'm your host Tanya Dalton.
This is episode 301.
We're going to be talking about.
How can you feel like you have more time?
Right now, I want you to ask yourself,
do I feel like I have a lot of extra time
or am I constantly feeling rushed and
stressed and overwhelmed by everything I
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have to do and I'm cramming into my day?
And I feel like I don't
have nearly enough time.
Well, today's episode, we are
going to be talking about that.
We're going to help you stretch
some time out and we're going to
help you find some ways to make
your days a lot more enjoyable.
And it's actually really,
really simple to do.
I've got three tips for you that
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are going to be simple to implement,
really easy to put into your day that
you're going to really find, help
you feel like you have more time.
Sound good.
All right, let's get
started with today's show.
Does your life spark joy?
I'm not asking if your life
is good or if life feels okay.
Does it spark joy?
When was the last time you
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slipped into bed at night and
thought, today felt amazing?
Because if it's been more than two
or three days, that's too long.
I'm Tanya Dalton, a best selling author,
motivational speaker, seven figure
entrepreneur, and oh yeah, wife and mom.
So I get it.
I understand the stress of daily life.
As a productivity expert, I'm here to
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help you choose the extraordinary life.
This season, we will be exploring
how we can create more joy and
intention into every single day.
And it doesn't have to be so hard.
This is The Intentional Advantage.
I think that time is one of the most
complicated relationships we all have.
Honestly, if there was a spot on social
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media to post your relationship status
with time, it would say it's complicated.
Because we do, we have a really
complicated relationship with time.
Sometimes we feel like we have this
excessive, giant amount of time.
Oh, I'll do things later.
I'll do that someday.
while at the very same time also feeling
like we don't have nearly enough.
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I don't have enough time to get
everything done I need to do.
I don't have time to work on my goals.
Am I right?
So it's, it's this really
interesting push and pull.
And I knew I wanted to
talk about time today.
Because our last episode we
talked about aging, and feeling
good about whatever age we are.
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Whether you are 50, or 60,
or 40, or 30, or 20, or 80.
Feeling really good about the
age that you are right now.
And I think one of the things
that really holds us back with
embracing our age Is this whole idea
that we are running out of time?
And I don't think that's surprising
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because we're constantly playing beat
the clock, There's this whole timeline
this clock for let's say graduating
from college And then there's all the
the countdown for getting married When
are you gonna get married when you get
married as soon as you get married?
When are you gonna have kids?
Right?
Then it's like, when are you gonna
get the next promotion at work?
So there's this constant
feeling of battling the clock.
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that causes time to move so much faster.
because we're constantly fixated.
on time.
You know, it's, it sounds kind
of cliche and kind of old to
say stop and smell the flowers.
But, I mean, there's something to that.
When we're always racing to the next
thing, the next accomplishment, or
the next appointment, or whatever it
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is, we're missing everything around
us and that time just, It just almost
evaporates, without really realizing it.
So it's about how do we stop doing that?
How do we stop just focusing on the
next goal or the next appointment and
really enjoying the time that we have?
Well, I think you bring up a really
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good point there with the fact that
time feels like it moves faster.
The older we get, the faster
we seem to experience time.
If you think about the first 18
years of your life, it crawled by.
Even now, if you think about
those first 18 years, you were
like, wow, that took forever.
But the second 18, oh, over in a second.
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That's the thing, is You That's
just how we experience time.
Time is still moving at the same pace it
always has, but there's truly a reason why
time feels like it moves faster as we age.
And that's one of the things I wanted to
get into today because it really is about
creating these experiences for ourselves.
When we're younger, when we don't know a
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lot about the world, not that I feel at
the age of 50 that I know a lot about the
world still, there's still a lot to learn.
But, when we're younger,
everything is new.
Everything is full of wonder
and awe, and it's so exciting.
You, you see snow for the first time.
You learn new things for the first time.
It's this amazing
experience of being young.
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being alive.
And as we get older, that newness, that
sense of wonder and awe, it goes away.
Because we've already, oh, another
snowstorm, ugh, more snow, or
whatever it is, we're not experiencing
things for the first time, and so
it doesn't allow time to stretch.
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And here's a good example of when we've
all experienced this time distortion.
When you're on a trip in a car
and you're going someplace new for
the very first time, the way there
feels like it takes forever, right?
It takes a long time to
get wherever you're going.
The drive back home, half the time, even
though it's the exact same amount of time.
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The difference is, on the way
to the place you are going,
there's all these new things.
There's the funny green barn that
you passed, and there's that tree
that kind of looks like an old man,
and there's this little store that
sells antiques that you notice.
Well, on the way home, you've
already seen the antique store.
Oh, the tree, that's old news, right?
Oh, the green barn, already saw that.
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And so, our brain just
kind of fast forwards.
And that's why we get this feeling
of time just racing past us.
It really is about stopping.
And experiencing life instead of just
doing things to check the boxes and doing
the things that we're always supposed to
be doing over and over and over again.
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We've talked about habits about
5 million times on this podcast
and habits are great, but
We don't want to make life a habit.
We want to make sure we're adding
in some wonder and excitement and
creating experiences in our daily life.
You hear people say don't
stop learning and, and there
really is something to that.
I think a lot of people feel like,
Oh, once I'm done with school, I'm
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finished learning, and now it's time
to go work, but you need to keep doing
things with us, reading books, you
need to do things for yourself, like, I
know for me, five or six years ago, I'm
like, you know what, I'm going to run
another marathon to give myself a goal.
I hadn't done that in 15 years.
And then, we were having a conversation
one day, like, you know, I've always
wanted to learn how to sail so I can
rent a sailboat, but I felt like for some
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reason that I had missed that opportunity.
And when we talked about it, it
was like, well, that's ridiculous.
You know, you still have
over half of your life.
Let's find a place where
you learn how to sail.
And it took me 18 months to get certified
and all that stuff, but I did it.
And those are the kinds of things
that you can do to keep things
fresh and have new experiences.
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And that's what slows down
the clock a little bit.
Absolutely, and I think
you're exactly right.
It's all in how we choose to look at time.
Part of the reason why we feel
like getting older is this
terrible thing is because we feel
like The sand is running out.
We're like Dorothy in the hourglass,
right, and the sand is just, it's, it's
falling all over the place, and we're
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running out of time, and it's so funny
that you bring that up about the captain's
license to, to captain a sailboat.
You were, you were like,
oh, I can't do that.
It's too late.
It's like, well, hold on a second.
Cause I think at the time you
were like 45, why is it too late?
We tell ourselves it's too late
You know, that whole act
your age kind of thing.
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I think that's a real problem
because we can still have fun and
play and do those types of things.
You know, I saw a picture of.
Anthony Kiedis, who's 60 years
old, he's the lead singer of the
Red Hot Chili Peppers, for those
people who don't know his name.
And you know, he's still going surfing.
And I saw a very similar picture
of Dennis Quaid, who's in
his 70s doing the same thing.
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And that's part of the reason
why they look young, is
because they still act young.
You know, there's no reason you have
to stop doing things that you like
just because you reach a certain age.
You can still surf, or learn how
to sail, or Go ride motorcycles,
you know, whatever it is that makes
you feel that sense of excitement.
There's no age where that has to stop.
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Yeah, I think you're right.
We, we age ourselves out.
Adulting is just an excuse to not
pursue whatever we're passionate about.
And the truth is adulting is a fantastic
excuse because now you can actually
afford to take sailing lessons.
Now you can actually
afford to do those things.
And I think a lot of times we feel
like we're too old for things.
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There's very few things
that I am too old to do.
I'm too old to date a 20 year old.
Yes.
Okay.
I'm too old to wear a tube top, but
there's plenty of things that are
still out there for me to discover
and to do at the age of 50 or when
you get to 60 or 70, it really is all
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in how you choose to look at time.
And so what I want to do today
is I want to talk about How can
we feel like we have more time?
And the answer there is that
one thing we just talked about.
Creating experiences.
And I have three things you can do.
Three very simple, easy ways
for you to really expand time.
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So you can feel like you have more time.
I want to go through those very quickly.
They're really simple things.
So let's start with number one.
The first thing is create
a daily focus word.
this idea or this concept of having a
daily focus word isn't earth shattering
or new, but the way I look at it
is very different than how a lot of
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productivity experts talk about it.
Because they'll talk about,
like, create a focus word of
what you want to do for the day.
I want your focus word to be about
how do you want to feel at the end of
the day, what's the emotion you want
to experience at the end of the day?
Let that be your guiding light for what
it is you're going to do for the day.
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So really tapping into
how do I wanna feel?
Now, here's the thing, because I
know what you're thinking right now.
Well, every day I wanna feel successful.
Successful, first of
all, is very ambiguous.
But second of all, we want to make sure
we're changing up the word each day.
So maybe you do want to
feel successful one day.
Okay, make sure you
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define what that means.
But think about what other
ways would be beneficial in
feeling at the end of the day.
Maybe it's motivated.
Maybe you're getting ready and you're
gearing up for a big project or, or a
big presentation or something like that.
So maybe you want to be
motivated at the end of the day.
Okay, that's very different
than feeling successful.
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Maybe the word present is how you want
to feel because, you know, sometimes
when Kay has a volleyball game in the
evening, I want to make sure I've done
the work that helps me feel more present
so I can be really focused on her and
what's going on with her for the day.
Right?
So present is another way.
Maybe you want to feel relaxed.
Maybe you've had a really stressful
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couple of weeks, so you're like, what
can I do today to feel more relaxed?
Or maybe it's inspired.
Maybe you're spending the day
doing, you know, some research.
Maybe the word is enlightened
or prepared or rested.
How do you want to feel
at the end of the day?
I think that's really important because
so often we get to the end of the day
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and we're like, Where did the day go?
What did I do today?
And then we wonder why
we feel unsuccessful.
Why we feel exhausted.
Why we feel stressed.
If you start at the beginning of the day
by saying, This is how I want to feel.
I'm going to design my day.
So this is how I feel
at the close of the day.
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Don't you think that's going
to make a big difference?
Isn't that going to change
how you experience your day?
I totally agree with that.
I think it completely works.
I think when we started having
this conversation, I started trying
this and, like you said at first,
you think you just want to, well,
at the end of every day, I want to
feel fulfilled or successful, right?
You want to check everything
off the list and that's great.
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But when you really sit and
think about it, there's different
things you want to feel like.
You know, for us right
now, I was recording this.
It's a Friday and we're going
to have dinner with people.
So I wanted to make sure that I feel
energized as a introverted person.
I want to feel like I have my
social battery ready to go.
So, I wanted to feel energized.
That was my word for today.
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So.
Had a little nap, you know,
maybe I'll have a cup of coffee
or something before we leave.
And that way I feel like, you know,
we're going to have a good time and I
won't be yawning at the dinner table.
You know, so you have to think
about every day as it comes.
And it is, it will change.
It won't, it won't always be,
I want to feel successful.
Or, you know, but present is
a good one because you don't
want to worry about stuff.
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So really sit down and think about
it on a daily basis and it's not
going to be the same for sure.
And that's what makes it interesting.
too, if every day you have a
different word that you're focused on,
you're going to do different tasks.
So John, that was a fantastic segue into
the second way, which piggybacks off
of that idea of the focus word, laser
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in on what's important for the day.
That focus word helps you
figure out what is important.
This is probably the number
one question I get from people.
How do, how do I prioritize
when everything feels important?
Well, for John, he just said that he wants
to feel energized because this evening
we're going out to dinner with friends.
He's naturally an introvert, so
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he wants to feel really energized.
So today, one of the things
he said he wanted to do is, I
want to make sure I take a nap.
I want to make sure I'm doing
tasks that you find energizing.
So like, one of the things you did
was, for one of your clients, you were
finding music for them to use for their,
for their reels and for their videos.
And so you were listening to music.
That was very energizing.
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Versus, today wasn't a day that you were
like, I'm gonna go in and I'm gonna do a
bunch of research, that's gonna be boring.
Today was what do I want to
do so I feel a lot of energy?
So here's the catch for
this second way, right?
Lasering in on what's most important.
It's three to five things, not 50.
We talk about the importance
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of throwing out your to do
list, of using a priority list.
We've talked about it in the books.
Joy of Missing Out, there's
a whole section on it.
We have videos on it.
We've got podcast episodes on it.
We have a whole planner that's dedicated
to the priority list with Inkwell Press.
But the mistake people make is
Yes, they're prioritizing, but
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they're prioritizing 50, 000 things.
So really get some clarity of what are
the 3 to 5 things that you think are
going to help you feel that emotion that
you want to feel at the end of the day.
3 to 5.
So, I think that's what's important too,
is you're not overloading the plate.
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What I would challenge everybody to do
when you start this is Just do three
because you know how you work and this
is how most people work You're like well,
and they say three to five I can probably
do six or seven But then eventually by
lunchtime you've come up with two that you
forgot and then by two in the afternoon
you have ten Right, so start with three
because you're gonna have one or two that
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kind of creep in you're like I forgot
about that one So make sure that you stay
under five and if you can keep it at three
That's even better because that'll just
keep you focused On what you need to do.
Focused on your focus
word, so to speak, right?
I like that.
I like that.
That's a really good tip, Which
brings me to my third way.
that we can feel like we have more
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time, create pockets of free time.
Do you know why those first 18
years felt amazing and long?
Because you had a lot of free
time that made a huge difference.
the other day when Kay had, she
had a field trip with her class.
So the 11th grade class
went on this field trip.
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She came home and she was so excited.
She said, mom, it was the
most amazing field trip.
There was no agenda.
She said it was completely unstructured.
The teachers were like,
we're going to this lake.
We're going to grill out
hamburgers and hot dogs.
You can bring balls and bring games
and those kinds of things if you
want, but there's no structure.
She loved it.
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she brought a volleyball.
They went wading in the lake.
She told me, she said, Mom,
nobody was on their phones.
We actually spoke to each other.
It was awesome.
Like she, well, she
probably didn't use awesome.
Cause she's not a gen X or like me.
She said it was mom.
We cooked.
That's what she say.
Something like that.
Right?
Like, so, this is the thing
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is that field trip for her was
amazing because it was filled with.
awe, they were doing all kinds of things.
The other day you and I were playing
pickleball a lot of times in the
morning, John and I'll get up.
We'll play pickleball, go for a walk.
And there's the summer camp going on
with all of these middle schoolers,
which totally brought me back to summer
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camp when I was in middle school.
Kind of a funny
conversation you and I had,
was funny.
Yeah.
it was funny, we were watching
these kids at the camp and they
had literally just mowed the fields
and these kids were grabbing these
giant handfuls of lawn clippings and
doing different things with them.
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And you and I were like,
that was our childhood.
Right.
You like, you would come up
with like dumb things to do
with whatever you had on hand.
And it's like, that's
what makes things fun.
But we're so busy trying
to constrain time.
We're trying to bend it to our will.
We're battling time instead
of saying, you know what?
I want some free open time.
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I want to figure out some things
to do that are just for fun.
Right.
And when I say free time,
when I'm defining free time,
I mean a container of time.
Right?
We talk about containers of time.
So, a time in your day with no purpose.
This, for me, the person who
wrote On Purpose, have time with
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no purpose except enjoyment.
Make it flexible.
Make it so it's an open
space with no serious goals.
The only goal is like shits and giggles.
Like, I just want to have a good time.
Because this is fun.
That's what we're missing trying to adult.
Yeah, I totally agree.
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And I think that's what's important
to point out when you're talking about
the free time is Don't overhabit it.
I don't know if that's a real term,
but don't always do same thing It's
essentially what i'm trying to say, right?
It's okay to watch a tv show, but if
you're just binging tv all the time You
That's not really free time anymore.
That's just like turning your brain off.
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so, you have to force yourself
to do different things.
That's really where the
creativity comes into play.
Now, you don't have to go out in your yard
and make a snowman out of lawn clippings
like those middle schoolers were doing.
But, find something new to do, you know?
Like, do you have A guitar in your house
that your kid plays, maybe pick that up
and screw around with it for a little
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while or just go outside and listen
to the birds or do something different
and The more unplugged it is the better
the more creative your brain is going
to be And that's what really stretches
that time out is doing new things
Yeah,
new things.
I like what you said there too, because TV
is not necessarily a bad thing as you're
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doing research on how to find more time.
Number one thing people tell you, stop
watching TV, get off social media.
I'm not going to tell
you to do those things.
I'm going to tell you to create a
container of time to do those things,
because sometimes a TV show is really,
really good at the end of a stressful day.
Sometimes you just need to laugh
with a stupid episode of Parks and
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Rec, or Friends, or whatever it is.
We talk about that in On Purpose, the
difference between good distractions
and bad distractions, because the
truth is, We need distractions.
You want distractions in your day.
If you're just going through and
checking things off your list,
huh, no wonder you're so bored.
Find some good fun distractions with
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no serious goals attached to them.
You know, one of the things
I've been talking about doing
is picking up painting again.
I used to paint when I was younger
and I stopped painting and now I
want to get back to it and I've
mentioned it to a couple of people.
First thing they ask me after I say,
I think I might start painting again.
Oh, are you gonna start
selling your paintings?
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I'm like, no, I just wanna
paint . I just wanna paint for fun.
Maybe, maybe one day I'd
wanna sell my paintings.
But that's not the goal.
The goal is just to go and have fun.
And it's been a long time since I
painted, so that's why we need to go
back and learn how to do things again.
So just choosing to do things
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simply for the fun of it.
we really wanna make sure
that we're adding in.
A lot of unstructured time, some
free time, but not too much.
This is what I found really interesting.
There's this 2021 study in the Journal
of Personality and Social Psychology,
and they found there's actually
an optimal amount of free time.
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Now, most of us will go, oh,
I have too little free time.
I don't have nearly enough, right?
But, too much free time.
is also not very satisfactory.
It actually can undermine
how you perceive your day.
You'll think, Oh, I'm the worst.
It was such a sloth.
I didn't get enough done, not productive
enough, even though that doesn't fit our
definition of productivity, but we don't
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want to have too much, not too little.
They found in this study two
to five hours is optimal.
they found that more than five hours of
free time actually didn't significantly
add higher levels of happiness.
So, it's not about having more free
time, it's choosing to do really
great things with those 2 5 hours.
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That's what matters the most, is how
do you want to spend your free time.
I think that's great I thought that was
a really interesting study it reminded
me I had a Professor, in college,
advertising professor at North Texas.
And he always said, you need about
four hours of blow off time every day.
And I, I used to think
that was ridiculous.
And I don't know what it is
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about being a college student.
You're gearing up for your career, right?
And you want to, you just, you feel like
you can do everything and work all day
and that's what you're supposed to do.
And we're kind of dealing with that
with Kay right now, right, with
her, with her job at Chick fil A.
But that's, it's really not good
work schedule.
and she just
having lots of talks this day.
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ten hours a day.
Um, That's not, that's not good for you.
You really need to blow some
things off and, do things that are
different and take a break and come
back because that makes you better.
I think some people they'll work, work,
work, work, work, or, you know, put in an
80 hour week and then not work for three
days and then they feel not accomplished.
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It's like you got to find
a rhythm and a balance.
so I thought, Oh, he was right.
Four hours.
That's about right.
Two to five, according to the study.
So I thought that was really interesting.
Yeah, he was, he was dead
on basically 4 hours.
And I know some of you might be
saying, oh, I don't even have 2 hours.
Stop and think about
the time that you have.
These little snippets of time, whether
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it's, you know, going for a walk by
yourself or maybe not even by yourself,
but going for a walk or scrolling on
your phone, check your phone to see
how much time you're on social media.
Probably more than two hours a
day if you're like most people.
That's definitely a big time suck.
Or if there's certain apps that you
get on and you find yourself in these
doom scrolls or these wormholes where
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you just go and check the screen time.
In your phone and you're going
to find, Oh, I actually do
have a little bit of free time.
So let's choose how
we're going to use that.
I sent out an email to my sub stack
subscribers Last week, I think it
was last week or the week before
about what are your summer plans?
Making sure that you're really carving
out time and space for breaks Breaks are
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not a reward for great work to happen.
Breaks are a requirement
for great work to happen.
So, having those breaks, like you
just said, John, that actually allows
you to come back and be even better.
To be even stronger.
So, let's be really intentional
with how we want to spend our time.
And if you do these three things, right?
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Start with your focus word.
Then you're going to choose three
to five things that you want to
accomplish for the day and make sure
you're incorporating some free time.
That's going to make a huge difference.
And I know that might feel like,
I don't know, that's a lot.
I don't know if I can do that.
Alright, you know what?
Let's start really simple.
The weekend?
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Fantastic place to start.
Choose three things you want
to accomplish over the weekend.
Just three.
That's the challenge.
Right?
Because right now you're like, but
I have like 17 things I want to do.
Choose three things.
Make those your tent poles.
Those are kind of the tent
poles of your weekend.
I want to do these three things,
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and if I don't do anything
else, hey, I'm winning, right?
So, start really focusing in.
How do I want to feel for the weekend?
If that's an easier place than your
work week, And to make this even easier
for you, I'm actually going to create a
download for those of you who are over
there on my sub stack, a track record
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of achievement to help you focus in.
What's your focus word for the day?
How do I want to feel
at the end of the day?
What are the three to five
things you want to accomplish?
And then I'll have a little section
there for your weekend as well.
That really will help you hone in because
truly it's not that you need more time.
It's that you need to be more intentional
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with how you spend your time and
by creating experiences, adding in
wonder and awe into your day, it's
going to make a huge difference.
Yeah.
And I have a, I have a little
bonus tip for everyone going back
to the, the free time because.
I can feel people out there listening
to this thinking, What am I going to do?
I don't, I don't have that
much stuff to choose from.
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I don't know what I can
do with that free time.
And one of the things you said, Tanya, was
I want to pick up painting again because
you liked that when you were younger and
I think that's a great place to start.
So I'm going to add a fourth
thing to your weekend.
Spend five minutes thinking about the
things that you used to love to do, right?
Whether that's riding your bike, building
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stuff, playing in the garden with your
grandfather or painting like Tanya and
make a list of those things that you
used to love that you haven't done.
that's a great place to start with
doing new things during that free
time that you create for yourself.
I like that bonus tip.
That's a really good one, John.
I totally agree.
Because I really tapping into what
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was full of wonder and awe for you
as a child, you're going to feel that
and experience that again, right?
And that's what this is really all about.
It's truly your life, so
choose how you want to live it.
Create these experiences in your days.
It's going to make a huge difference
in how much time you feel.
We don't want to be time poor.
Let's make ourself feel time rich.
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Like we have more than enough
time for everything we want to do.
And that starts with
those three things, right?
Creating the focus word.
How do you want to feel
at the end of the day?
three to five things you want to
accomplish and then creating that
free space, that free time for you,
that helps you feel like a kid again.
That's how we can stop feeling
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like we're constantly an adult.
I like feeling younger.
I don't need to wear the tube
tops to prove that I'm younger.
Date the 20 year old, but it's tapping
into those things that we love.
Because truly when you feel like
you're in charge of your time and
when your days feel like they're
filled with wonder and awe.
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Hello, hello, everyone and welcome
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to the intentional advantage podcast.
I'm your host Tanya Dalton.
This is episode 301.
We're going to be talking about.
How can you feel like you have more time?
Right now, I want you to ask yourself,
do I feel like I have a lot of extra time
or am I constantly feeling rushed and
stressed and overwhelmed by everything I
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have to do and I'm cramming into my day?
And I feel like I don't
have nearly enough time.
Well, today's episode, we are
going to be talking about that.
We're going to help you stretch
some time out and we're going to
help you find some ways to make
your days a lot more enjoyable.
And it's actually really,
really simple to do.
I've got three tips for you that
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are going to be simple to implement,
really easy to put into your day that
you're going to really find, help
you feel like you have more time.
Sound good.
All right, let's get
started with today's show.
Does your life spark joy?
I'm not asking if your life
is good or if life feels okay.
Does it spark joy?
When was the last time you
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slipped into bed at night and
thought, today felt amazing?
Because if it's been more than two
or three days, that's too long.
I'm Tanya Dalton, a best selling author,
motivational speaker, seven figure
entrepreneur, and oh yeah, wife and mom.
So I get it.
I understand the stress of daily life.
As a productivity expert, I'm here to
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help you choose the extraordinary life.
This season, we will be exploring
how we can create more joy and
intention into every single day.
And it doesn't have to be so hard.
This is The Intentional Advantage.
I think that time is one of the most
complicated relationships we all have.
Honestly, if there was a spot on social
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media to post your relationship status
with time, it would say it's complicated.
Because we do, we have a really
complicated relationship with time.
Sometimes we feel like we have this
excessive, giant amount of time.
Oh, I'll do things later.
I'll do that someday.
while at the very same time also feeling
like we don't have nearly enough.
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I don't have enough time to get
everything done I need to do.
I don't have time to work on my goals.
Am I right?
So it's, it's this really
interesting push and pull.
And I knew I wanted to
talk about time today.
Because our last episode we
talked about aging, and feeling
good about whatever age we are.
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Whether you are 50, or 60,
or 40, or 30, or 20, or 80.
Feeling really good about the
age that you are right now.
And I think one of the things
that really holds us back with
embracing our age Is this whole idea
that we are running out of time?
And I don't think that's surprising
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because we're constantly playing beat
the clock, There's this whole timeline
this clock for let's say graduating
from college And then there's all the
the countdown for getting married When
are you gonna get married when you get
married as soon as you get married?
When are you gonna have kids?
Right?
Then it's like, when are you gonna
get the next promotion at work?
So there's this constant
feeling of battling the clock.
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that causes time to move so much faster.
because we're constantly fixated.
on time.
You know, it's, it sounds kind
of cliche and kind of old to
say stop and smell the flowers.
But, I mean, there's something to that.
When we're always racing to the next
thing, the next accomplishment, or
the next appointment, or whatever it
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is, we're missing everything around
us and that time just, It just almost
evaporates, without really realizing it.
So it's about how do we stop doing that?
How do we stop just focusing on the
next goal or the next appointment and
really enjoying the time that we have?
Well, I think you bring up a really
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good point there with the fact that
time feels like it moves faster.
The older we get, the faster
we seem to experience time.
If you think about the first 18
years of your life, it crawled by.
Even now, if you think about
those first 18 years, you were
like, wow, that took forever.
But the second 18, oh, over in a second.
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That's the thing, is You That's
just how we experience time.
Time is still moving at the same pace it
always has, but there's truly a reason why
time feels like it moves faster as we age.
And that's one of the things I wanted to
get into today because it really is about
creating these experiences for ourselves.
When we're younger, when we don't know a
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lot about the world, not that I feel at
the age of 50 that I know a lot about the
world still, there's still a lot to learn.
But, when we're younger,
everything is new.
Everything is full of wonder
and awe, and it's so exciting.
You, you see snow for the first time.
You learn new things for the first time.
It's this amazing
experience of being young.
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being alive.
And as we get older, that newness, that
sense of wonder and awe, it goes away.
Because we've already, oh, another
snowstorm, ugh, more snow, or
whatever it is, we're not experiencing
things for the first time, and so
it doesn't allow time to stretch.
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And here's a good example of when we've
all experienced this time distortion.
When you're on a trip in a car
and you're going someplace new for
the very first time, the way there
feels like it takes forever, right?
It takes a long time to
get wherever you're going.
The drive back home, half the time, even
though it's the exact same amount of time.
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The difference is, on the way
to the place you are going,
there's all these new things.
There's the funny green barn that
you passed, and there's that tree
that kind of looks like an old man,
and there's this little store that
sells antiques that you notice.
Well, on the way home, you've
already seen the antique store.
Oh, the tree, that's old news, right?
Oh, the green barn, already saw that.
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And so, our brain just
kind of fast forwards.
And that's why we get this feeling
of time just racing past us.
It really is about stopping.
And experiencing life instead of just
doing things to check the boxes and doing
the things that we're always supposed to
be doing over and over and over again.
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We've talked about habits about
5 million times on this podcast
and habits are great, but
We don't want to make life a habit.
We want to make sure we're adding
in some wonder and excitement and
creating experiences in our daily life.
You hear people say don't
stop learning and, and there
really is something to that.
I think a lot of people feel like,
Oh, once I'm done with school, I'm
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finished learning, and now it's time
to go work, but you need to keep doing
things with us, reading books, you
need to do things for yourself, like, I
know for me, five or six years ago, I'm
like, you know what, I'm going to run
another marathon to give myself a goal.
I hadn't done that in 15 years.
And then, we were having a conversation
one day, like, you know, I've always
wanted to learn how to sail so I can
rent a sailboat, but I felt like for some
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reason that I had missed that opportunity.
And when we talked about it, it
was like, well, that's ridiculous.
You know, you still have
over half of your life.
Let's find a place where
you learn how to sail.
And it took me 18 months to get certified
and all that stuff, but I did it.
And those are the kinds of things
that you can do to keep things
fresh and have new experiences.
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And that's what slows down
the clock a little bit.
Absolutely, and I think
you're exactly right.
It's all in how we choose to look at time.
Part of the reason why we feel
like getting older is this
terrible thing is because we feel
like The sand is running out.
We're like Dorothy in the hourglass,
right, and the sand is just, it's, it's
falling all over the place, and we're
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running out of time, and it's so funny
that you bring that up about the captain's
license to, to captain a sailboat.
You were, you were like,
oh, I can't do that.
It's too late.
It's like, well, hold on a second.
Cause I think at the time you
were like 45, why is it too late?
We tell ourselves it's too late
You know, that whole act
your age kind of thing.
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I think that's a real problem
because we can still have fun and
play and do those types of things.
You know, I saw a picture of.
Anthony Kiedis, who's 60 years
old, he's the lead singer of the
Red Hot Chili Peppers, for those
people who don't know his name.
And you know, he's still going surfing.
And I saw a very similar picture
of Dennis Quaid, who's in
his 70s doing the same thing.
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And that's part of the reason
why they look young, is
because they still act young.
You know, there's no reason you have
to stop doing things that you like
just because you reach a certain age.
You can still surf, or learn how
to sail, or Go ride motorcycles,
you know, whatever it is that makes
you feel that sense of excitement.
There's no age where that has to stop.
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Yeah, I think you're right.
We, we age ourselves out.
Adulting is just an excuse to not
pursue whatever we're passionate about.
And the truth is adulting is a fantastic
excuse because now you can actually
afford to take sailing lessons.
Now you can actually
afford to do those things.
And I think a lot of times we feel
like we're too old for things.
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There's very few things
that I am too old to do.
I'm too old to date a 20 year old.
Yes.
Okay.
I'm too old to wear a tube top, but
there's plenty of things that are
still out there for me to discover
and to do at the age of 50 or when
you get to 60 or 70, it really is all
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in how you choose to look at time.
And so what I want to do today
is I want to talk about How can
we feel like we have more time?
And the answer there is that
one thing we just talked about.
Creating experiences.
And I have three things you can do.
Three very simple, easy ways
for you to really expand time.
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So you can feel like you have more time.
I want to go through those very quickly.
They're really simple things.
So let's start with number one.
The first thing is create
a daily focus word.
this idea or this concept of having a
daily focus word isn't earth shattering
or new, but the way I look at it
is very different than how a lot of
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productivity experts talk about it.
Because they'll talk about,
like, create a focus word of
what you want to do for the day.
I want your focus word to be about
how do you want to feel at the end of
the day, what's the emotion you want
to experience at the end of the day?
Let that be your guiding light for what
it is you're going to do for the day.
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So really tapping into
how do I wanna feel?
Now, here's the thing, because I
know what you're thinking right now.
Well, every day I wanna feel successful.
Successful, first of
all, is very ambiguous.
But second of all, we want to make sure
we're changing up the word each day.
So maybe you do want to
feel successful one day.
Okay, make sure you
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define what that means.
But think about what other
ways would be beneficial in
feeling at the end of the day.
Maybe it's motivated.
Maybe you're getting ready and you're
gearing up for a big project or, or a
big presentation or something like that.
So maybe you want to be
motivated at the end of the day.
Okay, that's very different
than feeling successful.
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Maybe the word present is how you want
to feel because, you know, sometimes
when Kay has a volleyball game in the
evening, I want to make sure I've done
the work that helps me feel more present
so I can be really focused on her and
what's going on with her for the day.
Right?
So present is another way.
Maybe you want to feel relaxed.
Maybe you've had a really stressful
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couple of weeks, so you're like, what
can I do today to feel more relaxed?
Or maybe it's inspired.
Maybe you're spending the day
doing, you know, some research.
Maybe the word is enlightened
or prepared or rested.
How do you want to feel
at the end of the day?
I think that's really important because
so often we get to the end of the day
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and we're like, Where did the day go?
What did I do today?
And then we wonder why
we feel unsuccessful.
Why we feel exhausted.
Why we feel stressed.
If you start at the beginning of the day
by saying, This is how I want to feel.
I'm going to design my day.
So this is how I feel
at the close of the day.
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Don't you think that's going
to make a big difference?
Isn't that going to change
how you experience your day?
I totally agree with that.
I think it completely works.
I think when we started having
this conversation, I started trying
this and, like you said at first,
you think you just want to, well,
at the end of every day, I want to
feel fulfilled or successful, right?
You want to check everything
off the list and that's great.
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But when you really sit and
think about it, there's different
things you want to feel like.
You know, for us right
now, I was recording this.
It's a Friday and we're going
to have dinner with people.
So I wanted to make sure that I feel
energized as a introverted person.
I want to feel like I have my
social battery ready to go.
So, I wanted to feel energized.
That was my word for today.
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So.
Had a little nap, you know,
maybe I'll have a cup of coffee
or something before we leave.
And that way I feel like, you know,
we're going to have a good time and I
won't be yawning at the dinner table.
You know, so you have to think
about every day as it comes.
And it is, it will change.
It won't, it won't always be,
I want to feel successful.
Or, you know, but present is
a good one because you don't
want to worry about stuff.
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So really sit down and think about
it on a daily basis and it's not
going to be the same for sure.
And that's what makes it interesting.
too, if every day you have a
different word that you're focused on,
you're going to do different tasks.
So John, that was a fantastic segue into
the second way, which piggybacks off
of that idea of the focus word, laser
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in on what's important for the day.
That focus word helps you
figure out what is important.
This is probably the number
one question I get from people.
How do, how do I prioritize
when everything feels important?
Well, for John, he just said that he wants
to feel energized because this evening
we're going out to dinner with friends.
He's naturally an introvert, so
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he wants to feel really energized.
So today, one of the things
he said he wanted to do is, I
want to make sure I take a nap.
I want to make sure I'm doing
tasks that you find energizing.
So like, one of the things you did
was, for one of your clients, you were
finding music for them to use for their,
for their reels and for their videos.
And so you were listening to music.
That was very energizing.
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Versus, today wasn't a day that you were
like, I'm gonna go in and I'm gonna do a
bunch of research, that's gonna be boring.
Today was what do I want to
do so I feel a lot of energy?
So here's the catch for
this second way, right?
Lasering in on what's most important.
It's three to five things, not 50.
We talk about the importance
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of throwing out your to do
list, of using a priority list.
We've talked about it in the books.
Joy of Missing Out, there's
a whole section on it.
We have videos on it.
We've got podcast episodes on it.
We have a whole planner that's dedicated
to the priority list with Inkwell Press.
But the mistake people make is
Yes, they're prioritizing, but
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they're prioritizing 50, 000 things.
So really get some clarity of what are
the 3 to 5 things that you think are
going to help you feel that emotion that
you want to feel at the end of the day.
3 to 5.
So, I think that's what's important too,
is you're not overloading the plate.
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What I would challenge everybody to do
when you start this is Just do three
because you know how you work and this
is how most people work You're like well,
and they say three to five I can probably
do six or seven But then eventually by
lunchtime you've come up with two that you
forgot and then by two in the afternoon
you have ten Right, so start with three
because you're gonna have one or two that
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kind of creep in you're like I forgot
about that one So make sure that you stay
under five and if you can keep it at three
That's even better because that'll just
keep you focused On what you need to do.
Focused on your focus
word, so to speak, right?
I like that.
I like that.
That's a really good tip, Which
brings me to my third way.
that we can feel like we have more
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time, create pockets of free time.
Do you know why those first 18
years felt amazing and long?
Because you had a lot of free
time that made a huge difference.
the other day when Kay had, she
had a field trip with her class.
So the 11th grade class
went on this field trip.
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She came home and she was so excited.
She said, mom, it was the
most amazing field trip.
There was no agenda.
She said it was completely unstructured.
The teachers were like,
we're going to this lake.
We're going to grill out
hamburgers and hot dogs.
You can bring balls and bring games
and those kinds of things if you
want, but there's no structure.
She loved it.
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she brought a volleyball.
They went wading in the lake.
She told me, she said, Mom,
nobody was on their phones.
We actually spoke to each other.
It was awesome.
Like she, well, she
probably didn't use awesome.
Cause she's not a gen X or like me.
She said it was mom.
We cooked.
That's what she say.
Something like that.
Right?
Like, so, this is the thing
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is that field trip for her was
amazing because it was filled with.
awe, they were doing all kinds of things.
The other day you and I were playing
pickleball a lot of times in the
morning, John and I'll get up.
We'll play pickleball, go for a walk.
And there's the summer camp going on
with all of these middle schoolers,
which totally brought me back to summer
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camp when I was in middle school.
Kind of a funny
conversation you and I had,
was funny.
Yeah.
it was funny, we were watching
these kids at the camp and they
had literally just mowed the fields
and these kids were grabbing these
giant handfuls of lawn clippings and
doing different things with them.
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And you and I were like,
that was our childhood.
Right.
You like, you would come up
with like dumb things to do
with whatever you had on hand.
And it's like, that's
what makes things fun.
But we're so busy trying
to constrain time.
We're trying to bend it to our will.
We're battling time instead
of saying, you know what?
I want some free open time.
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I want to figure out some things
to do that are just for fun.
Right.
And when I say free time,
when I'm defining free time,
I mean a container of time.
Right?
We talk about containers of time.
So, a time in your day with no purpose.
This, for me, the person who
wrote On Purpose, have time with
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no purpose except enjoyment.
Make it flexible.
Make it so it's an open
space with no serious goals.
The only goal is like shits and giggles.
Like, I just want to have a good time.
Because this is fun.
That's what we're missing trying to adult.
Yeah, I totally agree.
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And I think that's what's important
to point out when you're talking about
the free time is Don't overhabit it.
I don't know if that's a real term,
but don't always do same thing It's
essentially what i'm trying to say, right?
It's okay to watch a tv show, but if
you're just binging tv all the time You
That's not really free time anymore.
That's just like turning your brain off.
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so, you have to force yourself
to do different things.
That's really where the
creativity comes into play.
Now, you don't have to go out in your yard
and make a snowman out of lawn clippings
like those middle schoolers were doing.
But, find something new to do, you know?
Like, do you have A guitar in your house
that your kid plays, maybe pick that up
and screw around with it for a little
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while or just go outside and listen
to the birds or do something different
and The more unplugged it is the better
the more creative your brain is going
to be And that's what really stretches
that time out is doing new things
Yeah,
new things.
I like what you said there too, because TV
is not necessarily a bad thing as you're
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doing research on how to find more time.
Number one thing people tell you, stop
watching TV, get off social media.
I'm not going to tell
you to do those things.
I'm going to tell you to create a
container of time to do those things,
because sometimes a TV show is really,
really good at the end of a stressful day.
Sometimes you just need to laugh
with a stupid episode of Parks and
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Rec, or Friends, or whatever it is.
We talk about that in On Purpose, the
difference between good distractions
and bad distractions, because the
truth is, We need distractions.
You want distractions in your day.
If you're just going through and
checking things off your list,
huh, no wonder you're so bored.
Find some good fun distractions with
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no serious goals attached to them.
You know, one of the things
I've been talking about doing
is picking up painting again.
I used to paint when I was younger
and I stopped painting and now I
want to get back to it and I've
mentioned it to a couple of people.
First thing they ask me after I say,
I think I might start painting again.
Oh, are you gonna start
selling your paintings?
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I'm like, no, I just wanna
paint . I just wanna paint for fun.
Maybe, maybe one day I'd
wanna sell my paintings.
But that's not the goal.
The goal is just to go and have fun.
And it's been a long time since I
painted, so that's why we need to go
back and learn how to do things again.
So just choosing to do things
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simply for the fun of it.
we really wanna make sure
that we're adding in.
A lot of unstructured time, some
free time, but not too much.
This is what I found really interesting.
There's this 2021 study in the Journal
of Personality and Social Psychology,
and they found there's actually
an optimal amount of free time.
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Now, most of us will go, oh,
I have too little free time.
I don't have nearly enough, right?
But, too much free time.
is also not very satisfactory.
It actually can undermine
how you perceive your day.
You'll think, Oh, I'm the worst.
It was such a sloth.
I didn't get enough done, not productive
enough, even though that doesn't fit our
definition of productivity, but we don't
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want to have too much, not too little.
They found in this study two
to five hours is optimal.
they found that more than five hours of
free time actually didn't significantly
add higher levels of happiness.
So, it's not about having more free
time, it's choosing to do really
great things with those 2 5 hours.
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That's what matters the most, is how
do you want to spend your free time.
I think that's great I thought that was
a really interesting study it reminded
me I had a Professor, in college,
advertising professor at North Texas.
And he always said, you need about
four hours of blow off time every day.
And I, I used to think
that was ridiculous.
And I don't know what it is
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about being a college student.
You're gearing up for your career, right?
And you want to, you just, you feel like
you can do everything and work all day
and that's what you're supposed to do.
And we're kind of dealing with that
with Kay right now, right, with
her, with her job at Chick fil A.
But that's, it's really not good
work schedule.
and she just
having lots of talks this day.
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ten hours a day.
Um, That's not, that's not good for you.
You really need to blow some
things off and, do things that are
different and take a break and come
back because that makes you better.
I think some people they'll work, work,
work, work, work, or, you know, put in an
80 hour week and then not work for three
days and then they feel not accomplished.
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It's like you got to find
a rhythm and a balance.
so I thought, Oh, he was right.
Four hours.
That's about right.
Two to five, according to the study.
So I thought that was really interesting.
Yeah, he was, he was dead
on basically 4 hours.
And I know some of you might be
saying, oh, I don't even have 2 hours.
Stop and think about
the time that you have.
These little snippets of time, whether
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it's, you know, going for a walk by
yourself or maybe not even by yourself,
but going for a walk or scrolling on
your phone, check your phone to see
how much time you're on social media.
Probably more than two hours a
day if you're like most people.
That's definitely a big time suck.
Or if there's certain apps that you
get on and you find yourself in these
doom scrolls or these wormholes where
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you just go and check the screen time.
In your phone and you're going
to find, Oh, I actually do
have a little bit of free time.
So let's choose how
we're going to use that.
I sent out an email to my sub stack
subscribers Last week, I think it
was last week or the week before
about what are your summer plans?
Making sure that you're really carving
out time and space for breaks Breaks are
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not a reward for great work to happen.
Breaks are a requirement
for great work to happen.
So, having those breaks, like you
just said, John, that actually allows
you to come back and be even better.
To be even stronger.
So, let's be really intentional
with how we want to spend our time.
And if you do these three things, right?
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Start with your focus word.
Then you're going to choose three
to five things that you want to
accomplish for the day and make sure
you're incorporating some free time.
That's going to make a huge difference.
And I know that might feel like,
I don't know, that's a lot.
I don't know if I can do that.
Alright, you know what?
Let's start really simple.
The weekend?
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Fantastic place to start.
Choose three things you want
to accomplish over the weekend.
Just three.
That's the challenge.
Right?
Because right now you're like, but
I have like 17 things I want to do.
Choose three things.
Make those your tent poles.
Those are kind of the tent
poles of your weekend.
I want to do these three things,
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and if I don't do anything
else, hey, I'm winning, right?
So, start really focusing in.
How do I want to feel for the weekend?
If that's an easier place than your
work week, And to make this even easier
for you, I'm actually going to create a
download for those of you who are over
there on my sub stack, a track record
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of achievement to help you focus in.
What's your focus word for the day?
How do I want to feel
at the end of the day?
What are the three to five
things you want to accomplish?
And then I'll have a little section
there for your weekend as well.
That really will help you hone in because
truly it's not that you need more time.
It's that you need to be more intentional
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with how you spend your time and
by creating experiences, adding in
wonder and awe into your day, it's
going to make a huge difference.
Yeah.
And I have a, I have a little
bonus tip for everyone going back
to the, the free time because.
I can feel people out there listening
to this thinking, What am I going to do?
I don't, I don't have that
much stuff to choose from.
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I don't know what I can
do with that free time.
And one of the things you said, Tanya, was
I want to pick up painting again because
you liked that when you were younger and
I think that's a great place to start.
So I'm going to add a fourth
thing to your weekend.
Spend five minutes thinking about the
things that you used to love to do, right?
Whether that's riding your bike, building
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stuff, playing in the garden with your
grandfather or painting like Tanya and
make a list of those things that you
used to love that you haven't done.
that's a great place to start with
doing new things during that free
time that you create for yourself.
I like that bonus tip.
That's a really good one, John.
I totally agree.
Because I really tapping into what
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was full of wonder and awe for you
as a child, you're going to feel that
and experience that again, right?
And that's what this is really all about.
It's truly your life, so
choose how you want to live it.
Create these experiences in your days.
It's going to make a huge difference
in how much time you feel.
We don't want to be time poor.
Let's make ourself feel time rich.
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Like we have more than enough
time for everything we want to do.
And that starts with
those three things, right?
Creating the focus word.
How do you want to feel
at the end of the day?
three to five things you want to
accomplish and then creating that
free space, that free time for you,
that helps you feel like a kid again.
That's how we can stop feeling
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like we're constantly an adult.
I like feeling younger.
I don't need to wear the tube
tops to prove that I'm younger.
Date the 20 year old, but it's tapping
into those things that we love.
Because truly when you feel like
you're in charge of your time and
when your days feel like they're
filled with wonder and awe.
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That's when you've got
the intentional advantage.
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