What if the drive to constantly achieve and perform is actually a method of survival from past traumas? In this episode, Mary Marantz is joined by Aundi Kolber, a therapist and author specializing in trauma and resilience, to discuss her approach encapsulated in her books "Try Softer" and her newest release, “Take What You Need.”
After listening, you'll discover how to shift from a life of anxiety and stress to one of connection and joy through compassionate self-attention and healing. Your perspectives on survival mode, self-compassion, and internalized secure attachment will profoundly change, helping you to name your fears and move forward more gently yet powerfully.
Tune in to hear:
- The science behind survival mode and its effects on our lives.
- The science behind "trying softer" and how it differs from simply trying harder.
- Detailed explanations of attachment styles and their effects on adult behavior.
- The role of our nervous system in processing trauma and achieving genuine safety.
- Practical exercises for self-compassion and grounding to expand our capacity for goodness.
In this fast-paced world, sometimes trying softer is the bravest thing you can do.
Be sure to snag Aundi’s book here: https://aundikolber.com/take-what-you-need/
Follow Aundi on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aundikolber
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