Part-Time Victimhood - SFTS79

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === As you know by now, we're all about agency over victimhood around here. Too many of us as men adopt a poverty mentality when it comes to women, thinking that some other guy who won the proverbial 'genetic lottery' will get all the women instead of us. But ironically, many of us also believe in picking ourselves up by our bootstraps and taking personal responsibility when it comes to our education, our careers, and perhaps even our social lives outside of women. What's up with that? It's obviously a clash of incongruent mindsets, if not flat-out hypocrisy. How did so many of us get to that point? And more importantly, how do we get back on an even playing field with a consistent, winning mindset? Can you handle the truth? If so, check out the Substack channel at https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack

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Episode Transcript

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You're listening to Snippets from the Summit with your host Scott McCaig.
All how's it going gentlemen, this is your main man Scott McKay coming at you again withanother snippet from the summit as part of the mountaintop podcast from X and Y
communications Today I'm going to offer a topic to you gentlemen that may challenge you alittle bit and it all starts with me reminding you guys that this is an anti victim hood

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operation around here everything is not women's fault everything is not society's faultand indeed
even though it may not be your fault either, you're the one who's going to have to step upand do something about your own success with women.
That's always been how the centralized mission around here has been defined, helping youdeserve what you want in terms of getting the kind of woman who's looking for a guy like

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you because you've done the self work to attract her and also avoiding the women who are,well, bat shit crazy and are going to ruin your life and finding a woman who's actually
sweet, secure in herself and
looking to be happy for the rest of her life instead of being borderline or something.
Well, with that in mind, I saw a post yesterday that was in the Facebook group of my goodfriend, Mark Mawinni, who is a coach of coaches and has been a multi-time guest on this

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particular podcast.
And the subject matter of the post was how parents are training their young children to bevictims.
In other words, society is against you and you you were born the wrong race, the wrongnationality and the
place or in the wrong socioeconomic environment and you know, basically the world'sagainst you.

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So make them pay, try to get all the handouts you can and try to, you know, do the hustleas much as you can, because really you're not going to be able to do anything else to get
out of that predicament.
It's just how society made you.
And of course, Mark is anti victim hood, kind of like I am, and I'm sure probably you areas well as a listener to this show.
And he mentioned how a lot of people indeed, and I love this quote,

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were born on third base and feel like they've hit a triple.
Well, I understand that privilege is a real thing.
And I also understand that there's economic privilege that predisposes people to gettingbetter opportunities throughout their life, in their career, and of course, in terms of
building wealth.

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But I want to challenge you because I don't think that sense of privilege is muchdifferent
than what a lot of guys in the men's dating and relationship space consider in terms ofguys who've won the quote unquote genetic lottery having a better chance with women.
You see a lot of men fall into a certain kind of victimhood based on their perception ofnot being tall enough, good looking enough, genetically gifted enough, uh rich enough, and

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that is indeed also a victimhood mentality.
In other words, something's been done to me.
that's out of my control, that puts me at a great disadvantage compared to thoseprivileged guys who are gonna get all the women.
Guys, you know what?
Perceiving one's own victimhood through the lens of having not won the genetic lotteryenough to be successful with women is absolutely, positively no different than viewing

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personal victimhood through the lens of economics or career opportunities.
But here's the strange dichotomy I often see.
A lot of men who are of the victimhood mentality when it comes to women, and I'm talkingto all of you guys who are hashtag mig toe guys, red pill guys, manosphere guys, who think

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everything is rigged against you in the family law system, in the dating pool, thatmarriage is for losers and men always lose when they get married, and that women aren't
worth it anyway because they're solipsistic and...
and everything's about them and you're not going to get anything out of this anyway, sojust stay at home and watch porn or whatever.
That attitude, that victimhood is often adopted by guys who at the same time are going tothe voting booth and pulling the lever for the side that's anti-victimhood.

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And these are the same guys often who are saying, hey, you know what, woke is broke.
All these guys who talk about race privilege, who talk about economic privilege, they'reall full of it.
And you know, just go out there and get a job and make the best of what you have.
That's the American way.
You know guys, what I'm calling out here is the hypocrisy of holding both of those views.
The victimhood mentality when it comes to women and the bootstrap mindset when it comes toyour life, your career and that kind of privilege.

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But really they're the same.
So let's explore how a guy could land with one foot on both sides of the fence that way.
Which by the way is going to really really hurt your nuts if you slip.
saying, even proverbially.
How can one have the poverty mentality when it comes to women and have an abundancementality when it comes to your life, your career, etc.

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etc.
Well, I think it all has to do with what you're used to, your upbringing, etc.
etc.
Let's face it, many guys who come from a good home and have good opportunities, went to agood school, went to a good college, have a great job nowadays,
were used to having things go well for them from an early age.
Their confidence was built early on by their parents, by their peers, by their teachers.

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However that happened, it indeed worked in their psychological favor.
But meanwhile, if they were scared of women, if they never had a girlfriend through juniorhigh, high school, and then through college, then that too good to be true syndrome sets
in.
And the first and second and third times that things don't go well when they ask a womanout, let alone try to date her, they start getting a little

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They start getting a little jaded and they develop a poverty mentality when it comes towomen.
That's exactly how we as men can end up being very self-reliant, confident, and indeedself-sufficient when it comes to our careers and basically our life trajectory on any path
other than dating and relationships while still remaining very pessimistic with a povertymentality and adopting that victimhood mindset when it comes to women in relationships.

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Gentlemen, my call to action to you today is to be consistent once and for all.
Realize that victimhood is victimhood.
It's going to keep you in last place, whether that's in your job, whether that's in yourdating life or anything else in this world.
So if you've already had the wherewithal to feel like a winner in your career or inanything else, then what's stopping you really?

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I mean, in the real world from having that abundance mentality when it comes to women, isit your past?
Is it stinking thinking that has turned into habits over the years?
If so, I challenge you to rethink all of that.
Realize that playing the blame game and playing victimhood is the same game, regardless ofwhether it's in your professional life, your personal life, or your dating life.

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If you'd like to sort all that out once and for all, give me a call.
I'm happy to talk to you.
If you'd to talk about that or anything else, scott at mountaintoppodcast.com.
Be good out there.
As always, visit mountaintoppodcast.com for more.