How to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams with Gabrielle Fritz

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Gabrielle Fritz (00:00):
And metaphorically, that's exactly

(00:01):
what happens with opinions fromother people, things we hear in
the news and and we don'trealize that we take on so much
stuff from the outside thatthat's not ours, and then people
get and toxins and andnegativity and stress and
worries and fears that are notours, right? And that starts

(00:22):
with conditioning in family andour loved ones, right? And then
it goes into media and news andall that. So if you don't have a
regular practice to cleanseyourself of that and clear this
clutter, there's no wonder thatpeople are stressed or worried
about it. And then, speaking ofrelationships, you take on your
best friends are in arelationship, and it's not
working, and because you lovethem, you're kind of like

(00:44):
thinking, so you're seeingthings outside of you, and you
love these people, and they'redoing their best, but it's not
what you really want, but you'retaking it on, and your friends
are giving you advice, and theymean really well, but actually
it's only coming through theirlens, and very often The lens
that's not very clean, right?Because they haven't done the
cleaning and the purifying work,right? Hello,

Kate Harlow (01:07):
beautiful. Before you get into this week's
episode, this really beautiful,really expansive, inspiring
conversation about how tocreate, the relationship of your
dreams, create is the keyword Iwanted to share a little bit
about Gabby Fritz, GabrielleFritz, who is a beautiful friend
of mine, and she is a long timepsychic medium, very well sought

(01:30):
after psychic medium andintuitive coach, based out of
London. I have talked about heron the podcast before. You
definitely have heard me mentionher in the past, and I know a
ton of the women from thereclamation had readings with
her because they were so blownaway by a reading that I had a
year ago with her. She is thereal deal. Actually, she did a
reading for me at a retreat,very it was kind of a casual

(01:53):
setting, and she not that shedoes a ton of predictive
readings, but she talked aboutlove coming in and described
Patricio to a T, my last partnerand everything about our
relationship to a T. So when Irealized that I had found the
notes that I'd taken from thisreading with her, and I went
back and read them to Patricio,and he was like, Whoa, you gotta

(02:16):
book another reading. She'sincredibly gifted and really
lives her life guided by themagic of life and source, which
I talk so much about on everyepisode about learning to put
your oars in the boat and letthe boat carry you. She really,
truly lives her life from herinternal guidance and the divine

(02:37):
leading the way, and her life isunbelievably magical. So she's
so inspiring and so embodied inwhat she teaches. Her work
weaves ancient and moderntechniques to help women
discover their inner guidanceand their true power. And I
think so many women, that's thethis is the challenge is that
their saboteur, ego mind is isrunning the show the scripted

(02:59):
self, and they don't know how toaccess their inner guidance. So
that's her gift. Is helpingwomen access their inner
guidance and shift the innerdynamics that are happening so
they can change their outerworld. So in this episode, we
talked so much about, I'm sureyou've had the thought about
manifesting, and is manifestingfantasy, or is it reality? This
episode will answer thatquestion of how to manifest in

(03:20):
such a way that you actuallycreate the life of your dreams,
rather than sit on yourmeditation cushion with your
vision board wishing for someguy to come knock on your door.
So whether you're in arelationship that you're ready
to up level, or you're singleand you're ready to call in high
quality love, this episode isfor you and share it with all of
your friends, as always, lots oflove. Enjoy.

(03:45):
Hello, beautiful. Welcome backto the new truth podcast. Very
excited to share this magicalhuman with you today, all on the
topic of how to create therelationship of your dreams.
Keyword here is create. I'm soexcited to share your magic. I
feel like one of the biggestgifts that you've brought to my

(04:06):
life and that you are in theworld is just magic. Everything
you do every the way you seeevery situation, there's just
this beautiful lightness to itall. And I feel like that's what
people need more than ever rightnow is lightness, like there's
just so much drama and intensityand density. And yeah, I'm

(04:28):
excited to talk talk about thistopic that is a heavy one, or
can be a heavy one for peoplewanting relationships so bad,
but not having it, or having itbut not having the one they
desire. So where do you want tostart? How to create the
relationship of your dreams.What do you think they're doing
wrong out there? Gavin already

wanted to jump in 15 times when you were
talking, great, great, great.Now about what you said about
it's very interesting. What youwere just saying, that people
have a belief that it's hard tocreate a beautiful relationship,
right? And you are such abeautiful symbol of this, how,
how life can be so easy andfluid and fun and playful,

(05:09):
right? So I think what, whatkind of connects the two of us
and our friend Mariana as well,is how we met. Is this childlike
playfulness, right, to bringinto creating everything,
whether it's a relationship,whether it's your job, your
career. And I think what adultsin this world? Let's call them
adults, right? Because we're notall the same, but what they

(05:32):
sometimes do is create thisheaviness and add it to topics
such as relationships and and Idon't think it needs to be that
as a first I don't know, firstthing that I just wanted to say,
based on what you just said,does it need to be hard? Because
the best things in life, and Ispeak from experience in my own

(05:53):
life, with things that I'vemanifested, created, and then
friends of mine who are inbeautiful, amazing
relationships, it was not hard.The right thing comes to us
without effort. Almost, it'salmost like it's not us learning
to do something. It's about uslearning to undo I feel. And
this year we're in the in theyear astrologically, in the

(06:15):
Chinese calendar. We're in theyear of the snake, right? So
which is exactly about that theI didn't know that. You didn't
know that? No, yes, the year ofthe snake in Chinese astrology,
yeah, which is going to be avery big year. And I've already
had it for the first because Iconsciously went into it. So I
already said, Okay, please helpme as sort of my new one of my

(06:36):
New Year's resolutions to helpme to let go of anything that
I'm no longer that I no longerneed. That's hope that holds me
back, that makes me get in myown way. You know, fears, all of
these old conditionings that weno longer need. And that's what
snakes do regularly. And I feelthat's one of the things that
most people as adults, we're notin the Western world, at least,

(06:59):
maybe your listeners aredifferent because they're
already more conscious, but Ithink that's something we need
to do regularly, this sheddingof old things, because we live
in an environment where we takeon other people's opinions,
toxins, noises, we're on ourphones, on our gadgets on a
daily basis, right? But we neverspend enough time to actually

(07:20):
release and cleanse. That'sagain, at the end of a day,
right? It would be like, whathappens if you don't brush your
teeth for five months,

right? I don't want to know. I don't want to know,
right? You

have all this stuff from all the food that
you've consumed, right? Thatwill stain, so to speak, what
your natural, what your teethnaturally look like, right? So
there's a layer on top of whoyou really are, and
metaphorically, that's exactlywhat happens with opinions from
other people, things we hear inthe news and and we don't
realize that we take on so muchstuff from the outside that

(07:55):
that's not ours, and then peopleget and toxins and and
negativity and stress andworries and fears that are not
ours, right? And that startswith conditioning in family and
our loved ones, right? And thenit goes into media and news and
all that. So if you don't have aregular practice to cleanse

(08:16):
yourself of that and clear thisclutter, there's no wonder that
people are stressed or worriedabout it. And then, speaking of
relationships, you take on, yourbest friends are in a
relationship, and it's notworking, and because you love
them, you're kind of likethinking so you you're seeing
things outside of you, and youlove these people, and they're

(08:37):
doing their best, but it's notwhat you really want, but you're
taking it on, and your friendsare giving you advice, and they
mean really well, but actuallyit's only coming through their
lens, and very often the lensthat's not very clean, right?
Because they haven't done thecleaning and the purifying work,
right?

That is such a good point. If your friends aren't
meditating on a regular basis,if your friends aren't like
doing Yeah, practices that cleanthem, and I've never thought of
it in that way before, don'ttake their advice. Like, just
how often people take advice onrelationships from people who
have toxic relationships don'thave relationships.

I tell my clients very often. I say that,
okay, if you want to learn a newlanguage, if you want to learn
Russian, who do you go to tolearn Russian, you go to a
Russian teacher, right? Youdon't come to me. If you want to
learn the piano, who do you goto? You go to a piano teacher,
right? To someone who does thatprofessionally and I personally,
in every field, whether it'screatively or something else

(09:40):
that I want to learn. I alwaysgo to the best people, not just
to someone who's kind of like,Yeah, okay. Starts with yoga
teachers. Starts with everyone Igo to. I go to the best because
I want to become that, or I wantto learn from the best, right?
So if you want to learn aboutloving, conscious, beautiful,
amazing relationships, maybedon't. Go to your friends or

(10:01):
don't take advice from thepeople who are not in those
relationships, or who don't, whoare not in a relationship with
themselves. That's loving,right? Because that's where it
starts. Everything on theoutside starts with with a
reflection of that on theinside, right? So your primary
relationship, when we talkabout, okay, how do you create
the relationship of your dreams?Is you creating the relationship

(10:23):
of your dreams with yourselffirst? And I know that this is,
I think, what your podcast isabout, right? To take charge, to
to step into the driver's seat,to create the life of your
dreams, right? So if you don'tknow who you are, first of all,
deeply, not just on the surface,right? Because people try to

(10:43):
create and manifest. They try toget quick fixes and quick
manifestations. And we live in aworld where we get everything on
our phones straight away, right?So we're not used to building
something over time andinvesting time into something
right and patience. And if youlook at all the things, the

(11:03):
monuments from the past, likeMayan pyramids or the, you know,
the Egyptian pyramids, oramazing buildings in, in, in,
you know, the most beautifulbuildings in Vienna, the
cathedrals, or whatever it is,right? How much time or castles,
how much time did it take tobuild these places? It wasn't.

(11:25):
It didn't take a year, or eventwo years. It took years of
dedicated, committed work tocreate this masterpiece that
lasts for centuries and is goingto last for centuries, right?
It's the same with creatingrelationships and the
relationship with yourself,right? It takes time. It takes,
don't

take a couple 100 years. So maybe not.

That's not, I know it's not what I mean, but
it's kind of like people veryoften, and clients included,
they come to me they want tohave quick fixes, yes, exactly.
And especially the ones thatcome out of bad relationships,
right? And they're like, theycome out of a bad relationship,
they know they want to leave it,and then they jump right into
the next one, without doing theinner work to fully understand,

(12:11):
why was I even in that? How didI track that? Because it's, it's
always a co creation. It's neverjust, it's that person's fault,
it's the government's fault,it's my mom's fault. It's it's
you, there's something you'redoing that's co creating that,
right? That's allowing certainthings to happen. So if you
don't fully understand why thisis happening, and you jump right

(12:31):
into the next thing, it's goingto be the same situation, just
with a different person. Yes,it's like an actor. It's a
different actor playing adifferent role, but it's the
same scenario, the same samemovie, and it's going to end the
same way, right? Sometimes weimprove a little bit, but so if
you don't take the time tounderstand who you really are on

(12:52):
a regular basis, not just whenthings go wrong, right, people
very often come to coaches or tomediums or psychics like myself
when something is wrong, orpeople go to church and pray
when they're already in debt, orwhen something bad has happened,
that would be like going to thegym and starting to work out
when you've already injuredyourself. It's too late at that

(13:15):
point, right? Or not too late,but it's quite late, yeah,
right. So

going to the dentist after you haven't
brushed your teeth for fiveyears, or whatever the example
is, yeah,

so it's kind of doing that that's an ongoing
practice where you strengthenyourself. You're getting to know
yourself like in the gym. You'restrengthening your physical
muscles in the gym with doingthis internal work, such as
meditation or conscious work onyourself, right? You're you're
strengthening your connectionwith yourself, your connection

(13:45):
and not just to the human self.I work as a medium and a psychic
right? We are connected to, upto a divine self in every single
moment. But how strong is thatconnection? So again, when I
say, How well do you really knowyourself? It's not just the
physical self. My name is Gabby.I grew up here and there. No,
no, no, no. You've had pastlives. You've had, right?

(14:08):
There's something much deeperthat that has a deeper wisdom, a
deeper reason for being here onthis planet, even. Why are you
really here and based on thatcreate your life or your dream?
So when we talk about creatingthe relationship of our dreams,
well, what is, where does thatdream even come from? Because
very often people go throughlife in their dream, what they

(14:31):
think their dream is is actuallysomething that society has fed
them, has told them, Well, youneed to have this. You need to
have that. And it's a, it's a,it's a list of boxes that you
just take. Okay, I need to havea car. I need to have a house. I
need to have this relationship.I need to have kids. I need to
look like it comes from theoutside, yeah, it comes from the
outside, right? And we becomephotocopies of of society. So

(14:54):
depending on whether you grew upin in America or in Greece or in
in a Buddhist monastic. Right?You just become a product of the
outside world, right? That'swhat conditioning is about. And
then people wonder, they haveall these things, they tick all
the boxes, and then they'restill unhappy because they've
never manifested or created,okay, what is it actually that I
want? It never came fromsomething deeper, right? And

(15:19):
then they go into this midlifecrisis and then, and then it's
like, okay, something isn'tworking, and I'm really unhappy,
and I don't understand why,because they've never taken the
time to actually go deeper andunderstand Well, where did my
dream even come from? Was it adream that came from my head,
from conditioning, from theoutside world, everything that
my girlfriends are doing and myfamily or my best friends, or is

(15:41):
it actually something that nowhat's, what's coming from
within myself? What does my soulwant? Right? Why am I here? Why
am I living this beautiful lifeon this planet Earth, right?

Or this horrible life, if I'm not connected to,
if you're not, if it feelshorrible, you're just gonna
you're not connected to yoursoul into that your divinity,
really. And I think, you know, Ilove everything you just said. I
think that until a woman reallyhas that deeper connection to
the divine, the universe, God,Goddess, whatever we want to

(16:15):
call it, or a man, yeah,

what do you mean? No, because he's a woman.
Oh, no.

Well, this podcast is for women. I There are, like,
there are, there are, but it'smostly women. Sorry, men, if
you're here, they usually justfill in the blank, but that when
we're not connected and we don'tbelieve in the support that's
all around us, you aresuffering. So I think everything

(16:44):
you're saying like to create therelationship of your dreams, you
have to be connected tosomething greater. So for people
who aren't spiritual, per se, orwho have never dealt, and this
was me, like 15 years ago, who'dnever who've never delved into
their spiritual self, becauseyou are so connected. I actually
reached out to Gabby when I waswriting my book, and I said, Can

(17:07):
you, can you open my channel forme? Or, like, teach me how to
channel my book? And she waslike, Kate, it's a devotional
practice every single day.That's what you said you I wrote
pages and pages and pages ofnotes because your response was
15 minutes long. But, but, and Ithink there were like four of
them, but it was like, you can'tjust be like, Okay, now I'm
ready for the book channel. NowI'm now, I'm open. You have to

(17:28):
build that relationship. So howwould you say for a woman who is
not connected in any way, andwhen sometimes I think we use
language that they might noteven understand, how would you
say to start that path ofbuilding that connection. You

just said the key word, and it's in the title
as well. Relationship. It's nodifferent from creating a late
relationship with another humanbeing, right? So creating a
relationship with your higherself, your true self, your true
essence, whatever you want tocall it, with your soul, is
exactly the same. So you need tostart by creating a connection.

(18:05):
So by meeting that person,sitting with yourself, right?
That could be in meditation,that could be going for walks in
nature, doing the things thatyou love, right? It's much more
simple. If you look at a child,so you said something earlier
about, you know, some people arenot as spiritual as others. I
would actually disagree withthat, with that labeling, in a

(18:28):
way, because we're allspiritual. As little kids, we
knew exactly who we were, soit's actually natural to us to
be connected with

a forgotten Yeah, yes. So

it's that stuff that stuff that you have on your
teeth when you eat food, right?It's a covering again, right? Of
subject. So it's whatever theworld taught us to cover our
natural connection to God, tothe Divine, to what we love,
right? So it's about creating aso it's about reconnecting to
that and reconnecting to thatrelationship of Yeah, to

(19:01):
yourself to the things that youlove that make you you, rather
than doing the things that youalways have to do and other
people are telling you to do,just going back to, all right,
the things that you love to dowhen you were younger, that you
maybe haven't given yourself thetime to do. And yes, it can
meditation, yeah, I

just want to pause you for a sec. I think this is
revolutionary, what you'resaying. So I just want to, like,
stop and like, expand it alittle bit. I know you are
expanding it, but I just want topause right here. Most people
think of their spiritual self aslike, because religion, I'm sure
we have to, like, pray tosomething out there and like,
wait for it to deliver ussomething. And it's so beautiful

(19:40):
what you're saying. It's justlike it's our innate it's our
innate way of being, and thatyou connect to it through your
joy and pleasure and your yourfeeling truly

magical you are. This is who you are.
There's a child within you,right? And that's why we go back
to what we said at the verybeginning, when you can. Started
that idea of easy versus hard.For Kids, things are naturally
easy, right? If they play agame, if they play something, if
they no longer feel like doingit, they stop it. And we, as

(20:11):
adults, our mind overrides howwe feel constantly. No, I need
to get this done. I need to workharder. I need to right, so we
so the feeling and the intuitionand the soul speaking to us,
because it constantly doesright, gets overridden by this
logical mind, or by the mind ofof our parents, and, you know,

(20:32):
the external constantly right,and we forget to listen to what
actually comes from here, fromthe heart, from the soul. So
it's actually, again, much moreabout undoing, and it's actually
much simpler than we make it outto be, right? And when we speak
of someone as being spiritual,to me, it's not some going to
church or knowing everythingabout the chakras or all these

(20:55):
kind of things, right? There arepeople who know all of these
things, but they're not reallyconnected to something higher,
and they're not, moreimportantly, they're not kind
and loving people. To me,spiritual people are loving
people who treat everyone thesame. And you don't need to
follow any path. You just needto be a good human being. You
need to be loving and openagain, like a child is. A child

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doesn't know about meditation orthis or a spiritual path, or
they naturally arecompassionate. If someone cries,
they go over and will, willempathize with that being and
try to help and try to make themfeel better, right? So again,
it's, it's all natural, and Ifeel like we just over
complicate, and it's therational mind that over

(21:38):
complicates everything and on abigger picture, right? And when
you said, I always have aninteresting way of seeing
things, is because I tried tolook at everything from a bigger
picture, not from this smallhuman self called Gabby or
called Kate, right, right?There's a bigger picture to
everything happening everysingle day, right? And if you

(21:59):
zoom out a little bit, so theway I tell my clients how to see
it is, there's a differencebetween you watching a TV show,
your favorite, let's say soapopera, right? And it kind of the
emotions go up and down. It'slike, oh, you know how movies
try to take us on this emotionalroller coaster? Very much.
There's a difference betweenjust watching it, so observing
it, and actually being in it,being a character that goes
through, oh, my God, I'm goingup and down and forward and

(22:21):
back, and most people aretrapped in that story of up and
down, so kind of in the illusionof life, right, in this smaller
part of themselves. And what youand I, what we are very good at
practice, because it's justpractice right or remembering
are very good at doing is takinga step back and going, Is this
really me, or is this just somea habit that I've or

(22:44):
conditioning, right? And thenyou can start to kind of undo
bit by bit if you start toobserve yourself, okay, why am I
feeling this way? Why am Ithinking this way? Why am i
Believing I can I'm notdeserving of a good
relationship, or, Why am I, uh,have, why do I have certain
beliefs and thought forms andold emotional patterns? Why are

(23:04):
they even there? And when youtake a little bit of a step back
through meditation or throughconscious reflection or talking,
right, we don't have tomeditate, we can talk. That's
why people go to therapists,right? It's kind of like getting
a different outside view of whyis Gabby Gabby, why do I do the
things I do? Why do I say thingsI say? Why do I speak the way I

(23:25):
do? Right? And when you canstart to observe it a little
bit, then you can change it. Ifyou're not aware of what you're
doing and who you are and whoyou're not, you cannot change
it. So awareness, gettingyourself aware, is the first
step so learning to observeyourself, and that's through
practices like meditation,through listening to people who

(23:48):
spread awareness, right? So,learning, it's a way of
learning. I'm not I don't knowvery aware of quantum physics or
other kinds of things. How do Ibecome more knowledgeable or
aware? By reading, by studying,by listening to people who've
already gone much further alongthat path than I have, right? So
that's one step. The first stepis reconnecting with yourself in

(24:09):
a very natural way, doing morethings that you love, doing more
thing you know, spending moretime with yourself. Even most
people are in families. They dothey're, they're in their
routines of 24/7, doing this,doing that. They're just in
this, like a mouse in the, in ain a wheel, right? They're
doing, yeah, so they're in thisprogram, yes? So,

yeah, I have two, two things first. I just

sorry. I just go and go and go. No,

no, I love it. It's so good. There's just, like,
when things stand out, I justwant to to pin them. So, you
said illusion, the in theillusion. And I was thinking,
how so so many people likeMariana, her whole life had
people say, like, get in thereal world. And like, even when
my clients are at. Immersion,and they feel so expanded.
They're like when I get back toreal life, as if like being in

(25:04):
the magical, co creative spacewith the universe and life. And
when things are easy andsynchronistic and magical and
beautiful, it feels like that'sthe fake world and that's the
illusion. And I think a lot ofpeople who are really hooked on
the conditioning and on the likelife has to be a struggle, rat
race, thing that you were justtalking about, they look at us

(25:25):
and think we're the dreamers andthe crazy ones and like the
living the illusion. Butactually, like the illusion is
the fear, the illusion is thesuffering. And what's what's
available to us in any moment ispure presence. And actually like
seeing things through the heartand everything you're talking
about actually living from adifferent place, and then you

(25:47):
attract completely differentthings.

Well, the thing, when you said, you know,
like illusion versus reality,that's just, we humans like to
give names to things, right? Putthings in boxes. You know, the
Western world especially, likesto put things in boxes. Likes to
call this one way, or that wayor and we do that in order to
feel safe, right? Our ourlogical mind is not there has a

(26:12):
beautiful purpose. I you know,I'm not saying the logical mind
has no purpose at all, not atall. It helps us to make sense
of the world, right, and thephysical world, and it helps us
to to once you've learned how toride the bicycle, to remember
that and keep doing the same. Sothese programs are to a degree
necessary, right, but if youmistake the program for reality,
right? And you it's just thereas a helpful tool, right? These

(26:35):
things, putting things intoboxes, but then it can also
limit us, right? And steppingout of and when you say, Okay,
this is reality, and this is notreality. So this is why a
retreat, for instance, that youknow the things that you do are
so powerful for people who areliving in their day to day
wheels, right, their dailyhabitual selves, right? That's

(26:59):
That's all conditioning is? It'sjust habits. We become good or
conditioned to something becausewe repeat it over and over and
over again, and that's what youthen believe reality is right.
So there are experiments even inscience right, where there's an
example of, you know, elephants,when they get taken by circuses

(27:20):
and they get tied to a specificplace right from the time of
their birth, when they then andthey've they, they live in that
state for years and years, whenthey then get freed physically,
right and into, you know, theythey stop working for the for
the circuses, and they becomefree. They still, apparently,
they don't have the courage orthe desire even to venture

(27:44):
outside of that little circlethat they lived in, right?
That's mental conditioning,right? Yes, when actually, there
is this whole world outside, andyou can now run free, but it's
so it's repetition. It's aprogram that's runs and runs and
runs. So when we say realitypeople live in these programs.
Of this, my job is my identity,right? So I go back to the same

(28:06):
thing over and over. It's thesame thing. And the pandemic was
an amazing, beautiful inception.I want to call it almost right.
Of people suddenly from theirusual realities, being stopped.
But, you know, there was like,stop and suddenly remember this
term. Even though I don't agreewith again, they created a term

(28:27):
right of new the new What didthey say? The new normal? Yeah.
Is this normal? So if I blockedit out to the next, yeah, no.
But now let's, let's use it in areally positive way, right where
everything, the normal stuff,the wheel stopped. We were
forced to stop, and we wereforced through a horrible
condition to suddenly changereally quickly. Yeah, human mind

(28:51):
can do the same thing, andpeople have these experiences
when something horrific, veryoften through horrific things,
right? When people don't do itconsciously, it happens when
someone dies or when they losetheir jobs or something, right?
And then they're forced to makea really quick change out of
that loop of reality, right? Andthen suddenly they're forced to

(29:13):
do it, and they can do it. Ihave an uncle. I'm going to give
you a very practical example. Ihave an uncle who's now 88 but
back when he was maybe 60 orsomething. He was always
conditioned or raised himself toeat very bad food, right? He was
overweight and everything. Hedeveloped a diabetes, all kinds
of other things. And his doctoralways used to tell him, you

(29:34):
need to start going on adifferent diet. And and he was
always resisting, no, no, Ican't. I can't. So His mind was
always the door was closed,right until he developed cancer,
kidney cancer, right? And thenwithin, and then he was told
this could be terminal, right?So within three months, and the
how the universe works, withinthat time, he had a girlfriend

(29:57):
coming in, a new girlfriend,right? That came in. So. Yes.
And all of a sudden, because ofthis condition that could have
been terminal, and because ofthis new love coming in, he had
a reason, a new reason. Andthat's the difference between
motivation and inspiration,right? Inspiration pulls us.
Motivation push it pushes us. Hehad a reason for wanting to

(30:19):
change his old conditioning, andsuddenly, within a month, he
changed his diet, he lost a lotof weight, right? Suddenly, it
was possible, right? Do youthink it wasn't possible before?
Of course, it was. But his minddidn't allow it, right? Because
the door, it's like, it's reallylike a door. If a door is
closed, you cannot experiencewhat's on the other side of that

(30:41):
door, right? So the first thingalso to changing your reality
needs to be that you're open tonew things and changing. And
that's again, going back tokids. That's the reason in kids,
by the way, I'm some of my mostfavorite teachers, right?
They're amazing teachers, if, ifthat's why kids can learn new
things from one year, from onemonth to the next. If you

(31:04):
haven't seen your friends, kidsfor like, a month or two,
they're like a different person.

It's like language. Oh, my God, you stick kids in
language class. They can learnmany languages. They can learn
how to speak fearlessly, yeah.And their

personality shift, and, you know, modify,
and we are all these things. Soat the what's really real?
Reality is that we are, we'reconsciousness, pure
consciousness that's able to bemolded in any direction. So
that's why, if you're born in aBuddhist monastery, you're going
to have a very differentmindset, and therefore openness

(31:37):
to life. Then when you're bornin a Christian family in, I
don't know, in Idaho. I don'tknow why I'm saying Idaho, but
or in the south of France, or inItaly, or does that make sense
based on the conditioning, andalso not just the country, but
your family. You can grow up ina very loving, open, conscious
family, right? Or you can growup in a family where everything

(31:59):
is just right. So

so many interesting way

find things reality. It's not the same, and
we saw that so clearly duringthe pandemic, that we were all
living in the same world, thephysical planet, but we were all
living in very differentrealities. The ones that latched
on to fear were living in onereality. The ones that were a
lot of the conscious and, youknow, spiritual people, they

(32:30):
were kind of like, had a great,had a had a sort of use that
time to grow and expand, and itwasn't a horrible time. Does
that make sense? The same foreveryone. That's what we think.
No life is this. Life is that.No. Life is different for me,
for you, for everyone, eachindividual listening. So it's
about figuring out again, who doI want to be, not just who I am

(32:53):
right now, but who do I want tobe moving forward? And that's
the dream you can change andmold at any point in your life.
Again, this is what Neurosciencetells us, right? Neuroplasticity
is not limited to age. You knowthat old saying of you can't
teach an old dog new tricks?Completely wrong. But these,
again, are just, you know,beliefs, stories that we buy

(33:18):
into.

They keep keep us stuck, that keep us stuck over
and over again and coming backto a relationship. I just love
how you explain everything. It'sso beautiful and so clear
relationships. So women have somany stories around
relationships, around men,around what's possible around
themselves and their worthinessfor someone who has a really

(33:41):
strong mind and men too. Ifyou're there, are you there?
Feeler for someone who has areally strong mind and their
beliefs like they they're justso used to glasses, half empty
glasses, half empty, victimmentality. I am stuck like, just
as you describe, any everythingit so many people think they're
stuck in their reality. Whatwould you advise them to do, or

(34:06):
where's the best I mean, I knowyou've already shared a lot of a
lot of tips, but have you workedwith clients? I'm sure you have
like that, that just are have areally stubborn mind. I have

clients like that. I have clients like that.
Yeah, yeah. So. So the thing is,first of all, I would rephrase
the word stubborn and strongmind, because if you have a
stubborn and strong mind thatcan actually work for you,
that's a good thing compared topeople. So I kind of tell the
story of, there's some peoplewho are like, leaves right in
the blades of grass, right? Andif a wind comes from the

(34:40):
outside, they're like beingpushed this way, and then
another wind comes from theother side. They're being pushed
this way and that way. So theydon't have a very strong, as you
call it, mind or core, right?Compared to people who know who
they are, who have a strongbelief in who they are, right?
You can call it mind, who arestubborn, maybe, when a wind
comes. Comes. It kind of mightbend them a little bit this way,

(35:02):
but no, they always come back towho they know who they are. You
have kids like that sometimes,right? They can grow up. You can
have siblings who grew up inexactly the same situation, or
with the same parents, with thesame circumstances, but one
child is like a follower, andfollows everything from the
outside, and another one islike, No, I know. And those are
the ones that that parents wouldclassify as more difficult,

(35:24):
because they don't listen toeverything. On the outside, they
listen to something. No, I knowwhat I want, so I would, I would
actually make that a positivething rather than a negative
thing, right? Having a strongmind, a strong mindset. However,
then it's about, right? How doyou use that mindset? Do you use

(35:45):
it positively in a positivedirection, right? It's like your
focus. Or do you use itnegatively against yourself? Do
you use it to harm yourself andkeep yourself limited? Or do you
use it in a positive way whereyou can grow, where you take
yourself out of suffering?Because that positive mind, if
you've been stuck in something,it's just about so very often

(36:06):
it's very simple, just aboutswitching your focus from what
you did, what it is that youdon't want, to what it is that
you do want. So again, when wetalk about relationship of my
dreams, knowing what my dreamis, very often people who are
very stuck. They're just peoplewho focus more on what they

(36:26):
don't want rather than on whatthey do want. So it's like
watering. It's like flowers.When you water them right, if
you continue watering the weeds,they will grow. So whatever you
put your attention you focus onwill continue to grow, right?
We'll get energy. So if youcontinue to order what you don't
want, it will continue to grow,and then you will feel stuck. So

(36:50):
the perception of feeling stuckactually doesn't exist, and I
call it a perception, becauseyou're never stuck life in every
moment, constantly, ourmolecules move and they're
fluctuating. They're not stable.We constantly. We're constantly
in motion, right? Our thoughtsare constantly in motion. Our
emotions are constantly inmotion. So when someone

(37:11):
perceives themselves as beingbeing stuck, it's only because,
like my uncle, you continue torepeat the same patterns, you
think, the same thoughts, youfeel, the same emotions, you do,
the same things, day in, day dayout, right? That's exactly what
happened to my uncle, right? Hewas stuck in his reality. He had
a strong mind. No, I don'tlisten to anyone on the outside

(37:33):
because he was only because hekept focusing on on the wrong
thing, right? So if you thenstart, if you take a flower,
your dream, if you suddenly, sopeople don't, very often know
what they don't want, and theykeep focusing on it. I don't
want this, and I don't like thisabout a person, and very often
it's connected to people's work.So I have a client who's a

(37:57):
scientist and a doctor. So verymental, logical, analytical
work, right so and sheoverworks, of course, like they
do in that in those kind of, youknow, circles, she spends maybe
12 to 1516, hours a day in heranalytical head, right in front
of a screen, in front of amicroscope, analyzing and

(38:18):
finding faults and finding allthat kind of stuff. If you train
your mind to do that and youdon't learn how to switch off
after your work, right? It'slike taking over off a code,
okay, this is my work. I'm nowgoing home. I'm not taking that
mindset with me. But most peopledon't do that because they spend
so much time in that energy. Andpracticing anything we become

(38:40):
good at is only because wepractice it. That's the positive
as well as the negative, right?You become good at something
that you want to achieve becauseyou practice it. You also become
good at negative thinkingbecause you repeat it right over
and over. So they take thisanalytical mind home, and then
they continue with it, at home,with their partners, with, you

(39:03):
know, their relationships witheverything. Oh, this is wrong,
and this is wrong, and this iswrong because, you know, the the
amount of time you spendpracticing one thing. So it's
about how much time you givesomething, and that's what I
said earlier, as well about, howabout you? Ask me about, okay,
how can we reconnect to thisdeeper part of ourselves that
the real self? Well, how muchtime do you give it if you spend

(39:26):
16 hours finding faults or beingin front of a computer screen
and this and connecting onlywith the world instead of with
the inside? Well, there's nowonder that you're then you
know, and you're focusing onwhat you don't want all the
time. There's no wonder thatthat's what becomes your
reality, and that's what youthen believe reality is, when

(39:46):
actually no if you start toshift that gently, right, and
you begin to spend more time onon so if you a lot of people who
are stuck, they don't know, theyknow what they don't want, but
they are actually not. Clearabout what they do want. Okay? I
mean,

it might think they know, but they've, it's in their
mind versus like they haven'tdone the exploration of what
lights

up, what does that feel like as well? Exactly,
yeah, their feelings, theirbody, yeah. But also, if they
might know it, and they've donea little exercise once, or a New
Year's resolution, but theynever spent any time. You can
see me going from here to there,right? It's like a different
path. If you never spend timewatering the flower of your
dream of what you want, right?If you want more love in your

(40:30):
life, then you need to give thatmore energy, more thought, more
not just in thought, but inemotion, in deeds, in the things
that you do from day to day,right? So then when you start
watering that flower, it cancontinue to grow,

as you were saying that I was imagining them,
telling them set or you,whoever's listening, telling,
telling yourself what you wantto hear. Because isn't it wild
to think like we can tellourselves mean things all day
long. You're fat, you suck,you're you're worthless, you're
not enough. Like, look, thatperson's mad at you, this thing,
whatever. And we're in thattoxic, abusive cycle internally,

(41:06):
and then just longing for someguy or some love to come along
and sweep us off our feet and toshower us with love. But we're
abusing ourselves internally. Sowhen you describe the watering
can, I was picturing that howbeautiful that would be just

watering the things that they do. Yes,
basically, yes, exactly. So it'sabout shifting your attention to
flowers or, you know, qualitieswithin yourself, experiences
that you want to have more of.So take your attention in the
direction of what you want morehang out with more people that
are the way you again, goingback to if you want to learn

(41:42):
Russian or the piano, go andspend what more time with a
Russian teacher or pianoteacher? Does that make sense?
Spend more time in an immersion.Spend more time doing that inner
work, whether it's with otherpeople. And it's always easier
in the beginning, right forpeople who are not very good at
or practice that doing innerwork. It's always easier to do

(42:03):
with people with a coach, witha, you know, in a group, or
something like that, rather thanso people who've never meditated
before. It's very difficult forthem to get into that practice
because they don't really knowhow to do it, right. Yeah,
pattern will start to take over.So find people who can, who are
good at what you want to learn,surround yourself with that.

(42:24):
Read about them, watch moviesabout couples that have the
relationships you have whenyou're traveling around and you
see people on holiday who are inlove, soak up that energy,
observe them. What are theysaying? What are they doing that
you want to have more of, andthen start implementing that
into your own life, right? It'sas simple as that, yes, it

(42:44):
starts with an idea and a dreamand thoughts, but then it needs
to go into feeling that way aswell. Okay, what does that dream
feel like? What does having morelove in my life feel like? So
there's this, there's thisbelief that that love is outside
of ourselves and not with it,right? So the the ancient Mayan

(43:06):
tradition, you know, the SouthAmerican ancient wisdom
tradition of the Mayans, theyrevere the dog as a symbol of
love, because they said thathumans, they look for love on
the outside, right in someoneelse, so something that they
believe they're lacking, andthey want to get it from the
outside, whether it's fromanother person, from, you know,

(43:27):
could be money, could bepossessions, all these from a
profession, right? Compared to adog. And again, dog is exactly
like a child, a small child,preconditioned child, right? A
dog goes out. If you look at alittle puppy runs around and
doesn't look for love, it justspreads love. And you know what
I'm doing, right? I want to loveyou, and I want to, and that's

(43:50):
why everyone's heart just opens,right? Even if you've forgotten,
it's like, wow, that's, that'slove, right? So they give it,
and because they give it, theyget it back 1000 times. It's
what you do. Kate, by the way,you're very good at right?
You're gonna be just spreadingit like a little puppy or like a
little kid, right? And that'swhat it is. So it's not about
looking for it on the outside.It's actually becoming it and

(44:13):
being in the energy of love,right? So what does the energy
of love feel like, and how doyou get more connected with the
energy of love? And you knowthis in your life. Well, you do
more things that you love. Youdo more things that you enjoy,
right? You

sing the Moulin Rouge medley. All You Need Is
Love. What? Yeah, exactly yousing.

You sing more exactly. Well, singing is a
vibration, talking aboutvibration, right? Yeah, that's
why, when people go to aconcert, you know, to to their
favorite artists and whatevergenre of music, right? Maybe
it's different when you go to aheavy metal concert. I don't
know. I've never been but if yougo to these concerts, why people
so they're immersed in two hoursof high vibration, and then they

(44:56):
leave and they feel uplifted fordays, and then. Yeah, they go
back to him, what you calledback to their reality, because
they are not used to holdingthis energy themselves, because
it comes from the outside. Itdoesn't come from within. They
don't generate it. They don'tknow how to generate it.

So beautiful. It makes me think of that A Course
in Miracles, and MarianneWilliamson teaches it in return
to love, which is based on ACourse in Miracles, you're
either everything we do iseither an extension of love or a
call for love. And if it'scoming from fear and from our
patterns and from all of thosecontracted, controlled places,
it's a call for love versus anextension of love, which is

(45:36):
exactly like being the puppythat was such a perfect
metaphor. But that's Yes.Exactly in

ancient traditions, they have this very
powerful, I think it comes fromIndia, from Sanskrit. I don't
know the I Am Presence exercise.Have you heard of I Am? That I
am right. I am so there's a verypowerful exercise where you
practice to be the dream thatyou want in the future. Because
very often, when we when wewrite down, when I do courses,

(46:05):
when I used to do law ofattraction type of courses,
right? And people write downwhat they want. So they write it
on a piece of paper, and theywrite, I want this. I want a
loving relationship. I wantthat. And then I tell them to do
that. And then afterwards, Itell them to cross out every
time they've written want, andreplace the word want with I am
or I have, because want putssomething in the future, so it

(46:29):
creates a distance between youand the thing that you actually
want, right? Whereas I am, Ihave brings it to right now. I
am in a loving relationship,because it's a relationship with
myself. I am loved, I am Joy. Iam and I have these things, and
it feels completely differentwhen you say it that way, and
when you learn to practice thatway. So you can have an exercise

(46:52):
that you can practice ofimagining everything that you've
always wanted already beinghere, right? It's an exercise of
imagination. Einstein used tosay, he said many beautiful,
amazing things, but he saidImagination is more powerful
than knowledge. And then he saidimage, imagination is your
preview of life's comingattractions. So it starts in

(47:14):
imagination, right? It starts ina dream. Everything that you see
here, a cup, a microphone, aphone, was once an idea in
someone's head, until it becamesomething physical, right? So it
starts there, but then it'sabout physicalizing it feeling
okay. What does it feel like?Already be there and have that

(47:34):
and walking around, it's like areally fun exercise. That's why.
Again, kids, if you tell them,Okay, pretend to be a dragon.
They are. They're a dragon,right? They don't like to wait
get there. It's like, ah, butdragon. But

they're not, they're not like, I'm really bad
at being a dragon. I don't knowhow to do that. They just
suffer.

The mind is not in the way again, it's the thing
that over complicates things andgets in the way again, is this
layer of the mind, of therational mind, that stops us
from who we really are, rightand why you see with people you
talked about reality andconditioning earlier. Tony
Robbins said that you can seepeople's true nature when you

(48:13):
get them to do spontaneousthings. Because people think,
there are people who think,Okay, I am conservative, I am
this. I am a Republican. I am agood mom. I am that, right? So
these are stories they'vecreated. I am bad in
relationships. I am a failure,whatever it is, right? And
they've created these stories.And then you take them to a
physical workshop, where youphysicalize things, and then you

(48:35):
tell them, or they go to aparty, right? And suddenly the
music, the favorite song, comeson it. They start to do stuff
physically, right? And then theycatch themselves kind of like
doing something that theynormally don't allow themselves
to do. That's more the real, thereal them than the story, right?
The story is something that youkeep yourself in, and you hold

(48:57):
yourself in, and it's like,well, actually the real self is
the one that is free and thatwants to move, and that's so who
you really are, that little kid,that little your dream comes
from these moments, doesn't comefrom these stories. So freeing
yourself of these stories andbecoming conscious of them
again, if you're not aware ofthe stories that you hold and

(49:18):
the beliefs that you hold, youcannot change them. You cannot
let go of them if you don't seewhat they are first. So again,
that's where meditation and workwith maybe a coach or a person
like yourself or myself comes into help people. And it's always
easier for for someone else tosee your stuff then for you to
see your stuff, right? It'salways easier in the beginning,

(49:39):
especially

for sure. And giving, giving the objective
perspective. And also, yeahpeople, other people can see
experts, the piano teacher, cansee what you can't see. So it,
it for women to work with you.So you were talking about your
your nude, I was gonna saylabel. Yeah. New defining label,

(50:01):
your intuitive personaldevelopment coach. So I've had
sessions with you. I had a I metyou at a retreat, and I Okay,
Gabby, I have to tell the story.Gabby, we played this game
called the guru game that Iintroduced to Marianas retreat.
And Gabby and I, this was in2019 and Gabby, everyone played

(50:23):
being a guru. And like, we allhad accents, and we were all
like, just had these funny gurunames. And because Gabby
actually is a psychic medium, Iwas like, gonna take notes when
she talks. And then, like, twoyears later, I found the journal
that you had shared. And I'm notsharing this story to have you
all run over to Gabby to havepredictive readings to find out,

(50:46):
like it when your man is comingand what he all the details, but
you predicted Patricio to a tlike it was insane, the things
that were inside. He didn't evenbelieve in psychic, the psychic
channel, or whatever, until Iread it to him, yeah, it exists.
You don't have to believe it. Iread it to him, and he was like,
Oh, my God, my love, you've gotto have another reading with

(51:06):
Gabby. And that is when we hadour second one. But there's
something that happens I've hadI was sharing this with you
before we hit record. There'ssomething that happens when I
talk with you, where I've had alot of readings over the years,
Akashic Record reading, psychicreadings, medium, all the
different things, tarot cards.And my experience with you is
it's like it feels it's exactlywhat intuitive personal

(51:32):
development coach. It feels likeI'm learning about myself. I'm
learning it's like it I don'tknow how to how to even describe
it, but it's like a retreat initself. There's something so
transformative about thosesessions, and it doesn't keep me
in my head waiting for somethingto happen, but it more like drop
everything you're talking aboutdrops me into the experience. So

(51:53):
if when women work with you, howdo you work with your clients?

It's different, depending on what clients want
and need, right, and also howlong they're willing to work
with me. So have some people whojust simply come from mediumship
readings right, because theywant to connect to someone on
the other side, someone they'velost or but then I do have other
people who want to work more onthemselves. For some people,
it's a mix of things, right?Because the reason why I was

(52:20):
sort of call to rebrand myself.Intuitive personal development
coach was because being apsychic, being being a medium,
being a law of attraction,coach, being all these other
things felt too limping withwhat I did, and my work started
to expand, right? And again,even intuitive personal
development coach is just alabel, right? Exactly.

You're so much more. It's just like, I feel
like you're a magical wizard,and we should just call you
that. And if you want a magicalwizard session to uncover,
uncover more of who you are,like, that's what it is. It's
like uncovering more of who youare, but walking away with tools
and practices to actually deepenyour relationship with yourself,
like that. That's what I've gotwhere it's like, and I already
have been working on myself fora very long time, but I always

(53:01):
gain so much value fromeverything you say and how you
say it like this whole podcastepisode is so beautiful and it
there's something about how Ifeel like you also should have a
podcast. We'll talk about thatlater, but there's something
about how time communicate.Okay, we'll make time. We create
time. Hey, exactly. Made upconstruct, but yeah, there's

(53:26):
something very unique about yourwizardry. Yeah, so if someone
wants to work, thank you.There's different ways to do

it. Yeah. I think that what distinguishes
me, maybe from other justpsychic mediums or just coaches,
right, is that I combine both ina way that feels natural to me.
So I studied this, I studiedthat, and then it just came
together naturally as somethingthat feels like is very unique
to me, right, and that I wasreally inspired to do it

(53:53):
something. So the difference isthat when you have a psychic
reading, right, you have areading and a mediumship
reading, and sometimes there canbe predictions and things you
know about the future, but itdepends, again, on what the
person is supposed to hear aswell. It's not up to me. If I'm
doing my job, I'm out of the waycompletely right, even when I do
things like that. But aprediction sometimes in these

(54:17):
readings, and especially when wetalk about time, because time is
very moldable. And, you know,things can sometimes take
longer. You know, people want toknow, Oh, do you see me doing
this this year or next year? I'mlike, it feels so limiting, even
just to because it's not whatcomes through most of the time.
So a prediction very often, or apsychic thing, whatever I did
for you in Greece, sometimescomes when a person is supposed

(54:40):
to hear it. For other people, itdoesn't come because they're not
supposed to hear it. They'reactually supposed to get into an
energy of trusting more wherethey're don't, where they don't.
So their lesson is differentfrom the one of, okay, hearing
this right,

actually, and probably because when you told
me that reading, I didn't want arelationship. So when you
describe. That man, like, if Iwas a woman who was, like,
desperately wanting arelationship, and then you told
me one was coming, that thatcould, that could potentially
put me into more attachment,where I'm actually not trusting
and not letting it happen indivine timing, and it could, you

(55:15):
know, mess with the frequencies.But because I was in such non
attachment, because I actuallydidn't want a relationship at
the time. That's probably whyyou could give me that

very often, the people who really want to know
everything and want to they'regetting the least amount of what
they actually want sometimes. Soif you're really relaxed and
you're just coming in open,sometimes things just drop in.
But at the same time, sometimesthey're just possibilities, I
feel and sometimes you get apossibility of various paths.
This is a path, and this isanother path, and it depends on

(55:48):
So, okay, this is a path. Thisis a possibility in the future.
But then where my other workthen comes in is, okay, there's
a possibility in the future ofyou becoming this, having this,
but how you actually get there?Because sometimes what they want
is so big and so huge, and wherethey are is not is, is too far
away, is. So it's going to takea while to actually get there

(56:10):
and to Yes, so that's when theythen come and work with me, and
okay, we work on, how do youactually get there, to become
this, being this person whoallows what we want to come in.
So one of the things I'velearned when working in the
psychic the medium, the law ofattraction, the chatting space,
is we want something, and wekind of write it down, we say it

(56:32):
to the universe, we just send itout, and then what we're
actually not able to do is toreceive it. So sometimes what we
want is bigger than what we inthat moment, can receive. And
it's actually, again, aboutreleasing all the layers that
resist, that are in the way ofwhatever is supposed to come to

(56:53):
you, to already come to you. Soto give you a concrete example,
very often people want thisbeautiful, loving relationship.
And have a client right now thatI'm working with on this, and
she comes from a fromrelationships, or a big
relationship that was verytoxic, right? So you're in an
energy and there's a reason whyshe was in that relationship,
right? So there's someone who'salready had, who obviously had

(57:14):
things going on, or still has,on some level within herself,
that have co created that toxicrelationship or allowed it to
come in, right? So, okay, ittook us a long time to for her
to that stubborn mind you weretalking about before, very, you
know, very strong will. It tooka long time for her to be even
able to let go of thatrelationship right, in a way

(57:39):
where she felt like she's notgoing to jump back to it right,
or jump back to somethingsimilar. And then we worked on
her in the meantime. And thenthe next relationship, the
universe sent her. So now theuniverse knows what she does,
what she sent it out. She'sbecome clear. Okay, I know I no
longer want this. This is what Iwant instead. And the universe

(58:00):
then sends her people, and thisis what always happens. The
Universe sends us similarsituations to what we had
before, not as a punishment, butas a next level of clear. So the
way we clear old patterns is notone. We do it once, and then
that's it. We clear in layers,right? There's layers of depth
that you go down to. It's likeat the bottom of the ocean, you

(58:21):
have to, it takes a while foryou to get to the very bottom
and clear the very deep stuff,still clearing stuff. I've
worked on myself for years andyears, and they're little things
that still come up, right? Butthey're not as heavy or as
they're smaller things, right?So when this new relationship
came in, it was like, Wow,great. And I was like, Okay, now
do it. She was already doingthings very differently from the

(58:44):
way she approached it before. Soit was already so much healthier
and none of that toxic stuff.But it didn't last, and it came
so the sign that you're there'sa sign that you're very close to
attracting the right person,right for you, or something that
could stay is when someone comesin, and they come in and out

(59:05):
very quickly, and you learn ahuge, big lesson and a
transformation very quickly. Andthat's what happened with her.
So the soul mate came in. Andwhy? By the way, we don't have
just one soul mate. We have morethan one. Soul mates are
basically just beings that comein. They don't always, aren't
always the ones that we staywith. They're sometimes the ones
that come in Teach us veryimportant lesson and go. It's

(59:28):
like they're they trans. Theycome in, boom, rock our boat,
make us aware, make us seethings, help us to transform and
let go of all that old garbagethat we were hanging on to. And
that's basically what happened.It's like what a chakra does, I
guess, right, something comesin, it gets changed, and then it
goes back out. That's whathappened with this person. So

(59:48):
this new person came in, it wasalready much healthier, and she
learned a huge lesson lessonabout herself. And it's like
another missing piece to helpingher. You. Um, just go higher and
higher in her relationships. Sohe just came in transformed that
old stuff left. And if youunderstand the lesson, and you

(01:00:10):
don't get hung up on whatdoesn't work, and you see, okay.
So the moment when you're whenyou're free of an old pattern is
when the same or similarsituation happens to you again,
but you no longer react or gettriggered in the same way,
right? It just comes in, it'sthere, and you're like, Thank

(01:00:33):
you for coming. I release you.And you're no longer triggered
in a negative way. You you'reable, actually able to accept
it, make peace with it, and thenit comes, and then it just goes.

Kate Harlow (01:00:42):
And if you want to have healthy, beautiful, amazing
relationships, like it thatwe've been taught it love in
such a passive way, like, oh, itjust, it just happens, and then
you live happily ever after,versus actually, this is like it
has, you have to look at it likea practice where you're
practicing with that person now,with this person, now with this
person. And you get better andbetter and better and better,
and you love yourself more andmore, and you let more and more,

(01:01:04):
and you expand yourself more andmore, and then your
relationships keep gettingbetter and better and better,
and your friendships and yourpurpose and everything gets
better and better. So yeah, it'samazing

Gabrielle Fritz (01:01:17):
to quickly say is Yeah, along those lines is
exactly what I say to my clientsin a job, right? We have a job.
We work somewhere in a company,and the first job we have is
kind of like, okay, I know whatI want to do, and it's going to
be a little bit of this. Andthen you work in a company if
you have a traditional job,right? Not if you're someone
like us who's never worked in atraditional job, but you go in

(01:01:38):
and you try this, and thenyou're like, okay, yes, I have a
little bit of I have all ofthese things that I've wanted,
but there are also things that Ididn't realize that come with
this job that I don't want. SoSo you kind of like, fine tune,
and you're like, Okay, I'mleaving this company after two
months and or two years. Andthen you move on to another
thing, right? And then you'relike, Okay, now I know what I
don't want more clearly. Solet's so knowing what you don't

(01:02:02):
want actually clarifies what youdo want. It's always the
opposite. If you don't earnenough money, what do you want?
You want more money. If you havehorrible relationships, you
you're you're being you're notbeing valued at your job. What
is the opposite of that? Youwant to be valued, right? So,
but it's just that a matter ofactually, okay, I know. So the
contrast knowing what we don'twant actually serves us in

(01:02:24):
becoming clearer in what we dowant. So for the next job, we
then look for, okay, I want moremoney. I want to be treated
nicer, but still want to work inthe same thing. Okay, let's go
for this job, right? Then you'rein a new company again. All
these other things have alreadyimproved, and then you're like,
all right? But now I wantsomething I've just found out
about this new thing. I want toadd this too. So we constantly,

(01:02:46):
we never stop expanding, right,and polishing. It's like Frodo
or in The Lord of the Rings, orLuke Skywalker in all of these
hero stories, right? The hero'sjourney. It's like most people,
stop halfway through the journeyand they settle for, yeah, this
is good enough. It's 60% goodenough. And they don't know that

(01:03:10):
they can have 100% but 100%requires going all the way,
right?

You have to keep willing to go through all those
levels in order to be you beready for 100% thinking it's
gonna come and you don't have todo anything together.

Journey is not always a smooth. Journey is
sometimes Frodo gets, you know,meets a bad guy and this but,
but he learns things and picksup lessons from every single
encounter. And it's the same inyour job, you would never think,
oh, just because I've, I've, Iwant to leave this job and I
don't like it. I'm not meant tobe in another job, right? I

(01:03:46):
can't have a better job. No, inour jobs, we're like, No, I
don't this. I'll move on. Thiswasn't good enough. I move on.
And in relationships, we go, wemeet the first person, and we're
like, Oh no, but this was theone meant to be. And we have
such a pro a hard time lettinggo of this one thing, because we
don't believe that we

can have more, more. We're afraid, yes, yeah,
good

things there. Okay, the 60% is amazing, but
40% are not that good. Andpeople don't realize that when
you continue the journey, the60% or everything that was
actually amazing in the job, inthis relationship is a
reflection of you. So when youhave the courage to move
forward, most people don't moveforward because they're afraid

(01:04:28):
of losing the good stuff. Rightuntil you realize, no, the good
stuff is is me. The good stuffis a reflection the person we
attract is a reflection of us.The qualities we love in someone
else are qualities that we loveand and value deep within
ourselves and carry deep withinourselves, right? So when you're

(01:04:50):
when you realize, okay,actually, no, I believe that I
can have 100% and I'm gonna keepgoing, they don't realize, okay,
you you all. It's like a rocketgoing into space. Is right? The
higher it goes up. What does itdo? It just lets go of all the
things it no longer needs, thecore, the essence of that
rocket, which is all the goodstuff of you still continues,

(01:05:11):
continuous continues. Continuesand things go up and up and up
and get better and better andbetter.

So here then the metaphor Queen Yeah, and having
the courage

understanding Yes, to keep going entire
journey. Yes. I think this iswhat most people settle for.
Things, yes,

yes. This is so important. I mean, okay, I we
have to wrap the episode. Thisis so good, and maybe we'll do
another episode on not notsettling. Perhaps there'll be a
part two, but this, it's sogood, and I'm so happy that this
is what came through at the end,because that is exactly we've
been taught to settle down. Ijust want to settle down. And

(01:05:50):
people say that out loud, justwant to settle settle down, be
down, and then they're onantidepressants for the rest of
their life because they'vesettled down. So this is
amazing. I'm sure a lot of womenare going to want readings with
you, sessions with you. I will.We'll link it below the show
notes. What is your yourwebsite? You just say it out
loud. We'll also link it below.But do you want to say it out

loud? Gabrielle, dash in a
journey.com, Gabrielle, DoubleL, E, dash in a journey.com, and
just also to mention, it's avery old website, because I've
been busy with other things, sothe prices and times and the
format on it aren't accurateanymore. But then the
information about what I do ispretty accurate, so

perfect. So just and just fill up the form or
send you an email, why don't yousay your email to people? Can
tell you to

you can contact me via my website, actually. So
there's contact,

okay, well, we'll link that with the contact page
right below

the email as well, my direct email as well.
Yeah, perfect.

Thank you. My love. Oh my gosh, this was amazing,
and I know we can go, we coulddo this for five hours, so which
we knew in advance beforehitting record. So I will part
two is coming, and thank you forbeing with us today. Thank you
for sharing all your wisdom andyour gifts. And I just feel like
this is one of those episodesthat their women will listen. I

(01:07:13):
know my all my clients will, forsure. Women will listen to this
over and over and over again,because there's endless gems. I
will listen to it over and overagain too. You are UK magical
wizard. Is it? What did I callyou? A magical wizard? Is that?
Was that the term

we'll need to think about a term like, not
fairy wizard. I don't know.We'll have to think about so I
work with angelic energies verymuch. I'm Gabriel for reasons.

Yes, is a magical being amazing, and as always,
spread this message to all thewomen you know who need this
uplifting message. Need toremember the men. No, no women,
but men have enough. Men havehad enough in their lifetime.

Women maybe

spread the word to all your gal pals, and we will
see you next week.

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