The Toughest Choice: Caring for Aging Parents, Family Conflicts & Life-Changing Decisions

The Toughest Choice: Caring for Aging Parents, Family Conflicts & Life-Changing Decisions

The Not Old Better Show, Art of Living Interview Series

Welcome to The Not Old Better Show—I’m Paul Vogelzang, and today we’re talking about something that will touch every single one of us at some point in life. Whether it’s making decisions for aging parents, navigating sibling dynamics, choosing the right senior living option, or even planning for our own future, these are conversations that matter. And let’s be honest—these are conversations that most of us avoid until we’re forced to have them.

But today, we’re making it easier.

Our guest is Deb C. Miller, a longtime friend, real estate expert, and now author of Doing the Right Thing: Simple Solutions, Essential Tips, & Helpful Resources for Assisting Aging Loved Ones. Deb has spent decades helping families through some of life’s most challenging transitions—from downsizing and selling homes to dealing with grief and the tough realities of dementia. And she’s been through it all personally, too—so she’s not just giving advice; she’s lived it.

In this episode, we’re diving into:
✅ The one thing everyone over 50 should do right now to prepare for the future
✅ How to handle sibling conflicts when caring for aging parents
✅ The 40+ questions you must ask when choosing an assisted living facility
✅ Why selling a home “as is” might be the best move—and when it’s not
✅ And how to move forward after loss—on your own terms

This is real talk, real advice, and a conversation filled with humor, heart, and practical wisdom. So whether you’re an adult child managing care for a parent, a solo ager making plans for yourself, or just someone who wants to be prepared instead of panicked, you’re in the right place.

Stay with us—this is going to be an insightful and empowering conversation. And now, let’s welcome Deb C. Miller to The Not Old Better Show.