In this compelling "best of" episode, Dr. Sharon Spano welcomes Angela Myer, a trauma-informed hypnotherapist and author of The Undetected Narcissist. Drawing from personal experience and clinical expertise, Angela dives deep into the complex world of narcissism—what it really is, how to detect it, and most importantly, how to protect yourself from its damaging effects.
Angela explains the behaviors and traits of narcissists, the different types (including the often-misunderstood covert narcissist), and why narcissism is often born out of trauma, neglect, or unresolved emotional pain. She also shares strategies for identifying manipulation, managing difficult relationships, and healing from narcissistic abuse.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- The six primary causes of narcissistic behavior—including parenting styles and trauma.
- The difference between covert and overt narcissists and how to recognize both.
- How to decode manipulation tactics like gaslighting, blame shifting, triangulation, and smear campaigns.
- Why narcissists often present as charming and charismatic—until you're in their inner circle.
- The devastating impact of identity erosion and how to reclaim your sense of self.
- Why narcissism can sometimes be temporary and trauma-induced, and what healing looks like.
- How to create safety and exit plans in narcissistic relationships, especially in cases involving domestic violence or shared children.
- The power of self-awareness, boundaries, and pattern recognition in protecting yourself.
- How to support a loved one dealing with a narcissist—and why successful, high-achieving people are not immune.
- Why Angela believes that everyone will encounter a narcissist at some point in their life—and how to be prepared.
Transcript: Here
Additional Resources:
Twitter: https://twitter.com/AngelaMyerUN
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/angelamyerun/
Website: https://undetectednarcissist.com/
Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B75GJTX3
Podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1972197/episodes
Links Mentioned:
Bradley Angle: https://bradleyangle.org/
Sharon Spano:
Website: sharonspano.com
Facebook: facebook.com/SharonSpanoPHD
Instagram: instagram.com/drsharonspano/
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/sharonspano/
Book: thetimemoneybook.com
Contact: sharon@sharonspano.com
Substack: substack.com/@drsharon
The Other Side of Potential Podcast: sharonspano.com/podcast/
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