Divorce Without Damage: Protecting Kids from Triangulation!!

Episode Summary:
Divorce is already difficult, but when kids are pulled into the middle, the damage can last a lifetime. In this episode of The Path to Peace Therapy Podcast, Stephanie Buckley, AMFT Solution-Focused Therapist, breaks down the hidden harm of triangulation when children become the messenger, pawn, or referee between parents.

You’ll learn what triangulation looks like, why it’s so harmful to children’s emotional and neurological development, and most importantly, how to stop it. Stephanie shares practical scripts, family systems insights, and boundary-setting tools to keep your child safe and emotionally free.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The psychology of triangulation and why it happens during divorce.

• Real-life examples of how kids get caught in the middle—and the damage it causes.

• The role of the amygdala and prefrontal cortex in why kids cannot carry adult-level stress.

• Scripts to use when your ex tries to communicate through your child.

• Boundaries that protect kids while restoring balance to your co-parenting dynamic.

• How to reinforce your child’s role as just the child, not the go-between.

Why This Matters:
Children who are protected from triangulation grow up with stronger attachment bonds, better emotional regulation, and healthier executive functioning. By refusing to use your child as a messenger, you’re giving them the priceless gift of stability.

Resources & Next Steps:

• For deeper dives into divorce, co-parenting with a narcissist, and ADHD family systems, join me on Patreon at Patreon.com/ThePathToPeaceTherapyPodcast.

• Follow me on Instagram: @ThePathToPeaceTherapy

• Learn more or book a session (in person in Hermosa Beach or virtually across California) at ThePathToPeaceTherapy.com.

Take a deep breath, give yourself some grace, and remember: peace is possible, and you don’t have to do this alone. You got this, and I’ve got you.