The Relaxed Male Podcast

The Relaxed Male Podcast

Helping men Develop stronger bonds and change their mindset with their teenage sons to that they are able to raise strong confident purpose minded men. Each week Bryan Goodwin gives new information to help you discover new ways to connect with your son to help him overcome the anxiety and counteract the influences that society has.... Show More

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May 28, 2020 41 min
Question of the Week

This weeks question is from Quora

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Main topic

Fear, is something we have all experienced in one form or another sometime in our life. I remember when I was a little kid I was in the kitchen at night and grabbing some snacks I wasn’t supposed to have and suddenly a large column candle we had on in there for smell goods and emergency lighting if the electricity went out suddenly fell off of i...

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May 21, 2020 30 min

One of the biggest factors that will hold a person back is the story and thoughts of how they arrived in the current circumstance they find themselves in.

There are times that people may find themselves in a deep dark hole. When they look back on how they arrived there they want to point their fingers at anybody else other than the real person who is to blame.

Look at an addict. They blame others for the circumstance that they are ...

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May 14, 2020 38 min

We all have a story in our head. Yet we often have the wrong story. The story you tell is apart of whether or not you are going to succeed.

Now, these stories are yours. But are you telling your story in the right frame of light or are you perhaps living somebody else story? Doing this doesn’t serve you and often it doesn’t benefit you in any way.

What is meant by your story?

Your story is what are you telling yourself. It can also...

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April 30, 2020 32 min

Why so dramatic? I bet you know many people who seem to love drama. They overblow what the worst that can happen. They relish gossip and add details to stories they hear. Yet I bet you didn’t know that you also delve into drama quite a bit too. Maybe you know you do and if so good job at least you are more aware of what is happening than many people.

What is drama?

When I refer to drama I am not meaning plays or acting. I am meanin...

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April 23, 2020 28 min

The benefits of a mastermind are plenty and I wanted to share some specific benefits that you gain when you are a part of a mastermind. You are a part of a community You don’t have to worry about feeling lone nearly as much as if you were going on your own. You will have people who have been in your shoes before and can anticipate what may be around the unforeseen corner.

You have people who can help and offer you support.

Support

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April 16, 2020 26 min

If you want to succeed you have to take action. Sounds like that is a no brainer. Yet one of the reasons most people don’t succeed is because they don’t take the steps they need to take. They will hymn and haw over what they should or should not do

Why people don’t take action Fear

Afraid of what others will think

Fear that they will change

Afraid that they will lose their friend's

Procrastination (fear)

Afraid of what others w...

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April 9, 2020 36 min

We start this episode off with a little rant about the changing times and how does this goes with why we suffer.

We have hard all about how people suffer. Yet we don’t really look at what causes suffering.

Why do we suffer?

We suffer because we resist our emotions

we try to make people do what we feel is best for them

By not being in the present

We look into our past more than we need to

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So many people say they hate liars. You cant trust them. Yet many of those people are the worst liars around. Now there are two types of people who are inherently liars. No, I am not talking about Navy recruiters or politicians. I am talking about Addicts are liars and the other natural liar is a people pleaser.

I want to talk this week about the second. I will address the first at some time down the road, but today we are looki...

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March 26, 2020 28 min

What is a fixed mindset?

The Fixed mindset is the thought that you are limited in what you are able to achieve by what your talent is. We often tell kids that they are smart and this is a huge problem for when the kids actually hit a limit on what their smarts are able to create.

This problem can cause kids to shy away from a challenge and keep them from learning that getting something wrong is actually alright. It shows that ...

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March 19, 2020 29 min

The concept of Growth mindset and it's counterpart Fixed mindset comes from Stanford Professor Carol Dweck Ph.D. in her book Mindset. In this book, she talks in detail what each mindset is and give an example after examples of people who display both sides. From Dorothy Delay the violin teacher from The Juilliard School of Music to Jack Welch, the man who saved General Electric.

Carol talks about key points that exemplifies ...

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March 12, 2020 47 min

This week talking about the opposite of the abundant mindset in Episode 14. That is a scarcity mindset and the problems it can cause in your efforts of being successful. We all have problems with negative thinking. Those negative thoughts are normal and have a purpose but they don’t serve us as they did in the caveman days. We use to not have enough and we had to fight for all that we had. Today that is still somewhat true but now...

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March 5, 2020 37 min

What is an abundant mindset?

People with an abundant mindset feel freer to give and share because they don’t see that the resources in their life are in scare supply. They have the motto of There is more where that came from. Often people who aim for and achieve big goals are people who have an abundance-oriented mindset. Because they aren’t worried about what they don’t have, abundant mindset folks are generally happier and eas...

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February 27, 2020 29 min

What is a mindset?

It is the story you tell yourself. It is a set of beliefs that help you in determine how badly you are wanting a particular outcome. A mindset is basically a set of thought habits. So this helps to set whether you are actually going to achieve that outcome or not.

It is able to be changed. It isn’t easy and you have to stay after it.

Some people associate your mindset with the subconscious but it is something you...

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February 16, 2020 23 min

So there are so many people following each other it is actually pretty hard to see who is really leading. From Tattoos being a kind of interesting piece of art on bikers and sailers to now you see almost everyone with a tattoo.

What makes leaders and successful people are that they are different. They don't march to anybody's drum but their own. Though people around them try to force them into their square hole. These peopl...

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February 9, 2020 47 min

There are times that we are just flat out stressed. There are family duties, work duties, and other random problems that just want to heap upon us so that we just start to have a hard time concentrating. That stress we feel can create moments of higher than normal anxiety and the different health problems that the increasing levels of cortisol supply from high blood pressure, to lack sleep, upset stomach and lowered immune systems....

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February 1, 2020 35 min

Talking about failing to even start today. What holds you back? What are the factors that keep you from even taking getting far enough down the road to even feel stuck?

Fear

This is the biggest of all and encompasses just about everything that makes you not even want to jump off the diving board into the pool of cool success.

Fear of Results

But we want results right? Yes, we do. yet many times those results can be scary t...

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January 23, 2020 34 min

We all feel stuck from time to time. The problem is when we feel stick and don’t know how to get past that feeling. We often are stuck and accept it as normal. We cope with the feeling and it often becomes normal. That is why so many people have started their great American novel, and it dies there. These folks start their novel and they are stuck and the fruit of their work just dies on the vine.

Why do people, get stuck...

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January 16, 2020 29 min

So many men have become dependent that it is actually scary to think of being self-reliance. Though being able to rely on yourself is an important part of being a complete and balanced man. Many people depend on others to make them happy or to provide for them. This does nothing but breed discontent in the person who is relying on others to be taken care of. The other people who are taking care of you may do it out of the kindness ...

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Some people believe they deserve to be happy. Is this really true? This is what we explore in today’s podcast episode.

Many people believe they are supposed to feel happy all of the time and then get flustered and even downright upset when they feel anything other than happiness. They are plagued by anxiety because they aren’t happy. People do so many different attempts at not feeling that anxiety that they start to fight all emoti...

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January 2, 2020 20 min

A quick and shorter episode this week compared to Episode 5 at least. So this week talking about after-action reviews. This is a review strategy that can help you become better and learn from your mistakes faster. It does take some practice to think of it and practice it after different actions.

Basically as a whole what you want to be able to do is after any event ask yourself the following questions.

  • What did I do good?
  • What did I...
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