As I sat down with the delightful Pearl, an 85-year-young dynamo, her eyes sparkled with the same zest for life that would put any youngster to shame. Our conversation, a kaleidoscope of her life's vibrant hues, sweeps us from the innocence of childhood dress-up to her 64-year symphony of love with her husband, Bob, offering a treasure trove of wisdom on flourishing in the autumn of life.
Pearl, with her infectious laughter, narrates the tale of her and Bob's journey from the Canadian chill to California's embrace, weaving in tales from her nursing days to Bob's chiropractic escapades. We uncover the secrets of maintaining joy as we age, the camaraderie in senior living communities, and the resilience that shone through during the pandemic's trials. If you're seeking inspiration to fuel a happy, active life regardless of the passing years, let Pearl's unwavering positivity and proactive spirit guide your way.
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Ron Greenwald (00:27):
Welcome in.
This is Ron Greenwald, the RonGreenwald Podcast, and this show
serves as a lightning rod forolder adults in their journeys
to a happy and successfullifestyle.
We talk, we bring inprofessionals, we bring in older
adults, we bring in all thosepeople that can bring benefits
(00:49):
of great stories and greatknowledge to help older adults
as they navigate their journey.
So we also invite the childrenand the grandchildren of those
older adults, too, to listen tothis, to help and understand the
journey of aging.
And today I am thrilled tointroduce my guest who we just
met about a couple months ago,and I said immediately you must
(01:13):
come on and do a podcast with me, pearl.
Welcome to the Ron Greenwaldpodcast.
Welcome in, it's great to haveyou here.
Pearl Fletcher (01:21):
Thank you, ron.
It is just a pleasure to behere.
I am so happy to be here withyou again.
We had such a fun time lasttime and I look forward to a fun
time this time too.
Ron Greenwald (01:34):
Thank you, and you look fabulous.
The first thing you said to meis that you love glitz.
And how did all that come about?
Pearl Fletcher (01:41):
Well, I like to dress up as a young child.
About Well, I like to dress upas a young child and that was
fun in my mother's wedding dress, which was overwhelmingly large
on me.
But the older I get, the moreglitz I get and I just let it go
at this point because it's funto do, that's all.
(02:02):
It's just fun.
It makes me happy to do.
That's, that's all.
It's just fun.
It makes me happy and that is abig thing in my life.
That's my responsibility tomake myself happy well, that's
awesome.
Ron Greenwald (02:14):
Tell us a little bit about yourself.
You, you're welcome.
You're willing to give your ageto the world, to this part, oh
you can all know my age.
Pearl Fletcher (02:24):
I'm going to be 85 in June, the end of June this
year, and what a blessing it is.
I remember when my dad turned70, he said I said, oh my
goodness, you're getting old.
And he said, Pearl, there arelots of people who don't live to
be 70.
Look at how lucky I am.
So I never planned on gettingto be 85.
(02:47):
I thought I'd die young, butaren't I lucky I'm here.
Ron Greenwald (02:52):
And you're married to Bob.
I'm married to Bob and you'recelebrating your.
What number anniversary.
Pearl Fletcher (02:57):
It's going to be our 64th anniversary, and that
is a joy, because lots of peopledon't stay married 64 days and
here we are 64 years, ron.
Ron Greenwald (03:10):
And tell us a little bit about the family.
Pearl Fletcher (03:12):
We have three children.
We have two girls and then ason.
One daughter lives in Carlsbad,One lives in Tennessee and our
son lives in Dallas, Texas.
Ron Greenwald (03:26):
So they're scattered around.
Pearl Fletcher (03:27):
They are scattered around, but only the
last two and a half years.
Until then we all lived up to.
Our one daughter has lived inSan Diego for probably 30 years
and our other daughter and sonthey lived right in Thousand Oak
West Lake, moorpark area.
Ron Greenwald (03:48):
Which, for those that don't know, is kind of a
northern of Los Angeles.
Pearl Fletcher (03:52):
It's about an hour north of Los Angeles,
you're right.
Ron Greenwald (03:55):
Bob, so is that what you said?
Most of your life is in the LosAngeles area.
Pearl Fletcher (03:59):
Well, the last, probably 30 years of it?
Yes, that has been in that area.
Ron Greenwald (04:06):
And what did Bob do for a career?
Pearl Fletcher (04:08):
Well, we were born both of us in Canada and I
met Bob when I was in nursing,in training, and he was in the
hospital, he worked in thedepartment where they take care
of the money, and we went out acouple times and then he said to
(04:31):
me you know, you're a nice girl.
But he said I want you to knowright away, when I get married I
will have one or two children,and then I am moving to
California.
You see, he had been out hereon a trip when he was 18 and
loved California, but the UnitedStates had a draft, we Canada
(04:54):
did not.
So he wanted to avoid the draftand he said so, pearl, if that
sounds good to you, we cancontinue dating.
If not, well, maybe we can befriends.
So we did continue dating andfrom there we got married, and
it was a couple years laterbecause I was still in nursing
(05:17):
and then we had a child and, dueto his predictions, then we
moved to California.
Ron Greenwald (05:25):
And did you continue being a nurse?
Pearl Fletcher (05:28):
I did do nursing for quite a while.
That was a passion of mine.
I loved nursing.
To this day I love nursing.
But he decided then he would.
We had two more children inCalifornia and after the third
(05:49):
one was born, was born inNovember, in December he came
home one day and he said to mehe was due to go out and his
friend and he had set up a wholeI don't know thing for doctors
in their offices for collectingmoney and everything.
And when he came home fromseeing one of the doctors I said
(06:12):
to him how did it go?
And he wasn't telling me abouthow this business of his or
future business was going to go.
He started telling me about howhe could go back to school and
he could become a chiropractor.
That was total news to me andthat long ago chiropractic
(06:37):
wasn't looked upon with a lot ofoh, wow, isn't this wonderful?
And so I said well, how is thatgoing to work, bob?
He had a wonderful job at GettyOil Company.
He was corporate accountant forGetty Oil.
I thought if we ever make anymoney near close to this, how
(07:00):
are we going to live, bob?
Was this a?
Ron Greenwald (07:02):
midlife crisis for Bob.
Pearl Fletcher (07:04):
Well, I thought it was a midlife crisis for me.
Ron Greenwald (07:06):
He's not here, so he can't answer.
Pearl Fletcher (07:08):
For me it was.
But I said how is this going towork?
Well, he said you know, I'vegot it all figured out, pearl.
He said I can go to school, Ican go to work at Getty, I can
leave the house at 7.30 in themorning, I'll go to Getty, I'll
work till 5.
Then I can go over to schoolafter that, and I'll be home by
(07:32):
11.30 at night.
And I thought how is this goingto work?
And I said, bob, how long doesthis take?
Well, I'll be done in threeyears.
And I thought I will do it too.
But you know, if I didn't sayyes to that, I might have
(07:53):
regretted it for a long time, orI might have regretted it for a
long time, or I might haveheard about it.
And I thought, I guess hethinks he has to do this.
And it was a real embarrassmentfor me because I didn't and he
had never done anything that hewouldn't complete.
We were into is this a goodthing?
(08:15):
Is it workable and doable?
So I said, yes, go ahead.
And so we did that and after agood year and a half I realized
it was going to, we were goingto finish it.
In the beginning I didn't havea lot of faith that that could
(08:35):
be finished with three kids, butyou supported him.
But yes, yes, I did.
Ron Greenwald (08:42):
I think you should be a marriage counselor
for the younger generation todayin terms of how to support one
another.
Pearl Fletcher (08:48):
Well, anyway, it did work out for us.
He had an extremely successfulpractice.
And then he came home one dayand he said I had the best news
today.
Okay, bob, what's the news?
Oh, he said, one of my patients, you know, he's in real estate
and he found a residential carefacility that we can buy.
(09:13):
And I said well, why can we buythat, bob?
Well, the real reason is it'sgoing under Pearl, these people.
They just redid the whole thing.
Everything's been redone, it'sbeautiful, but they don't have
the money.
They didn't have enough backing.
They've only had it six months.
(09:34):
They thought they'd be rollingin money in six months.
Ron Greenwald (09:37):
So Is this in Los Angeles?
Pearl Fletcher (09:40):
This was in Thousand Oaks.
Ron Greenwald (09:41):
Okay.
Pearl Fletcher (09:43):
So I said well, I guess you're going to look at
this, right?
He said oh yes, it'll be agreat thing for you, pearl.
I know you'll be able to dothis and you'll have fun with
this.
Ron Greenwald (09:59):
Now, what age are your children at this point?
Were they having the second?
Pearl Fletcher (10:02):
Well, they were probably the oldest, one would
have been maybe 10.
Ron Greenwald (10:07):
Oh.
Pearl Fletcher (10:07):
And so the youngest would have been about
six, and this was in ThousandOaks and at that time we lived
in Chatsworth, which was quite adrive.
Nonetheless, we did buy thatfacility.
It had 109 beds and we kept thelady on for one year so I could
(10:31):
learn how to run a residentialcare facility.
So that was a new experienceand I did that full time for
probably about two and a halfyears and then we got directors.
After that I stayed veryinvolved with it that if they
ever went on vacation or hadsick days, I would always go in
(10:52):
and replace them and I would goin every week regardless,
because that was my babychecking up on it checking up on
all of my residents and mystaff so you're managing an
owner of a residential carecommunity up in the Thousand
Oaks area.
Ron Greenwald (11:12):
Your children are still weaving their way through
teenagerhood and going on tocollege, so part of our mission
of this podcast is how to fastforward a little bit.
You are moving, you moved it,so you sell that at some point
in time and move to san diego,is that?
Pearl Fletcher (11:31):
right.
We sold that.
We owned it for 25 years.
I was 35 when we bought.
True, we decided we would move.
Because my, our daughter decidedshe wanted to move to out of
(12:02):
state, to where her sons couldafford to live in.
There If they got married andhad a wife and children, they
could have homes and the wifecould make a decision Did she
want to stay home or did shewant to work.
So she decided they would go toTennessee and we would go to
(12:23):
Tennessee.
So we had the moving peoplecome.
They came and they went throughthe house and said this is the
size van you're going to need,and that was fine.
Then, when they came to do themove, they brought the van
different young man again and hecame to me and he said your
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house is not going to fit inthis van.
Well, why won't it?
That's what they told me.
No, he said I don't care whatthey told you, it's not going to
work.
So I called my daughter apartand I said Grace Ann, this is
not going to work.
Oh, she said what can we do?
(13:11):
I said there's nothing we cando, except what we're going to
do.
You are going to come with me,we're going to walk through the
house, make a decision what wedon't need, and then you're
going to take the boys andthey're going to move it all
outside onto the driveway, partsof it at a time, and you're
going to take videos and thiswas her decision.
(13:31):
I'll take videos of it andwe'll put it up free.
Everybody will come, it'll begone and every half hour I'll go
out.
And then if it's gone which Ithink it will be bob she said,
then we'll put more stuff outand I'll check every half hour.
So we got sterling silver, wentout and you were willing to
(13:53):
part with all that.
You know know it was a decisionthat had to be made.
The kids did not want SterlingSilver.
They didn't want the workinvolved in it and there was no
time to call friends and say,would you like this Sterling?
Maybe their kids didn't want iteither.
Ron Greenwald (14:11):
That's a story unto itself.
I mean, as I say, having workedwith hundreds, if not thousands
, of people moving to, you know,senior communities or down
right sizing.
That is a story I haven't heardyet.
Pearl Fletcher (14:23):
So bless you, pearl then the grand piano went
out on the there, because that'sanother big piece you moved the
grand piano outside outside.
The boys did.
We had three young strappingboys.
They got it outside.
Ron Greenwald (14:38):
And you were giving that away for free.
Pearl Fletcher (14:40):
For free.
Everything that went outsidewent outside for free.
The people learned they didn'tleave.
Grace Ann was telling.
I never went outside and lookedat it.
I thought what's going is going.
But she said the cars and thevans and the trucks were staying
because they knew stuff wouldbe coming and so all kinds of
(15:04):
stuff went out till finally theysaid okay.
I said now is that enough stuffthat's gone, can you do this
now?
And when they said yes, thenthat was yes, yes.
But the story gets funnier.
Ron Greenwald (15:18):
We're still not in San Diego, we're still going
to Tennessee.
At this point, we're stillgoing to Tennessee.
Pearl Fletcher (15:22):
So all of the furniture then gets put in the
vans and then they come for thecars, because cars go on the
moving vans, on those carloaders too, and all of the cars
go.
I think there were five of themthat went.
And I said to Grace Ann sheknew ahead of time I had told
(15:42):
her your dad and I are going togo down to San Diego.
We're going to stay in SanDiego for one week.
We're going to take each of usa small suitcase that will hold
only enough clothes for the week.
We'll stay with Diane so wehave some time with her.
That was wonderful.
So we came down here and westayed with Diane Diane's your
(16:05):
other daughter.
She's our other daughter.
She's in Carlsbad.
And then the second last day wewere here, she took us to
Westmont facility, which is aretirement facility, for you can
get help or you are self-carethere.
It's a wonderful, wonderfulcommunity and before we knew it
(16:31):
we were signed up to stay atWestmont and we'd be close to
our daughter, diane, whodesperately wanted us to stay
here.
But now all of our clothes ohare in Tennessee and all of our
cars were in Tennessee.
But you know, for a woman isn'tthat wonderful.
(16:52):
I can go shopping and I can buy.
Ron Greenwald (16:57):
It's like lost luggage on an airplane, it is,
it is.
Pearl Fletcher (16:59):
And I told him, I said you know, I am not
shipping it back again, bob,we're going to go and we're
going to buy whatever we needand I'm going to buy all the
clothes.
And he, he, I told him, I said,and you're going to be very
generous?
And that's what he was, andthat's what I did.
Ron Greenwald (17:18):
Oh my gosh.
So did the clothes in Tennesseeever make it back?
No, they're just off the goodwheel.
Pearl Fletcher (17:25):
I go there twice a year usually for about four
weeks each time At least.
I go twice a year, and then Ihave plenty of clothes when I'm
there.
Oh, my goodness, gracious yeah.
Ron Greenwald (17:39):
So okay, so that was what two years ago.
Pearl Fletcher (17:41):
That was about two and a half years ago.
Ron Greenwald (17:43):
And you come to San Diego and you just so how
did the conversation?
Westmont is a WestmontEncinitas senior community is
pretty new at that point.
Pearl Fletcher (17:54):
It was brand new .
It was opened in July and thiswe were here the middle of
December and took occupancy thefirst part of October, so it was
very new.
Ron Greenwald (18:07):
And so the conversation with Bob and the
family is going yeah, we don'treally want to deal with a house
.
I mean, what is theconversation to go?
Hey, this is a much betterlifestyle for us.
Well, you have the backgroundin senior living already so you
know that part of it.
So it wasn't a foreign objectto you in any capacity.
Pearl Fletcher (18:25):
No, not at all.
Ron Greenwald (18:26):
So um.
Pearl Fletcher (18:27):
Can I?
Ron Greenwald (18:27):
pause really quick.
What is that the alarm?
Pearl Fletcher (18:34):
Well, that gives you a ten minute.
Ron Greenwald (18:38):
Well, that is a story.
Pearl Fletcher (18:40):
Isn't that so great, ron.
When I heard that, I was likewhat?
Ron Greenwald (18:44):
That you threw everything at me because nobody
does that.
Pearl Fletcher (18:48):
No, I just love your flow with life and as
things happen and you just gookay, then this is here and this
is what we do.
And then this is here, and thenthis is what we do.
Ron Greenwald (19:00):
Yeah, it's just a new thing, there's no drama or
panic, or you know.
Pearl Fletcher (19:05):
No, I do not panic.
Ron Greenwald (19:06):
Can you tell?
Pearl Fletcher (19:06):
me again.
I do not panic.
I might inside have my pulserate go faster and think, how
are we gonna work this out?
Well, don't worry about that,just let right now take care of
itself.
And Okay, I think we're good togo.
Okay.
Ron Greenwald (19:26):
Where were we you ?
Pearl Fletcher (19:30):
were talking about the Westmont community.
The Westmont, yeah Right.
Ron Greenwald (19:33):
So you come in about two years ago, two, three
years ago, and you're with Dianeand you wake up one morning and
go Bob, maybe we should go upon El Camino Real and go check
out this beautiful new seniorcommunity called Westmont.
Is that the conversation?
Pearl Fletcher (19:51):
No, no, no, Diane had gone to see Westmont
apparently before we arrivedhere, oh, okay.
And she said you're going tolove this, mom.
She knew I loved the water, Ilove the pool.
I don't swim but I love toexercise in it.
And she said you're going tolove this.
(20:12):
And she knew the director atthat time was Charlie.
She knew him and she said wewere very fond of Charlie, I
think you're going to be happywith him and the apartments are
lovely, you will like them, andeverything positive she could
say to me.
(20:33):
She said to me.
So one day she said okay, it'scoming near the end of the week
here, let's go and see them now.
And okay, we'll go see them.
Ron Greenwald (20:43):
And Bob's on board.
Pearl Fletcher (20:45):
Bob doesn't say anything.
Ron Greenwald (20:46):
You're, you're, you're okay, Bob is quiet.
He's on board.
Bob doesn't say anything.
You're, you're, you're, you'reokay.
Pearl Fletcher (20:49):
Bob is quiet.
He's in agreement.
He's in agreement, we should gosee them.
Ron Greenwald (20:55):
You gave him the chiropractic side.
You're making the senior livingside.
Pearl Fletcher (20:59):
So we went to see it and it was.
The facility was beautiful.
Ron Greenwald (21:04):
We'll call it community.
We'll say community.
Pearl Fletcher (21:07):
The community you're right.
You're right.
The community was beautiful.
The windows are huge, theapartments, the ceilings are
high.
So, even though they might besmaller a little bit than what
you might like to have, andcertainly smaller than what
you're accustomed to, they lookbig.
(21:30):
And we looked at the bedroom.
The bedroom was a very nicesize.
We thought, oh, they have anice large closet.
The bathroom was very large forthe size of the apartment.
It was set up beautifully.
I couldn't have been happier ifsomebody had said would you
like to run this?
I couldn't have been happier ifsomebody had said would you
(21:51):
like to run this?
I wouldn't have wanted to runit, but I would have known how
to run a place like this and howto fill it up because it was so
gorgeous.
So before I knew it, bob hadsigned the lease.
Ron Greenwald (22:07):
Oh, he signed it with us.
Oh, yes, he signed it, Bob hadsigned the lease.
Pearl Fletcher (22:09):
Oh, he signed it .
Oh, yes, he signed it.
And Diane was applauding and Iwas still in a little bit of a
shock.
Of a shock Because I wasthinking, oh, the clothes and
the car, well, they have carshere to buy too.
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We could go and buy a car here,just as well as and you know,
we won't worry about that car wehave three grandsons.
One of them will be happy tohave it.
So we signed up and I have beenvery pleased with Westmont.
Ron Greenwald (22:48):
I have been thrilled with them.
Well, you just glow and youlook happy, you look young, you
look invigorated.
Pearl Fletcher (22:55):
You know that part is my responsibility, the
part of being happy.
I remember my mother telling mebefore I was married Pearl,
your responsibility forhappiness is your own.
So, regardless of the situationyou are in, you find your own
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happiness.
Bob isn't responsible for thatwe hope he's going to be
responsible for lots of thingsbut your happiness is up to you
to find, and so I will alwaysfind what makes me happy, and I
have truly found.
When Sandy goes around andtours people, one of my biggest
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thrills is to interrupt hertours because I know how
difficult it is for a residentcoming in to a new community.
That's hard for them and I canstep in and tell them the
wonderful things about Westmontand it gives me the greatest
(24:02):
pleasure to see the familiesrelax.
Here's someone stepping in thatis a resident that will talk to
my mom or my dad, or even mywife and myself about the
community.
Ron Greenwald (24:17):
That is so important.
Pearl, as I said, I've been inthis space of working with older
adults for 15 years and, likewe said before we went on air
years and like we said before wewent on air, most people, most
people wait way too long.
Then they don't have thecapacity to make decisions for
(24:38):
themselves, or they live intheir home way beyond the time
where they should be and thedeferred maintenance in the home
or things like things that arejust really not quality of life
right happen.
Somebody who owned a seniorliving community such as
yourself, understand, understandthat.
So I just applaud you.
(24:58):
I I do want to know who madethe call to your daughter in
tennessee to say oh, by the way,everything is yours.
Pearl Fletcher (25:06):
I think I did I think I did, I think I did, and
Bob would have been involved inthat also.
He would have been involved.
She was not happy about itbecause she had bought a home
specifically for us.
Ron Greenwald (25:22):
Oh.
Pearl Fletcher (25:22):
Specifically, it had no stairs going into the
house and it had a masterbedroom on the bottom floor.
So here she had bought thiswith us in mind and she had
bought I think it's asix-bedroom house, three bath, a
big house.
Ron Greenwald (25:42):
That had to be a difficult.
It was very difficult for her,but you worked through it.
Pearl Fletcher (25:47):
But we worked through it.
But you worked through it, butwe worked through it, we worked
through it and we have to workthrough it.
Those are our kids.
Those are our kids.
And she is not happy that wedidn't get to go there with her,
but she is happy.
She said Mom, I had you for 25years.
Ron Greenwald (26:11):
If Diane needs you now for some time or enjoys
having you there, she said, thenI have to be happy for Diane
well that's a great attitude itis and out of the two two-plus
years at Westmont, have youtaken on different activities
that you did not do before.
Pearl Fletcher (26:32):
Well, I never.
We had a pool when we lived.
Bob had a home built for us.
That home had everything in itbut it had a huge pool and I
loved.
I hated to exercise.
Okay, outside of the pool.
I absolutely hated when thedoctor would say can you do this
?
And they'd show me this, canyou do that?
(26:52):
They'd show me that, yes, yes,yes, that was the wrong question
.
The question should be out ofthe pool, will you do this?
Then the answer would have beencorrect no, I won't do it.
I can do it, but I won't do it.
But in the pool and Westmont isthe only place I know that has
(27:14):
a pool.
That's indoors.
The others are all outdoors.
I know in the winter I wouldn'tgo out and in the summer it's
so hot, I don't know this.
I stay out.
Normally I am in the pool fivedays a week for an hour and a
half to two hours a day justexercising, having a wonderful,
(27:36):
wonderful time and you've metnew people and made new friends.
I've met new people I've met,had made new friends.
I did.
We did start up a welcomingcommittee and I was chosen to be
the representative for thewelcoming committee and I took
(27:56):
it for a year but after that Isaid, no, somebody else needs to
take it, we need to have morepeople know how to run these
things.
But I loved the welcomingcommittee.
I could go meet the new peopleand I could tell them all about
Westmont and I could justrelieve especially on women the
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anxiety of don't worry, you'rejust like everybody else,
everybody's been nervous.
I'm gonna come and'm going topick you up for meals for
probably two days and you'regoing to be comfortable.
The nice part, wonderful partabout Westmont is the
friendliness of the people.
They are extremely friendly.
(28:40):
They are the most friendlycommunity I believe I have ever
known, except for yours, becauseyour attitude had to permeate
that one uh community I believeI have ever known except for
years, because your attitude hadto had to permeate that one it
did.
But the good.
The sad part was we had covidat that time.
The good part of covid andthere was we have to find good
(29:04):
in everything but the good partwas it kept us in the dining
room.
The whole area had troublegetting employees, so did
Westmont.
So we'd sit there, sometimesfor 20 minutes, half an hour
with COVID, before the mealswould begin to come, and you'd
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have grouching and I'd say weare so lucky to have this.
We're not in our rooms.
Look at, we're out here talkingand enjoying other people and
that's way more important thanbeing in our rooms.
Ron Greenwald (29:43):
Pearl I'm going.
The attitude is so importantand your attitude of looking for
the positive, choosing to behappy, choosing to see the
positive.
I hope not just older adultslisten to this podcast, listen
and really hear, because throughthe last four or five years
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there's been so much negativity.
You can choose to be really,you can choose to be happy, you
can choose to have a goodattitude, you can choose to live
a life that you have chosen tolive and you have obviously had
ups and downs, twists and turns,Obviously.
Bob, you put twists and turns inyour life and having furniture
go to Tennessee and then endingup in San Diego, but you just
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have come through with such glow.
I just want everybody to listento it, and I hope this is a
psychology podcast more than anaging podcast, because you're
just a delight to listen to anddelight to hear, so I thank you.
Pearl Fletcher (30:42):
Thank you for that.
But yes, we do have to rememberthrough everything, even
through if you have torrentialrains, we're going to have a
rainbow.
Just wait for that rainbowbecause it's coming and we can
have and we will.
It's not, we can, we will havedisappointments throughout our
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life, but tomorrow is going tobe better than today.
But tomorrow is going to bebetter than today and our choice
for happiness and our choicefor that is inside of us.
I can't expect you to make mehappy.
I'm happy being here.
This is a fun thing for me, butmy choice for happiness lies in
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the dependence upon that iswithin myself.
I have to find things that willmake me happy.
Ron Greenwald (31:34):
Awesome.
I'm going to end it there.
I have nothing more to say.
This is Ron Greenwald, the RonGreenwald Podcast.
Thank you for tuning in.
Thank you, Pearl.
Pearl Fletcher (31:43):
My pleasure.
Ron Greenwald (31:43):
Thank you for the introduction at Westmont Senior
Living Community.
Have a great day.
This is Ron Greenwald.
I thank you for tuning in todayto the Ron Greenwald podcast.
Please go togreenwaldrealityteamcom, call us
, email us with any of yourquestions or comments.
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chapter in their life.
That's very positive.
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Podcast.
Thank you.
Welcome in.
This is Ron Greenwald, the RonGreenwald Podcast, and this show
serves as a lightning rod forolder adults in their journeys
to a happy and successfullifestyle.
We talk, we bring inprofessionals, we bring in older
adults, we bring in all thosepeople that can bring benefits
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of great stories and greatknowledge to help older adults
as they navigate their journey.
So we also invite the childrenand the grandchildren of those
older adults, too, to listen tothis, to help and understand the
journey of aging.
And today I am thrilled tointroduce my guest who we just
met about a couple months ago,and I said immediately you must
(01:13):
come on and do a podcast with me, pearl.
Welcome to the Ron Greenwaldpodcast.
Welcome in, it's great to haveyou here.
Pearl Fletcher (01:21):
Thank you, ron.
It is just a pleasure to behere.
I am so happy to be here withyou again.
We had such a fun time lasttime and I look forward to a fun
time this time too.
Ron Greenwald (01:34):
Thank you, and you look fabulous.
The first thing you said to meis that you love glitz.
And how did all that come about?
Pearl Fletcher (01:41):
Well, I like to dress up as a young child.
About Well, I like to dress upas a young child and that was
fun in my mother's wedding dress, which was overwhelmingly large
on me.
But the older I get, the moreglitz I get and I just let it go
at this point because it's funto do, that's all.
(02:02):
It's just fun.
It makes me happy to do.
That's, that's all.
It's just fun.
It makes me happy and that is abig thing in my life.
That's my responsibility tomake myself happy well, that's
awesome.
Ron Greenwald (02:14):
Tell us a little bit about yourself.
You, you're welcome.
You're willing to give your ageto the world, to this part, oh
you can all know my age.
Pearl Fletcher (02:24):
I'm going to be 85 in June, the end of June this
year, and what a blessing it is.
I remember when my dad turned70, he said I said, oh my
goodness, you're getting old.
And he said, Pearl, there arelots of people who don't live to
be 70.
Look at how lucky I am.
So I never planned on gettingto be 85.
(02:47):
I thought I'd die young, butaren't I lucky I'm here.
Ron Greenwald (02:52):
And you're married to Bob.
I'm married to Bob and you'recelebrating your.
What number anniversary.
Pearl Fletcher (02:57):
It's going to be our 64th anniversary, and that
is a joy, because lots of peopledon't stay married 64 days and
here we are 64 years, ron.
Ron Greenwald (03:10):
And tell us a little bit about the family.
Pearl Fletcher (03:12):
We have three children.
We have two girls and then ason.
One daughter lives in Carlsbad,One lives in Tennessee and our
son lives in Dallas, Texas.
Ron Greenwald (03:26):
So they're scattered around.
Pearl Fletcher (03:27):
They are scattered around, but only the
last two and a half years.
Until then we all lived up to.
Our one daughter has lived inSan Diego for probably 30 years
and our other daughter and sonthey lived right in Thousand Oak
West Lake, moorpark area.
Ron Greenwald (03:48):
Which, for those that don't know, is kind of a
northern of Los Angeles.
Pearl Fletcher (03:52):
It's about an hour north of Los Angeles,
you're right.
Ron Greenwald (03:55):
Bob, so is that what you said?
Most of your life is in the LosAngeles area.
Pearl Fletcher (03:59):
Well, the last, probably 30 years of it?
Yes, that has been in that area.
Ron Greenwald (04:06):
And what did Bob do for a career?
Pearl Fletcher (04:08):
Well, we were born both of us in Canada and I
met Bob when I was in nursing,in training, and he was in the
hospital, he worked in thedepartment where they take care
of the money, and we went out acouple times and then he said to
(04:31):
me you know, you're a nice girl.
But he said I want you to knowright away, when I get married I
will have one or two children,and then I am moving to
California.
You see, he had been out hereon a trip when he was 18 and
loved California, but the UnitedStates had a draft, we Canada
(04:54):
did not.
So he wanted to avoid the draftand he said so, pearl, if that
sounds good to you, we cancontinue dating.
If not, well, maybe we can befriends.
So we did continue dating andfrom there we got married, and
it was a couple years laterbecause I was still in nursing
(05:17):
and then we had a child and, dueto his predictions, then we
moved to California.
Ron Greenwald (05:25):
And did you continue being a nurse?
Pearl Fletcher (05:28):
I did do nursing for quite a while.
That was a passion of mine.
I loved nursing.
To this day I love nursing.
But he decided then he would.
We had two more children inCalifornia and after the third
(05:49):
one was born, was born inNovember, in December he came
home one day and he said to mehe was due to go out and his
friend and he had set up a wholeI don't know thing for doctors
in their offices for collectingmoney and everything.
And when he came home fromseeing one of the doctors I said
(06:12):
to him how did it go?
And he wasn't telling me abouthow this business of his or
future business was going to go.
He started telling me about howhe could go back to school and
he could become a chiropractor.
That was total news to me andthat long ago chiropractic
(06:37):
wasn't looked upon with a lot ofoh, wow, isn't this wonderful?
And so I said well, how is thatgoing to work, bob?
He had a wonderful job at GettyOil Company.
He was corporate accountant forGetty Oil.
I thought if we ever make anymoney near close to this, how
(07:00):
are we going to live, bob?
Was this a?
Ron Greenwald (07:02):
midlife crisis for Bob.
Pearl Fletcher (07:04):
Well, I thought it was a midlife crisis for me.
Ron Greenwald (07:06):
He's not here, so he can't answer.
Pearl Fletcher (07:08):
For me it was.
But I said how is this going towork?
Well, he said you know, I'vegot it all figured out, pearl.
He said I can go to school, Ican go to work at Getty, I can
leave the house at 7.30 in themorning, I'll go to Getty, I'll
work till 5.
Then I can go over to schoolafter that, and I'll be home by
(07:32):
11.30 at night.
And I thought how is this goingto work?
And I said, bob, how long doesthis take?
Well, I'll be done in threeyears.
And I thought I will do it too.
But you know, if I didn't sayyes to that, I might have
(07:53):
regretted it for a long time, orI might have regretted it for a
long time, or I might haveheard about it.
And I thought, I guess hethinks he has to do this.
And it was a real embarrassmentfor me because I didn't and he
had never done anything that hewouldn't complete.
We were into is this a goodthing?
(08:15):
Is it workable and doable?
So I said, yes, go ahead.
And so we did that and after agood year and a half I realized
it was going to, we were goingto finish it.
In the beginning I didn't havea lot of faith that that could
(08:35):
be finished with three kids, butyou supported him.
But yes, yes, I did.
Ron Greenwald (08:42):
I think you should be a marriage counselor
for the younger generation todayin terms of how to support one
another.
Pearl Fletcher (08:48):
Well, anyway, it did work out for us.
He had an extremely successfulpractice.
And then he came home one dayand he said I had the best news
today.
Okay, bob, what's the news?
Oh, he said, one of my patients, you know, he's in real estate
and he found a residential carefacility that we can buy.
(09:13):
And I said well, why can we buythat, bob?
Well, the real reason is it'sgoing under Pearl, these people.
They just redid the whole thing.
Everything's been redone, it'sbeautiful, but they don't have
the money.
They didn't have enough backing.
They've only had it six months.
(09:34):
They thought they'd be rollingin money in six months.
Ron Greenwald (09:37):
So Is this in Los Angeles?
Pearl Fletcher (09:40):
This was in Thousand Oaks.
Ron Greenwald (09:41):
Okay.
Pearl Fletcher (09:43):
So I said well, I guess you're going to look at
this, right?
He said oh yes, it'll be agreat thing for you, pearl.
I know you'll be able to dothis and you'll have fun with
this.
Ron Greenwald (09:59):
Now, what age are your children at this point?
Were they having the second?
Pearl Fletcher (10:02):
Well, they were probably the oldest, one would
have been maybe 10.
Ron Greenwald (10:07):
Oh.
Pearl Fletcher (10:07):
And so the youngest would have been about
six, and this was in ThousandOaks and at that time we lived
in Chatsworth, which was quite adrive.
Nonetheless, we did buy thatfacility.
It had 109 beds and we kept thelady on for one year so I could
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learn how to run a residentialcare facility.
So that was a new experienceand I did that full time for
probably about two and a halfyears and then we got directors.
After that I stayed veryinvolved with it that if they
ever went on vacation or hadsick days, I would always go in
(10:52):
and replace them and I would goin every week regardless,
because that was my babychecking up on it checking up on
all of my residents and mystaff so you're managing an
owner of a residential carecommunity up in the Thousand
Oaks area.
Ron Greenwald (11:12):
Your children are still weaving their way through
teenagerhood and going on tocollege, so part of our mission
of this podcast is how to fastforward a little bit.
You are moving, you moved it,so you sell that at some point
in time and move to san diego,is that?
Pearl Fletcher (11:31):
right.
We sold that.
We owned it for 25 years.
I was 35 when we bought.
True, we decided we would move.
Because my, our daughter decidedshe wanted to move to out of
(12:02):
state, to where her sons couldafford to live in.
There If they got married andhad a wife and children, they
could have homes and the wifecould make a decision Did she
want to stay home or did shewant to work.
So she decided they would go toTennessee and we would go to
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Tennessee.
So we had the moving peoplecome.
They came and they went throughthe house and said this is the
size van you're going to need,and that was fine.
Then, when they came to do themove, they brought the van
different young man again and hecame to me and he said your
(12:45):
house is not going to fit inthis van.
Well, why won't it?
That's what they told me.
No, he said I don't care whatthey told you, it's not going to
work.
So I called my daughter apartand I said Grace Ann, this is
not going to work.
Oh, she said what can we do?
(13:11):
I said there's nothing we cando, except what we're going to
do.
You are going to come with me,we're going to walk through the
house, make a decision what wedon't need, and then you're
going to take the boys andthey're going to move it all
outside onto the driveway, partsof it at a time, and you're
going to take videos and thiswas her decision.
(13:31):
I'll take videos of it andwe'll put it up free.
Everybody will come, it'll begone and every half hour I'll go
out.
And then if it's gone which Ithink it will be bob she said,
then we'll put more stuff outand I'll check every half hour.
So we got sterling silver, wentout and you were willing to
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part with all that.
You know know it was a decisionthat had to be made.
The kids did not want SterlingSilver.
They didn't want the workinvolved in it and there was no
time to call friends and say,would you like this Sterling?
Maybe their kids didn't want iteither.
Ron Greenwald (14:11):
That's a story unto itself.
I mean, as I say, having workedwith hundreds, if not thousands
, of people moving to, you know,senior communities or down
right sizing.
That is a story I haven't heardyet.
Pearl Fletcher (14:23):
So bless you, pearl then the grand piano went
out on the there, because that'sanother big piece you moved the
grand piano outside outside.
The boys did.
We had three young strappingboys.
They got it outside.
Ron Greenwald (14:38):
And you were giving that away for free.
Pearl Fletcher (14:40):
For free.
Everything that went outsidewent outside for free.
The people learned they didn'tleave.
Grace Ann was telling.
I never went outside and lookedat it.
I thought what's going is going.
But she said the cars and thevans and the trucks were staying
because they knew stuff wouldbe coming and so all kinds of
(15:04):
stuff went out till finally theysaid okay.
I said now is that enough stuffthat's gone, can you do this
now?
And when they said yes, thenthat was yes, yes.
But the story gets funnier.
Ron Greenwald (15:18):
We're still not in San Diego, we're still going
to Tennessee.
At this point, we're stillgoing to Tennessee.
Pearl Fletcher (15:22):
So all of the furniture then gets put in the
vans and then they come for thecars, because cars go on the
moving vans, on those carloaders too, and all of the cars
go.
I think there were five of themthat went.
And I said to Grace Ann sheknew ahead of time I had told
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her your dad and I are going togo down to San Diego.
We're going to stay in SanDiego for one week.
We're going to take each of usa small suitcase that will hold
only enough clothes for the week.
We'll stay with Diane so wehave some time with her.
That was wonderful.
So we came down here and westayed with Diane Diane's your
(16:05):
other daughter.
She's our other daughter.
She's in Carlsbad.
And then the second last day wewere here, she took us to
Westmont facility, which is aretirement facility, for you can
get help or you are self-carethere.
It's a wonderful, wonderfulcommunity and before we knew it
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we were signed up to stay atWestmont and we'd be close to
our daughter, diane, whodesperately wanted us to stay
here.
But now all of our clothes ohare in Tennessee and all of our
cars were in Tennessee.
But you know, for a woman isn'tthat wonderful.
(16:52):
I can go shopping and I can buy.
Ron Greenwald (16:57):
It's like lost luggage on an airplane, it is,
it is.
Pearl Fletcher (16:59):
And I told him, I said you know, I am not
shipping it back again, bob,we're going to go and we're
going to buy whatever we needand I'm going to buy all the
clothes.
And he, he, I told him, I said,and you're going to be very
generous?
And that's what he was, andthat's what I did.
Ron Greenwald (17:18):
Oh my gosh.
So did the clothes in Tennesseeever make it back?
No, they're just off the goodwheel.
Pearl Fletcher (17:25):
I go there twice a year usually for about four
weeks each time At least.
I go twice a year, and then Ihave plenty of clothes when I'm
there.
Oh, my goodness, gracious yeah.
Ron Greenwald (17:39):
So okay, so that was what two years ago.
Pearl Fletcher (17:41):
That was about two and a half years ago.
Ron Greenwald (17:43):
And you come to San Diego and you just so how
did the conversation?
Westmont is a WestmontEncinitas senior community is
pretty new at that point.
Pearl Fletcher (17:54):
It was brand new .
It was opened in July and thiswe were here the middle of
December and took occupancy thefirst part of October, so it was
very new.
Ron Greenwald (18:07):
And so the conversation with Bob and the
family is going yeah, we don'treally want to deal with a house
.
I mean, what is theconversation to go?
Hey, this is a much betterlifestyle for us.
Well, you have the backgroundin senior living already so you
know that part of it.
So it wasn't a foreign objectto you in any capacity.
Pearl Fletcher (18:25):
No, not at all.
Ron Greenwald (18:26):
So um.
Pearl Fletcher (18:27):
Can I?
Ron Greenwald (18:27):
pause really quick.
What is that the alarm?
Pearl Fletcher (18:34):
Well, that gives you a ten minute.
Ron Greenwald (18:38):
Well, that is a story.
Pearl Fletcher (18:40):
Isn't that so great, ron.
When I heard that, I was likewhat?
Ron Greenwald (18:44):
That you threw everything at me because nobody
does that.
Pearl Fletcher (18:48):
No, I just love your flow with life and as
things happen and you just gookay, then this is here and this
is what we do.
And then this is here, and thenthis is what we do.
Ron Greenwald (19:00):
Yeah, it's just a new thing, there's no drama or
panic, or you know.
Pearl Fletcher (19:05):
No, I do not panic.
Ron Greenwald (19:06):
Can you tell?
Pearl Fletcher (19:06):
me again.
I do not panic.
I might inside have my pulserate go faster and think, how
are we gonna work this out?
Well, don't worry about that,just let right now take care of
itself.
And Okay, I think we're good togo.
Okay.
Ron Greenwald (19:26):
Where were we you ?
Pearl Fletcher (19:30):
were talking about the Westmont community.
The Westmont, yeah Right.
Ron Greenwald (19:33):
So you come in about two years ago, two, three
years ago, and you're with Dianeand you wake up one morning and
go Bob, maybe we should go upon El Camino Real and go check
out this beautiful new seniorcommunity called Westmont.
Is that the conversation?
Pearl Fletcher (19:51):
No, no, no, Diane had gone to see Westmont
apparently before we arrivedhere, oh, okay.
And she said you're going tolove this, mom.
She knew I loved the water, Ilove the pool.
I don't swim but I love toexercise in it.
And she said you're going tolove this.
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And she knew the director atthat time was Charlie.
She knew him and she said wewere very fond of Charlie, I
think you're going to be happywith him and the apartments are
lovely, you will like them, andeverything positive she could
say to me.
(20:33):
She said to me.
So one day she said okay, it'scoming near the end of the week
here, let's go and see them now.
And okay, we'll go see them.
Ron Greenwald (20:43):
And Bob's on board.
Pearl Fletcher (20:45):
Bob doesn't say anything.
Ron Greenwald (20:46):
You're, you're, you're okay, Bob is quiet.
He's on board.
Bob doesn't say anything.
You're, you're, you're, you'reokay.
Pearl Fletcher (20:49):
Bob is quiet.
He's in agreement.
He's in agreement, we should gosee them.
Ron Greenwald (20:55):
You gave him the chiropractic side.
You're making the senior livingside.
Pearl Fletcher (20:59):
So we went to see it and it was.
The facility was beautiful.
Ron Greenwald (21:04):
We'll call it community.
We'll say community.
Pearl Fletcher (21:07):
The community you're right.
You're right.
The community was beautiful.
The windows are huge, theapartments, the ceilings are
high.
So, even though they might besmaller a little bit than what
you might like to have, andcertainly smaller than what
you're accustomed to, they lookbig.
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And we looked at the bedroom.
The bedroom was a very nicesize.
We thought, oh, they have anice large closet.
The bathroom was very large forthe size of the apartment.
It was set up beautifully.
I couldn't have been happier ifsomebody had said would you
like to run this?
I couldn't have been happier ifsomebody had said would you
(21:51):
like to run this?
I wouldn't have wanted to runit, but I would have known how
to run a place like this and howto fill it up because it was so
gorgeous.
So before I knew it, bob hadsigned the lease.
Ron Greenwald (22:07):
Oh, he signed it with us.
Oh, yes, he signed it, Bob hadsigned the lease.
Pearl Fletcher (22:09):
Oh, he signed it .
Oh, yes, he signed it.
And Diane was applauding and Iwas still in a little bit of a
shock.
Of a shock Because I wasthinking, oh, the clothes and
the car, well, they have carshere to buy too.
(22:29):
We could go and buy a car here,just as well as and you know,
we won't worry about that car wehave three grandsons.
One of them will be happy tohave it.
So we signed up and I have beenvery pleased with Westmont.
Ron Greenwald (22:48):
I have been thrilled with them.
Well, you just glow and youlook happy, you look young, you
look invigorated.
Pearl Fletcher (22:55):
You know that part is my responsibility, the
part of being happy.
I remember my mother telling mebefore I was married Pearl,
your responsibility forhappiness is your own.
So, regardless of the situationyou are in, you find your own
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happiness.
Bob isn't responsible for thatwe hope he's going to be
responsible for lots of thingsbut your happiness is up to you
to find, and so I will alwaysfind what makes me happy, and I
have truly found.
When Sandy goes around andtours people, one of my biggest
(23:39):
thrills is to interrupt hertours because I know how
difficult it is for a residentcoming in to a new community.
That's hard for them and I canstep in and tell them the
wonderful things about Westmontand it gives me the greatest
(24:02):
pleasure to see the familiesrelax.
Here's someone stepping in thatis a resident that will talk to
my mom or my dad, or even mywife and myself about the
community.
Ron Greenwald (24:17):
That is so important.
Pearl, as I said, I've been inthis space of working with older
adults for 15 years and, likewe said before we went on air
years and like we said before wewent on air, most people, most
people wait way too long.
Then they don't have thecapacity to make decisions for
(24:38):
themselves, or they live intheir home way beyond the time
where they should be and thedeferred maintenance in the home
or things like things that arejust really not quality of life
right happen.
Somebody who owned a seniorliving community such as
yourself, understand, understandthat.
So I just applaud you.
(24:58):
I I do want to know who madethe call to your daughter in
tennessee to say oh, by the way,everything is yours.
Pearl Fletcher (25:06):
I think I did I think I did, I think I did, and
Bob would have been involved inthat also.
He would have been involved.
She was not happy about itbecause she had bought a home
specifically for us.
Ron Greenwald (25:22):
Oh.
Pearl Fletcher (25:22):
Specifically, it had no stairs going into the
house and it had a masterbedroom on the bottom floor.
So here she had bought thiswith us in mind and she had
bought I think it's asix-bedroom house, three bath, a
big house.
Ron Greenwald (25:42):
That had to be a difficult.
It was very difficult for her,but you worked through it.
Pearl Fletcher (25:47):
But we worked through it.
But you worked through it, butwe worked through it, we worked
through it and we have to workthrough it.
Those are our kids.
Those are our kids.
And she is not happy that wedidn't get to go there with her,
but she is happy.
She said Mom, I had you for 25years.
Ron Greenwald (26:11):
If Diane needs you now for some time or enjoys
having you there, she said, thenI have to be happy for Diane
well that's a great attitude itis and out of the two two-plus
years at Westmont, have youtaken on different activities
that you did not do before.
Pearl Fletcher (26:32):
Well, I never.
We had a pool when we lived.
Bob had a home built for us.
That home had everything in itbut it had a huge pool and I
loved.
I hated to exercise.
Okay, outside of the pool.
I absolutely hated when thedoctor would say can you do this
?
And they'd show me this, canyou do that?
(26:52):
They'd show me that, yes, yes,yes, that was the wrong question
.
The question should be out ofthe pool, will you do this?
Then the answer would have beencorrect no, I won't do it.
I can do it, but I won't do it.
But in the pool and Westmont isthe only place I know that has
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a pool.
That's indoors.
The others are all outdoors.
I know in the winter I wouldn'tgo out and in the summer it's
so hot, I don't know this.
I stay out.
Normally I am in the pool fivedays a week for an hour and a
half to two hours a day justexercising, having a wonderful,
(27:36):
wonderful time and you've metnew people and made new friends.
I've met new people I've met,had made new friends.
I did.
We did start up a welcomingcommittee and I was chosen to be
the representative for thewelcoming committee and I took
(27:56):
it for a year but after that Isaid, no, somebody else needs to
take it, we need to have morepeople know how to run these
things.
But I loved the welcomingcommittee.
I could go meet the new peopleand I could tell them all about
Westmont and I could justrelieve especially on women the
(28:19):
anxiety of don't worry, you'rejust like everybody else,
everybody's been nervous.
I'm gonna come and'm going topick you up for meals for
probably two days and you'regoing to be comfortable.
The nice part, wonderful partabout Westmont is the
friendliness of the people.
They are extremely friendly.
(28:40):
They are the most friendlycommunity I believe I have ever
known, except for yours, becauseyour attitude had to permeate
that one uh community I believeI have ever known except for
years, because your attitude hadto had to permeate that one it
did.
But the good.
The sad part was we had covidat that time.
The good part of covid andthere was we have to find good
(29:04):
in everything but the good partwas it kept us in the dining
room.
The whole area had troublegetting employees, so did
Westmont.
So we'd sit there, sometimesfor 20 minutes, half an hour
with COVID, before the mealswould begin to come, and you'd
(29:25):
have grouching and I'd say weare so lucky to have this.
We're not in our rooms.
Look at, we're out here talkingand enjoying other people and
that's way more important thanbeing in our rooms.
Ron Greenwald (29:43):
Pearl I'm going.
The attitude is so importantand your attitude of looking for
the positive, choosing to behappy, choosing to see the
positive.
I hope not just older adultslisten to this podcast, listen
and really hear, because throughthe last four or five years
(30:05):
there's been so much negativity.
You can choose to be really,you can choose to be happy, you
can choose to have a goodattitude, you can choose to live
a life that you have chosen tolive and you have obviously had
ups and downs, twists and turns,Obviously.
Bob, you put twists and turns inyour life and having furniture
go to Tennessee and then endingup in San Diego, but you just
(30:28):
have come through with such glow.
I just want everybody to listento it, and I hope this is a
psychology podcast more than anaging podcast, because you're
just a delight to listen to anddelight to hear, so I thank you.
Pearl Fletcher (30:42):
Thank you for that.
But yes, we do have to rememberthrough everything, even
through if you have torrentialrains, we're going to have a
rainbow.
Just wait for that rainbowbecause it's coming and we can
have and we will.
It's not, we can, we will havedisappointments throughout our
(31:03):
life, but tomorrow is going tobe better than today.
But tomorrow is going to bebetter than today and our choice
for happiness and our choicefor that is inside of us.
I can't expect you to make mehappy.
I'm happy being here.
This is a fun thing for me, butmy choice for happiness lies in
(31:26):
the dependence upon that iswithin myself.
I have to find things that willmake me happy.
Ron Greenwald (31:34):
Awesome.
I'm going to end it there.
I have nothing more to say.
This is Ron Greenwald, the RonGreenwald Podcast.
Thank you for tuning in.
Thank you, Pearl.
Pearl Fletcher (31:43):
My pleasure.
Ron Greenwald (31:43):
Thank you for the introduction at Westmont Senior
Living Community.
Have a great day.
This is Ron Greenwald.
I thank you for tuning in todayto the Ron Greenwald podcast.
Please go togreenwaldrealityteamcom, call us
, email us with any of yourquestions or comments.
(32:04):
If you're the daughter or sonand you're concerned about mom
and dad, or you're the agingadult, we have the resources.
If you're a professional, anattorney, a wealth manager, a
caregiver, we also can provideyou resources that may really be
that turning point, to providethat senior with the next
(32:25):
chapter in their life.
That's very positive.
I thank you for tuning in RonGreenwald, the Ron Greenwald
Podcast.
Thank you.
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