48 Oysters and Counting

Welcome to cuffing season — or as Scottie calls it “b*tch, we trying to get out the streets!” season.  Before that, she and Sylvia catch us up on their recent adventures at CultureCon NYC and in London for Spotify's new Radar program for podcasters.   The girls later talk about romance in this digital age. From making the first move to managing expectations, Scottie and Sylvia get candid about all the pee in the dating pool, how much money actually matters, and the joy of romancing yourself. To stay in the loop of all things Scottie & Sylvia, text “S&S” to 310-356-9895 📲 Check out Raedio's YouTube page for the visuals every Friday: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRAEDIO --------------------------------------- Connect with us on social media: @TheRaedio @SylviaObell @ScottieBeam    

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Episode Transcript

(00:13):
Welcome to the Scotti and Sylvia Show, where we speak our minds like it's
our full time job and have somuch fun doing it. I'm Scottie Bean
back in Mexico girls never Mexico,like I've never left. And I'm Sylvia
obell I. This time I amin Mexico with her, Okay, and

(00:36):
we have also been everywhere else.You understand. We have been to London,
we have been in New York atKoltchakhan. Friend, how are you
doing? How have you been feelingabout our travels? I am traveled out.
I'll tell you that I think thisis my last travel until I really

(00:57):
park it for a few months.But so far it's been great. It's
been an amazing experience. It's beenincredible, extremely fast. October October really
has somewhere to go. Okay,so let's start with like Culture Khan.
Culture Con was incredible. It wassomething that like, first of all,

(01:17):
I think both of us have We'vedone culture Con separately, but doing it
together, We've never done that before, and that was just it was an
experience. I was so happy tobe doing the stage with you and doctor
Joy because you know that's my favoritedoctor. So for her to get on
the stage with us and talk aboutsisterhood and talk about making new friends,

(01:40):
and her affirmations were on point.You know, you haven't met all the
people that will love. That wasa bar. The crowd says, so
yeah, No, it was great. It was so fun to do it
with you back then. If youwould have told us that we would be
doing that now, I would belike, wow, that's crazy. All

(02:02):
the love that was received, likeall the encouraging. It was very loud,
very loud, and very colorful.I loved it. It was virant.
It warmed me up. It mademe so happy. Coachuran is really
one of my favorite like events everthough, Like whenever it comes, even
if I'm not doing anything with cultureCrime, I'm coming because it's such an

(02:24):
experience. Everybody is there with loveand wants to show love or you know,
get love. Like It's just avery loving event with a bunch of
black people and I will never missit. So yes, we did that,
and then we got on a planeand went across the pond to London.

(02:46):
Lon Yeah for Spotify, who includedus on their Radar program this year.
It's the first time that they've everdone it with podcasters. It also
includes songwriters and artists traditionally who spotifydecide that they will feel like are doing
cool things that want to promote andpush up. If you're happy to be

(03:07):
in New York in the next coupleof weeks, you may see two faces
you recognize on a billboard over PennStation. My mom already came and saw
a child. My mom broke thatjust like she was like, it's I
see it, and she took avideo, she took a picture, all

(03:29):
of that good stuff. So yeah, it's definitely up there. Uh,
it will be Sylvia's what first isyour first? So my first ever billboard.
Never in my life thought that thatwould happen. So it's so crazy.
And for all the Jersey girls,y'all know, Penn Station is our
it is our like hub into thedream, the city of dreams, like

(03:52):
that is the way in and likenow our faces are there. That's great
that I'm not gonna get to itto it. That's kind of crazy to
think of out like I would loveto see it myself, but I'm also
so tired of plays. But somuch has happened while we been traveling.
While we were traveling everything has beenhappening for one. London was a time,

(04:15):
guys, London was just a time. Okay, we were in the
streets. We went to uh shortagehouse. Everybody started. It was the
blackest Soho house, most fun solhouse in London. And y'all did not
lie. That's a great house.And they have like a place in the
back where they play like I'm apiano and all that, like all of

(04:35):
it in the back. It wasa time, and the drinks were flowing.
Let me tell you something. Londongot the best looking man. And
I said, I'm gonna stand onit. I would stand beside it.
I want to stand I'm gonna standon it. Top boys, isn't it?
Because they got the top boys init in there that I really could

(05:00):
not stop looking at. And ifyou like dark skinned men, well I'll
say it's a pair of dice,smooth skin everywhere, just talk with no
pores. Tall and they sound justso classy and distinguished with the accent.
They all talking around, running around, sounded like interest and damson, it's

(05:20):
crazy. It's actually a problem.I would of course, I know,
yes, I say, And ofcourse some of the London girls are gonna
hit us and say they don't likeus. I get it. I hear
a lot of them are with whitewomen. Totally understand. Before y'all even
get in the DM, I'm saying, they just like to look at We're

(05:44):
good looking. It's good looking crewover there. It's good. It's just
they're a little too charming for meto get I'm like, ah, get
caught up here, i gotta getout. Mm hmmm. So they're so
charming they they're dead. They tryingto shout all right now, WhatsApps were

(06:06):
working, we were, we wereon WhatsApp. We please, we had
what's that working? Overtp wile Butoh, I'm sorry, that's funny.

(06:28):
It was just the mountain things thatwere said with our eyes and not with
our mouths. Was just crazy justthen. But no, yes, while
we were having the time with theLondon blokes, the celebrities, we're doing
what they what they tend to do, which is too much or not enough?

(06:49):
Should we started too much or notenough? Start? Maybe a little
both, not enough, let's startnot enough streight mm hmm maybe. And
I've tried twenty three songs. Itried, and I worked hard at it.

(07:10):
I never thought that the day Ihad a mic to talk about a
Drake album, that it would bethe one I don't like. I have
never not liked a Drake album likeI've been maybe like, ah, this
one was better than the other.But I've always found at least a gang
of songs that I can mess aroundwith, you know what I mean.

(07:31):
I would say maybe the first albumand Scorpion were like the two ones where
I'm like men, but for allthe dogs, it's really just for the
dogs, and I maybe we shouldhave just taken the title like more literally.
It's like, hey, if youare not a dog and you know,

(08:00):
but like it's not even it's justa it's too many songs. Let's
just say that. Can we pleasebring back twelve ten track albums? Like
I don't know who I gotta speakto. I just feel like, for
me, since so far gone,I feel like for millennials a lot of
us, Drake has just always representedus. I feel like the come up

(08:22):
was happening at the same time,the winds were starting to happen at the
same time success was starting to happenat the same time. And even when
he's like, you know, situationships, drama, dating like Moody music,
like we was in it, wewas all in the mess together. And
I feel like he did in away that appealed to women, obviously,
because for a long time men weredogging him for making music only for us.

(08:45):
And again, maybe that has somethingto do with where we are today,
because I feel like this album hasreally it's like, oh, I
feel like I've mentally like surpassed it. Like I feel like I'm just not
I feel like he's bad somewhere andI'm not there anymore. And that makes
me sad because I would like himto join us in our mid thirties,
Like I just there's no ways togo about it. I get it,

(09:09):
he's a famous rapper with a lotof women in a lot of drama.
Fine, but it just felt verylike young boys, you know. I
think sometimes with artists, you haveto meet artists where they are, like
where they're at. But there arejust some people are just artists that don't
grow or want to stay where theyare right now. Because I felt that

(09:33):
way with a few albums, don'tfill me whatever. I felt that way
with a few albums so far,and I never I'm never going to resort
to like saying, oh, yeah, he's bad, it's trash. He's
trash now, because I don't thinkthat's true. I just think I've outgrown
his music. Yeah, so they'rejust no longer there. Yeah right,
so either you know, he couldsit and make music for a specific type

(09:56):
of people, but that's just notme anymore, and it used to be.
And it's heartbreaking. Like art issomething that reflects the time or the
moment that whatever they're in, andalso reflects the times. As you know,
some mom would say, but ifthere are times is in that era
or in this moment of doing youngshit and feeling youthful and doing all that

(10:20):
shit and what youth looks like toyou, because it looks different to me,
And you are absolutely correct. You'vemade a thousand good points. The
one thing about this album that Iknow I ain't never gonna be They never
gonna be a point in my lifewhere you're gonna convince me Aubrey that Rihanna
all that and because that boyish thatit was not only childish, it was

(10:48):
a lot. You're just never gonnaconvince me. Ever, I don't even
know why you would want to know. Every color it did just show it
was so whacked. I was like, ah, so unattractive. You are
right, because what you're still stuckon me? You're still talking about I've

(11:11):
had two kids, I got twokids, things, got married, I
don't know kind of whatever to thisnigga asad rocky and you're still on my
that's crazy and it was whack.And please find another way, you know,
another way to heal, heal becausewe that's enough of that. I

(11:33):
don't never want to hear you dothat shit again. That was ridiculous.
That was so corny. It wasjust what he Speaking of notable celebrity pairings,
I won't even say a couple.I won't even say couples because I
don't want Jada Smith to come inand be like, actually, actually we're
not. We don't, we don't. I don't subscribe to couple as words.

(11:56):
I don't like the fact that itstarts to see I don't. I
for me and Will are more inlegal tize heartnership. Here's a leadership.
Yes, what Will do? Ismy question? Will? What the hell
did you do? R? Whatdid you do? And I know him

(12:26):
as a He's a libra, isWill a libra. That makes a lot
of I think so. Yeah,I'm pretty sure he's a Libra. The
embarrassment is it a king? What'sgoing on? Oh? Because they's gotta
be yeah, it's it's gotta bea because no Libra likes to be embarrassed.

(12:48):
There's not. It's the most cringing. I will die first then be
embarrassed. You mean to tell methat you gave Jada the okay to be
like, you know what, saywhat you need to say, and I
get it, say it say andhe has his own book he said what
he needed to say. I wasabout to say, but he never in
that book and you read it,Sylvia, so you can double check,

(13:09):
just fact check me. Did heever say anything he talked about their marriage?
Now, he didn't reveal that theyhad. I think the thing is
to me that they've they've even satdown on the red table talk and talked
about how they're in the entanglement andit's like they're not really together. So
when Jada, who is on amemoir tour for like just to get the

(13:31):
newspeg out there, she is outhere doing interviews because now it's her turn
I expected her to do to alsotell their side of the story. I
just didn't expect her side to bethis like the sky's point, Oh damn,
will really put you through. Ihaven't read it yet, so like
I I mean, if her goalwas to make me read it, she

(13:52):
got it. But I think it'sjust like, yes, we are being
shown more than we would like.I guess that Will and Jada's married.
It is not the way it's beenromanticized. And then and here's that.
I love y'all acting like y'all don'thave parents, aunties, uncles who are
never got divorced. A lot ofus do, just separated like y'all.

(14:16):
When Jaya said it, you wouldhave thought that y'all were like, I
don't understand, let's not act andit's just we're on the topic of family.
Let me make this very clear.Sorry, we're moving to the next
thing. Y'all better leave Georgia Smithalone. Because all this, all this
energy that you have for Georgia Smith. How come y'all not posting all photos

(14:37):
of y'all mother, Oh man,I missed her. All photos of your
aunts and say I missed when sheused to look like this are all photos
of you and say I missed whenI look like this? Y'all have all
this. You don't know what thefuck Georgia Smith is going through. You
have no idea what anybody is goingthrough. We should have learned with child
Wick Boseman. But y'all refuse useto fucking just leave people alone and let

(15:03):
people evolve and go through whatever they'regoing through, and if they want to
talk about it, let them talkabout it on their own time. The
goal is to stop the boy isto stop doing it, whether it's Georgia
or a family member, Like,it's not your business, Like just leave
people alone about like because the theatphobia is real and it's crazy because Georgia

(15:24):
is so beautiful. She was badthat she's bad now bad then, But
also Jeordian was like eighteen when shefirst came out. Y'all know, you'll
act like we all haven't grown upand gotten real women bodies or real male
bodies, and it's like, also, it doesn't make you any more or
less attract It always a well,why didn't she think that she is not

(15:46):
worthy of being on stage and performingand having a camera in front of her
because she's gained weight? Why isshe not hiding from the people, Like
how I hide you have really hitit because that it always goes back to
I don't know if it was atherapist or somebody who said, like to
me, like, when you haveto make accept the truth about something,
you then have to apply it toyour own life. And a lot of

(16:07):
people will not accept the truth becausethey don't like the way it applies to
their own life. And so that'sexactly it, where it's like this girl
can still be on stage doing herthing feel beautiful, and you hate that
they love themselves and it's because youcan't do it too. Let's just all
get back to focusing and loving onour bodies and not commenting on anybody else's

(16:27):
because let me tell you what,it doesn't matter whether you what size you
are. There are women and menwho are at every stage of life,
whether it's single, married, happyand love getting fucked all the time,
never getting any It's happening across thesize range, across the board. So
like it has like, let's stopapplying that to desirability, like it's just

(16:49):
not it and Georgia is finding anda lot of us will ever be.
So please leave that girl alone anyway. Yeah, so you are the problem.
The people who are the problem,please a woman I can't defend it

(17:11):
is the girl, the young ladywho filmed herself grubbing down on four y
eight oysters on the first date.I love oysters. I love an oyster.
I have been known I could,if I wanted to, could probably
take down a dozen myself. Right, here's the thing. The only issue

(17:36):
was you're going on a date youdon't even like the name, You're just
don't That was that was one.That's crazy, okay, But forty eight
oysters. I don't like oysters likethat. I like the ones that Sylvia
says, Oh you like them broils, like them cooked, not wrang.
But I really you eating forty eightit's crazy. And I know for a

(18:03):
fact you had you wanted to stop. You just wanted to keep going.
That's the point, the fact thatthat was your all. Let me keep
it cute number like I don't know, like four like that's four dozen.
They were piling each stray up likeyou weren't gonna be able to see could
you see him over all the strains? Did you notice when he left?

(18:23):
Like and then she was eating himso quick and it was like the slurp.
It was just none of it.It was all but she was doing
she was doing over. She wasdoing the over what was the voice voice,
But it was the way she wasI don't like that, no,
but the way she was eating it. You can hear her. It's like
I just like, ah ye,but it's just yeah, girl. I'm

(18:45):
not surprised he left. I can't. I can't defend I I am not.
I cannot blame that young man,whoever he is or wherever he went.
I think it's slave to skip outon the bill. But I also
think it's lay. I think maybeit's the thinking that y'all were equally lay.
You try to ensure too though.I assume that she wasn't even really
talking, like it wasn't really adate. It wasn't really you know,

(19:07):
she's worried about getting the content forthe oyster and whatever. It wasn't even
a real date. But another girlI have an issue with. Another girl
I have an issue with is thecheesecake factory girl. Because that's what you're
known for. Now, okay,that's what I'm calling you. You don't
got a name no more. Here'smy thing. I don't know what it
is, and I hope that itwas a skit because a lot of people

(19:30):
need to be in theater the waythat they're putting kits on. For real,
Please get you a damn he ina major because y'all are working over
time. But I just I don'tsubscribe to one embarrassing people who are just
trying to do their best, especiallyif you really are intentionally dating or are

(19:52):
y'all? Are some people just datingbecause they hungry, And I get that,
But here's the thing, Like,I just feel like there's so many
ways that we could date a bitbetter, you know, than doing whatever
the fuck we're doing right now.But we'll talk about it. I really
think it's time that we have anhonest conversation with each other about you know,

(20:15):
dating, romance and all the above, because I think we haven't really
tackled it yet on this program,on this year program, we have not.
And it's clear that as we entercuff and season and I just keep
watching y'all act up on this clockapp that y'all have got to have a
talking too about it. So let'sjust talk about it. Though some new

(20:40):
thoughts. October is running up outof a year. It's got some place
to be, baby, and it'sofficially cuughing season. I don't want to
use company season anymore because we areover thirty. Now, it's a round.
What should we call it? Doyou have any name of mine?

(21:00):
I don't know. We're dad,We're trying to get out of the streets
and that's it. Okay, Sowe have to have it. Comes to
Jesus about dating come and season isno longer a thing for us. Let
the twenty year olds have it ifthey want it. I'm pretty sure they
don't. They have something else tocall it. But yeah, we got
to talk about this dating things.Yeah, and just being romance and loving

(21:22):
romance. We are both hopeless romantic. Somehow, by the grace of God,
that characteristic is still holding off.I think, do you know,
I think we're both that. Doyou consider yourself a romantic? Yes?
Right, absolutely? Okay, Ican't go buy your face. I thought
I'm gonna say you are. It'sa sickness. It's a sick romantic.
How much we are obsessed with romanceand when these datings, it just feels

(21:45):
like a dying breed. I feellike a dangerous species when it comes to
like being all about romance and lovingromance and kindness and just intentionality and just
not not doing shit like there's alreadyso much people are doing for likes and
clicks and shares and viral moments likein the workspace. I can't handle that

(22:11):
moving in to day. It it'shard enough. And with all these stories
coming up on line and in thegroup chat, it's wild. So we
want to share some thoughts on howsome, not all, but at least
we as black women in our earlythirties are navigating dating, romance and all
these things, because we feel likey'all been getting some bad advice. Obviously,

(22:33):
because every DK William's going to talkabout. I heard her on the
grill telling I guess people younger thanus. She was going to the girls
in school, Chia. She wastalking about the girls coming out of college.
Yeah, once you get that degree, get your missus degree, if
it's it's you know, if youwant to be married, go ahead and
get that and make that a priority. First at twenty twenty one, and

(22:57):
then all talking about the blacks inmarket value. How it goes down this
Kevin Samuel's rhetoric that everybody loves toshare and talk about because the older you
get, the cheaper I'm assuming you'rethe less worthy you are, which is
crazy, especially for black coomen,because we only get finner. I am
finner that I ever been. Youunderstand, like, I don't understand how

(23:21):
I was supposed to think. It'slike the older I get, the less
it's gonna be. Like I justfeel like the older we get, the
better. That's one thing I dowant to talk to the girls about because
this might feel maybe unrelated, butit is. It's related that even at
my age, me ending my relationship, a lot of people said to me,

(23:45):
that's that's not best. That's notthe best thing to do. You're
thirty two years old, meaning Ineed to stay in this and go through
the rough time and the depression andthe pain and all of that, simply
because I'm too old to get intoanother relationship. Too old at thirty two.

(24:08):
It's crazy. I'm too old atthirty two. I need to just
just power through and be unhappy.At least you're in a relationship, though,
at least you're not in the streets. At Least you know you hear
these stories about being in the streets, and you know how terrible they are
and how the dating pool has payingit and tell you the first time,

(24:32):
I'd rather be there, And ifyou'd rather be there, then you need
to be out of your relationship.Don't let these people like her or anybody
force you to feel like you haveto suffer in a relationship just to say
that you are married, or justto say that you are with someone.
At least you have somebody. Yeah, because relationships can be ghetto too,

(24:57):
dating can be gett relationships can moreOh, thank god, it's gonna have
pay in it. Pee shit,everything else is in it, and you
are just in wading in the watersimply because you want to say that you
are in a relationship. And that'sjust not where I want to be right
now. I don't think anybody shouldlive in that reality. No, especially

(25:18):
that out of a fear that you'renot going to get better, because that's
usually what keeps people there. It'slike, I have to be in this
because I don't think it's a lackof belief that they could get better,
That there could be somebody else betteror more suited for you, or that
treat you better, that won't taketoo long, and sometimes it does take
a little bit, like but it'sthe lack of it's about trusting God's path

(25:41):
for your life or whoever you believein, is like just trusting the journey
of your life because to stay insomething. And that's why I think our
biggest beef of what Ebony was sayingwas was that it was an out of
It was advice from a place offear, out of a place of insecurity
where it's like a place of desperation, where it's like because here I am

(26:02):
at this point in my life andI it's harder to get a man in
your forties and I'm not forty.So I'm not gonna I'm not gonna speak
to the forties girls. I amnot gonna speak to the forties people about
their child. I'm not gonna pretendto know something I don't know. But
what I am gonna say is thatI know that no matter what's over there,
I would pick it up. Iwould pick it over being unhappily married

(26:26):
or raising kids in the house thatthey that is not healthy, so that
my kids can see me in anunhappy relationship. Absolutely not, because the
idea that like again, it's likebecause that's romanticizing the other side of it
to say, you know, tothe women who picked the men up in
college when you were when they werein abundance. And I won't lie,
I will admit that there was definitelyone where I was like, you know,

(26:48):
it was easier to meet men incollege is because we were all together.
And then when you're in the city, you're spread out. But especially
if you don't live in a bigcity. So I do get that there's
a change of like, oh,but it doesn't mean that you should then
settle, Like it's one thing,like Scotty said, if you find a
good person and whatever. But yeah, but it's if you leave college without

(27:11):
a partner, you shouldn't be like, oh shit, I'm screwed, like
and you shouldn't only look for aman there because you don't want to be
loan on your voice, Like itjust doesn't it doesn't make sense. It's
it's not worth it your peace,Like we don't talk enough about valuing peace
in your single hood over chaos.Like being able to be okay on your

(27:32):
own is so important because if you'renot, you will make decisions out of
desperation and stuff like that. Andshe was a chaotic life when you don't
have to have one. Well,we can wrap this up, this podcast
is over. We ain't got tosay nothing else. Make that the clip,

(27:53):
make that the billboard, make thatI just need Sylvia no, because
really it's just it's so important toenjoy, like y'all, and so maybe
it takes being in chaotic relationships tofeel it for real, for real,
because we both had those. Buton the other side, of course,
I would love to come home tosomebody who makes me feel good, right.

(28:17):
I'm not saying that that's not ultimatelythe goal, but I would much
rather come home to my own silenceand my own whatever I want to fucking
do than to come home to somebodyon the other side of that who doesn't
make me feel down, who bringshell, who brings chaos, who brings
jealousy, who brings financial issues,who brings trauma, who brings baggage,

(28:40):
who brings a crazy ass baby mama. I don't know, I agree.
I just wish, like I thinksomebody should have told me, maybe before
when I was twenty, that itwill get harder to date, you know,
around this time, because you've chosena path, a specific path,
and I'm okay with what I've chosen. I'm okay with me saying okay,

(29:03):
well I want I have these dreamsthat I want to fulfill, and I
have these things that I want togo after. But you know, had
like thirty year old me come intoplants say girl, all right, he's
a thing. We're gonna do this. Just know, you know, there's
some sacrifices that you will have tolike put the relationship stuff on hold sometimes,

(29:27):
you know, And I think Ididn't. I didn't know that,
and it started to show its faceof course in certain relationships like getting relationships,
and I'd be like, I muchrather be working or I I'm sorry,

(29:49):
I would much rather be at theoffice right now. You know,
crazy that it is, but no, but you're right, it's harder to
date, but it's worth it.And I think that's the caveat. It's
like they as hard. It's hard. They don't talk about it's hard because
you're not settling. It's hard becauseyou're picking better people, and because you're
picking better people, you're gonna endup in better relationships, like they're not

(30:11):
finishing the sentence, it's harder.But so since it is harder and it
is being more choosy, let's talkabout how we operate within that space,
because there's a lot of time whereit's like, yeah, this is that,
like on a philosophical version, butlike execution coach Scottie ban Can I

(30:33):
tell y'all when I tell y'all,my girl, if there's anybody that you
need to have on your team andyou in these streets, it is that
bitch right there, because she throwsthe game. You know, like,
what was it, Mitch and painfulnigga like me A lot of game.
That's guy. This guy got yourdaity bro, she got living this ship

(31:04):
I built, look around, lookaround. I I really enjoyed it.
I'm probably one of the only peoplethat like like just dating, just dating.
It doesn't not ask the lady thatwhat it leads to, just the

(31:27):
game itself. Dating. I liketo date, I will say right now
on the thirties climate, as faras the niggas are concerned, it's a
little bit more intentional. They're healingtoo. We told them listening books.

(31:47):
Of course, you know, everynigga now then bought the bell Hooks books.
So they are asking bell Hooks questions. But I would like to we
did we did? We did?I just not not right now in this
era with me, please, ButI will say, like I find a

(32:07):
lot of fun. I've always foundfun and dates. It doesn't matter twenties,
thirties. I've always thought it wasa fun thing to do to learn
about somebody and really, you know, have fun with them. See what
works, what doesn't work, ifthey catch you such a sense of humor,

(32:30):
if they do going to specific placesthat you might like but they don't
really know about, or them puttingyou on to new spaces all that big
fans, huge fan. And alsoI don't know that much about you.
I know just enough. There's stilla fantasy, a fantasy, a romance.

(32:52):
And that's my problem. That's whyI'm a Roman. Like I just
would like to know the good stuffso that when I go home, I
can take it home with me.Good stuff. You go to your home,
we're five, we'll talk in afew days or tomorrow or whatever it
is. There's no expectation, andI think a lot of what gives a

(33:17):
lot of people anxiety, especially likeme too, is expectation. What am
I supposed to do after this firstdate? What am I supposed to do
after the first three days? Likewhat are we supposed to do? And
if I let all of the expectations. This is also not for the girls

(33:37):
again that want to get in relationships, No, but I do think that
there is something to this part that'simportant even if you do want to get
in a relationship, because I thinkwhat you're saying that's important is being present.
You are present in it and you'rehaving a good time. And I
don't think you can get successfully toone without the other. But the point

(33:58):
is that to do it whether yougo which way, And so I get
what you're saying that maybe girls whoare choosing to just stay in the dating
lane, but to the girls whodo want to be in their relationship,
I still do think it's important tonot go into every day situation like I
gotta get married, this gotta bemy nigga, I gotta because you're already
setting yourself up to not have fun. That's what being present and you're part

(34:21):
of it that you're talking about iswhy it's so important. Do you like
this nigga? Do you even likethem? There's so many times I think
people do couple like couples on onlinetalking about shit. I'm liked, y'all
even like each other. It's becausey'all were present. No, they're not
present. And also if you wantto get into this, I don't know
if you're want to talk about becauseI haven't done dating apps yet. Right,

(34:42):
Oh, I guess because where areyou meeting these niggas well? The
streets? So yes, so yeah, I met. I met one between.
I'm a big between friend person.If we have friends mutually, it's
ideal, big fan like, that'spretty, that's that's actually all that I
want. But you gotta speak up, right because I think some people are

(35:07):
just waiting for their friends to doit. Here's my quint because this is
something that you a nuance that youpoint out to me once. I think
is real because some girls be likeI would like to not be on dating
apps. I want to meet people. I think most people want to me
people organically, like in the wild. But they're like, men don't approach
me, Men don't come up tome. But you as a few of
our friends have talked to me aboutthe subtle things you do to pull a

(35:30):
man in. Maybe it's like awave or a smile or a I've never
bought a man. I'm also veryso so do I look first and then
like smile? Part the fingers,am I you know what? Glass remove
the hand altogether, and it seemslike it caused you a lot of stress.

(35:52):
Maybe the smile like I don't knowhow hey, because I don't know
a man too. You know,like it's all command, and I think
that's my If it's on command,then I have an issue if I'm doing
it on my own. The hopeis that then the guy will come over
to you and take it from there. From there, but I'm talking about

(36:12):
you. What you do really matter? That smile and look the hottest you've
ever done? Part the titties upand be like, yeah, it was
me. I don't know, I'venever done it. They're trying to share
tips for the girls who are like, y'all are scary, But what about
those of us who are willing tomake a move I just wanted to make

(36:35):
And if you are willing to alsomake that move, I think you also
know what what your go to likewave and smile is. You know,
this is just for the awkward girlswho may be thinking, okay, but
after that, what am I supposedto do? Now? Once he comes
over, You're all good to go, you know what I'm saying. You're
good to go. It's it's it'sfree now. But it's that little small

(36:55):
moment of she's over there, andI think I'm in the rom com the
time. So if she's over there, Yeah, if you have a glass,
maybe raise your glasses to them,be like cheers, help you enjoy
it. That's cute. See Ihad to think about it. Okay.

(37:15):
But for the girls who don't meetpeople outside, yes, right, and
who go to the dat masks becausea lot of people are on day mass
a lot. Yeah, I dabblein Hinge people. I dabble in Hinge.
I've had a success story and I'vehad horror stories. I don't know
which way to call it. Ihonestly don't know if I think they're any

(37:38):
better. I think a lot ofpeople be like, I'll just go on
Hinge as if it's just bursting withgreat options, that you will be busy
every week. And no, sometimesyou just keep getting matched with men or
men keep sending you roses or heartsthat are not your tight or who in

(38:00):
multiple ways, whether it's physically oremotionally. Scotty has known because she has
looked through some of my hands likesand she has seen some of the scariers
like where it's like, now,what what is this program? It was
the one that I was reading onmy other friends and just said the question
was the dorkiest thing about me,and he said that I'm a fun guy

(38:22):
researching fun guy and fun guy likef U n G. I like that
whatever somebody, but you know what, you know, somebody saw that the
man of my dreams. Thank you. You're right. Somebody has seen it
and said, just my motherfucking type. I love mushrooms, I too like

(38:49):
to research. I love. Ilove a bad pun and I'm like a
pun. Don't get me wrong,I like a pump. But a fun
guy researching fun guy. All right. Anyway, I just say this to
say that the apps are not likethis haven that people make them out to
be. I know I have friendswho have been I haven't been on back
off for long, like listen,I I would be honest, like my

(39:09):
last relationship, bet them on Hingefirst and only Hinge date boomboo see success.
I realize now why when we wouldsay that, everybody was looking at
me like we was crazy, becausenow I'm on Hinge and I'm like,
eh, it's not the same.It's not as quick and easy. It's
like there's a lot of characters onthere. I don't know. I think

(39:32):
it's hit or miss the same waythe streets are hit or missed. I
think it's about I think if youwant to be something, all hands on
deck, you know what I mean, be social outside, be on the
apps inside, talk to your friends. But if they got cute friends that
they maybe want to hook you upwith, like try it all. Because
I will say. The reason whyI think I prefer what I said your
thing was ideal, and why Itoo prefer to meet met or date men

(39:57):
who know other people I know,is because dating a complete stranger is very
scary. Like I think it's justvery scary where it's like there's nobody who
can vouch for you. There's nobodywho could tell me like whether you're like
how do I know what you're tellingthe truth about this? How do I
know you're gonna murder girls? Onthe side, I feel like there's a
lot where it was like there's alot that I have to learn and figure
out and like verify and that canget messy, you know what I mean?

(40:21):
Or like yeah, it's just likeyou have to really take somebody at
their word, and then you mayfind out that a lot of their words
was just that versus like when youknow they boys, or you know they
friends, or hey, you knowthat they have friends. That can be
like oh, yeah, that's myNigel, like he's a good man,
or like oh dah, he wasa hole but he's reformed, or you

(40:42):
know that something not the right guyfor you, like just whatever. Like
a little bit also that I justknow that people know you that way in
case you try to murder me.They like we got we got witnesses,
Like it's just it's just it's justtoo isolated, the stranger thing. And
I think I was telling Scotty that'salso a mixed dating harder when you get
older, because you're you're smarter inthe sense of like your safety. Sometimes

(41:02):
I think about decisions people be making, whether there it's like one nice stands
or whatever of our way that wewere making. So the bad decisions in
the twenties. When you had mentionedthat to me, I was like,
wow. When I was funny,I was a wild I think bad things
could happen, any bad things couldhappen, because it was like, yeah,
we was out and somebody approached mewas like, Yo, I'm trying

(41:27):
to see you after this, andI was, you know, it was
like, oh, he's fine,maybe I should see him after this.
But also I don't know this man. I'm not having him come back to
my hotel. That's a risk thatI'm not trying to take. Two girls
just got killed downtown La off oflike shit like this, and so it's
like these things are front of mine, and so it's really it makes it
hard for women because there's a lotwe have to consider. Even if it's

(41:52):
not being killed, it could bebeing robbed. Like that's the other thing.
Because I think this helps us circleback to also, the older you
get and the more you did,the more successful you are, the more
money you're making. And then thatadds to it too, because should then
people have to ask themselves, doyou care how much the other person is

(42:13):
making in comparison to you. Let'stell the Perry tell it right. We're
supposed to be open minded to justtaking their love and paying everything else.
Man, take it from a personwho actually just paid for a lot,
who has paid for a lot,it's no different. And I really wish,

(42:36):
like I guess men and one wouldstop throwing this shit around where they
would be like, oh, youknow what if your man is down and
out and you know you have toabsolutely we'll take care of that person.
But I would hate I don't know. I think it's crazy to think that,

(42:57):
Okay, your life would be muchbetter and your man would be better
to you because he has no money. You know what I'm saying. It's
because he has no money. He'snice to you and he needs a place
to rest and sleep. Your manis homeless. They cracked me up.
She was like, you don't havea home right there? Why is that

(43:21):
so extreme? Things like that?But I have always and that's just me
and that's something I need to workthrough also in therapy. But it's just
I don't look at money like howmuch money they have. And maybe I
should start introducing that, you know, with myself, but I don't because

(43:44):
I always go for the love.It's the love, it's a love character.
But then I never get to see, but I never see he is
taking being taken advantage of. Ithink because I'm so in I love love.
Oh he needs it? Oh thenyou know, okay, he doesn't

(44:06):
want to get it fro himself.I'll get it for him, things like
that, and I think that couldget really muddy. I didn't really like
what Tyler Perry said. I dothink sometimes everybody gets really focused on the
finances and not on the happiness.But there has to be a middle point,
a balance, and that's my onlything I don't I have to focus.

(44:30):
I have to focus on the balancebecause I'm so not about the money
at all that's in it. Ineed to start. But clearly it's hard.
It's easy to take advantage of me. Clearly at this point is what
I'm saying about myself. So Idon't subscribe to that at all. And

(44:51):
as somebody does make money, Ido want to be taken care of,
you know. And I don't thinkthough the girls are gonna kill him.
But I think both your truth moneyand this is just maybe something grow with
me. But I'm not giving anigga the power to think that he could
tell me what to do and howto do it simply because he has the

(45:15):
money behind me, or I liveoff of his money in abusive just in
case it gets a little too toxic, just in case anything like that happens.
I understand we're not supposed to preparefor that. But just seeing how
history goes, I would think everybodyshould have money to take care of themselves.

(45:39):
Yes, yes, and that's I'mnot giving anybody the advantage. I'm
sorry. There's never gonna be atime where you think that you can control
me because of the money that youmake. That's not going to happen ever,
And that's all I want my girlis to know. Sometimes I know
we'd be looking for guys with thebags and got the bag. Yeah,

(46:00):
but they use that bag to controlyou so that you can do whatever the
fuck they say do, even againstyour will, against the that you the
dignity that you did have. SoI just want y'all to know I'm for
it. The girls can do itas long as you can live through it,
as long as you can take thatand actually do. But just for

(46:23):
me, I'm not giving nobody nopower in that way. Yeah, that's
it. I just that's real.What about you? But I think a
lot of it has to do morewith money management than we talk about.
Like then how much money you have, you know what I mean? It's
like you can make less than meand still manage it enough where you can
take me out sometimes and I cantake you out sometimes and if we vibe

(46:45):
in every other level, I'm notgonna let the fact that I got to
pay sometimes take eliminate you from thegame. And on the flip side,
you're less easily swayed by something aman can do for you when you can
do it for yourself. It's soeasy for people peple to impress you or
like swear you when they can treatyou the things that you can't that you
can't treat yourself to. And whenyou can do it for yourself, you're

(47:07):
a bit more critical about who you'rewith, right, But sometimes it's more
of like, wow, they wouldwant to do that for me. Oh,
And that's like they would want todo that for me even though I
could do it on my own.I can do it by myself. And
I just want the girls enough tolike get too wrapped up, too tighten
it because in real life, unfortunatelyfor me, I am I will pick

(47:32):
a dreamer. Okay, well thinkabout me. I Oh pick the Michael.
E'm gonna pick them Michael, butpick a man with it, Like
I said, that's why my thingon the way, oh I say,
I should say, Oh my,I wish even if we won't share a
thing. That's why on my Ilike list like things I want to man,
it doesn't say he has to havea certain job or a certain its
not a certain number, and saidhe has a talent that I believe in

(47:57):
because it's like I'm using my discretion. Like also like so you have a
passion so many purposes about cool.I also have to feel like I have
to believe that it's something. Becausehere's the thing. Somebody can have a
bomb job and this economy get laidoff. Now he broke, you still
want him? You better? Ishe talented enough at what he does whatever
it is to get another job andanother job. That's where I'm at with

(48:20):
it. I need to believe.And that way, when we're down,
I don't feel bad about carrying itbecause I know we're gonna be up again,
the same way you believe that inme that when I'm down, Sylvia
gonna get it together because we believein each other's talent. So that's where
I say, that's where I worry. That is a one that is exactly
what I do, Okay, andI'm gonna take care of it because I

(48:45):
know that you have a great talent, or you have a great dream that
we both believe in, but believethat they can execute said dream. Now
that they's just talented, but thatthey can execute it, and that's all
right. Yeah, So, speakingof that being a red flag, do
you have first date red flags thatyou recognize better now that you're in your

(49:08):
thirties. Things who talk about themselvesa lot, things talking about themselves a
lot. I need I need tostop that immediately. If they talk about
themselves for a total of like thirtyminutes and there is no question like what
about you or that's crazy? Youknow, tell me what your family dynamic

(49:30):
is like like anything, any anything, anything, then we have an issue.
I need to not ever go onanother date with you. I need
to know that this is okay,because I think sometimes too it could be
a natural reaction out of anxiety tobe like, I just know, I'm
gonna just talk about what I know, and I know myself and anxious.

(49:51):
Yeah right, and so I'm anxious. But if it continues throughout the day
and you can't tell with facial expressionsthat I am I am not interested with
this anymore, I have to stop. I have also my red flag about

(50:12):
me is that also I will givesomebody a second chance every time. Oh
yeah, I do believe in givingalways a second date unless something wild happened,
like the eight forty eight oysters atthe table, or don't get out
the car the cheesecake factory, orthat I'm crazy because I have a lot
of friends who, even for me, a lot of exes wear the first

(50:37):
date and the second date miles apart. And if I hadn't given them that
second date, I would have nevergone on to have a great relationship.
For some of my friends who aremarried, like because people be nervous on
the first date. But no,I think the problem is giving too many
chances, Like there's a second chance, and there's like a lot of other
people say I give too many chances, Like they don't mean two, They
mean like I give like five tosix to ten. That's one of them.

(51:00):
What does the first day reflects you? I recognize better now than before
it has. I was sitting herethinking about it. I'm like, damn,
it's hard. For example, ifthey're not talking positively about any woman
in their life, whether it bethey mother, they sister, their exes,
how people talk about their exes.I pay attention to because if you

(51:21):
just bashing somebody like it even likeI don't think that's if you bashing somebody,
it ain't over. It ain't over. It just feeling. But also
it's it could be over and you'relying about like it's just I believe that
how you talk about is how youtalk about me. And so my thing
is like, now you're gonna writewrite a rap song about how I got
bad pussy because I played you atthe VMA's Like, I'm like, that's

(51:42):
not over. It's not over becauseif if she had the choice to take
you back, you would go backbecause you are still upset about whatever the
fuck has happened that you're willing togo off about her to another woman.
Yeah, you are not over it. Yeah, you think it's about over,
it's about paying attention to how UYeah, And so I think the

(52:04):
signs of how they talk about otherwomen and how long they talk about other
women to your point, and likehow a depth they go about it,
because there is one thing about askingsomebody about why just things didn't work out
and then like them going deeply intoit to your point. But like,
yeah, you're clearly not over that. That's the thing to know, but
also like some I think even whenI think about cultural things, like they
can talk about like insumatory lanes andbe like, ah, you know,

(52:27):
it's like, oh, you seemto only like be very into this like
very toxic masculinity stuff. But Ialso think here's a better one. I
think too. It's like and itcan also lean into green flags at the
same way, where it's like howvulnerable is a man able to get with
me? I think that like there'ssometimes I've been in I found myself in
a relation or like dating situations orwhatever where I'm like trying to have deep

(52:51):
conversation. I'm realizing that, oh, you're not emotionally capable, and I
that's not sustainable for me because I'vedone the work I got. I we
all we're gonna talk about it all, baby, And if you can't talk
about it all, or you havelike these antiquated ideas of what a man's
supposed to talk about and not supposedto talk about her how you're supposed to

(53:12):
be strong or you don't cry,or you know, like all that stuff
where it's like, ah, youstill got work to do. So that's
something I always look for and Ithink so. The green flag is like,
oh, when they mentioned being atherapy, I love it. You
have a therapist. Amazing, youknow. Or it's like asking what's the
name? Quick quickly? What's hername? What's his name? Because a

(53:37):
lot of niggas is lying, soI need to make sure that Hey,
what's your therapist name. You don'tgotta give me the full name. Just
give me the first name. That'salways the hardest, So go ahead and
tell me the first name. I'mscreaming now, she said, break confidentiality,
baby, I want to know whothey are. No, yeah,
not. You don't got to giveme the full name. Just quickly give

(54:00):
me the first name, because Iknow that you're not lying. So what
about what is a green flags?Some green flags for me? Laughter?
If we can laugh, if wehave a sense of female that gets each
other, I think I am goodto go. I love a laugh and

(54:20):
compliment. I like compliments. Ilike the guys compliments. Yeah, so
I like for you to give mea compliment. I love giving guys compliments.
I think it's funny to see howthey react when I give a compliment.
So it's cute because they don't knowhow to take shit like that.

(54:42):
Here we go. I got something, Scottie. So you're on this date,
you're first, you're on this firstdate. He shows up with flowers.
He takes you to Benny Honas,he asks you all the questions in
the world. He he's engaging,he's fine as hell. I'm talking Michael

(55:02):
Ey fine, you understand. He'sgood with music. He's taking you to
jazz after he's all the green flagsunder the red. You understand. And
then y'all get back to the houseand he gives you the kiss of life
at the door, like I mean, you know the kind I'm talking about,

(55:25):
one of those first kisses that takeyour breath away. You had him
hit. Are you sending him home? Sending him home? I like tonight
too much? No? Or wehang out cause I like the day too

(55:51):
much. I think emotionally, Ican't. I need a moment to really
go through how great that was andbeing that than doing sex? Sex?
Is it because you're afraid that sex, Like if you knew that the sex
would enhance tonight, versus the fearthat the sex will then ruin the night

(56:14):
because maybe it's bad. You know, it might ruin, it might ruin
it and it might ruin my romance. Like yeah, I'm saying so yeah,
So you're saying that you would nothave the same because not because you
feel like sex on the first dayis a bad thing to do. No,
it's great if you want to doYeah, that's great. Just me,

(56:36):
just how I am I much ratherjust next time, next time,
we'll do it. I don't know. Maybe that's just how I do.
That's how I wired. I'm allfour of the girls fucking on the first
day, do get that correct.I'm for it, but with me,
I'm not necessarily a big fan ofdoing that. I like for us the

(56:59):
first day to be exactly how perfectit needs to be at the end of
that kiss boom, all right,goodbye. But you would fuck is what
you're saying. Everything is perfect?No, that's I don't know what you
do. I wouldn't. I wouldn'thave sex either, I think. But
for me, I don't think itwould be because I think for my reasoning

(57:21):
is like I and maybe there's somealignment there, But for me, it's
like I like when things are good, I like to make them linger.
I like to make them righter,and so I want to go slowly because
it's like, yes, like,and also because I think the more of
that tension is built up, themore we tooth that. But when it
happens, hopefully it'll be great.You know, I don't think. I

(57:45):
don't know if I've ever I actuallydon't think I've ever had sex after the
first day. And again, Idon't think it's anything wrong with it.
I don't think I'm also, butI think back, I don't think I've
ever done that. No, Ihaven't. I can't confirm it. Andy,
I don't remember, but I'm prettysure I have probably like in my
life. But yeah, but Isay I have a hard fast rule,

(58:06):
like you know how Joan was thethree month rule. I think my rule
used to be. I used tosay that, like, especially because I
have somebody who came into this likeadulthood, thinking I was going to wait
till marriage for a certain point,and then when I got past that,
I was like, I think I'monly going to sex time I'm in love.
Do you think it's important to havesex before you get in a relationship,
so you know that that's our far. Yes, I understand the girls.

(58:31):
I get it. It's cute,and I don't know I don't know
the Rhetorican. I don't even knowwhy you would do that, but I'm
not. Yeah, that's crazy becausethat's got to make sure. It's got
to make sure that we're compatible therebefore, so compatible. We need to

(58:52):
be like on the same page.Okay, please, relationships and marriage are
hard enough when y'all are on partin that department. We ain't got to
add problems to it. We ain'tgot to add problems to it. So
yeah, I think that's that's ourfeelings on it. But also that's the

(59:12):
red flag. If a man asksyou your body county, how old are
we? You know? For Iknow for a fact he lives with his
mom. As soon as soon ashe asked that question. No, you
should just ask do you live withyour mom? Because usually that's usually what

(59:36):
they'll say, my mom live withme, this is your house, you
live with your mother. So let'sjust please keep it cute. Everyone.
Nobody should be talking about body counts. Ever, it shouldn't never be a

(59:57):
thing. I don't know why Iplayed this in the beginning. Just get
tested and maybe it's like that's it, just it's just it. That's that's
the reason. It's like you knowyou want to make somebody safe, but
then that you don't need a numberfor that, You just need a little
test. Okay. So also let'stalk about rosters. Well, yes,
what is the What is a comfortablenumber for you? It's good with a

(01:00:21):
four? Four? Five is fiveis ambitious the ambitious number when you have
a lot of things to do.But here's the thing too, I need
the girl to understand and a lotof the girls to know, because I
don't like the girls who constantly say, oh, how you this is just

(01:00:44):
so much energy that you did.Why are you giving niggas so much energy?
Why are you just meeting niggas atwhere they are at instead of doing
so much? I think a lotof women spend a lot of time focused
on just one nigga, whether onenigga will text you, one nigga will
call you, one niggabill do thisor come and do that, or think

(01:01:07):
of you to do this, orthink of you no, like if you
want to date, date But Ithink so many women put this like expracial,
oh, that's just so much energy. For me, It's just so
much energy. It's energy to text, it's energy to you know, speak
to the if it takes so muchenergy to do that. Then I would

(01:01:29):
say drop that person because you're notthat interested. But if you actually date
people, date more than one person, and stop romanticizing that one person that
you date and sit there and youknow what I'm saying, go through the
motions of does he like me?Or hope he likes me. But you'll
be able to have a few peoplethat you like and that you're interested in,

(01:01:51):
that you can speak to, thatyou can have a dialogue with.
You can be able to say,Okay, I like what this person does,
don't really like when this person doesthis. Like you're a pole to
see different types of people. That'sthe only way that you will be able
to assess whether or not you likesomebody for real. Yo, That's what
I'm saying. Like as far aslike, you don't have to spend so

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much energy on niggas that you justmet. You don't just have fun date
text, cheeky shit, joking whatever. Whenever you do decide to go on
the date or y'all decide to spendtime with each other, make it about
y'all. So I did to say, that's day. I want the girls

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to date more. I want thegirls to date, have fun, be
present, experience shit. You know, for the girls like me who don't
who do want to be married,and I do want to be married,
but I do want to have Iwant to have a fun life. I

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also want to have a relationship thatreflects that that we have a fun life.
So be able to date people andyou know, just have fun with
it. Yeah, it's gonna bemessy. This is messy. Shit.
Niggas are messy and so are bitch. Everybody's messy. But I would just

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say, like you know, makesure, make sure you just have a
fun and be safe. Have fun, be safe, and think of yourself.
Put yourself first in every situation.Prioritize yourself, even in sex,

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because a lot of people don't evendo that. So especially the girls,
they just want the guys to getoff and have be able to give them
the This was amazing, yes,but was it amazing to you? It's
hard? So yes, have agood time, just have a fucking good
time and be present in these datesinstead of thinking of this nigga as your

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husband. Please tired and on thatnote, let's go into before we let
you go. Even those guy hasgiven us several affirmations already, So before

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we let you go, we alwayswant to close with a few words of
affirmation that held us together over thepast week, because it's been a week.
What you got for the people thisweek? You know? I want
to just re emphasize because I feellike we gave so many affirmations that I

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gave one that I meant to sayfor this But I really just want to
drive home to the single girls,like there's nothing that this part of your
life can be romanticized too, Likebeing single can be romanticized to if you
let it, because you have thepower to romance yourself. So don't be

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so quick to shame this chapter,and don't let anybody else do it either.
A lot of times, yeah it'sfun. It can be fun if
you are present and you are notwaiting or holding back or with holding certain
things like a treat for when you'redown your person, like give it to
yourself. Now that's what I got. I love that. So yeah,

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how about you friend? For minesomewhat is like yours. Okay, it's
not necessarily an affirmation, but Ijust I want the girls to have fun
and not think fun just only existsin relationships. Or what you can show
TikTok, or what you can showInstagram, or what you can show whoever

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else that you think is watching you. Fun can exist with just you.
Happiness and enjoy could just be openingthe door of your apartment that you only
live in. Like there are momentsthat I romanticize to Sylvia's point that I'm

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sure anybody else would say the hellis wrong, but I have so much
fun doing it and coming from agirl, and I hope like this reaches
the girls, especially that are justgetting out of relationships and think that the

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hell is coming doom, it's allover from here, sad, it's sadness
and badness. It's not, especiallyif the breakup was overdue. It's not.
And what us its usually is right, and it's not. And there
are things that I cannot wait foryou to discover about yourself and love more

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about yourself and be able to giveyourself more time to sit with yourself and
enjoy those things about you or whatyou just enjoy about life. So the
only desperate I want you to beis desperate to be alone, Desperate to
find more things that you love aboutyourself, desperate for peace, desperate for

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those things. So that's it.That's it, and so good one.
Thank you guys, thank you.In the meantime, make sure you keep
up with the show online using thehashtag hashtag Scottie and Sylvia Show. Yeah,
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