You Cum First, Sis!

This week, Scottie & Sylvia dive into the sheets to talk about the immense power of the pussy. No subject is off limits as the girls share their takes on everything from self-pleasure and sex toys, to porn and partner play and beyond. In their signature mix of candor and humor, the girls encourage us to create fun, safe, judgment-free spaces where our sexual desires are front and center because after all – you cum first, sis.  Connect with us via text by texting "Podcasts" to [phone] Check out Raedio's YouTube page for the visuals every Friday: https://www.youtube.com/@TheRAEDIO Connect with us on social media:  @TheRaedio  @SylviaObell @ScottieBeam

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Episode Transcript

(00:11):
Welcome to the Scottie and Sylvia Show. We speak our minds like it's our
full time job and have too muchfun doing it. I am Scottie Beam.
You know. I always think thatI have something for this last line,
but I don't, So I'm justhere, y'all. I'm here.
That's it. Throw them leftovers away, that's it. And I'm Sylvia Obell

(00:34):
and I am proud of my friendScottie Bee for throwing down at Thanksgiving.
I want y'all to know that babybit and turkey, so mac and cheese,
grease tomatostatos. I did. Icouldn't. I really cooked. I
was ink and I was stressed.I don't. I don't know how y'all

(00:58):
how y'all cook and bitch just doit truly. But hey, friend,
besides throwing down and cooking a scrumchoousmeal, did you get rest? Did
you still? And? I wasstill and I was relaxed. I was
happy. I got to spend timewith some loved ones that I absolutely appreciate

(01:23):
and love. So I had agood time. How about you? How
is your week? How is yourThanksgiving? You ain't? You didn't even
cook? I did not. Iit was part of the pull up with
plate Ministry. I am still Queenof the Drinks Committee. I will bring
a nice bottle of liquor to thankyou for your labor. That's what I

(01:47):
did this year. Shout out toKelly Carter and her husband Marino waiting for
a plate. Kelly, my momand sister came to Los Angeles to give
me a travel break, but alsobecause they love coming here when they can
and having a warm Thanksgiving. Sojust move. Oh no, yeah them,
I mean them, no, y'ah, hear you. I mean my

(02:08):
sister's kind of busy shooting the Eaglesin Philadelphia. Shout out to Jalen from
pulling it out in the over timewith his fine ass. I swear he
makes it so easy to watch Eaglesgames. Oh he's fine. He just
how you that fine? And dadtalented? It's crazy. God really went

(02:30):
crazy with that one. Yeah,they're tenant one. I love that,
you know the sad here's the thing, Dad, right the clown? Yeah,
Dad, write this down. Iwill have a game in mind for
her in sports, and I can'twait for us to test Sylvia about how
much she knows about sports. Writethat down. I am a screaming that's

(02:54):
it, that's it, that's theone, because she's a sports reporter.
Now, okay, I have intervieweda few athletes. I've interviewed a few
athletes a My Day, Little Vitasand Serena, you know. But yes,
the Eagles are ten and one andthey beat the Buffalo Bills last night

(03:15):
in overtime. Yes, it wasa good game in the rain, the
rain. My sister and mom literallyhad to fly back Saturday night to make
it in time so mystags can makeit to the game. She had like
three hours of sleep and it wasout there in the rain shooting. I
said, that's right, baby,hold it down. But no, I
think they would absolutely move to aLA if I ended up staying here like

(03:37):
long term. I think we're allsurprised that we like Los Angeles. Growing
up. My sister was the onlyone who said, I think I want
to live in California, And I'mlike, why would you want to do
that? And then here I amit. Oh And every year, my
my Thanksgiving task is to hook mymom and sister onto shows that I think

(03:59):
that they would like that they wouldnot know the watch. And this year
the show that I've successfully hooked themon is the Gilded Age. It's called
HBO Max who I have successfully hookedthem on the other cause my mom loves
the period piece and they both loveDownton Abbey, and so it's from the
creators of Downtown Abbey. Yeah,and so this it's a good get the

(04:19):
white people be white in and thenthere's like the black Brooklyn elite. And
I kind of like the shows thatthere were black people doing well for themselves
in Brooklyn, like twenty years afterslavery was over. So I successfully got
them hooked on that. I thinkyou might, I mean, you might
enjoy the white drama. I'm worriedthat it might be too white for you,
Like I don't know if it's blackenough. Well, you know,

(04:41):
I watched Peaky Blinders, well usedto when Peaky Blinders is the thing,
there's not an ounce of black inthere, but the niggas. There's violenceto.
So yeah, I do. Ido enjoy a little get, a
little ghetto. And you know,it's like to just black people. People
would be fucking Ghio all day.So it was a little ghetto in there.

(05:02):
I might be good. It's notbecause I saw that you tweeted you're
watching black Cake. Yo, weare watching black Cake. And I can't
take credit for that because it wasmy mom and us, both of our

(05:23):
friends. I seen your tweet aboutit, and I said to myself,
it's black Cake. I've been onthe road that crazy that I don't even
know that there's a black show that'sout. I thought, swear to god,
there was a cooking bacon competition whereblack people was bacon. When you
put that tweet out, I thought, oh, it's like a competition show.
Usually people have it during weddings.My mom had it on her wedding.

(05:45):
M h yeah, it's like rumcake, that's all. Yeah,
no, they explained on this showback. First, I really was like
oh, But then my mom waslike she can say like getting texting her
group chat, they keep talking aboutblack Cake, and I'm like, maybe
we should watch it. Watch inthat show where Yo, mama is crazy,
because let me tell you, Iwas looking at Liz like you got
something to say, right, somethingyou gotta get off your chests because now

(06:08):
the time don't really don't know damnusb all these damn stories. Yeah,
that's a it's a great show.It popped up on me. I was
sitting in my living room with somefriends and we were trying to listen to
the hundred three thousand album. Wesmoked with Yeah, and we was like,
let's just sit here and see ifit moves, if it hits.

(06:30):
So we're trying to talk and listento the album at the same time.
It just wasn't working. So Isaid, I just listened to it when
I need to sleep. So that'swhat I'm gonna do. It's a lot
of wind in there, a lotof blowing. It's a with instruments.
I left my window open for afew times because I'm so high. I'm
looking at my window, like,what the is that? But some congratulations

(06:55):
out of two thousand and all thatto say, because they get some crazy
streams off that he sweet music hedid, he is getting and he's like,
okay, yeah he's charting like it'sup there that boy. You know
what I'm saying, And let thisbe a lesson, try to do something
different. Maybe isn't working. Waitto be to stop talking right. Well,

(07:23):
then we get to news topics sothat we can talk about Nigga's never
opening their mouths ever again, please, you know, Well, let's just
get right into the mess. It'sokay, Tana Taylor. She told us

(07:44):
that they didn't really want us inthe group chat, but then niggas wanted
to be petty. She tried toput her divorce filing under initials so that
it wouldn't be found out. Ithink then Emon decided to try to be
petty in some ray and put theiraim fiuled with their names on it,
which then backfired because men don't thinklong term. There like two steps ahead

(08:07):
and not five, and now allhis businesses the street. Meanwhile, he
was her biggest hob wonder. Yes, I'm gonna say I'm trying to figure
out way, And as somebody whoalso existed through that, I will say,
great job for leaving big, big, big, yes, big job,

(08:31):
especially with I'm proud of her fordoing that, absolutely because that's never
gonna end. So it's only gonnaget worse because you're only gonna get bigger.
And it's really sad how many successfulwomen have to deal with being punished
for it in their relationships. Andit's never like like avert like it's usually

(08:54):
like subtle, like a dog whistle, you know what I mean. The
gas lighting is its simmers that firstit's the flicker and then like it's it's
a gradual progression, but it's areal thing and it and it's and it's.
I can only imagine how many women'scareers never took off the way they
could because they didn't leave yep.And I will leave you with that go

(09:16):
ahead, Sylvia, that you takethe next you take the NeXT's hit.
Okay. And so now we didn'tget to really speak on Diddy. I'll
say this. I was glad wehad a Thanksgiving break for it to play
out. Boy. I said,oh, I would like to see this
just how this goes. But thenit went faster than I thought. Mm

(09:39):
hmm, what do you mean thatman settled for hours? Absolutely nasty,
nigga, disgusting. What you've doneis disgusting, crazy, insane. Here's
the thing, A lot of youmedia personalities that call yourselves media personality are

(10:01):
bitches, bitch ass niggas. Ilove how these media personalities love to pick
a very convenient time for you tostick to only talking about the music when
the person is out it for beingan abuser. I think you niggas love
to suck celebrity dick and you guysdo it for the celebrity name and to

(10:24):
have celebrities on your show. Noneof y'all commit to the honesty of being
a media personality and speaking truth onlywhen it has to do when doubting a
woman like Megan thee Stallion. Remember, everybody had all the time, everybody
had discord, everybody had no nobodyneeded more details, nobody needed nobody were
the death fell. No nobody neededto see anything else. Everybody wanted to

(10:48):
have an opinion. But when itis time to talk about something that is
put on paper clearly, Cassie hastons and tons of witnesses. Now,
all of a sudden, everybody hasfallen silence. Everybody has literally closed their
mouths, especially in hip hop.The reason why I'm out of the music

(11:09):
stuff and I do eventually want toget back into it, because the honesty
is lost. I've always been dedicatedand maybe making sure that there was always
some truth and always big truth towhat hip hop is and what exists in
hip hop. Now, given Idon't know a lot about what's going on
behind because I'm not best friends withthese niggas. I don't be sitting next

(11:30):
to these niggas right We don't bein the private rooms with these niggs,
private rooms with these niggas, suckingdick with these niggas or doing whatever else
y'all niggas is doing. So Iwill say, you niggas don't deserve to
have a mic in front of yourfucking mouths. If y'all want to stick
to the music, stick to themusic, but don't let me hear a
motherfucking peep about anything that's going oncontroversial outside of the music. I don't

(11:54):
want to hear anything because you niggasdo nothing but want to sit there and
condemn them women and talk about womenand what women did and how this may
be some truth. This nigga settledin twenty four hours, twenty the one
sleep and the truth will come tolight. Don't everbody has to search for

(12:16):
it. Nobody will have to becauseit's coming. Mmmm, it's coming.
It's coming for a lot of people. Man. Yeah, but no,
I mean a sermon on the mountfrom a Scotty you. Yes, no,
no, no, no no no. I gotta say, pick an
energy and keep it as I loveto say, picking energy and keep that

(12:39):
shit. Now you're picking and energy. I hope to see you keep it
right when it doesn't suit you.And those who did choose to say things
and this is nobody with a mic. You just now, people online or
whatever else who have the nerves willbe like, why now, and well
why to take what kills me?Is that? Nobody was like I don't

(13:01):
think Diddy didn't do that shit.Everybody was like, well why did you
wait till now? And it's aboutthe money clearly, and and a lot
of people who don't understand law,like I just would like to say this
because y'all was getting on my nerves. Y'all was getting on my nerves not
knowing the difference between a civil suitand a criminal case. Cassie is not

(13:24):
the DA, She is not thedistrict attorney, y'all. Y'all claim y'all
love it law and order. Y'allclaim you love law and order, and
yet you still have not learned thecharacters in the show. The victim cannot
file, okay, so let meI'm calm down. A civil suit,

(13:46):
yes, okay, guys, aswhen you are suing civilly like, there's
no criminal outcome that can come fromthis. It's all about just getting money
back or some type of reparation forthe crime committed against you. A district
attorne, you can see a civilsuit and decide or like be told about
an incident and decide if they wantto file criminal charges on the person.

(14:09):
But that is up to the stateand the city, not the woman.
Now, the reason why in thiscase the civil because to some of your
point, like it's been a fifth, like over ten years since Diddy and
Cassie got together, she was onlynineteen, which is crazy in itself.
I don't think back then I reallyrealized the age of difference. She was
only nineteen, so there's a statueof limitations on certain things, and I

(14:33):
think by the time she got outthe criminal statue limitation may have passed.
But the reason why so many suitsare being filed the last couple of weeks
is because New York did the NewYork Survivor Adult Survivors Act, and they
gave some adult survivors whose statue oflimitations time had run out a year,
a calendar year to file against acivil suit against the person who assaults it,

(14:58):
sexually assaulted them, abused them,whatever. The deadline is coming up,
but expired actually expired on November twentyfifth, and so everybody who was
like, well, why did shewait till now? The only law that
would allow her to do that wasand it clearly took her until the last
second to get the nerve to doit. But I am proud of her
for getting her story out via theNew York Times. And that's when new

(15:20):
shit was real, because let metell you, some New York Times don't
fucking play around. They don't playaround. When I saw it in the
New York Times, I said,that's a fact checking research group that don't
fucking play around. I said thatgot to have the Because I was in
the newsrooms when the me too movementwas going on, a lot of people's
stories did not get told, notbecause people didn't believe them, but because

(15:41):
there was not enough substantiated whatever.Each newsroom editor decided to put the story
out. So by the time itgets to y'all in a in a newsroom,
not a blog alas, things havebeen confirmed, and I made k
Cutty had been been on the phonelike yeah he did that shit absolutely blew
up car like these calls were madeprior to hitting Go, So hit Go.

(16:04):
That lawsuit was really hard to read. Tom. I never imagined.
It just was so disappointing, sodisappointing, nasty, just so nasty.
I don't even want to get intoit, but it's just, you know,
when it settled in twenty four hours, I had two thoughts. One,
Wow, that's a quick payoff,and more women are going to step
up and I think three two morehave at least at this point against Dinny

(16:29):
specifically. But also that damn nowthat she did it this way, I
knew, y'all niggas was gonna belike, look, she took the money
quick, she took the money quick. What about taking him to court?
And la da da. Doing itthis way, Cassie avoided cross examination,
She you know, avoided the wholeAmber Herd Johnny Depp thing that we saw
were by the end of it,they both was looking crazy like she And

(16:52):
also I'm like, while I knew, like, obviously the most ideal thing
would be for like evidence to comenow and people to have one, because
niggas need a lot to believe shit. I also remember I had to remind
myself that's not Cassie's burden. It'snot her burden to make niggas believe shit.
It's her burden to do what shegot to do for herself and get
it and get out and be amother to her children and a wife to

(17:15):
her husband. And if this ishow she wants to go about it,
then find I'm tired people needing theperfect victim. There's nothing you can do
to tell me that it's okay forsomebody to beat up their partner. There's
nothing. I don't care if Cassiewas the biggest bitch and bad boy,
I don't care. And I'm tired, so very tired of having because I'm
pretty sure Sylvia, in the nexttwo to five business months, we're going

(17:40):
to be sitting here saying the samething again because black women are constantly the
mouthpiece to supporting just women, socon having to speak up and saying no,
this is not right. It's gettingexhausting, but it's it has to
be done and really all we got. And it's unfortunate that like it becomes

(18:03):
a like speaking up for hurt peoplebecomes try to like a villain. It's
weird. It's a weird things toit. But like I'll be the villain.
That means I'll be the pathy that'sme. No what the pay from
from life. I got took mea second, because I'll be that.

(18:27):
I pay the villain many times inmy career. I do it again.
I'll pay the child before I gotthat. I got that all right?
Well, yes and yes and soand Diddy is not the only one who's
had things filed against him. Soall those men, good luck works,
luck, it works, luck,okayn way Okay. Unfortunately, men be

(18:53):
messing it up for us. Wheneverwe want to talk about fund ship,
they make us have to go hardand then we have to try to pick
but into some fun joy thoughtfulness.And so I'm just gonna be really about
it that we're about to make ahard uk like that's the chance that you
we're about to make right now,running it up because sometimes the new cycle

(19:17):
calls for because we cannot just makethis whole episode doom and gloom. We
had things under the agenda before niggaskept getting revealed for the function they've done.
And word to Janelle Monnet and herGrammy nomination for this Age of Pleasure
album that we've been bumping all year, I may really and we were thinking
a lot about sex and pleasure andlike women leaning into pleasure from from our

(19:45):
point of view, put it first, but it first some like you know,
some new tricks and even some newX because I think as you grow,
you learn more about your body andlearn more about what serves you as
as like what does pleasure look likefor you? So we got to talk
about Okay, let's talk about sex. Sex all right. Well, I'd

(20:17):
like to start this off by justa public service announcement. So just some
quick uh, just some quick secretarywork. If you are related to me,
you might wanna this might be oneto skip. You know, if
you ever attended the church service withme, I'd like you know that we

(20:37):
contain multitudes. No, I'm justI'm being silly, but it's very much
given that Ari Linx thing before heralbum started, when she was like,
if you're my brother or on mylabel, get out, get out right.
If you're a part of my joblabel, go right now, because
it's about to keep disgusting. It'sabout to get so fucking freaky gat yep,

(21:03):
because I'll be throwing ass. Myfamily know I throw ass, So
sure, I just know that youknow you know I do. But maybe
you don't want to hear a marriage. So I'm just saying that if you
don't want to hear about it nowthe time, but now the time,
because I know I'd be throwing ass, but I throw hold on tight if

(21:23):
you're about to listen to this girland you know they are our mom because
they're they're so they just they needto know what we're gonna say. But
anyway, so right before the holiday, we were during our meeting, I
had mentioned that I experienced a loss, and I think we should take this
seriously. I experience a loss ofsome something that have I've just been close

(21:47):
to for the last decade of mylife, through moves, through makeups and
breakups, through hookups and lonely nights. It's been there for me and that
is my vibrator, my main youknow, my main thing. Now,
how long have you had this vibrator, Sylvia? It lived a good life.

(22:11):
I don't know what I got.It was the first vibror I ever
got. I got it in twentythirteen, sold exactly ten years, exactly
ten years. I waiting for youto say that this has a battery.
This bitch got a battery. Onevibrator like you put an actual battery that

(22:33):
you buy from the corner store todouble a double a. That's crazy.
What ten years? Who has avibrator? I like, you know how
good you was taking care of thatshit. It was durable. It was
a durable one. Shout out tothat is it because truly? No?

(22:56):
Because okay, because like so no, literally it's not no now, y'all.
Picture with some old some old stuff. I promised you. It was
just right like your picture, likea big round Brookstone back massage. That's
not it. It's then like thoseones plugging the wall. It's crazy.
Mine was like it was like ahot pink it's about this big. I

(23:21):
should I won't bring it out.Gets a little too much, But it
wasn't you know. It was justlike a lie with a little tip,
with a round tip, and itwas hot pink, and it had rhymestones
around the bottom the part that shewent hook to put the batteries in the
round, and it had a littlepush and it had a little push button
for the different speeds, you know, like how you want to go.

(23:41):
It was given to me when Iwas an Internet Essence magazine by the Relationships
and Sex editor Charlie Penn. Iwould just like to shut out Charlie for
you know, liberating black girls.I wasn't like fresh out of grad school
and you know, different magazine stuff. I'm sure there was like a sex
toy column being done, stuff wasgetting sent in. I was helping her
organize. She's talking about like,oh, so, what kind of vibraty

(24:02):
do you? What's your preference?Like, what is your style? And
I'm like, I've never I've neverused a vibrator before. And she was
like what And I was like,I don't I'll and here go me,
Well, I have a boy Ihave a boyfriend, so you know,
I you know. And I'm liketwenty three, like I have a boyfriend,

(24:22):
and so like that's enough, youknow what I mean. I don't
want to I don't may nothing else, you know what I mean. And
she was like, girl, youdon't take this vibreader and gut And I
remember being like, but what ifI She was like, any man who's
working with is gonna embrace a vibrator. If your boyfriend feels offended by this
or has an issue with you,you know, prioritizing your pleasure, then

(24:45):
that's a red flag. And shoutout to that man at the time,
because he did not. He actuallysurprised me by embracing it so much.
So called that nigger Cliff Paul orsomething like that. What is it with
men in sports analogies everywhere? Becausefor those who don't get Chris Paul,
he's really good up with the assistand he had to stay from commercial where

(25:10):
he had his twin clip fall andso he you know, we'll call it
Cliff Paul and that was funny tome. But yeah, Cliff is gone.
If I the engine finally gave alittle last, and now I have
to figure out placement because it's beenI didn't even buy this vibrator, Like
this was something given to me,right, and I think even just that

(25:33):
that's how it started for me andme now beyond the market for a new
toy, like it's also got methinking a lot about our bodies and center
and pleasure and like how long wouldit have taken me or where would that
be if I didn't work in ablack woman's magazine. He was like,
sis, prioritize get yours. Yeah, but like before vibrators, before you

(25:55):
did get the gifted vibrator, thevintage one, when when would you say
it was the first time, likeyou started exploring your body in a sexual
way. You know, this isinteresting. I think pretty I learned about

(26:17):
like self pleasure pretty early on becausemy mother wasn't the kind of mom who
maybe even necessarily felt comfortable giving asex talk. But I know she knew
that I needed to have one.You know, she wasn't given one,
so I don't know she really knewhow to navigate it back then. So
what my mom would do would beshe would buy me books, books about

(26:37):
my body, books about sex,and like like make me read them and
like and that's how she would liketell me the information I needed to know
without the uncomfortability of like us havingto have the conversation or her trying to
navigate it. So like, Iremember one of the books, there was
a chapter about masturbation and it wastalking about like, you know, if

(26:59):
you touch a certain part your body, you might feel a little good and
it's okay, it's something to beashamed of. And you know, a
white woman wrote this book, AndI was like, what are they talk
about? You know, my nosyass just my whole life, my whole
life, I've been nosy. Andso I was like, I must have
been like maybe thirteen, and that'sI was like, you know, they

(27:22):
had a little diagram because they wantyou to know the parts of your vagina.
I wish they'd make little boys readthese books fast because the girl men
are on the streets still not knowingwhere the clutorius is. It's And I
was like, huh, so,you know, I, you know,
tried something and I don't think Iever nowhere in that time that ever get
to like a full orgasm. ButI would play and I'd be like,
oh, I'm like, oh what, and it'd be like and then you

(27:48):
stop, and then you'd be like, maybe you should try again. Who
was that like, you know,and it was really like there was no
like second. It was not likebecause I was young, so it was
like a sexual context to I justwas like, oh, there's a part
of your body that if you touchit, it feels good and it's actually
to me. Now I think backon it, it's like the way I
removed it from sex in general,because so much of sex had been shaped

(28:11):
around a man doing something to youand taking something that like I didn't even
really correlate the two, right thatthis is something that like a man should
be doing to me. Eventually,when I get to the age where I
want it, or like that thisis the way a man should like aim
to make me feel like those werenot even thoughts I had back then.

(28:32):
When did you start to get curiousabout your body? I wasn't that curious
as a kid one because sex wasn'treally talked about unless it was talked about
in a way where it was toprotect me from not doing it. So
like you know, when my auntstalk about it and my mom talks about

(28:53):
it, it's more so like youjust got to be prepared when you do
it, because if he uses togo or if it doesn't work out,
you can't hold a man with sex. And so it's never been about like
girl sex is so good, LikeI don't have any of those you know,
memories as like a kid, becauseI didn't really start. I didn't

(29:14):
masturbate until I was twenty five.I didn't lose my virginity until I was
twenty years old, So I wasnot that sexually curious. Now, when
we talk about kissing, big horror, you understand, or big kissing horror,
love will kiss in a second alsowith some kissing nasses kiss at each

(29:38):
other. No, just like well, k it's a good time I love
good makeout session, honestly true.People people take it for granted. Actually
people people do not like y'all behopping to the casuals, like you ever
just make out with a man,right, yes, and just but see

(29:59):
and then some recipes Because I'm findingout niggas don't like to kiss all deeply
because it makes them want to fuck. The amount of women who have said
this to me over the past fewyears where it's like, oh, it's
not just the one off thing.I've had a man say that to me
before. Yes, anybody, don'tbe kissing me all deep like I'm gonna
want to have sex. It's like, that's also not for nothing in retrospect.

(30:22):
Another example of us limiting our pleasurefor a man the facts because they
can't contain it. Like it's like, so because your horny ass can't just
deal with your dick being a littlehard and not going all the way because
you don't got that type of selfcontroler, like because you don't know the
tantricness of it like you, Inow can't enjoy an activity that I enjoy,

(30:45):
Like what if I said to you, we can't have sex unless we
have for play? Please, doesthat sound there to you? Huh?
That should be a rule through eventhough I do sometimes be like sometimes be

(31:06):
a little quicker, like somebody's alittle quickie, if it happened in other
ways, like if you've been out, if you turned up already right the
way. So that's what I'm saying. I don't mind education, but you
know four point is important. Let'slet's get but like, but my point
is that, like women make adjustmentsfor men's pleasure all the time. But
we'll get to that act to yourpoint. But yet, Na, you

(31:27):
love to kiss. But did yourmom did she have a talk with you
of any sort? No? Imean when I was young, young,
because I remember like coming home andbeing like, hey, this boy named
Dorian. I don't know if you'restill live or around whatever it is,
but this nigga Dorian used to touchmy butt all the time in middle school,

(31:47):
right middle school started, and solike I would go and run to
my mom and be like, hey, you know, next time he does
it, you tell the teacher,and blah blah blah. She doesn't do
anything slap him. Like it's moreso like, hey, protect yourself.
You got to protect yourself. Andthen when it was high school. It
was hey, I know you maywant to be having sex right now.

(32:09):
I know that's the end thing todo. But if you do want to
do it, we can go andget some birth control and you know,
we can talk about it. She'salways been really big, but I've never
had questions, Like I never satdown with her and was like, hey,
what's the point, Like, truly, I would you even know that?

(32:30):
It was all about the mechanics.So mostly most of my curiosity would
be asked through my girls who alreadyhad sex. So like in high school,
we were dumb, true blondney andI'm sure none of them had pleasure.

(32:50):
There was no pleasure anywhere to befound. It just was the pleasure
that man or you know, dowhat we've heard works with keeping men or
whatever it is keeping boys, andespecially like I dated a boy who was
like, if you're not going togive me no ass like he dumped me.
He dumped me. I was fourteenyears old. He dumped me,

(33:13):
and he told me he couldn't bemy boyfriend anymore. He's doing life in
prison, by the way, Ohgod, every time these boys, he
told me that he found somebody elsewho could do other things. Who would
do it? Yeah, I doit, And I was like, okay,
I guess, but I see thepressure, So I know I saw
as pressure. I saw it ina negative light. For a long time.

(33:37):
It never was something that it waslike fun to do to me.
Yeah, until I got out.I think that's fair because I think in
high school, like in middle school, like for me, I remember,
and I went back to public schoolin eighth grade. I remember think because
I went to a private school forsixth and seventh grade. I came back
in eighth grade. Everybody was fuckingand I had last seen these people in

(33:58):
the fifth grade, right, Andso I realized that there was something that
happened in sixth and seventh grade thatI had missed. I don't know,
like the puberty, cuss whatever.It hit me like wow, like I
had big boobs early, so likethe boys would be like all into my
you know, my titties and notbe having to be like don't touch me,
you know what I mean, andlike, but there was never a
part of me that like, likeat that time, I did not want

(34:22):
to have sex. And I keptlooking at my friends and being like why
do you are you? Like,is this fun for you, Like that's
that's crazy. But I think itdidn't get like as a thing I wanted
to do but then wasn't doing untilI was like I had my first real
boyfriend for like a long period oftime, and I was like in love
and like we would make out,but we wouldn't go further. And he

(34:44):
respected that. And I think forbecause both of us were like virgins,
like I lost my virginity to andother virgins like we lost our virginities to
each other. And so I thinkfor me it came from not just the
respectability politics that we were all beingtaught at the time, which is like
if you're giving it, you're givingsomething up to that man, he now
has something of yours, Like youare doing it for him, he's getting

(35:05):
away with something. It was neverlike this might be an experience that you
enjoy and it's something that may makeyou feel good when you do it with
the right person. Like there wasno when you're with the right person kind
of talk. It was like.And then also because of my faith,
I very much was like, oh, I'm waiting till marriage. I'm waiting
until marriage. I even had alittle period I was like I'm waiting until
marriage, and that's just what I'mgonna do. But at the time,

(35:28):
like you think that you're getting marriedin like twenty five, right, you
know what I mean, Like inhigh school you're done with the numbers.
You're like, oh, I'm gettingmarried at like twenty like after college,
especially because I had a on offagain long term boyfriend like from when I
was sixteen to when I was liketwenty one, Like you couldn't tell me
that we wasn't getting married. Thatwas all I knew, and like he
was all I knew, and sowhen we broke up, I really had

(35:52):
to like question him with myself,Okay, how do I want to move
after this, because in your mindyou were like I'm doing it with this
one person d D. And thenit was like I got another relationship and
I was like, so maybe justwhen I'm in love, maybe that's my
thing, Like when I'm in loveand I feel safe and like this is
the person I'm gonna be with,because at that point I was graduating college
and I kind of realized that,like, oh, this marriage thing is

(36:14):
not as like finding your husband isnot as easy as I thought it was
going to be. These ain't thesame men that was in the Bible.
And you know, hey, themen in the Bible may have been terrible
too, But the difference is thatback then marriages were arranged. You understand,
there was a real time on it, worried by, there was by
a certain time you was gonna bemarried. And I think for my younger

(36:36):
Christian friends who waited till marriage,most of the ones who had a successful
experience with that all got married reallyyoung. And I think that it's not
too shame anything, because I thinkeverybody does what's right for them, and
I do think that there's beautiful wayswhere that can exist. I even get
people who didn't kiss till they gotmarried. I thought that was wild,
Like I was like their first kisswas married? What? But I think

(36:57):
for me, it's like, youknow, whatever, whatever, we're for
you. But I do think thatin today's age, as more of us
are getting married after thirty, Idon't know how much sense it makes it
anymore to like especially or not evenwhen marriage is not even a guarantee anymore.
I think like that's when I reallyhad a cop I don't even know
if I'm gonna get me like thiswhole assuming that I'm gonna find somebody worthy

(37:17):
of marrying me. It's gonna takea lot longer than I thought. Am
I really gonna wait that long toexperience pleasure? And even that aside self
pleasure is a real thing and we'renot even talking about that, we're just
not even a man involved. Soit's I think it was really for me
when it came into leaning into pleasureand what felt good and like once I

(37:38):
had sex, realizing that I could. And I think it helped that I
had it within loving relationships where theguy was like wanted to please me as
much as I want to please himboth times, and it was like and
so I kind of came in whereit was like, this is an enjoyable
experience for me, and I wantedto and I feel a bit empowered by

(38:00):
and I feel like I'm learning thingsabout myself and I only my body more
and all these positives that nobody evertold us, right, right, you
know, I just like I don'tknow, I think if you are.
I know that there are people whoare just deciding not to do sex until

(38:21):
marriage just because like they're so overyou know, they get so emotionally invested
when having sex with someone. Butif you are holding it as a carrot
over someone's head, where you're like, hey, you know you won't get
this until you marry me, thatis the biggest no. I I've seen

(38:42):
so many people and now I'm nottalking about like Christians. I'm just talking
about people as a whole, likewomen, women, men will like with
a prize, yeah, it's not. I don't see it as a prize.
Also, though I am one ofthe few who don't get emotionally tied
when it comes to sex, I'mnot. I don't think after we fuck

(39:10):
about our future like most likely.I mean, if it's bad, the
future is over. There's nothing else. And that's and that's another risk about
waiting. Right, You're gonna findout. And although people can say like,
oh, it's taught, you canteach them, sometimes there are things.
There are things that I can teachthem, are things that you cannot

(39:32):
cheat everybody's teachable. I mean,look at any other category about how there's
men that you can teach certain thingsto or not. It's the same with
this. True and depending on howbig this nigga's ego is, he's not
gonna want to hear it there's aman who almost bit my vagina off,
bit it off, and I tryto be like, hey, just a

(39:59):
little soft there. You just ohyou don't like your You said it's just
it was a whole I'm like,no, well, it's just it's your
teeth, Like it's your teeth,baby, and same thing for a second,
dick tuk them teeth in them.Them teeth don't deserve to be scraping
against skin. It's crazy. SoI'm just saying like, I just don't

(40:22):
get emotionally tied when it comes tosex or anything like that. Yeah,
yeah, it's never different. Yeah, it's just it's knowing myself fun and
now like now that I'm in mythirties, it's about pleasure. Before it
was more so ego. Mine wasmore so ego driven, where it was
like how many things can I do? How quick can I make a nigga

(40:45):
come? Kind of thing. It'snever really been about ah me. I
wasn't getting orgasms. I wasn't havingorgasms. It just wasn't something that I
was doing. Also, during myego time, I would watch tons of
porn. Tons. Although it's enjoyableand it's fun, it's definitely a very

(41:07):
learning. It's very it's they teachyou a lot in saying it's educational,
very educational, like amateur like,not the kind of what they're faking it,
right. I watched all types ofporn, but I mean like they're
teachable kind. It's like sometimes it'slike, well, they're all faking.
I never know what is real sometimesand what's not. I like to just

(41:30):
watch in which the legs and howand what the what kind of position would
be like a great one for meand especially as I get older, and
like to see how a lot ofthese women can contort and make things look

(41:50):
Again, Libra, I like theway sex looks too. I want.
I know it could get sweaty andugly and nasty and it's all. But
sometimes I'm look at the mirror andsay, you're doing that, You look
good doing this, This looks nice. So yeah, it's it's it's definitely
a lot about the visual for meand things like that. Also for porn.

(42:15):
Since we're on a topic of porn, do you watch porn? Silva?
You know, I had an era. I don't watch porn much anymore,
Like sometimes I may tune in,but you know, I have a
really big imagination, and so Idon't be having to watch anything when I
do, oh pleasure, that's thething. I don't even need to be
pleasuring myself in order to watch porn. I like to watch porn, and

(42:37):
I need the porn people to stepinto the room real quick. I have
like two people bookmarked. I can'tremember. There used to be a nigga
called Trey Slongs that I used towatch, but then I found out that
he was Tray so long Long.There's another nigga named Jay something. But

(43:04):
they need to keep good looking niggasin porn. If you have a sight,
no guess yes, if you havea sight, guys, anybody,
you can send it as an anonymousand I ain't looking, but send me
where the good looking people like tofuck. The men be ugly. I
don't watch white people have sex.That's crazy to me. That's against all

(43:27):
laws. I do not you knowever, you never one just because you
was curious. It just looks pink. It just looked like, That's what
I'm saying. How we'll never known. I wanted to. They're pink people.
They're pink no time now. Now, when you get a white man
who's brown I feel like he's alittle spicy white. There might be no
season day. I've never had sexwith a white man. I'm just saying

(43:50):
that, Like, I know,come a different color. Nobody need that
Paprika Dick but Aprica, because allI do is bring color. So I
just would like for you to sharewith me any links that have good looking
black men. Fucking would love that. So yeah, that's the only thing

(44:13):
about porn. Would love to seethat more. I do get fascinated by
it. Like sometimes I would getto your point or like Twitter porn is
crazy because like who knew, LikeI don't know, I don't know where
Twitter porn, Like I didn't evenknow that Twitter had porn until like one
day. It just like you know, somebody be favorite and something by accident
and then come across your timeline.You're like, what's this? It was

(44:34):
like a portal like the doctor,but you're like, this is something that's
happening here, and it is y'allbe posting. I love Twitter porn.
I don't follow any Twitter porn stars, but I follow one. No,
I follow one person. She beliking all the fire Twitter porn, so

(44:57):
whenever she likes something, it showsup on my and I'm like, wow,
Wow, that's how I probably huh, And then I copy and paste
the link and put it in mynotes just in case anybody wants to discreetly
see anything. That's how you nevershowed me these notes. I want to

(45:20):
notes notes about all different types oflinks that I know. I can't favorite.
I can't. I'm scared the bookmark, I'm scared any of those.
A few people have gone down notrealizing that the things is public. So
like, do you watch porn witha person, like would your partner ever?
Or do you just watch it byyourself only? I've never watched porn
with a person. Really, No, I want to, but I don't

(45:45):
want anybody to say you're fucking freak. Why, So that's why I just
don't. Hey, hey, firstof all, he no judgment happening in
the bedroom. That's whack, Butno judgment. Were you about to do
some freaking? Like? It's alwayssomething I wanted to do, but I
can't. I can't. I can'tfix my lips to ask. I can't.

(46:09):
There's so many things that I wouldlike to do that I'm like,
I can't fix my lips as Yeah, it really wants sometimes because you know,
like even even though I'm not likea big porn watcher, like the
times I have watched, it's like, oh yeah, I'm I'm ready to
go after that. Like and sometimesto your point about achieving orgasms, like

(46:30):
the more red you are to go, the better your chances you are of
having the right penetrated orgasm, whichis rare for women. And I think
that's the other thing about pleasure,like self pleasure. I mean, I
mean women leaning into prioritizing our pleasureis that it took women a long time
to stop lying about not having anorgasm or having an orgasm before we even

(46:52):
got to have the conversation about here'show to make it happen, and let's
do the things to make it happen. Like the kind of talk I want
to have with my daughter eventually ifI have one, is like a make
sure you're getting yours too, Likeit's not don't be with a little boy
who gets his orgasm and ghost okay, like in this house, in this

(47:21):
house, not you. You makesure we leave it here with something.
Your word to Denzel, I'm leavinghere with something okay, okay, And
if I'm not able to leave herewith something, you leaving here without me,
and that's that, Like it's justlike a thing and it's and there's
obviously patience to it. But Ithink like clatorial stimulation is the way most
women can have orgasms. Like thenumbers cut by half per percent when it

(47:45):
comes to the g spot stuff.So like be honest with your partner about
like, hey, let's add thistoy here, Hey, let's do this
here, like yeah, because Ididn't get to talk about my vibrator experience,
where like when I I had afew after like twenty five, when
I figured it out, I waslike, okay, well, well with

(48:06):
my hand, I was like,all right, well there are things that
vibrate way faster than my fucking DJinghand can do. So let me see
sway too. You be fucking tiredcramps in your hand to the lesbians,
but there's like it's worth my god. But then I got this thing called

(48:31):
a womanizer. I'm not gonna getkeep want to have that name, Like
why is it the name of athe massogyny? Listen to me, all
right? Is that is that theone I need to get? Yes?
But it's got so many levels thatit's terrifying. It's terrifying. You've never

(48:55):
gone past like the second level.Oh, Sylvia, if take it to
the no, no, are justgrass girl? I have atting burn it
off nine. It's crazy a ohmy gosh. Literally, I will spend

(49:23):
if I have some free time foran hour, two hours. Oh no,
it's a good way to spend theafternoon. It's a good it's a
good and it's a better way tofigure out how many times you can come
back with a man, because letme tell you, I said, I
said, it's better than doing thatwith him. You ain't got no man

(49:43):
slowing you down. Facts to backto back. And this is also our
point to the girls who are honestwith themselves, like I'm not a big
casual sex girl, Like I'm realizing, like I have to like you,
like I have to care about likeI need to have some type of mental
simulation, like I want to belike into it for my body to be
into it. But like that betaken a while so to to have the

(50:04):
ability to just do it when youwant all the time. Why to the
girls who are waiting by you aviperator, learn something about yourself, get
yourself decided, for what's to come, because really, for real, I
never realized how a lot of myinterests sometimes may be sexually charged. So

(50:28):
when I finally do what I needto do, I just don't care about
these niggas, And that's my problem. I need to start caring from what's
within. Then explain that more.You're saying that, like when you be
having sex. Once you get youors, you're like, all right,
I'll done. No no, no, no no, I'm talking about if
if I'm interested in the dude,sometimes I think it might be lust motivated.

(50:53):
Oh okay, so when I nevergive it a chance to for it
to become something that's more than justLUs. So when I use my vibrator
or whatever by myself, when Iuse it, I really am not interested
in speaking to anybody like texting oranything like that. And sometimes I feel

(51:15):
like I just need to chill fromthe vibrating a little bit and want to
want these niggas, you know whatI'm saying, Like, oh, I
think like them, yes, becauseit's like it's taking it too much,
it's doing doing too good of ajob. Like why do I really need
companionship? Right? Do I reallyneed a nigga? To talk to like
I don't necessarily even like to talkto niggas like that, so I just

(51:37):
like that do not so like whenI come, I'm really good, like
I'm like, oh, let meput the phone down. I don't really
need to call anybody or what wewere. And that was the point you
had, Babe, where it waslike, it stops you from making dumb
decisions, like if you just masturbatereal quick have orgasm, not only does
it give you the chemical stuff,the happy chemicals or whatever, it also

(52:00):
clears your head enough to be like, I don't really want to do that.
And that's why the realest scene tome, when the realest scenes to
ever hit television, was in BeingMary Jane, and maybe it was the
pilot where she was at work andwas about to see the X that she
always goes back to, and beforeshe left, she went back to the
office and used her vibrator real quickbecause she said, got to got to

(52:21):
go and win a clear ad,got to get the lust out the way
that way, I don't fuck thatman that I have no business fucking and
that, and sometimes you have businessfucking niggas, like fucking whoever you want
to fuck but then like you don'teven get there because you just it's just
hard. And sometimes I got toput the vibrated down, That's what I'm
saying. I got to put thevibrator down on days where perhaps you're going

(52:44):
to have sex that day, likeand it's something you want to do,
and like save the vibrator for thesex when it's happening, like if you
if you really still want it aroundto all of that. Sometimes I don't
know, I guess what I mean. I'm like, if we already fucking,
you deserve enough to watch me come, I guess because I'm gonna do

(53:06):
it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm gonna do it. I'm yeah
I'll be having Yeah, I guessso. But you're saying like sometimes like
when you bring in a toy,it's like we're having all out time.
You mean, like it's like it'snot about all of that, like they
just deserve like a yeah yeah,and you go two hours. But I
mean it'd be so twined with avibrator though, Like I feel like back
to back up, I only getten minutes. Again, I'm trying to

(53:29):
imagine if if a vibrator makes youhave an orgasm within like maybe two three
minutes, and you're saying one hundredand twenty minutes. I'm just math.
You need a break, like youneed a little break. You gotta lay
there, think about this the orgasm. You canna say, wow, that

(53:52):
was crazy. We gotta lay therefor a little bit, think about the
things you gotta do and then startlike rounds like maybe have a Bible saving
in between. Yeah, jet andget back to it, and then get
right back to it, and thengo again and go again and again and

(54:16):
again and again. I could Icould really waste my whole day doing that.
I have to put it down.Do you use Do you masturbate every
day? Yes? What no?I was asking, absolutely every morning.
It's also the difference between night timeor morning masturbation because I feel like there's
too oh. I do both.Yeah, because I think the last I

(54:42):
am the last too. I dodo cover bases because I was Henna say
sometimes like I'll do it. Itend to do it more so before bed
than in the morning because it helpsme go to sleep. The girls do
insamnia girls, the girls drinking thecherry juice cocktails or whatever else. Sometimes

(55:04):
maybe what you just need is justa quick little get them endorphins going.
You relax and you fall asleep,sleep done. Have you ever tried to
masturbate on the edible? Yes,A just let your I thought no.
I had to literally put the vibrated. I thought I was gonna have a

(55:28):
heart attack. I was like,the best way, that's the best way
to do a lot of things.That's even the best way when you're bringing
apart. And like if you struggle, because a lot of times women are
orgasms are there's a lot of mentalwork that goes into it. It's not
just physical for us. And that'swhy it's not automatic for us. And
if you're an overthinker like us,you need something to slow them thoughts down

(55:51):
and get you out of your headand into your body. And sometimes that's
a little in the cook old Satibulittle hybrid to get you into your b
and when you feel everything. Irecently tried that. I think. I
told Sylvia, I said, hey, I said, welcome, I had
sex. Hi. Things are different, things are different, And I can

(56:16):
see myself having a relationship with thisman basically off of that. The weed
too good? We too good?I smack the weed. Hey, no
more that whatever, whatever strain thatwas what it out good. That's crazy,
terrifying. I really have to usethat experiently. I don't know how

(56:37):
people do that every time. Everytime thing is kind of crazy. But
I think these are the things forme that when like I was like exploring
with these things like in my thirtiesmore so it's like, oh, this
is how I kind of was startingto find like sex being more pleasurable,
like it started. I think,like to tie the thread like with like,
oh, sex toys, like maybeI like there's no shame in adding

(57:00):
if it makes it even more funfor me or it's like you know,
I think for me, And Ithink that's why I think that when I
say sex, when it's done ina way that you're comfortable with can be
empowering. Is because like it teachesyou to advocate for yourself and like in
a way that like I feel like, you know, we don't talk about

(57:21):
like everybody was talking for some advocatingfor yourself in the boardroom and when it
comes to money and like all thisother stuff, but like when it comes
to your pleasure is just as importantas your bank account in my opinion,
and like you and I think whenit comes to just communication and communicating with
somebody like to me, sometimes it'soften a good barometer of like how good

(57:43):
is this relationship? Like how connectedare we if I don't feel comfortable talking
to you about certain things or howyou react to it, or how much
you want to pleasure me? Likethese are all to me flags, you
know what I mean, And soI think that like as we grow into
our thirties and like, are morewere unapologetic and are not hesitating to say,
hey, a little slower, alittle faster, a little love,

(58:05):
a little to the right. Ilove MISSX recap. I love sex recapping,
just like after the game, likeliterally yes right there, press conference,
I guess have questions why did youdo this? Like that, I
have so many questions all the time, all the time. I love to

(58:30):
talk about every move that we've made, okay, and how almost got joked.
I thought he was doing one move, we ended up doing the other
move and then right like I like, I love to talk about sex,
like with my partner or whoever I'mdoing it with. Like I like to
be like, hey man, thatwas cool, but like next time,

(58:52):
don't you ever do this? That'scrazy. That's a hard. One like
to tell somebody when they did somethingthat you didn't like, and you gotta
be like, I have to sayit so because the next time I'm gonna
laugh, and you would hate forme to laugh, and then I'm laughing
because you think you're killing it rightnow, you know. So that kind

(59:12):
of stuff and you don't get tofuck to music. I think that's a
big one. I think as ayoung who a snapper, I lost my
virginity to a song called Ria's Interludethat was on repeat. Yes, yeah,
yes, when we say Drake's beenthrough it, but that's to what

(59:37):
all mean. This is what Imean, and so far gone was the
time, so you don't believe ita sex I mean, I don't think
that music has to be played allthe time, but sometimes it's as long
as the nigga respects the fact thatyou ain't gotta pump to the beat.

(59:58):
You don't pump to the beat,or I start singing it in my move.
I don't say that be in amoment. I hate niggas who sing
in my ear. Don't sing inmy ear. That's crazy. Singing in
the ear is crazy. It iscrazy. But also like you know,
and that goes into the prefaces withsex thing like I think men be afraid

(01:00:22):
because they don't know. I thinksome men are just too concerned about what
may sound feminine or not feminine orthe like when it comes to like moaning
or talking or like dirty talk orlike you know, or like to be
I don't like complete silence, likecomplete silence crazy, but I'm like enjoying
this, like what's going on?You know, I'm picturing to the Trevor

(01:00:44):
Jackson. You know, people havebeen making them and singing these songs like
that's the energy, not that Ihate it, and then to the beat
like it was to get off.Yes, so I much rather the TV

(01:01:05):
on or something. The TV onis crazy though, because and your TV
watching ass would be fucking to theoffice. That's crazy because now Steve Carroll
is making a joke and I'm laughing, and you're thinking, I'm laughing at
you. But I'm distracted what I'mdistracted by laughing in the office. That's

(01:01:25):
crazy. That's the thing about movies, Like sometimes you know the netflixol show
that there's the INDI window, likeit ends up there, but like with
the wrong scene and you having sexand like everybody's getting killed and people are
crying like it's like, really couldkill the mood. It's risky, it's
and I will say, like,I'm not against the music. I just

(01:01:46):
want you to support like the rulesbehind fucking with music on that's all.
You just can't do the ship thatI've named. But I'm okay with it,
Like, I just want you toyeah, don't play. Yeah,
I have a sex playlist. Idon't have on but it's mostly just because

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what happened when I would just dolike just like Spotify shuffle playlist, it
would be like the most romantic songin the world and we're not there,
like you fucking and all of asudden, you was like, I will
never fun no love you close tome, just like my mother close to

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me, just like my father.Why are we bringing our family members into
this? We are trying to havesex? Please. I just it was
too risky. It's just the wrongsong and it's over. So I had
to make a list of songs thatwould not get on my nerves. If
I had to have sex to music, that's a good one. I should
do that. I should start,I should start making a sex one time.

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I just put on Jill Scott shuffleto fucking and living my life like
it's gold and love. I thinkI'm Haffrey. Can you imagine I'll be

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I'll be high that y'all gotta newadded. Can you imagine you were living
like it's gold yo, yo,that that's that's what I mean, though
it be the wrong song, likeit's cold, cold, it cold,
and you can't stop it. Ihave stopped the second before it's to change.

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You have because usually the phone isjust somewhere nearby, it's on a
nice damn it's close enough, likeplease just shut up, all right,
let's give it, shut it up. I'm so sorry, Oh my god,
Oh no, that Golden is fuckingfunny. I that took me out.
I'm sorry, all right, Iwould be glad about that. I'm

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gonna just be in the most randomplace and I'm gonna just burst out laughing
because you would think that Joe Scotthas like but which album? That's the
problem early, just a whole JoeScott essential no, because then you might
get some of her Auntie Thieves.Oh, you will go from talking about

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Conroy along Ice to just to talkingabout the most Okay, this is a
perfect segue to the next segment.Okay, let's play a fun game and
hear about more of our sex dudesand don't because baby, we got a
lot of them. In the spiritof keeping it spicy. We got a

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little rapid fire for that ass,because we love a rapid fire. Okay,
listen, Okay, one of uswill read the prompt and the other
has to say the first thing thatcomes to mind. Are you ready?
So yes, finish the sentence.My favorite part of my body is quickly

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Todday's yours, perfect ass, Harrysex with the lights on or lights off?
On on? Sometimes I like tosee it. Okay, I'm surprised,
like I'm happy, but yeah,would you? I just never know
which way it is going. Likea little light. I like a little

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dim light. I look at dimlike I don't want like bright lights big
stage right, it's falling in yourface. That's how I feel to the
audience. Just pop light on mea little much. I prefer lights off.
If I had to pick between thetwo, quickie, are all neither
all neither? Hm? Quickie,hmmm, that depends. Okay, go

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ahead, pick your sex coach,Candy Bursts or Cardi B Cardi b Cardi
quickly quickly. I just gotta knowbecause she looks like she gives crazy walk
three thousands. Yeah, it lookslike if she's she could teach you.

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So I have to agree that.I think i'd also go with Cardi because
I feel like what Candy is teachingI could probably find on the internet.
I feel like what Cardi is teachingthat ship's soul separately. You gotta go
with streets to figure that. Yeah, I want to go straight to the
streets, to the streets, rightthe streets. Unexpected turn on quickly,

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Oh my god, unexpected turn onah ah ah. You know the ear
look in the ear. I thoughtthat that was nasty when I'd heard the
theory. And then somebody did itright, and I said, oh wait
a minute, Oh my god,somebody the earplay is surprise. It was

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surprising to me because I would belike, what is it with the ear
mine? I didn't know. Okay, So when I think of turn on,
I'm thinking of like nothing physical.Oh I expected like, oh,
and you didn't expect that it wouldimmediately I want to fuck up, like
immediately, I want to fuck him. If if he's chewing and you see

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that little bulge right there. Wow, immediately I want to do it.
See the drama moving, I wantto do it right now. Yes of
the draws. Yeah mm hmmm.Favorite exposition with a partner, uh who

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quick? Missionary? I do like, Oh, she's a missionary girl.
Missionary is fun. I think ithas a bad rep for being boring,
and it's not. You get alot of depth. You can you can
eye contact. It's a kissic youcan, yes, you can kiss.

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You could do all the things,all of it. Talk to each other.
I can hear you like. Ilike all of that. Yeah,
I think missionary yours hurry quickly.I enjoy missionary. But because you said
I do enjoy reverse reverse, Iwas gonna, I mean, I guess
I should say back. I justdon't like what's the this. I don't

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like back, what's the from theback? From the bad? Your beds
over? I don't like the term. It just sounds so it just it
just sounds so rough. But like, I think that for me, I
think that angle allows better to theg spot for me. So I like
it because I mean, I likemissionary for like the feeling and I feel

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like they can whatever whatever I thinkthat from the back and over. It's
sometimes likes to because I can feelit more from that angle, really more
than missionary. Yeah, you know, all of our giantas are different when
it comes to TV sex Education orbig Mouth sex Education. I love that
show. I love sex Education.Those kids are hilarious. Okay, how

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about you. I don't know,I've never seen I haven't seen any of
it. You've got to watch sexEducation on Netflix. I think they're both
on Netflix. I think I watchedan episode of Big Man. It's animated
a few episodes. Yeah, sexEducation, that's the show's it's you know,
I can't tell it's a it's aBritish but it's like they're in college
or high school, but it's aboutlike it's probably the most like sex positive

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show I've ever seen, Like notin a dark way like Euphoria, but
like in like a like the likethe main character is like his mom is
a sex therapist and they're all likethey're all across the spectrum, like the
LGBT, I A s the spectrum, and like they're all having different types
of sex and exploring different types ofthings. But it terms of mom what
doesn't like sex? Like sex andlike transsext so like it's like it gets

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into the weeds and stuff like that. But it's also like from the black,
dark skinned boy from Barbie who playedthe Can, the dark skin gay
can, like he's from sex education. I love him, okay, but
yeah, it's a good time,Okay, best post sex meal, no
meal? Uh PEPSI I'm thinking aboutyou. You gonna find a way the

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pips, you know, I thoughtit was so funny. I thought I
was gonna be just me. Ijust knew you were gonna say wings or
something. But like, I don'tlike to eat after sex either. I
mean usually i'd be tired, ifsleepy, hopefully I'm hopefully I'm just gonna
go to sleep. I mean,like unless it's like more in sex.
But like I'm not even hungry inthe mornings usually, so like middle of
the day sex is rare, Ifeel like for me, like just middle

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of the day. I mean,like it's fun, but it's been a
while since I've just had somebody herein the middle of the day. I'll
be working. I work in betweenzoom meetings. That's why it's a little
risky. I swear to God,if I ever felt like you came on
to a meeting after, I'd belike I'd watched it. I wouldn't say
that to the people. I wouldtext you on the side, like you

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wore where you're going from. Ilike that where I could tell like you
were just like fresh out the freshout the room. But i'd be looking
at you like you little hope before. So no, I've done it.
It's just maybe the camera been off. The camera has been off cameras.

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If the camera was on, Icould tell, yeah, probably look at
her, look at it. Okay. Tints My sex life in twenty twenty
three, summed up in one word, would be a Sylvia, who is

(01:12:16):
it? That is? I wouldsum it up, how about you?
Okay? Oh? Hell, oh, el okay, in one word,

(01:12:48):
this was is huh huh huh.That's it that we don't laugh, No,
I'm laughing you Yeah, yeah,yep that mm hmm. Yep,

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it's happening. Yep, it's happening. It's happening. Okay, yep.
Well that's the guys. We've madeit through that, we've made it through.
Sylvia the l O L this girl. I can't, I cannot and

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I will not. But okay,I just can't stop laughing when I think
about it every time live my lifelike I'll be hot stepping. Soyviia,

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all right, let's go ahead,but before we let you go, we
gotta get out of here. Beforewe let you go, we always want

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to close with a few words ofaffirmation that held us together over the past
week. So what you got forthe people this week? Sylvia. I
felt like, even as I wasapproaching recording this episode, like I knew
it was a good idea. Iknew it would be a fun topic.
I'm glad we were able to talkabout it, but I think I also

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found myself surprised that I even hadto push past any idea that this was
like a shameful thing to talk aboutpublicly, you know what I mean.
And so like, I think thatfor me, as much as I believe
it on the inside, it's likeword executing it or like living it or

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like doing like how you feel likeit should be done, are like two
different things. I'm grown, grownand still like you know, And so
I think for me, like whatI would like to tell people is to
like is in arms with that,which is like, you know, don't
feel any shame when it comes toyour pleasure and what pleasures you. I

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think that there's so much shaming thatgoes around with women with anything that brings
this joy, especially when it's sex, whether it's like sledg shaming or kink
shaming, or being afraid to evenvoice what you really want to do in
the bedroom with men or women orwhoever you enjoy having sex with. Like
I think it's I would like moreof us to remove the shame and to

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lean into what gives us pleasure.Life is hard to fuck enough, you
understand, like, the things thatbring us pleasure we should not be ashamed
about. And we are whole andtotal women and people, and that includes
the life we live outside of theworkplace. And so I just want to
remind anybody who may feel that way, or may feel any type of like

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cowardice when it comes to expressing whatbrings them pleasure sexually, Like don't I
love that? Because that goes rightinto mind. Oh God, remind that
they gonna eat you out yep,say it, Yeah, ain't gonna happen.

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Hit it up. Stop thinking,oh he may not be in Oh
do it? I know you don'twant to ask for it, And I
was like, oh, nope,because niggas think shits sweet. Nope,
do it. Absolutely, keep andkeep going until I say I'm ready.

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So you got to even if niggaswant to come back up, you know,
come up and do that swift transitionthey try to do and move up
and you just put that head rightback down. Yeah. Feel guilty about
how long it takes either they feelbad it's been down there for two minutes.
No, absolutely, because the waylisten, because we commit to our

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jobs, many of us. Okay, we are tired. You're tired.
Okay, you know how many massagesI've had to get. So I I
am telling you now for what youwant immediately, especially about the head immediately.

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J CALLI should happening around here.Baby, this ride you have got,
you have got to pay it,but you have got absolutely get a
ticket in. Okay. So inthe meantime, make sure you keep up
with the show online using the hashtagScotty and Sylvia Show. Yes, and

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make sure you come back from moreof our show because we do it all
for you. Baby. Now goget some head or a vibrator or vibrator.
New episodes of The Scotty and SylviaShow drop every Thursday, so check

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The Scotty and Sylvia Show is aradio production hosted by Me Scotti Bean
and Me Sylvia Obell. Executive producersare also Us Scotti Bean and Sylvia Obel.
I know that's right, I am. And Executive producers from Radio are
Jafah Yador, Benoni Tago and Everyone'sfavorite girl, Isa Ray. Associate producer

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from radio is May say Hi.Our senior producer is Gabrielle Horton, sound
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